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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Sixfeetbelle: 3:50pm On May 21, 2020
AfroKnight:

cheesy

Forgery

How did you scale through school in the first place without adding and subtracting from another's work? cheesy

Oga, leave wetin dem write for motor, enter motor
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Shamolah: 4:01pm On May 21, 2020
Many Nigerians hate truth like poverty, they

dislike reading more than bad governance but we

all want a better life.

If everybody shuns the highest rate of divorce

and domestic violence, who will your kids marry

in the future?

Probably a lady or a young man from a broken

home or daughter or son to one time husband murderer.

What do you think �
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Emmypam(m): 4:06pm On May 21, 2020
Shugavee:
if there is only 2 good men in the world one is mine!
am not yours IJN. Sadly, the other good man got engaged this morning;(
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Adefemi86: 4:21pm On May 21, 2020
This is an Epistle...haba
Stop cheating, is not good biblically. Pls, if i want to post topic on nairaland as a nairalander, how can i do it? Thanks
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by gentlemate00: 5:03pm On May 21, 2020
grin grin grin grin grin grin grin i beg tell them ooooo


EVILFOREST:

What's CHEATING...?
Is the WORD VIRGINITY meant for the MALE or FEMALE..?

MARRIAGE is not by compulsion.
If u think you can't put up with the mystery that surround MEN, Then please don't marry any man that comes your way.

In Fact, I can assist you in praying that MEN should see nothing in you, rather they should make a u turn and approach other interested Ladies.

MEN are These, MEN are That.
PLEASE AVOID MEN.
Stay ALONE and STOP heading to SHILOH for interventions.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by afribabe: 5:13pm On May 21, 2020
Randy100:
You should have said, I should stop greeting girls too.
so greetings is now same as kissing I wish you happy kissing life then...
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Dybala11(m): 6:33pm On May 21, 2020
LadyGCrueDKilaB:
I'm not a monster... well unless I'm turned into one by a cheating, disrespectful man
in that case, whatever I do is justified
There's no justification for taking a life or maiming somebody except if it's self defense.
Do yourself and your loved ones a great favour madam, stay away from relationships if you can't stand your feelings been hurt without resorting to domestic violence.
How many people do you think will remain on earth if everyone is like you or have your ideology towards relationship/marriage. It is not a do or die affair, if your spouse or partner is cheating and you can't stand it, move on/break up/ jilt the cheating partner. That is a better option than going down like Maryam Sander.

Once again, I pray no relative or friends of mine, not even my enemy will jam a time-bomb like you.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by AgentNnamdi: 7:09pm On May 21, 2020
creative11:
DON’T KILL YOUR HUSBAND. THIS IS HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
By Bisi Adewale



Please, share this for all women to see. Let us stop these incessant domestic killings, every life is sacred, every life is important. Don’t take any life.

@Bisi Adewale


Great Piece
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Maghan37: 8:09pm On May 21, 2020
CanadaOrBust:
Isn’t it easier to just shoot him instead of reading this long lubbish

FTC!
Wow! This is making front page after 3 months!
Very surprised as I don’t see any snake nor is it about some third-rate celebrity
Myopic minded person. If ur husband was cheating on u and you decide to kill him, then u would have lost twice in the sense that he made u unhappy by cheating on u when u were married to him, and then he will be making unhappy when u pay for shooting him. In otherwords he has won you both in life and death. Instead of u to divorce him and draw u end up losing 2 - 0.

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by enirock(m): 8:24pm On May 21, 2020
We are ready to accept people's convictions and stats just because of crowd mentality. Go thru this piece and you would see a part about emotions and yet littered all over this page are youths who just can't control their emotions because we feel empowered and as such "groping equals slicing" the holy institution of marriage for some is being ridiculed, we are willing to accept the fallacy that is in a man's nature to cheat...

Cheating will always be a choice as is Fidelity

using peeper spray is a choice as is slicing

Spending your whole life with one woman is a choice as is polygamy

Reading and adhering to this piece is a choice as also is shooting your spouse

Every choice has its headaches and high points but never try to shield something because you feel empowered

cc- canadaorbust
missfavy
ladyGcrueDkilaB
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by CanadaOrBust: 8:38pm On May 21, 2020
Maghan37:
Myopic minded person. If ur husband was cheating on u and you decide to kill him, then u would have lost twice in the sense that he made u unhappy by cheating on u when u were married to him, and then he will be making unhappy when u pay for shooting him. In otherwords he has won you both in life and death. Instead of u to divorce him and draw u end up losing 2 - 0.

