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| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 9:52pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
As a little boy growing up, i never thought i d'd ever shade a tear for any woman at all... This one didn't even do me anything but i was hurt because someone else was hurting her. I didn't shade just a tear but i cried like it was happening to me and not her. Or perharps it could have been much better if i had been the one and not her. This is love, but i was in love with the wrong person and at the wrong time. How did i get myself entangled in this? I can't say. All i know is that i love this woman with everything i gat. She went to the party, dressed well, acted normal. I felt jealous and down althroughout the day, i felt i lost something precious... I needed distraction. I don't smoke and i don't drink. I opted for smoking, just for that day though. I called a friend of mine who is a chronic smoker. We bought the plant(marijuana) with my money. Cooked some(a very large quantity) with indomie we bought together. Ate(for the 1st time) and smoked with my niggas(he called his other friends). I made a blunder 1 Like |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 10:09pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
It was getting dark, my princess should have been back by now. I made a blunder, i should have gone home straight if i had known any better. No blame me, it was my 1st time consuming marijuana, i no know as e de do. I went into the house without knocking, though this one is normal as i'm a regular there... The mum gave me a cold stare as soon as i entered the parlour(so unusual) but i didn't notice or rather care because i was so high. If not that i'm somehow strong i believe say na street i for dey now de kolo. My head was pounding, i didn't make it obvious so nobody noticed. My throat and mouth became dry all of a sudden, no single trace of saliva in my mouth. I was dying but nobody knew. My ever cheerful queen was gisting me but i didn't read meaning into all she was saying. I heard everything she said cause i was paying attention but i couldn't understand them until the next day. Anyway, somehow i told her about my condition and she rushed out like an experienced nurse to get me groundnut from mum's.... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by immaq8(f): 10:26pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
HazardMan: Dear Sweet Hazard, do you think a lady that left her Ex to date you & later left you to marry her ex, then broke her marriage with her Ex to be with you will make a good wife? just asking.... 2 Likes |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by frozen70(f): 10:27pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
HazardMan: So this lockdown has really locked down your thinking, your ways of reasoning and your ability to be serious in life ❓ |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 10:30pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
From mom's shop. She said it would help. She tore it open and i chew. This worsend the situation as it dried up everything liquid in my mouth. Chai! Who send me? I gulped down the cup of water i already set aside. It has been ontop of the table. I bade them good night, i couldn't finish one leather of the groundnut and she brought 2. I paid for the two nevertheless and rushed home forgetting my change or i didn't care about it. Seems i heard them laughing at something or someone as i got out of earshot. Embarassm I magneted my bed the moment i got home. It was as if a powerful force used all it's strength to press me down to the bed. I couldn't lift a finger talkmore of lifting the whole arm. It didn't take long be4 i slept, i woke up the next day with a light headache. I feel much more better compared to last night though. Atleast i now have a very low amount of spit in my mouth compared to yesterday. Fast forward It worried me 4 like three to four days be4 i finally got myself but not all the spit yet... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 10:34pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
frozen70:Please don't be angry, it happened before the corona virus. This is a true life story and i need your candid advice at the end please. Thanks |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 10:38pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
immaq8:Well, i later found out, please just wait till the end so u tell me what the best decision should be. The story would be ending this night even if it's 3am, if you can't be awake 4 that long please come babk tomorrow to tell me what you think. Thanks 1 Like |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 11:01pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
Super fast forward I got to understand the following day that she was talking about the event. How he created scene at the end of the event begging her to forgive him. He even knelt in public to beg her. Passerbyes had no choice than to join in the begging. He acted so well. He will make a good actor. Since you know what you do is wrong why not control yourself to stop it? Anyway she forgave him after much drama(4 d kids). Life goes on. Fast forward After the drama he came to spend the weekend with the wife's family, that is how i got to meet him. The feeling was mutual, we hated ourselves on 1st sight.... I missed my girl, though i still get much attention each time i come around but it wasn't enough for me. This got the guy jealous, she gives me much attention morethan she gives him. You know why? She's now scared of him. Even to gist with him is a problem for fear of the unknown. She didn't say this to me but i observed it. The boy did somethings while he was around which i didn't like but i slid them... 1 Like |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 11:24pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
