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Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by ebonyvibe(f): 8:30am On Dec 22, 2010
You fiancée going to the club without you is a different issue and switching off her phone getting drunk is another bad issue but women drinking a glass of wine with a meal is acceptable. I suggest if you feel strongly about your partner drinking don't marry someone that does and try to change them marry someone that doesn't looks like you have trust issues in the relationship not the drink.

Afterall you can marry someone that doesnt drink and she may still go to a club without yoou knowing and switch off her phone
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by MrCork3: 8:53am On Dec 22, 2010
ebonyvibe:

You fiancée going to the club without you is a different issue and switching off her phone getting drunk is another bad issue but women drinking a glass of wine with a meal is acceptable. I suggest if you feel strongly about your partner drinking don't marry some that does andbyet and change them marry someone that doesn't looks like you have trust issues in the relationship not the drink

Another great statement from agony aunt angry
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Specialist900(m): 8:55am On Dec 22, 2010
ebonyvibe:

If it is your wife it is not just your house it is you guys home and if she wants a drink I don't think there is a law against that getting drunk is bad it seems you have control issues

i've always been of the opinion that its better not to start what you can't finish.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Creamish(f): 9:06am On Dec 22, 2010
If she clubs without letting u know and switches off her phone, then sumthinz wrong . . mayb she knows u mos def wuld stop her from having fun . . u guyz are wrong for eachother. Otherwise, therez nuttn wrong wit takin moderate alcohol.  Then again, it all depends on the individual.


Advice: Ensure u date some1 who naturally hates alcohol cos if u dont, she take it in secret or look for an excuse to attend a function without u. . .Its rily not worth the pretense in your marriage.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by daduke2k(m): 9:19am On Dec 22, 2010
^^^com madame u knw go work?
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Creamish(f): 9:22am On Dec 22, 2010
im @ work . . i take time outs sumtimez.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by InkedNerd(f): 9:24am On Dec 22, 2010
@OP: Its not a matter of "letting". Because this person is your supposed wife[b]/[/b]fiancé doesn't mean that you can control what they do or say. You are both grown adults and should treat each other as such. You need to understand that there is a difference between social/leisurely drinking and perhaps having an alcohol problem. If my husband[b]/[/b]fiancé drank alcohol, I wouldn't have a problem with it just as long as it wasn't alcohol addiction. If I could tell that their consumption of alcohol has or is leading them down the path to alcoholism, then I'd have a problem with it and would have to address it with him.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by daduke2k(m): 9:48am On Dec 22, 2010
datz gud. Seemz ur job aint 2 demandin. Men i hav 2 stand up every 20 mins. Hav a nyc day.though.
Creamish:

im @ work . . i take time outs sumtimez.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Nobody: 11:26am On Dec 22, 2010
Fuuny that men should always come up with these hypocritical 'rules' . . . . I see a lot of married men drinking and nobody complains about it! undecided
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Specialist900(m): 12:26pm On Dec 22, 2010
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What makes it hypocritical?

Its both ways, i also see ladies that complain about their guys drinking habit
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Nobody: 12:32pm On Dec 22, 2010
Specialist900:

^
What makes it hypocritical?

Its both ways, i also see ladies that complain about their guys drinking habit

It's hypocritical because if the wife were to be the man, nobody'll be talking about 'letting' her drink! This is just another 'men are better than women' scenario.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Specialist900(m): 1:14pm On Dec 22, 2010
Na you talk the men are better than women scenario o
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by ebonyvibe(f): 1:23pm On Dec 22, 2010
'LETTING' what planet are you guys from you talk of it as if you are letting your child go and play in his friends house. So you wife now needs your permission before she can have a drink, does she have a brain.

If we are talking about drinking habit which means more than twice a week and excessively then there is a problem. But leTting your wife drink is halarious. you guys must think after you marry you own women. Sorry does your wife let you drink smiley smiley
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by violent(m): 1:48pm On Dec 22, 2010
My wife taking beer is a NO NO!
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Dsense(m): 2:08pm On Dec 22, 2010
I do alc but i don't get drunk . . . .Same goes on her!
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by boladot: 4:43pm On Dec 22, 2010
We used to relax together at the bar with a bottle of Night Train most times. As long as she's not drunk, then I don't have any problem with it
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by ShyOne(f): 6:50pm On Dec 22, 2010
I don't want someone who drinks alcohol or smokes.

Thank goodness my baby feels the same way.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by dutchmillionaire(m): 7:01am On Dec 23, 2010
Its alchohol not table wine.
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Specialist900(m): 9:51am On Dec 23, 2010
Which one is alcohol, which one is table wine?
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by Creamish(f): 10:26am On Dec 23, 2010
Shy-One:

I don't want someone who drinks alcohol or smokes.

Thank goodness my baby feels the same way.


boladot:

We used to relax together at the bar with a bottle of Night Train most times. As long as she's not drunk, then I don't have any problem with it

Different strokes for Different folks!
Re: Can You Accept The Fact That your Wife Or Fiance Drinks Alchohol by ebonyvibe(f): 2:17pm On Dec 23, 2010
As i suggested before the answer to this is to marry / go out with someone who share same ideology with you instead of trying to change them.

I work and my job demands me to attend business meetings where alcohol is served if i always refuse one or two conslusions will be drawn 1) i am pregnant 2) am a recovering Alcoholic both of which might have an impact on my career.

Never ever get drunk though cos that will have an even diverse effect

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