Me too

Wow.  Married before the ink dried on the divorce papers.  I guess things move fast in the East huh people?

Ok. I will tell you everything in 2012. Good night. It's too late in Poland. I need to go to my job. I will talk tomorrow.

POSTER:

everybody told me that Africa is very danger, but I decided to risk. I met him in internet. I know that there are many scammers. . .I am surprised that he is so nice man, I thought men from Africa don't respect women, but he treated me as a gueen. . .I am 52 and he is 37. I needed so nice man (I am divorced in 2010, I had only 1 man and I was alone for 8 years, I didn't want to meet any men). When I met him, something awakend in me and I need to be a good wife for him. I feel I can. I'm sorry for my confession, but what do you think about it and is there anybody who met a Nigerian man and is happy too? Maybe you have some problems with your men? Would this marriage be happy in future? I am romantic woman, don't like fighting and I think I can adjust to him and my marriage would be happy. I can't see big differences between us, he is very gentle and kind, I didn't expect it. Now I know that Africa is a very nice[b] country[/b], people are very nice, but this weather I couldn't stand.

Give me a moment to be rude.classless. . .

@ bolded parts lmao
DEATH!  
*COUGH!* Cougar?  

ok back to maturity. . .

Errrm please do not be offended but I am having a hard time believing this story. So you got a divorce AND then married to a man you met on the internet, all in ONE YEAR? hmmm. Well only God can judge you really but (wo)man can speak, so I am.  

As for your questions about successful marriage , you should be aware that if a marriage is "founded" under circumstances that are shady/illegitimate, it won't survive. There has to be genuine connection and love from the beginning for it to last and with that having been said, meeting him online and then marrying him so soon there after is not the way to go. You are talking about moving him to Europe knowing he has a child, honestly you are moving a bit too fast may dear. These things take time and his daughter needs to be more familiar with you, as you two barely know each other much less you and her dad.

Catering to your man is definitely a must but totally submitting is not necessary to keep him. Be the loving wife that he needs with principle and values but don't play the role of the NAIVE foreign girl. Be a no-nonsense woman, but you need to start by re-analyzing this relationship and correct the wrongs, other wise you two are moving WAY to fast and if you are not careful this "union" can crumble before your eyes.

@Poster,either arguments are valid depending on how you look at it.However,life is full of choices.If you are happy with this guy,go ahead and take a chance on him.If it works,be happy.If it doesn't,be happy stillo,at least,you've proven that love still lives in you.Don't hold back out of fear.If you sincerely love him but chicken out because of fear,you may end up regretting not to have given it a chance.On the other hand,if he is only using you to get to europe, do not worry,I know it will hurt,however,living in Poland or europe with a younger lady is never a guarantee that life would be better for him without you.There is always a natural payback time, The universe has a way of paying each and everyone back for any act against love and humanity.
For all those ladies out here who are rationalizing love,take a breath,you don't have control over who you love.The moment you start putting barriers on who is the ideal man/woman,it's no longer love.It becomes a GAME because what you are attracted to is no longer the HE/SHE in him/her but the immaterial things that quickly bores you after two months of relationship with HIM/HER.Cheers all.

You gone do that now chile. You gon need all the money you can get to pay off that loan you took.

Happy for you. Searching for my 9ja prince.

zionmmv:

@Poster,either arguments are valid depending on how you look at it.However,life is full of choices.If you are happy with this guy,go ahead and take a chance on him.If it works,be happy.[b]If it doesn't,be happy stillo,[/b]at least,you've proven that love still lives in you.Don't hold back out of fear.If you sincerely love him but chicken out because of fear,you may end up regretting not to have given it a chance.On the other hand,if he is only using you to get to europe, do not worry,I know it will hurt,however,living in Poland or europe with a younger lady is never a guarantee that life would be better for him without you.There is always a natural payback time, The universe has a way of paying each and everyone  back for any act against love and humanity.
For all those ladies out here who are rationalizing love,take a breath,[b]you don't have control over who you love.[/b]The moment you start putting barriers on who is the ideal man/woman,it's no longer love.It becomes a GAME because what you are attracted to is no longer the HE/SHE in him/her but the immaterial things that quickly bores you after two months of relationship with HIM/HER.Cheers all.

you tell her to be happy still if her marriage doesn't work.
will you be happy if you went half way around the world and spend all your money to bring a poor man out of poverty and he dumps you? you will feel extremely silly and bitter. the pain will remain with you for life.
go and read the threads I posted about bitter european and foreign women who have been scammed. none of them is happy. duh
let's be realistic here.

