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Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Dybala11(m): 9:32pm On Mar 04, 2020 |
They must have a valid reason for them to oppose my relationship and intention to marry the lady in question, I'll definitely consider them cos they are my god and goddess on earth. |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by uthlaw: 9:32pm On Mar 04, 2020 |
Who love help....family over everything! |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by henryeri32: 9:38pm On Mar 04, 2020 |
i no understand na them wan marry the prsn for me or them go follow me come live with the prsn, you only advise me if i see reason good if i don't guy i go marry. just rest nah me they stay with the prsn no b you doh. |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by edunaragold(f): 11:47pm On Mar 04, 2020 |
I beg leave that rubbish, u don't truly live the person joor |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Sexycardib: 12:31am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by OyinKris(f): 12:35am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Am in that state of confusion presently,everyday I think Abt it,I dnt even know how to tell him that my parent refused him imagine how he will feel...I love this guy we both love ourselves,even already telling me he wants to meet my parent have just being using style to make things slow ALL WHAT I THINK IS WILL MY PARENT HELP ME LIVE WITH HIM? I THINK AM GOING WITH HIM NO MATTER WHAT MY PARENT SAYS OR I GET PREGNANT FOR HIM?MY HAPPINESS REALLY MATTERS OR WHAT DO YOU THINK? |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by chrizzyace: 1:41am On Mar 05, 2020 |
OyinKris: My dear, the best thing you'll do is follow your happiness... You are matured enough to know if the man you are going to spend the rest of your life with is worth it. Their opinion is secondary, yours is primary... All their anger will suppress in due time, by the time they realize how serious you are with your decision... I've been in the same boat too, I don't regret following my happiness and peace of mind. Parents can be selfish and insensitive at times. I wish you all the best. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by OyinKris(f): 2:50am On Mar 05, 2020 |
chrizzyace:Thank you so very much... |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by ABOVEDELAW: 3:55am On Mar 05, 2020 |
WHAT ABOUT THOSE WHO WRECKED FOLLOWING THEIR OWN DECISION? CAPSLOCKED: |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Karleb(m): 6:55am On Mar 05, 2020 |
MrBrownJay1: 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Karleb(m): 7:02am On Mar 05, 2020 |
ABOVEDELAW: At least they'll have themselves to be blamed. Now I understand why the poster you quoted has been sounding mad! Many of guys are still babies. Parent are still flesh and bone and many of them make their decisions based on sentiments. Our parents shouldn't be making important life decisions for us, they should rather guide us. Many of us are living the life our parents want us to live and not the life we want for ourselves and trust me, many of these parents are so selfish and arrogant that they'll never admit they are wrong. It is up to us to stand our ground. OUR ELDERLY ONES DON'T KNOW IT ALL!!! 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by skfa1: 7:19am On Mar 05, 2020 |
I am currently going through the same right now. My parents says no. I'm not a happy man right now. Have spoken with her parents, she is still unable to speak with mine. Have prayed in several places and all they keep saying is,she will be a good mother to me and my unborn kids. My parents reason: Her family was a former Muslim before converting to Christian. |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by ImaIma1(f): 7:30am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Omar09: Because your uncle lacked foresight doesn't mean every other person does. When choosing a wife, one must look beyond the physical and obvious attributes. Prayer is very key too. Do you know that there are many people who went against their parent's wishes and are happy in their marriages. One thing you should know is that parents are human beings who also have selfish interests. A close friend brought someone from another tribe home but the mum was trying to hook him up with her friend's daughter who was from their tribe. The mum fought his choice but he stood his ground and married his "other tribe" babe. He even told his mum he would send her pictures from the wedding if she refused to attend (first son for that matter). They been married for over 5 years and his mum can see that her son is happy. Don't fall for the scam that your parents choices are the best, except you don't have foresight or you are bad in making decisions. They can advise but the ultimate choice lies with you. 3 Likes |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by JERRY1925(m): 7:34am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Dalby: U wrong, don't be surprised if u had accepted your parents decision u would still have issues and regrets. reason is, u will feel life would have been much more better if u had sticked to ur choice with every small challange u face with the one ur parents accepted. It's good u make ur own mistakes. Its easier to learn from your mistakes than having someone to blame for your mistakes. And if u can't make a good decision in marriage, it means ur parents failed in training or directing u from the very start. For me, i know what my parents would accept, because they kept singing it from my childhood. i know what they might frown at. So before i even walk up to a girl, i already know what i want and what my parents might like. But if after still trying to balance things 50/50 and they insist on something else, I'll ignore them. Because i trust my decision. Truth is, its good to try balance things moat times, at least to put some smile on your parents face. Example 1 for me.. I know my mum love hearing a girl is a virgin.. So before even showing her the girl, i start singing the girls praise to her(even if shes not one), before u know she done get interest for the girl. Example 2, my mum don't like girls wearing trousers, so the day i brought my woman.. She wore a cute gown at least for some few period. All this is to just create that first impression. When they have generated that love everything can now follow. But some persons do not even understand what their parents like. They just bring anything (girl or man) home. Learn to package ur products well and never forget to sing their praise for months before even presenting them to parents. What i observed is, parents only control or make choices for children who can't..if your parents know u to be a person that sticks to your decisions they won't dare tell u who to marry, because they know From previous experience that the matter is dead on arrival. 3 Likes |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Karleb(m): 7:45am On Mar 05, 2020 |
skfa1: Just look at...?!
