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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by CokeBar(f): 9:41am On Mar 26
teddyK:
First of,it's a distance relationship and we both have tried to make it worked the past few years and I planned on engaging her this year.. It all started when she complained that I DNT call her much which am guilty of..She decided to take a break from me that was October last year.. I literally cried and begged her continuously..While on her break,she blocked me on all platforms,so I had to result to calling her with different numbers, asking my friends to beg her for me..I left benin to her house in Lagos,when I noticed things wasn't improving, when I got to her house,I didn't meet her,I called her on phone that I was at her house,this babe insulted me on phone,told m to just go back to Benin..It was really dark,then her mom came up to meet me and then introduced me to her dad,I then talked to both parents and asked them to please beg her on my behalf that I was going to change cuz I really loved her.Early this year she came back and things were normal again.. Meanwhile, nothing she asks from me that I DNT give her.This time I called her almost everday but I noticed when she missed my calls,she doesn't bother to call me back..She only calls or text me when she needed something from me..Well just yesterday she told me she didn't feel the Sparks anymore and she needed a breakup...

Awwwn, you even travelled to make your relationship work.

You have done your best, please let it go.

It is one thing for someone to complain about an attitude they want you to change, it is a whole different thing for someone to say they don't feel the spark in the relationship. Please leave her.

Even if she begs you, leave! It is difficult, very difficult, I'm at this stage too but no need going back.

Move on, you'll eventually be alright.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 10:42am On Mar 26
Thanks

CokeBar:


Awwwn, you even travelled to make your relationship work.

You have done your best, please let it go.

It is one thing for someone to complain about an attitude they want you to change, it is a whole different thing for someone to say they don't feel the spark in the relationship. Please leave her.

Even if she begs you, leave! It is difficult, very difficult, I'm at this stage too but no need going back.

Move on, you'll eventually be alright.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 10:51am On Mar 26
Thanks bro.. She is really pretty and matured,that's something I seriously want in a lady..I just want to heal now and then look for a serious lady now

joe4christ:



Then congratulations brother. You just narrowly escaped marital disaster and should be giving testimony in your church this sunday. The girl lost interest in you the first time she sought for a break. But its like you forced her back. Obviously she has moved on long before now, you are the one holding the relationship bro.
You both won't live happily in such relationship cos the feeling is no longer mutual. So, move on or else you will only see the Jezebel in her if you force your way back to her, she will continuously use you and then dump you when u finally wanna walk down the isle.

There are better prettier girls with better characters out there. Go out and go fish out your wife. Good luck!
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by joe4christ(m): 11:26am On Mar 26
teddyK:
Thanks bro.. She is really pretty and matured,that's something I seriously want in a lady..I just want to heal now and then look for a serious lady now


Yea, take time out to heal. Drink beer and chill with friends (Also consider Convic 19 sha) if need be. Just don't be lonely always. And pls stay far away from snipers. Infact sniper shouldn't be within your reach right now, so u don't end up seeing it as a flavored juice!

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 11:38am On Mar 26
Sniper ke... With all the beautiful things in this life yet to explore na suicide I want tink... Na Bleep up say I kee myself cuz of babe na....

joe4christ:


Yea, take time out to heal. Drink beer and chill with friends (Also consider Convic 19 sha) if need be. Just don't be lonely always. And pls stay far away from snipers. Infact sniper shouldn't be within your reach right now, so u don't end up seeing it as a flavored juice!

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by joe4christ(m): 11:42am On Mar 26
teddyK:
Sniper ke... With all the beautiful things in this life yet to explore na suicide I want tink... Na Bleep up say I kee myself cuz of babe na....

I'm glad you're becoming more stronger. I feel if you were tougher with your Ex she would never have left. You were too soft on her. That's all I can deduce from your narration so far. But glad you're moving on sha!

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by AfroKnight: 11:44am On Mar 26
BestAccessories:


Congratulations to you and HER.

If after 4 years, there is still no clear direction, a change of route is highly recommended and advisable.

Congratulations once again to her and you.

You don’t know when they met. Could have been 100L.

But your myopia must rear its ugly head. You can’t think beyond your bias.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Jewessgratitudd: 11:45am On Mar 26
Just pick up your pieces and move on. You'll be fine in no time. Be open to meeting new people and make friends. It works.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by AfroKnight: 11:49am On Mar 26
Op,

If you’re self-isolating then I can only imagine the hurt. The pain will linger for a while. Keep thinking positive thoughts. Protect your mental health fiercely. Don’t embarrass yourself by calling her. If you don’t trust yourself to stay away, kindly delete her number and unfollow her everywhere. Delete her pictures too. Don’t fall for the temptation of calling her.

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by KevinDein: 12:10pm On Mar 26
teddyK:
Thanks bro.. She is really pretty and matured,that's something I seriously want in a lady..I just want to heal now and then look for a serious lady now

You seem to be handling it well; a very good sign because the whole thing will help you grow as a human and a man and you'll come out a much better you.

Your next girl will be lucky.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by BestAccessories: 1:02pm On Mar 26
AfroKnight:


You don’t know when they met. Could have been 100L.

But your myopia must rear its ugly head. You can’t think beyond your bias.

I don't get into a battle with a pig because a pig mission is to drag you into a mud which is its home.

Ooin.

You're doing well
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by AfroKnight: 1:56pm On Mar 26
BestAccessories:


I don't get into a battle with a pig because a pig mission is to drag you into a mud which is its home.

Ooin.

You're doing well

Then you go on to grunt like a pig.

Oh well. Next time don’t jump into conclusions you might just land on your face.

Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by snitchbitch: 2:14pm On Mar 26
Use the heart break to motivate yourself and hustle more for more money. When you are a millionaire, she will be begging you for second chance!!
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by tayewomi: 2:46pm On Mar 26
CoronaVirusPro:
Call Uber.
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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Bluehill1051: 3:53pm On Mar 26
Masterpiece676:


Are you sick? Why would you advice someone to waste resource in this covik one nine virus era?


Op, come jare, sniper Nah 500. You no fit even finish am.


On a serious note, there are better fish in the ocean. Cry a bit, try to reconcile if she worth it and if none of these work, remember to drink water and open your eyes to opportunities around you.... Life goes on
Sniper is 450 in my area
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by SimeonOTC(m): 4:11pm On Mar 26
chaaaiiii...
op i can relate..ahhh...i still remember when my ex broke up with me last year February after 5years of dating, menhhh, that was one of my dark days..hmmm

i loose strength, energy, loose weight, was a shadow of my self and everybody around me noticed it.

o.p breakup is very painful, very very painful..especially when you are trying hard to make it work even go as far as traveling.
take heart bro.

search deep down on romance forum and look for topics like this and read how others were advice on how to recover from it..it worked for me and am doing fine now..lol, if you see me back then when it was still fresh and early, i nearly run madgrin but las las, everything was fine..

as others have said, do the basic, i mean, no matter how dead broken your heart is, please and please o.p;

* NEVER you call or dial her number AGAIN!
* NEVER you message her AGAIN!
* DELETE everything about her
* make new friends especially female and have fungrin it helps alot..
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 4:26pm On Mar 26
Thank you all for the positive feedbacks...

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by elipheleh(m): 5:00pm On Mar 26
teddyK:
First of,it's a distance relationship and we both have tried to make it worked the past few years and I planned on engaging her this year.. It all started when she complained that I DNT call her much which am guilty of..She decided to take a break from me that was October last year.. I literally cried and begged her continuously..While on her break,she blocked me on all platforms,so I had to result to calling her with different numbers, asking my friends to beg her for me..I left benin to her house in Lagos,when I noticed things wasn't improving, when I got to her house,I didn't meet her,I called her on phone that I was at her house,this babe insulted me on phone,told m to just go back to Benin..It was really dark,then her mom came up to meet me and then introduced me to her dad,I then talked to both parents and asked them to please beg her on my behalf that I was going to change cuz I really loved her.Early this year she came back and things were normal again.. Meanwhile, nothing she asks from me that I DNT give her.This time I called her almost everday but I noticed when she missed my calls,she doesn't bother to call me back..She only calls or text me when she needed something from me..Well just yesterday she told me she didn't feel the Sparks anymore and she needed a breakup...
You are a weakling. It's really alarming the large number of weak men we have in Nigeria.
Weak men don't deserve love. Sissies are the scums of the earth.
Be firm as a man. Be assertive. Be non tolerating of bullshits from anyone. Become selfish, become self loving first and foremost. Become unapologetic. Never say sorry. "Sorry" is an attraction killer. Never call a woman when you have any task at hand. Business and Work over women. Place calls to women only when you are on relaxation mode. Never apologize to a woman no matter how you feel. Never make a woman feel indespensable. Never Don't beg. Be strict. Don't let offenses slide unpunished. Spend money on yourself more. Show women money but don't spend it on them. Only spend money on what satisfies you. Dress well. Dress expensive. Buy expensive perfumes, wristwatches and shoes for yourself. Don't give women money. Only on rare occasions like spare change.
Always be ready to break up with anybody. Always be ready to let go. Don't ever hold any human being tightly. No body is irreplaceable. Never have one woman at a time. Have many women ready to come to you. Being in a serious relationship is not an excuse to stop asking ladies you fancy out. The word "womaniser" is a lovely word. Until a woman calls you a womaniser, know you haven't pursued women enough.

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Olunmercy56(f): 5:02pm On Mar 26
A broken relationship is far better than broken marriage
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Budline1(m): 5:03pm On Mar 26
snitchbitch:
Use the heart break to motivate yourself and hustle more for more money. When you are a millionaire, she will be begging you for second chance!!

It's not necessary she begs for a second chance. She could even be happily married. He should just move on and be productive, life goes on.
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Thehumanlloydl: 5:27pm On Mar 26
teddyK:
First of.I left benin to her house in Lagos,when I noticed things wasn't improving, when I got to her house,I didn't meet her,I called her on phone that I was at her house,this babe insulted me on phone,told m to just go back to Benin..It was really dark,then her ..

Meanwhile, nothing she asks from me that I DNT give her.
Nigga been a pussy for the past 400 years. Smfh

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Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by rex444(m): 5:36pm On Mar 26
oya take heart, is she your first love ?d same way I cannot give U advise on life,I also cannur give U advise on love cos we all na learners.........just be strong and embrace whatever comes your way
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 10:37pm On Mar 26
Baba I no be learner ooo but there's always one girl/partner that gat ur mumu bottom... See ba,I DNT regret anything,I just see this as a stepping stone... I obviously learnt my lesson and moving on with so much positivity...

Thehumanlloydl:

Nigga been a pussy for the past 400 years. Smfh
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Boxer007(m): 10:38pm On Mar 26
teddyK:
Hey guys, I hardly create topics on here but these got me.My girlfriend of 4years just said she's no longer interested in dating me.... This is really heartbreaking...

Great news sir. Can I date yu?
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by teddyK(m): 11:09pm On Mar 26
Am a guy named shu

Boxer007:


Great news sir. Can I date yu?
Re: My Girlfriend Of 4years Just Broke Up With Me. by Npower: 4:44am On Mar 27
teddyK:
Am a guy named shu

The guy is gay

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