@Ilovefred
We all want to see you happy especially after your divorce, it's nice you met this man. It is very important that you make sure that he really loves you and is not here for the opportunities you may offer him. Love has a way of getting us all tingly and blind, do be careful that is what most people are trying to tell you for you not to make mistake okay. All in all lots of good people abound in Africa and everywhere.

He seems nice from your description of him but children does matter a lot to people from our culture and you should clear that issue with him and be certain that he can bear with it if you are able or unable to make a child for him in the future and has the maturity to accept for you two to adopt or something.

She can't have any more children seeing she has three already and he is an young African with NO SONS.

I gasped when she said she married before the ink dried. It not so much who she married but the timing between her divorce and new marriage. Divorce is hard on ANYBODY especially when children are involved.

It doesn't matter if she wasn't with him eight years of the marriage. It destroys the children and without counseling of some sort those children going to be dealing with so much especially when they are teenagers.

I know for a fact and will bet you all the cheerios with cold milk my husband eat that man want a boy. I promise you. You can take him to Poland, when the sunset he is Nigerian.

Mrs, Eve:

Damn that some bleeped up cheese you got!
If it was American men or Uk men that married an older woman usually they are younger men marrying older women and most of them are sugar babies. A VERY FEW OF THEM actually love them old hags.
But we are talking about AFRICAN MEN and I don't care how many FUBU and Sean John apparels they wear you can't take AFRICA out of an African man. They will still be some low down sommamishes and the fact she got a buncha children too. Hmm. Hell, African men ain't really going after women with too many children and older women when they don't have sons.
Did I mentioned AFRICAN MEN LOOOOOOVE BOY CHILDREN?

Attention to all Nairalanders, it is with due respect to everybody that I beg to be given the opportunity to do what I never do and be rude at this point in time because it is high time that this person gets put into her rightful place here.

Mukina and the moderators in charge, it's high time Mrs. Eve or whatever the dirty mouthed lady calls herself get told that we are not going to fold our hands and watch her dish out insults of all kinds both written and unwritten to Nigerians and Africans. Her mouth leaves a disgusting
trail behind, what with all these po*s and pu*nies and every kind of unwritten insults (that even generations past do not know) coming from her every minute. I am not even the only one that has noticed this, other people have complained  as shown in the thread below

Quote by Johndoe
So many people find that lady's use of language offensive. She call us "niggers" and says it is meant to be offensive. Moderators, can we now allow foreigners to call us "niggers"? Do you know how offensive this is?I think a warning to the lady - "Mrs Eve" is in order.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-505782.320.html

I refuse to believe that this person is an American because she is a big disgrace to America, I mean from her language she is lower than any low person that can come out of Africa yet she has the temerity to come to this forum and insult Nigerians and Africans on a daily basis.
How can a lady keep yapping endlessly everyday and 95% of her yaps are insults bikonu? You are married to a Nigerian and you have no atom of respect for your husband's people. You have even boldly told us beating-hands-on-the-chest mannerlike that you have been chased out of the house of other people because of your mouth. If you have no manners we can get you started on Manner 101 in this thread as you are married to our brother, seriously.
Can somebody warn her or better still get her stinking faggotted mouth out of this forum for good. Classless-gutter-people who have no respect for others do not belong here, I hope she got my message. Excuse me out of her gutter e-presence and to think that I ever called her a friend.


@Ilovefred
I am sorry I have to write this here but this person has overdone it for the umpteenth time, I can't stand and watch her talk down on my people everyday.

Ivynwa:

Attention to all Nairalanders, it is with due respect to everybody that I beg to be given the opportunity to be rude at this point in time because it is high time that this person gets put into her rightful place here.

Mukina and the moderators in charge, it's high time Mrs. Eve or whatever the dirty mouthed lady calls herself get told that we are not going to fold our hands and watch her dish out insults of all kinds both written and unwritten to Nigerians and Africans. Her mouth leaves a disgusting
trail behind, what with all these po*s and pu*nies and every kind of unwritten insults (that even generations past do not know) coming from her every minute. I am not even the only one that has noticed this, other people have complained  as shown in the thread below
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-505782.320.html

I refuse to believe that this person is an American because she is a big disgrace to America, I mean from her language she is lower than any low person that can come out of Africa yet she has the temerity to come to this forum and insult Nigerians and Africans on a daily basis.
How can a lady keep yapping endlessly everyday and 95% of her yaps are insults bikonu? You are married to a Nigerian and you have no atom of respect for your husband's people. You have even boldly told us beating-hands-on-the-chest mannerlike that you have been chased out of the house of other people because of your mouth. If you have no manners we can get you started on Manner 101 in this thread as you are married to our brother, seriously.
Can somebody warn her or better still get her stinking faggotted mouth out of this forum for good. Classless-gutter-people who have no respect for others do not belong here, I hope she got my message. Excuse me out of her gutter e-presence and to think that I ever called her a friend.