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Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by ImaIma1(f): 8:57am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Karleb: Why is the bolded hard to believe?? Parents are humans...with human feelings and emotions. They can be manipulative especially with their children. Only the wise and mature children can see through their antics. My dad for instance only told we the girls not to marry from a particular state because he went for his friend's burial and saw what the wife went through. He told us his reasons. Some parents will just say No and say nothing. A child that doesn't make them understand that it's his/her decision to make will just be turned around like a puppet in their parent's hands. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by ImaIma1(f): 9:05am On Mar 05, 2020 |
skfa1: Stand your ground and not shake as long as you are convinced. They will come on board. Parents have caused too much problems with their kids based on their own level of understanding and exposure. 2 Likes |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by drmikeadams(m): 9:10am On Mar 05, 2020 |
OyinKris:. Think am well,,na so one of my niece go marry against family wish,e no reach one year hubby begin beat later send am packing wit em pikin,,,family take am back constantly reminding her "we warned u" 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by drmikeadams(m): 9:21am On Mar 05, 2020 |
darlenese:even as elders wear eyeglass them no go see iroko tree clearly 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by darlenese(f): 9:44am On Mar 05, 2020 |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by ImaIma1(f): 12:00pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
drmikeadams: You can see from darlenese story that parents are not always right. We have to be able to see ahead before marrying. Some people like your niece, ignore the red flags and still dive probably because of some goodies they see. But it is unable to keep a marriage. 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Ohraykon: 12:52pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
Lovelyn451:tribalism will kee u las las just imagine advice same reason the east is too homogenous yet you can live in other parts of nigeria freely but cant marry dem you for tell chioma not to marry davido yeye dey smell 1 Like |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Ohraykon: 12:55pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
StrikeBack:bros imagine big fools same reason a ph gurl complained guys from the east wats so special marrying from ur tribe its not like ders anyfin special about dem sef. They are even the reason why oyinbos no wan date africans for germany dem don too mess up. Plenty half cast with easter fathers full germany especially munich. I wish naija can split make we all go our separate ways. |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Ohraykon: 12:56pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
Lovelyn451:u nor well at all but when issues of money show u can kill each other. May u not be destroyed |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Ohraykon: 1:02pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
djon78:does dat make sense to you yet you complain of racism inside life! |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Ohraykon: 1:03pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
djon78:scam the ones the parents advised dat went in shambles u no fit think for urself justfying nonsense |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by djon78(m): 3:36pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
Ohraykon: At least it worked for her. The person she married was exactly perfect for her. The times of our parents and now, marriages was better off then than now. People do love but not many can sustain marriage because love is not enough to keep a successful marriage. But this generation don't understand that one. That's why divorce full everywhere because people focus on things that don't last. So I go with listening to our elders. They have seen more of life than this present crooked generation. |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Dayg88(m): 4:13pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
CAPSLOCKED: LMAO I rest my case |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Lovelyn451(f): 9:49pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
Ohraykon:so asking an Igbo girl to marry her tribe is tribalism eh kwa? Don't u have women in ur tribe? must u marry an Igbo woman? An Igbo girl can marry from every tribe in Nigeria including a christian Hausa sef, but Yoruba? I'm totally against it!! In totality!!! God forbid!!! Ohraykon:it is you that will be destroyed...shebi its Yoruba that dont kill for money, dirty ritualist, yahoo boy |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Lovelyn451(f): 10:35pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
9gerian:hear say, everything u typed is based on hear say, u know nothing about my culture So hush!! What if I say ritual killing is a Yoruba culture thats if it is not cos an average Yoruba guy is into yahoo and has killed his girlfriend for ritual? i hate typing, wish I can enlighten you face to face on Igbo culture and traditions Yoruba's are not committed to anything, their attitude to religion is no 1 proof,, their lack of commitment is also seen in family, thats why they have the highest rate of divorce in Nigeria Shebi peter married Lola, thats how we respect the institution of marriage and family, what has davido done on chioma, rather than get her pregnant? See eh, Yoruba is rubbish when it comes to family, every other tribe is far far better. In Igbo society, the father is the highest authority and family is the highest institution..we regard the fathers even more than our leaders sef and over the years that tradition has been maintained 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by gentleibraheem(m): 10:42pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
Lovelyn451: what about a Hausa Muslim. you know . . . . they're real quality husband materials |
Re: Will You Marry A Guy Or Lady Against Your Parents Wish? by Lovelyn451(f): 10:45pm On Mar 05, 2020 |
gentleibraheem:marry someone you share same religious belief with...thank you |
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