Divorce him? What if u love him?? See how u r the myopic one? And u have to be CAUGHT first. Then u also have to be CONVICTED b4 u “pay” for anything.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Nobody: 9:00pm On May 21, 2020
Victornezzar:

OKNM

How did you get to know this Crackhead cheesy cheesy

Hahaha even me sef tire o. No be small crackhead. I thought I could help her but I failed.

God go help her sha

You good bro?
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by AfroKnight: 9:01pm On May 21, 2020
Sixfeetbelle:


How did you scale through school in the first place without adding and subtracting from another's work? cheesy

Oga, leave wetin dem write for motor, enter motor

cheesy cheesy

Sorry ma.

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Victornezzar: 9:04pm On May 21, 2020
0KNM:


Hahaha even me sef tire o. No be small crackhead. I thought I could help her but I failed.

God go help her sha

You good bro?
Yes man

How are you doing
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Nobody: 9:16pm On May 21, 2020
Victornezzar:

Yes man

How are you doing

We on these streets staring at Covid-19 in the face cheesy cheesy

Stay safe bro
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Jimmyld231: 9:34pm On May 21, 2020
Abeg do anything to satisfy your mind las las eyes go clear
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by AlhajaChinyere: 9:38pm On May 21, 2020
LadyGCrueDKilaB:
lol come and grope me so I'd show you how in charge of my emotions I am smiley

I was not raised in poverty in Nigeria. I don't have a need to grope you cause I have solid self control. In poor countries men feel entitled to sex but in richer countries men are very wary of women and very selective. I am willing to bet I wouldn't give you a 2nd look if I see you.

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Victornezzar: 9:41pm On May 21, 2020
0KNM:


We on these streets staring at Covid-19 in the face cheesy cheesy

Stay safe bro
And u too man
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by ioreth69(f): 9:50pm On May 21, 2020
mtcheew,I tin say na beta tin u Wan write angrymtcheew,I tin say na beta tin u Wan write
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by OILOFGLADNESS: 10:34pm On May 21, 2020
creative11:
DON’T KILL YOUR HUSBAND. THIS IS HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
By Bisi Adewale


It was discovered that a great proportion of women who killed their husbands did so because they suspected or confirmed that their men were sleeping with other women. Technology has made adultery and fornication very common nowadays. It is easier to get connected to people you’ve never met before through social media like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
Many websites connect both single and married people for sex at a fee. Dating websites aid married people who want to cheat on their spouses to do so secretly. Even married people meet singles just for sex is very common on the internet.

Pornographic websites are said to be more than 75% of all websites on the internet. 35% of all internet downloads are related to porn. 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted pornographic content through ads, pop up ads, misdirected links or emails. It is also easier than before to keep an illicit relationship outside marriage through the use of mobile phones, chatting applications, social media, etc.

Please note that lots of women are also sleeping around, but it is more prevalent among men. However, do not generalise that all men are sleeping around.

A young executive came to me some weeks ago. His problem, a young lady was transferred to his office to work as his secretary. The lady in question was so sexy and daring. She did everything to lure the young man to bed. He wanted to know what to do to avoid sleeping with her and not to cheat on his wife. He said he had been married for 13 years and had never slept with anybody apart from his wife. Many men who are committed to their wedding vows but facing this problem still come to us for counselling. Yours may be one of them. If not, killing him is not the answer to your problem.

If you discover or suspect that your husband is sleeping with someone else apart from you, there are many things you must do quickly.
Read this piece carefully and follow the instructions given to avoid falling into the error of killing your spouse and becoming a murderer in the process:

GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT, DON’T BASE YOUR LIFE ON RUMOURS

A woman was to see a male client in a particular hotel lobby in Ikoyi. She went with one of her staff who had no business in the meeting. The staff was supposed to be on another project at that time.
I asked her, "Why are you taking your staff with you for the meeting?"
She said, "To avoid rumours. If my driver sees me coming to a hotel with a man without anyone with us, he will begin to carry rumours that are not true”

This got me thinking. Lots of women are dying today based on lies, misrepresentation, and rumours about their husbands which may not be true.