@Ilovefred
I am sorry I have to write this here but this person has overdone it for the umpteenth time, I can't stand and watch her talk down on my people everyday.

^^IVY! 
Why are you being mean!
besides honey Johndoe is the WORST person
to quote, calling women c, unts and making
posts about the female s3x organs; etc.

If putting a person (who matches on the dignity and essence of my people) in her right place is being mean then there is a good to being mean after all. How do you guys bear her disgusting foul mouthed e-presence?

190
I am not keeping quiet and watching somebody who feels that she is better than others talk down on Africans.

Ivynwa:

If putting a person (who matches on the dignity and essence of my people) in her right place is being mean then there is a good to being mean after all. How do you guys bear her disgusting foul mouthed e-presence?

190
I am not keeping quiet and watching somebody who feels that she is better than others talk down on Africans.

*holds head down, zips mouth and sits down*

@Ilovefred
freddiegirl
Sweetheart do get on with your thread please, thanks for giving me a little time out to send this important message across.

Mrs Eve
Nairaland IS an african owned site . .

its 2011 and you people are still on this back and forth?

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https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-1026.0.html

IloveFred. . .take this from a Nigerian man brought-up with very good manners, has lived in many places and well-experienced:

Be a good wife, love his kid and show it, keep yourself in shape and whatever got you attracted, do not go away from it, try and learn to cook him some of his favorite Nigerian foods, do not nag him to death. If this man is really good man like you believe, and you do most or all of the things I listed above, your marriage will be one a lot of women here will only dream about.

Also, like someone advised here, do not take negative advise from frustrated people who have NEVER had a successful relationship for one week in their life because of their own personal faults. They are VERY jealous and mad with you that you have now even married one of the best class of men on this planet, yet they are still single, whinny, nagging and getting old without a man and the more make-up they use, the older they appear. I'm sure you will be smart enough to know that any advise these kind of women give is to make your life like theirs: single, boring, living on the internet, scavenging for any man that may mistakenly come their way. So, take advise with caution.

If this man is innately good enough and real, welcome to a marriage that will make your life heaven on earth and I wish you all the best!

From a Nigerian MAN!

^ the Nigerian MAN has spoken.
but if you read her post carefully, she asked for the advice of WOMEN who were in similar situation as her.

I'm sorry for my confession, but what do you think about it and is there anybody who met a Nigerian man and is happy too? Maybe you have some problems with your men? Would this marriage be happy in future?

mrs eve u wouldnt happen to be queen eve by any chance would you??

ivynwa, and where did you see her insult african men? if english is a problem simply say, she said african men dont tend to like old women when they dont have sons? gosh here we go again *rolling of the eyes*

Jenifa_:

you tell her to be happy still if her marriage doesn't work.
will you be happy if you went half way around the world and spend all your money to bring a poor man out of poverty and he dumps you? you will feel extremely silly and bitter. the pain will remain with you for life.
go and read the threads I posted about bitter european and foreign women who have been scammed. none of them is happy. duh
let's be realistic here.

are you minding him? he sounds like another scammer to me!
these european women better start growing brains because romance scams are soo 2006!

Ivynwa:

Attention to all Nairalanders, it is with due respect to everybody that I beg to be given the opportunity to do what I never do and be rude at this point in time because it is high time that this person gets put into her rightful place here.

Mukina and the moderators in charge, it's high time Mrs. Eve or whatever the dirty mouthed lady calls herself get told that we are not going to fold our hands and watch her dish out insults of all kinds both written and unwritten to Nigerians and Africans. Her mouth leaves a disgusting
trail behind, what with all these po*s and pu*nies and every kind of unwritten insults (that even generations past do not know) coming from her every minute. I am not even the only one that has noticed this, other people have complained  as shown in the thread below
https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-505782.320.html

I refuse to believe that this person is an American because she is a big disgrace to America, I mean from her language she is lower than any low person that can come out of Africa yet she has the temerity to come to this forum and insult Nigerians and Africans on a daily basis.
How can a lady keep yapping endlessly everyday and 95% of her yaps are insults bikonu? You are married to a Nigerian and you have no atom of respect for your husband's people. You have even boldly told us beating-hands-on-the-chest mannerlike that you have been chased out of the house of other people because of your mouth. If you have no manners we can get you started on Manner 101 in this thread as you are married to our brother, seriously.
Can somebody warn her or better still get her stinking faggotted mouth out of this forum for good. Classless-gutter-people who have no respect for others do not belong here, I hope she got my message. Excuse me out of her gutter e-presence and to think that I ever called her a friend.