But i slid them under the grass to avoid scene... The boy went back to school with my woman. So heart breaking but what do i get to do? Nothing of course. Though i do ask her out of jealousy while he was still around if they do sleep in thesame room but she told me no. Not because she is afraid to say the truth but because she dosen't want me to get sad or jealous of anybody. Fast forward So i've been seeing signs that she is pregnant and anytime i ask if truly she is pregnant she would flare up and ask why am i always a joy killer with some of my stupid question. Hmmm, i appologised and let it slid. So on this faithful day something seems to bother her which i enquired about. She said she is willing to tell me but scared she might lose me in the process. I already know what she wanted to say so i promised to be by her side no matter what the problem might be. It was difficult for her to spill but i managed to convince her, holding her hand in mine... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by elmagnifico411(m): 11:26pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
Ok, so when u dey plan finish this write -up? People wey wan advice u don leave u go oh.. as it is, when the Igbo clear for your eyes, u go advise yourself. [color=#990000][/color] 2 Likes |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 11:46pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
So she said she is pregnant and slowly removed her hand from mine, waiting for my outburst. But i proved to her that i am not like the man she got married to by maintaining my cool. I wonder why it took her this long to say. So i asked who is responsible for it praying she would put the pregnancy on me but i was disappointed when she said that she is confused. She said it's either the husband or that there is this rich guy she usually exchange sex with for money. He likes her but she dosen't like him. Sex for the money. She said he has been the one paying both for the school fees and accomodation. She said she wants to terminate the pregnancy, that the guy has been disturbing her for marriage and if eventually he finds out she is pregnant he might want to use the opportunity. I wonder how that was possible. Perharps, she didn't tell the guy about her marriage. Hmmm! My story |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 11:49pm On Apr 14, 2020 |
elmagnifico411:No worry tomorrow dey. I no want rush the story come go forget any important info way i suppose add |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by Diamond23(f): 12:08am On Apr 15, 2020 |
HazardMan:The story don finish  1 Like |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 12:20am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Wasn't i supposed to get angry? No i didn't flare up, i still maintained my cool. THINKING. Wow! I was surprised at my own self, i know i'm a cool guy but didn't know i could be that cool, i thought i would be calling her names by now like most guys would do. Love Hmmm! So if she didn't mention me as one of the persons who she suspects could be responsible then it confirms the rumour i heard beforehand to be true. She was truly pregnant be4 starting up something with me. No lies, i felt hurt, i felt betrayed, i felt jealous. I felt everything at once but the love i felt overpowered them all. Jeez! I need deliverance. "let me be the father of the child" i found myself saying to her. She looked at me like i had poo on my face. Long and short be say she give me reasons why i couldn't possibly be the father of the child. Guess my brain must have been sleeping when i said that though. Even though i won't be the father, i couldn't still bring myself to advice someone to kill an innocent baby.... 1 Like |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 12:45am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I told her to keep the baby then, gave her reasons. Guess she already made up her mind on what to do.... She hasn't done abortion b4 but have heard stories of abortion gone wrong so many times. She was scared to do it and at thesame time willing to do it. Thank God for her life cause she didn't do it. She was scared and contemplating until time flew by really fast. I had this gut she was going to die if she made any further attempt to remove it. Note: the husband knows about the pregnancy, she told him the truth that it may not belong to him but he insisted that it was his and she must keep it. Remember the husband was no longer in shool, after sometime he brought his younger bro to the school for screening or something like that. They were going to stay for less than a week. He was to share thesame room with my woman(his wife) and his younger bro as he no longer has an apartment in the school. So there was this faithful afternoon towards 4pm. I was chatting with my woman via voicechat on whatsapp.... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 1:14am On Apr 15, 2020 |
We were chatting on whatsapp voicechat when i heard an unfamiliar female voice from the background. I asked where she was and she said in a neighbors room. Hian! "when did you start sharing rooms with neighbour?" i asked. She explaind to me how she left for lectures in the morning and told the boys to give the key to the neighbor incase they were to go out. She came back later in the afternoon almost 4pm to find the door locked and they went out with the key which she instructed them to keep with the neighbour. She called him on phone and he told her he will soon be back. She said there was loud music in the background which simply means they were at a bar or something chilling out, i said ok and changed the topic.... 5pm, 5:30pm 6pm. I asked if they were back and she said no. Now is this not wickedness? You locked your pregnant wife outside her own apartment o which u were priviledge to share with her. Now no food, maybe her neighbour had water. She can't change her clothes to a more comfortable one..... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 1:42am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Neither could she take her bath to feel refreshed after a long day of receiving lectures. In my own house! Hmmm. We didn't talk again till the next morning. They went back to their hometown since their business there has been finished. She told me he came back almost 8 in the night. She went to them, took the key from 'em' and was walking away when he held a grip on her. I've 4gotten what transpired between them but could remember she didn't say any provocative word to them, all she needed was the key. He shoved her violently against the door and in the process got her injured in the arm. Just a little cut though. She slumped to the floor crying. He cared less... She was telling me all this via voicenote and i noticed she was sobbing silently. I felt a pang in my heart, as usual, it hurts me just the way it hurts her or mine could be worst sef. I didn't know where the tears came from, it just kept flowing. My nose was running, i tried controlling it(tears) but the power to do so wasn't within my grasp. |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 2:08am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I've forgotten the tactics he used in making her forgive him again but the mother of the girl played a major role in it... This boy sef, he just knows how to manipulate people. He didn't even have to show his face again because his hometown was far. He just used phone to beg for forgiveness and he got what he wants. Tell me why he wouldn't repeat such again since it was that easy to forgive. I was somehow angry with the mother but i dare not involve myself in what dosen't concern me, or so she thought... Now she is three months gone, she dosen't even think of anything 'ABOR' again talkmore of abortion as she knows the risks involved in it at the stage of her pregnancy. I called to come know her lodge. She said no problem. She gave me directions to her place. I met her outside the gate waiting 4 me. We went inside and then after sometime, like 2hours gone she broke the most heartbreaking news to me. I've forgotten exactly how she placed her words sha but all in all she wants us to quit for my own benefits... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 2:34am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Who told her i needed benefits? All i need is you biko. But i didn't say anything o, atleast not yet. She also mentioned something like since she won't be divorcing with him(husband) again that it is better we go seperate ways so i can have the chance of finding for myself someone worth loving... Hmmm! "Who told her she wasn't worth loving this time again?" i thought. "the husband? Or me?, no never. I can never say such". But then she is right, since the relationship wouldn't take us anywhere again isn't it better we quit?. Easier said than done. Note: she has been wanting to return the bride price to the family of the guy all this while even before we started dating but the mum wouldn't allow that as usual, like she is the one being battered. Anyway, what do i know? What an elder sees while squatting a child might never see that even if he climbs the toppest hills and mountains. Maybe we ain't seeing things the way she sees them..... I had plans 4 my princess, plans of she waiting for me to get settled... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 2:56am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Plans 4 her to wait 4 me to get settled and then i come pay for her bride price.... So all my plans will be goin to the dustbin then. I felt like crying honestly but tears failed me. "Are you certain that's the best choice for you?" i caught my self asking. "it is the best for the both of us" she replied. I didn't say anything afterwards, i just stared at the ceiling as i was lying faceup on the soft bed thinking away my sorrow. Praying 4 the tears to come but i didn't think my prayers crossed the ceiling i was staring at ... She broke the silence atlast. They was a movie she was yet to complete in my phone. We watched together, i noticed she wasn't concentrating or she suddenly lost interest as it was a comic movie by bovi. I was about asking what the problem is be4 from nowhere and suddenly she locked lips with mine. Hmmm. This children.... You did it again. |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 3:23am On Apr 15, 2020 |
The next day i called to know how she was doing. She feels sick. I was worried, she was fine just before i left the previous day. The weakness in her voice troubled me. She's lonely, i told her to call some of her female friends first which she already did. I felt somehow jealous that she couldn't call me first b4 calling her friends, i discarded the thought immediately almost as it came. I was thinking about all she has been through all because of one man who dosen't value her and was about asking God question when her call came through. she asked me to get a shuttle while coming or search for 2 bikes that would convey us(her friends too) to the clinic. i said ok and resumed my thinking immediately the call ended. God what has she done to deserve all this surfferings? I didn't think for long before the gate of tears opened allowing it to rush out like a running pipe water... This is the 3rd time i'll be weeping 4 a woman... How little things can weak a man. What hurts her, hurts me too LOVE is a B.Thing |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 3:46am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I noticed that anything that hurts her, hurts me really bad too. I stayed with her in the hospital for 2days, the girls couldn't spend over the night there, maybe because i was around. The husband was calling from hometown sha. The nurses and doctor thinks i'm the husband. The mum came on the 3rd day to take her home, she wrote exams from home. Immediatelly after this i travelled for 3months. While i was away she dosen't call except i call. Anytime i talk about us she would say i shouldn't mention love to her that it irritates her. I love her so much i didn't want to lose her. I asked what was my fate in all of this and she said when i come back i would know. My ever loving and caring princess is changing. What could be wrong? Is it the pregnancy? I heard pregnant women do have mood swings at times. It should be the pregnancy then. I used this to pacify myself.... I will perharps find out what the new character coming from my super woman originated from when i get home. |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 4:15am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I got back home after 3months of being away. I went to her place after branching my house to drop my bag. I only passed by my house, i didn't even stop to rest for a second. I missed her sooooo much LOVE so unfortunate she was the wrong woman for me. Finally i saw her, she was sleeping when i got there. I went into her room to wake her up, i couldn't wait for her to wake up. She stired facing me sleepily. She didn't know who was standing before her until i called her name. She was startled to hear my voice like she wasn't expecting to see me at that moment at all. She stood up facing me. Gazing at me intently like i would get a hot slap at any moment. I was cautious until from nowhere she smiled. The smile was contagious as i joined in the smile too. . She called my name, it was like a whisper. I answed in thesame tone, she asked when i came back and i told her "just now" as we walked to the parlour to sit. All i ever wanted doing was to go hold her in a very tight way. but that wouldn't ever happen... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 4:36am On Apr 15, 2020 |