So, get your facts right. If you hear rumours, investigate it carefully but give your husband the benefit of doubt.

GET YOUR EVIDENCE RIGHT; DON’T BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SUSPICION

A young wife called our office some months ago. She told us that her husband was sleeping around. We invited both of them to our office, only to discover that her grouse was her husband not sucking her breasts ever since they got married. This made her think he was sucking someone else's breasts somewhere.
But her dear husband is a “Holy Man” who believed that sucking breasts is a sin. He asked me, “Sir, why should I suck her breasts when I'm not a baby?” We opened his eyes to Proverbs 5:15-19 and he was very shocked. He returned home to do his job right and the wife called me with great joy the second day. That ended her suspicion of infidelity.

Please never accuse your husband wrongly if you don’t have any piece of evidence, it may not be what you think. It can be so hurtful if he is not doing it but he is accused of wrongly. Even, it may make some people go ahead and do it.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTION

No matter what happens, take control of your emotion, even if you get all the pieces of evidence needed and they are watertight. Let your maturity show here. That is why marriage is for matured minds only, not babies in diapers. Cry if you feel like; please cry loudly when alone or with your counsellor. It will help your emotion; it will help you to calm down and think rationally.

REMEMBER THAT KILLING HIM WILL GET YOU INTO DEEP TROUBLE

Remember and have in mind that killing your husband will get you into hot water with the law, disrupt your life forever, put you to shame, hurt your children dearly, make you a widow and make your children fatherless. The cost is much more than having him sleep with another woman.

One woman said, “My husband is a womanizer, but I won’t kill him. At least, they release him to come back home after finishing with him. He needs to come back home to pay house rent and school fees.”

POSITION YOURSELF TO DISCOVER INFIDELITY QUICKLY

Lots of women are clueless. A woman never knew her husband had been unfaithful. She didn't know that her husband had another family outside until a woman brought three children home for her husband.

Lots of women know that their husbands are unfaithful only after his death.
A woman told us how three women came with four children to her husband's funeral. She said she was unaware of her husband's escapades with other women until that day. That is very funny and it shows the lack of knowledge and absence of insensitivity.

If a wife discovers infidelity issues early, the man can be stopped. Some of them need help as they feel trapped but don’t know what to do. You see, no man can be a perfect womanizer beside a very sensitive, Godly and smart wife. There will be clues all around beyond what you are hunting but checking his phones.

There are thirty-seven clues every womanizing man will give out cheaply as they enter into an illicit relationship outside. The infidelity will be boldly written over them no matter how smart they are. But most wives will not be able to read the language in which it is written. So they will live in total darkness despite overwhelming evidence. Everybody around the wife will know but may never tell her because they know she may never believe them.

I will suggest you quickly download my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN. In the book, I revealed the thirty-seven clues, where to get them and what to do with them. I also wrote about how to make your husband never to desire any other woman out there.

DON’T FALL INTO DEPRESSION

Some women do not kill their cheating husbands. Instead, they kill themselves by overthinking negatively, depression, high blood pressure many health challenges or suicide.
Do you want to die to make another woman happy? Don’t give her that joy, not at all. NO IMMORAL MAN IS WORTH DYING FOR. Wake up, girl! Cry if you must. Yes, do cry, it is good for your health. But take care of your thinking, take charge of your mind and don’t allow them to steal your joy. No depression. Sing aloud, dance, shout for joy. NO SORRY, NO SORROW! Don’t die for them to come and make love on your tomb, not at all. Live to fulfil your day, take charge of your emotion.

DON'T TURN IT TO A BATTLE

As a counsellor, I know that not all women who killed their husbands intended to kill them, not at all. The problem is that they allowed their emotions to take the better of them and turn their homes to a battlefield. They used any weapon that came to their mind: knives, pestle, frying pan, bottles, grinding stones and anything that could inflict injury.

They turned the battle against themselves in the process and became murderers. What a heavy burden for a woman to bear.

APPLY WISDOM

Some people may tell you not to ask your husband about your discovery. No. Ask him, confront him, but do so by applying wisdom. It is not something to handle rashly. In my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN, I devoted a whole chapter to discussing how to confront a cheating husband without losing him. It is a very technical issue; you need to know what to do. As I said, you can get the book on Familabooks.com. I will advise you to download the eBook version on your phone so that you can read it discreetly to yourself.
I think every woman needs it especially the chapters that deal with how to protect your husband from other women and how to discover if your husband is cheating on you. Click here to download the book now.

