Disclaimer: This could be silly, but I want to know why this is a big deal.

A co-worker came to work crying because her fiance won't marry her because she decided to keep her maiden name.  The fiance told her that she have disgraced his family and that she is no longer a wife prospect.  They have been dating for two years and engaged for six months.  She went to the family gathering to find out that she is no longer welcome and never to return.

Now, I find that highly sickening that a man wouldn't marry a woman that he claim is her soul mate because she won't change her name.  What is it with the name change?  Why is it so important that the woman must change her last name?  What if she want to honor her father name by keeping the maiden name?  Is that such an issue?

Why is IT such a big deal for a woman to change her last name?!

I would assume is because of a "respect" and religion tradition. Almost like a man wanting have a "son" first to carry on his name. That once you become married, you are spiritually joined as "one" unit.

I truly understand why it could be important to most, but to take this issue that far to say, "poof, be gone" because she disagreed with taking his name. Do you know if they would even compromise and let her hypenate her name? "Or was they flat out, oh you don't take my name, you not worthy of me. Hit the road?"

Honestly, I don't mind changing my last name. Also for the fact that I hate my current last name anyway. So it don't bother me!

It is a big deal only for the people who choose to make it one.

And the number reason people do this is TRADITION - that's how it's been . . so some feel the trend should continue.

So it aint all for selfish reasons.

For me, it is not a big deal (happiness and peace in my household are more important to me). But that is just me - I cant force my opinion on other people.

Heey Kokoye! I missed you

hey sweetie.

kokoye:

It is a big deal only for the people who choose to make it one.

And the number reason people do this is TRADITION - that's how it's been . . so some feel the trend should continue.

So it aint all for selfish reasons.

For me, it is not a big deal (happiness and peace in my household are more important to me). But that is just me - I cant force my opinion on other people.

This would be more like it for me, if I ever plan to be the Mrs of anyone.

^^^

You agreed with me (a man)

_{then there must be hope for all mankind}

Carolece:


This would be more like it for me, if I ever plan to be the Mrs of anyone.

its not compulsory...

if my surname was cool and short .. i might not drop it..

but as e dey so, no way I'm keeping it…

the fact still remains, I'm my father's child!

Well for me the name isn't important. If she like she may not share my name with me its none of my buisness. All i married her for is building our future,the future of the country together.