@Ilovefred
I am sorry I have to write this here but this person has overdone it for the umpteenth time, I can't stand and watch her talk down on my people everyday.

[size=20pt]I SUPPORT YOU on EVERY POINT you made in this post![/size]

Jenifa_:

^ the Nigerian MAN has spoken.
but if you read her post carefully, she asked for the advice of WOMEN who were in similar situation as her.

@Jenny. . .pardon that she was asking for the advice of women but having been on NL for a while now, I know that there are women and there are real WOMEN! Not every "woman" here is like you who would give honest, candid and helpful advice! Some are gonna do anything to dissuade and discourage this woman with very awful and evil advice, so it is good she is made aware of "women" like this early on.

mukina2:

its 2011 and you people are still on this back and forth?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-1026.0.html

Ms. Mukina,

I do apologize for my sharp tongue against a few wounded chatters. However, I have never attacked nor said anything to Ivynwa in this thread. I have read every last post on this thread to see where I have attacked African men and I have not seen one. The post Ivynwa responded to was talking about AMERICAN MEN AND UK MEN nothing about African men not liking old hags. Now if she feel that it was referred to her then I have nothing to do with that.

I am very much aware of the rules of Nairaland and know that this is an African site owned and operated by Seun. However, I did not know a person who is non-nigerian must accept lashes from nigerians. I am sure the rules apply to all and not selective few.

I have also seen the link Ivynwa posted and as you can see in the very same thread I was lashed with name callings as well. I didn't see her complaining about that which is sad. If it bad for one person to say it, it should be bad for all to say it.

Ms. Mukina, I find it very interesting that Nigerian people can say the very same thing Non-nigerian people say but they get off scott tape free whereas non-nigerians are giving sanctions and restrictions. The very last post on this thread that I authored talked about her divorce and marriage in the same breath and the effect it can have on children. I have made it clear that it has nothing to do with the man in question.

Anyway, I am very aware of the rules and I can see how things are shifted. Thank you for your time.

Did the poster ever come back to check on the thread or give an update on the marriage?

queensmith:

mrs eve u wouldnt happen to be queen eve by any chance would you??

ivynwa, and where did you see her insult african men? if english is a problem simply say, she said african men dont tend to like old women when they dont have sons? gosh here we go again *rolling of the eyes*

are you minding him? he sounds like another scammer to me!
these european women better start growing brains because romance scams are soo 2006!

Yes, I am Queeneve and I do not know either.  Maybe she upset about something and had to take it out on someone.   I didn't know American and UK men were African.  I guess I was asleep when the memo passed around.

Ivynwa,

Respect goes both ways. Just because I am married to a Nigerian-American doesn't mean I will let people say whatever to me.  If you come at me sideways don't expect candy in return. 


My comments were about American Men and UK men not liking old hags and African men who want children will not marry an older woman who can't have children.  Now if you feel that an insult it is not.  I suggest that you read comments before crying wolf because you clearly didn't read anything I said on this thread.   None of them attacked African men.  It clear that you have an issue with me as a person and not the threads because you are picking strange times to bring up issues.

If you had an issue about a previous thread you should have reported that to the moderators on that thread and not a thread that has nothing to do with a previous thread.

This is where I get my daily "soap" suds

Mrs, Eve:

Damn that some bleeped up cheese you got!
If it was American men or Uk men that married an older woman usually they are younger men marrying older women and most of them are sugar babies. A VERY FEW OF THEM actually love them old hags.
But we are talking about AFRICAN MEN and I don't care how many FUBU and Sean John apparels they wear you can't take AFRICA out of an African man. They will still be some low down sommamishes and the fact she got a buncha children too. Hmm. Hell, African men ain't really going after women with too many children and older women when they don't have sons.
Did I mentioned AFRICAN MEN LOOOOOOVE BOY CHILDREN?

The quotation above is by you including many countless ones that can be seen in these threads below.

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-570836.128.html

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-25706.160.html

Stop using undignifying words on people, that's all we ask from you. How can you keep nosing people down like that? If I said that your mouth is dirty, I am not calling you names because it is so. I am not just talking, I am not the only person that finds that ugly as we all know. Let's be nice and decent to ourselves not bring down people.