CHECK YOURSELF

Don’t just blame your husband for sleeping around, check yourself. One study shows that 80% of Nigerian married women hate sex. It also showed that sex is what causes the major crisis in Nigerian marriages as lots of wives are frigid.
Statements such as “I'm tired tonight honey” “Not again tonight honey” "But you did one the day before yesterday” “Is it food?” “Don’t you think of any other thing?" pervades many bedrooms, thus making men vulnerable to willing and ready beauty queens out there.
Most married men want sex two or three times a week. However, lots of married women want sex once a month only. One husband told me that he had not been able to sleep with his wife in the last 6 weeks because she complained of being tired.

It is wrong for any man to sleep around, nobody can justify that for any reason. But it is also wrong to deny your husband sex. Up your game, sex is legal in marriage. You said "I DO” on your wedding day, GO AND DO. If they DO it better out there, you will lose your husband to them. Don't be foolish; get Hot and sexy with your husband. Pursue your husband, give him a bed shaking sex at home and let him go to the office battered with a back issue tomorrow. You can't win a man with a hooked bra and padlocked pant. Your body belongs to him. Suffocate him with sex so that when he sees other women, they will look like trees to him.

You will also need to download my book about sex in marriage titled: THE SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE to know how to become an extraordinary bedroom expert to your husband and turn him to a lover boy.

UP YOUR GAME

Up your game in every area of wifehood. Cook right, pray rightly, dress right, talk rightly, behave right and sex him rightly. Deal with him till he forgets his surname, he is your husband. What is he looking for outside that you don’t have? But are you giving him? Check yourself and get back to bed hot and sizzling and stop wearing jeans knickers to bed or tying wrapper around your body like a woman of the 17th century.

CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE

What about your behaviour at home? An immoral man told me that his wife stresses him at home but those girls treat him with care. This can be true about lots of women. They see the ring as the right over their husbands to treat them like trash and have their ways the way they want it. Sorry girl, if you treat your king like trash, you may be enthroning a new queen in your position. (Hope I'm not being too harsh on you)

DON’T BOTTLE IT

Don’t ever bottle your discovery about your husband. No, you need to speak out but speak right. If you bottle it, one day you may burst. You may hurt yourself or husband or kill him.

PRAY ABOUT IT

One of the best solutions is prayer. Talk to God about it. Commit your emotions and the situation to God. Commit your husband to the hands of God before you speak to him.

DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME

Don’t make the mistake of leaving your home because you are angry with your husband. If you do, you will just hand over the keys of your home to these small girls. Don’t be tempted to leave.

REACH OUT TO THE GIRL

You may need to reach out to the girl sleeping with your husband in some cases. It can work if the lady never knew he was married but was deceived. However, if the lady is the “private prostitute” type, this may not work, but you can give it a try.

A young wife called the lady going out with her husband recently and introduced herself as his wife. The girl was so shocked as the guy told her he was not married and promised her marriage. The side chick apologized and broke the relationship. Before you call the girl, investigate her. Check her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Check what she is posting, you will get to know the kind of girl she is in the process.
If you must talk to the girl, please be cautious. Do not fight, do not shout and do not sound beggarly. The lady may be rude and non-cooperative. Don’t bother, just speak to her conscience. Tell her you are her sister, please emphasize the sister point. Let her see reason, talk to her soul. Let her know what you and the children are passing through at home because of her. Let her know how irresponsible your husband has become since dating her. Let her know your labour over your husband and sacrifices since you married him. Let her know that one day she will be married too; ask her how she will feel if such was done to her.

A woman got information that her husband was sleeping around and she investigated to get more details. One day, she knew her husband would likely visit the girl. She paid a bike man to trail his car to wherever he was going. The bike man did as instructed. The wife then decided to visit her husband in the girl's apartment. Lo, it was her husband who answered the door when she knocked. He was shocked but the wife did not fight (you can’t win when you fight a man's mistress. He will use your attitude as a reason for running away from the house). She spoke to the conscience of the girl. She spoke kindly to the girl and told her that the man must have been deceiving her like he has been doing to other girls of the age of his daughters. The girl was too confused to utter a word than just to say she was sorry. She told the wife her husband told her wasn't married because his wife died about three years before they met and promised to marry her.
That was the end of that relationship. The man came back home shamefully and the situation got to him because the wife never fought when he got back home. His food was ready on the table and the wife welcomed him back like a royal. The result, he learned to keep his erection at home.

TALK TO A COUNSELLOR

Before you confront your husband, you will need to see a counsellor, not your family and his family who will complicate the whole matter.
A counsellor will evaluate the whole matter and teach you what to do to get your husband back. So wherever you are, look for a counsellor quickly, don’t die in silence.

If you don’t talk to a counsellor now, you will need to talk to a lawyer later when you are in trouble.
If you want to reach me to talk on the issue of your marriage, let's talk now, don’t die in silence.
Send me a mail or call right now. I will be glad to talk to you.

Follow me on Twitter and Instagram @bisiadewale

Please, share this for all women to see. Let us stop these incessant domestic killings, every life is sacred, every life is important. Don’t take any life.

@Bisi Adewale


TOO LONG ABEG
U THINK WE NO GET WORK
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Nobody: 1:37am On May 22, 2020
LadyGCrueDKilaB:
a strange man groped me in public
I always carry a Swiss knife around
in rage I whipped it out and aimed for his privates
I sliced his dirty prick really bad and I think he nearly lost it but it was saved
I was arrested and of course I had to pay for his treatment, the idiot police didn't even consider the fact that I acted in self defense
anyway my family came through for me and paid him off a hefty sum to drop the case
I have absolutely no regrets and I would do it again if any nasty, perverted motherfucker tries to sexually assault me
only this time, I'd make sure I'd completely hack his filthy prick off

lol reminded of this young lady who was endowed and she was walking with her guy on the sidewalk then one igbo guy selling his wares on the same sidewalk stylshy smacked her phat bum bum cheesy.she didnt say anything i guess cos of embarrasement.it was her guy who came to her aid but the igbo trader was yelling at the top of his voice he didnt touch her cheesy.it happened in ringroad in benin.still remember that incident.dont know why in naija guys think its cool when u grope a woman who is not ur wife nor gf.In civilised clime they call such sexual harrasement.

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by AlhajaChinyere: 8:01am On May 22, 2020
LadyGCrueDKilaB:
lol come and grope me so I'd show you how in charge of my emotions I am smiley

Come and grope you?

No, thank you!

Oloun ma je!

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Cityguy: 2:00pm On May 24, 2020
Eulalia:
The best is to.marry in the Lord and save yoursself all these stress. I mean a regenerated born again man and woman of God. not just any pretender forming born again because he/ she wants to get married.

Shalom.
You can't determine pretence of his/ her salvation from the start. It is a matter of hindsight. We see 'firebrands' (by man's standard), even dem GOs with such issues. So long we refuse to admit our frailties and recognise we can only TRY to meet up, we would always find ourselves disappointed when things like this happen.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Cityguy: 2:02pm On May 24, 2020
Upworkwriter007:
If your husband/wife cheats on you, then part ways. If you can't part ways, resolve it anyway u can. I feel like all these discussions ain't necessary.
Exactly. Forget about all these bones things. Your placenta was never tied to any other persons. If you can't stand a relationship, platonic or otherwise, wisdom dictates for soundness of mind and peace that you AVOID. You have no right to kill anybody by yourself for cheating. Dem no write your name for hin dick abeg.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Nobody: 10:06am On May 25, 2020
Cityguy:

You can't determine pretence of his/ her salvation from the start. It is a matter of hindsight. We see 'firebrands' (by man's standard), even dem GOs with such issues. So long we refuse to admit our frailties and recognise we can only TRY to meet up, we would always find ourselves disappointed when things like this happen.

I can't determine that but God can and He will lead me aright. smiley.
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by OKUCHI11(m): 2:47pm On May 31, 2020
creative11:
DON’T KILL YOUR HUSBAND. THIS IS HOW TO DEAL WITH HIM IF HE IS CHEATING ON YOU
By Bisi Adewale


It was discovered that a great proportion of women who killed their husbands did so because they suspected or confirmed that their men were sleeping with other women. Technology has made adultery and fornication very common nowadays. It is easier to get connected to people you’ve never met before through social media like Twitter, Instagram, Facebook, etc.
Many websites connect both single and married people for sex at a fee. Dating websites aid married people who want to cheat on their spouses to do so secretly. Even married people meet singles just for sex is very common on the internet.

Pornographic websites are said to be more than 75% of all websites on the internet. 35% of all internet downloads are related to porn. 34% of internet users have experienced unwanted pornographic content through ads, pop up ads, misdirected links or emails. It is also easier than before to keep an illicit relationship outside marriage through the use of mobile phones, chatting applications, social media, etc.

Please note that lots of women are also sleeping around, but it is more prevalent among men. However, do not generalise that all men are sleeping around.

A young executive came to me some weeks ago. His problem, a young lady was transferred to his office to work as his secretary. The lady in question was so sexy and daring. She did everything to lure the young man to bed. He wanted to know what to do to avoid sleeping with her and not to cheat on his wife. He said he had been married for 13 years and had never slept with anybody apart from his wife. Many men who are committed to their wedding vows but facing this problem still come to us for counselling. Yours may be one of them. If not, killing him is not the answer to your problem.

If you discover or suspect that your husband is sleeping with someone else apart from you, there are many things you must do quickly.
Read this piece carefully and follow the instructions given to avoid falling into the error of killing your spouse and becoming a murderer in the process:

GET YOUR FACTS RIGHT, DON’T BASE YOUR LIFE ON RUMOURS

A woman was to see a male client in a particular hotel lobby in Ikoyi. She went with one of her staff who had no business in the meeting. The staff was supposed to be on another project at that time.
I asked her, "Why are you taking your staff with you for the meeting?"
She said, "To avoid rumours. If my driver sees me coming to a hotel with a man without anyone with us, he will begin to carry rumours that are not true”

This got me thinking. Lots of women are dying today based on lies, misrepresentation, and rumours about their husbands which may not be true.

So, get your facts right. If you hear rumours, investigate it carefully but give your husband the benefit of doubt.

GET YOUR EVIDENCE RIGHT; DON’T BASE YOUR MARRIAGE ON SUSPICION

A young wife called our office some months ago. She told us that her husband was sleeping around. We invited both of them to our office, only to discover that her grouse was her husband not sucking her breasts ever since they got married. This made her think he was sucking someone else's breasts somewhere.
But her dear husband is a “Holy Man” who believed that sucking breasts is a sin. He asked me, “Sir, why should I suck her breasts when I'm not a baby?” We opened his eyes to Proverbs 5:15-19 and he was very shocked. He returned home to do his job right and the wife called me with great joy the second day. That ended her suspicion of infidelity.

Please never accuse your husband wrongly if you don’t have any piece of evidence, it may not be what you think. It can be so hurtful if he is not doing it but he is accused of wrongly. Even, it may make some people go ahead and do it.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR EMOTION

No matter what happens, take control of your emotion, even if you get all the pieces of evidence needed and they are watertight. Let your maturity show here. That is why marriage is for matured minds only, not babies in diapers. Cry if you feel like; please cry loudly when alone or with your counsellor. It will help your emotion; it will help you to calm down and think rationally.

REMEMBER THAT KILLING HIM WILL GET YOU INTO DEEP TROUBLE

Remember and have in mind that killing your husband will get you into hot water with the law, disrupt your life forever, put you to shame, hurt your children dearly, make you a widow and make your children fatherless. The cost is much more than having him sleep with another woman.

One woman said, “My husband is a womanizer, but I won’t kill him. At least, they release him to come back home after finishing with him. He needs to come back home to pay house rent and school fees.”

POSITION YOURSELF TO DISCOVER INFIDELITY QUICKLY

Lots of women are clueless. A woman never knew her husband had been unfaithful. She didn't know that her husband had another family outside until a woman brought three children home for her husband.

Lots of women know that their husbands are unfaithful only after his death.
A woman told us how three women came with four children to her husband's funeral. She said she was unaware of her husband's escapades with other women until that day. That is very funny and it shows the lack of knowledge and absence of insensitivity.

If a wife discovers infidelity issues early, the man can be stopped. Some of them need help as they feel trapped but don’t know what to do. You see, no man can be a perfect womanizer beside a very sensitive, Godly and smart wife. There will be clues all around beyond what you are hunting but checking his phones.

There are thirty-seven clues every womanizing man will give out cheaply as they enter into an illicit relationship outside. The infidelity will be boldly written over them no matter how smart they are. But most wives will not be able to read the language in which it is written. So they will live in total darkness despite overwhelming evidence. Everybody around the wife will know but may never tell her because they know she may never believe them.

I will suggest you quickly download my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN. In the book, I revealed the thirty-seven clues, where to get them and what to do with them. I also wrote about how to make your husband never to desire any other woman out there.

DON’T FALL INTO DEPRESSION

Some women do not kill their cheating husbands. Instead, they kill themselves by overthinking negatively, depression, high blood pressure many health challenges or suicide.
Do you want to die to make another woman happy? Don’t give her that joy, not at all. NO IMMORAL MAN IS WORTH DYING FOR. Wake up, girl! Cry if you must. Yes, do cry, it is good for your health. But take care of your thinking, take charge of your mind and don’t allow them to steal your joy. No depression. Sing aloud, dance, shout for joy. NO SORRY, NO SORROW! Don’t die for them to come and make love on your tomb, not at all. Live to fulfil your day, take charge of your emotion.

DON'T TURN IT TO A BATTLE

As a counsellor, I know that not all women who killed their husbands intended to kill them, not at all. The problem is that they allowed their emotions to take the better of them and turn their homes to a battlefield. They used any weapon that came to their mind: knives, pestle, frying pan, bottles, grinding stones and anything that could inflict injury.

They turned the battle against themselves in the process and became murderers. What a heavy burden for a woman to bear.

APPLY WISDOM

Some people may tell you not to ask your husband about your discovery. No. Ask him, confront him, but do so by applying wisdom. It is not something to handle rashly. In my book: PROTECTING YOUR HUSBAND FROM STRANGE WOMEN, I devoted a whole chapter to discussing how to confront a cheating husband without losing him. It is a very technical issue; you need to know what to do. As I said, you can get the book on Familabooks.com. I will advise you to download the eBook version on your phone so that you can read it discreetly to yourself.
I think every woman needs it especially the chapters that deal with how to protect your husband from other women and how to discover if your husband is cheating on you. Click here to download the book now.

CHECK YOURSELF

Don’t just blame your husband for sleeping around, check yourself. One study shows that 80% of Nigerian married women hate sex. It also showed that sex is what causes the major crisis in Nigerian marriages as lots of wives are frigid.
Statements such as “I'm tired tonight honey” “Not again tonight honey” "But you did one the day before yesterday” “Is it food?” “Don’t you think of any other thing?" pervades many bedrooms, thus making men vulnerable to willing and ready beauty queens out there.
Most married men want sex two or three times a week. However, lots of married women want sex once a month only. One husband told me that he had not been able to sleep with his wife in the last 6 weeks because she complained of being tired.

It is wrong for any man to sleep around, nobody can justify that for any reason. But it is also wrong to deny your husband sex. Up your game, sex is legal in marriage. You said "I DO” on your wedding day, GO AND DO. If they DO it better out there, you will lose your husband to them. Don't be foolish; get Hot and sexy with your husband. Pursue your husband, give him a bed shaking sex at home and let him go to the office battered with a back issue tomorrow. You can't win a man with a hooked bra and padlocked pant. Your body belongs to him. Suffocate him with sex so that when he sees other women, they will look like trees to him.

You will also need to download my book about sex in marriage titled: THE SECRETS OF AN IRRESISTIBLE WIFE to know how to become an extraordinary bedroom expert to your husband and turn him to a lover boy.

UP YOUR GAME

Up your game in every area of wifehood. Cook right, pray rightly, dress right, talk rightly, behave right and sex him rightly. Deal with him till he forgets his surname, he is your husband. What is he looking for outside that you don’t have? But are you giving him? Check yourself and get back to bed hot and sizzling and stop wearing jeans knickers to bed or tying wrapper around your body like a woman of the 17th century.

CHECK YOUR ATTITUDE

What about your behaviour at home? An immoral man told me that his wife stresses him at home but those girls treat him with care. This can be true about lots of women. They see the ring as the right over their husbands to treat them like trash and have their ways the way they want it. Sorry girl, if you treat your king like trash, you may be enthroning a new queen in your position. (Hope I'm not being too harsh on you)

DON’T BOTTLE IT

Don’t ever bottle your discovery about your husband. No, you need to speak out but speak right. If you bottle it, one day you may burst. You may hurt yourself or husband or kill him.

PRAY ABOUT IT

One of the best solutions is prayer. Talk to God about it. Commit your emotions and the situation to God. Commit your husband to the hands of God before you speak to him.

DON’T LEAVE YOUR HOME

Don’t make the mistake of leaving your home because you are angry with your husband. If you do, you will just hand over the keys of your home to these small girls. Don’t be tempted to leave.

REACH OUT TO THE GIRL

You may need to reach out to the girl sleeping with your husband in some cases. It can work if the lady never knew he was married but was deceived. However, if the lady is the “private prostitute” type, this may not work, but you can give it a try.

A young wife called the lady going out with her husband recently and introduced herself as his wife. The girl was so shocked as the guy told her he was not married and promised her marriage. The side chick apologized and broke the relationship. Before you call the girl, investigate her. Check her on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc. Check what she is posting, you will get to know the kind of girl she is in the process.
If you must talk to the girl, please be cautious. Do not fight, do not shout and do not sound beggarly. The lady may be rude and non-cooperative. Don’t bother, just speak to her conscience. Tell her you are her sister, please emphasize the sister point. Let her see reason, talk to her soul. Let her know what you and the children are passing through at home because of her. Let her know how irresponsible your husband has become since dating her. Let her know your labour over your husband and sacrifices since you married him. Let her know that one day she will be married too; ask her how she will feel if such was done to her.

A woman got information that her husband was sleeping around and she investigated to get more details. One day, she knew her husband would likely visit the girl. She paid a bike man to trail his car to wherever he was going. The bike man did as instructed. The wife then decided to visit her husband in the girl's apartment. Lo, it was her husband who answered the door when she knocked. He was shocked but the wife did not fight (you can’t win when you fight a man's mistress. He will use your attitude as a reason for running away from the house). She spoke to the conscience of the girl. She spoke kindly to the girl and told her that the man must have been deceiving her like he has been doing to other girls of the age of his daughters. The girl was too confused to utter a word than just to say she was sorry. She told the wife her husband told her wasn't married because his wife died about three years before they met and promised to marry her.
That was the end of that relationship. The man came back home shamefully and the situation got to him because the wife never fought when he got back home. His food was ready on the table and the wife welcomed him back like a royal. The result, he learned to keep his erection at home.

TALK TO A COUNSELLOR

Before you confront your husband, you will need to see a counsellor, not your family and his family who will complicate the whole matter.
A counsellor will evaluate the whole matter and teach you what to do to get your husband back. So wherever you are, look for a counsellor quickly, don’t die in silence.

If you don’t talk to a counsellor now, you will need to talk to a lawyer later when you are in trouble.
If you want to reach me to talk on the issue of your marriage, let's talk now, don’t die in silence.
Send me a mail or call right now. I will be glad to talk to you.

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Please, share this for all women to see. Let us stop these incessant domestic killings, every life is sacred, every life is important. Don’t take any life.

@Bisi Adewale
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by LedRock: 7:49pm On Jun 06, 2020
CanadaOrBust:


Divorce him? What if u love him?? See how u r the myopic one? And u have to be CAUGHT first. Then u also have to be CONVICTED b4 u “pay” for anything.
You're the myopic one, can someone kill the one they love intentionally?
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by CanadaOrBust: 8:36pm On Jun 06, 2020
LedRock:
You're the myopic one, can someone kill the one they love intentionally?

Why not? Not that you want but it neatly solves everything
Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by LedRock: 8:45pm On Jun 06, 2020
CanadaOrBust:


Why not? Not that you want but it neatly solves everything
Then you don't love such a person. If men and women should be killing their cheating partners, do you think humans will still exist.
Well that is the problem if those who are interested in marriage.

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Re: Don’t Kill Your Husband. This Is How To Deal With Him If He Is Cheating On You by Nobody: 9:16pm On Jun 06, 2020
proclinician:
I don't see how this is even a problem. Pls if ur husband is cheating carry your bags and leave his house. Call the marriage quit.
Simple


I agree absolutely
So much that I will require you and add one phrase-
I don’t see how this is even a problem. Pls if ur husband is cheating (and you can’t deal with it) carry your bags and leave his house (or boot him out of yours, whichever applies). Call the marriage quits.
(Now this is what human beings do, never kill. Evil, desperate and insecure monsters kill spouses, not human beings).

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