But then guilty conscience wouldnt let us hug. We believe anybody that saw us hug have known our secrets... So we kept to ourselves. She told me the husband called to accept the bride price back that he won't marry her again. He said he also lost interest in her. He said she dosen't show him respect anymore and he dosen't even know if the baby she is pregnant with belongs to him so therefore, "i'm not marrying again". Return my bride price whenever you have it. Well, i didn't know whether to be happy or sad. I had mixed feelings. I feel for her for the way it finally ended. And then somehow i was happy we would live forever but was shocked when she said that she dosen't need marriage in her life again, that the one she has been into has shown her hell. She said she wants to focus on her children alone with no man to control her.... I tried a little to convince her that not all men behaves thesame way. One treats you ill today dosen't mean they won't be another to treat you well tomorrow. |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 4:59am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I did little to convince her though as i was also battling with my own thoughts. Was this the reason for the mood swings when i travelled for some months? She's definately done with marriage?.... After much deliberatons from her. Then she said "whenever you are ready to settle down, i think you are the only one who will be able to convince me into marriage again". I nodded like an agama, a little bit satisfied with this one. At this time she is already 6months gone with a potruding stomach, she dosen't look as curvy as she used to be but i cared less. She is still the one i love and it keeps growing for her until she stops watering the seed... My dream woman changed completely overnight. She now finds fault in practically anything i do. She dosen't want me to communicate with any girl at all but she communicates with all the guys that come to the house. I didn't even have any female friends aside her sisters and you can imagine she telling me not to gist with the sisters..... 2 Likes |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 5:22am On Apr 15, 2020 |
In my presence she will call a guy she will later say is her friend or classmate and lower her voice while talking to the person. Lower as in bedroom voice o. I do listen to the conversations at times sha. No love talk but you will be surprised to know she called him for nothing other than to hear from him or know how he is doing. Remember she didn't call me for once when i travelled. She will see my missed calls at times, (that is if she didn't ignore it on purpose) and refuse to call back or even flash so i can call her back(this happened when i travelled 4 some months). And now she will call somebody(always guys) on the phone just to hear from him. Note: since we started dating i've been the one calling her, if i complain that she dosen't reciprocate the way i do she will always say she dosen't have card... So i gave her a simple condition that if i must not talk to any girl(including the sis) that she should also stop communicating with boys the way she use to except on casual greetings..... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 5:46am On Apr 15, 2020 |
She failed woefully on that aspect. You can greet boys normal greetings o, but don't engage yourself in a deep conversation and i will quit talking to all girls including your sister. Sometimes i will be there and she will even forget that somebody exists. I need my woman back, what really changed within this short period?. 1st blunder i accosted her and she non-chalantly appologized just like she was doing me a favour but not after blabbing out her lungs that she didn't do anything wrong. 2nd blunder same thing. The 3rd one she cut me serious warning "look o, i don't want any obstacle in my life again. I don't need someone that thinks he can order me around again. I don't need someone to control me, i want to live my life the way i want it and if you are not okay with it then let's call it a quit". I was shaken when i heard the 'quit'. Quit watin? I tell you say na game we dey play?. "but that wasn't what we discussed, remember you started this whole thing yourself". I found my voice. "fine... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 6:11am On Apr 15, 2020 |
We finally agreed to talk to anybody as we like. The only female friend i have that i can discuss something with was the 1st child(the sister) in the family. The one that study's nursing and final year. She has graduated though and that's why she is around. The sister gives me signs that i don't know the meaning but i do ignore them e.g she winks at me sometimes. Most times she stares deep into my eyes as if finding something there... I find no interest in the sister and even if i did i knew i would have been loyal to my girl.... Let me just summarise everything abeg i want sleep. She keeps swinging mood, until i couldn't take it anymore. I offered to accompany the sister out as i was bored at home. Note: my girl do visit some guys at home which i know of but don't complain. As a matter of fact i stopped complaining the day she threaghtened to quit if i don't thread on my path Somehow she got to know i escorted her sister and was giving me cold attitude.... She was getting on my nerves but i still... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 6:36am On Apr 15, 2020 |
She was getting on my nerves but i still decided to play it cool. I asked her what the problem is and she said nothing that she is fine, she is fund of doing this but i wasn't in the game this time around so i pleaded with a calm voice for her to tell me what the problem is, so we resolve our issues but she maintained that nothing was wrong with her. I knw she is behaving so because i escorted her sister to go and buy something. But we've talked about doing anything we like so long as cheating is not involved. She plays around with my fellow guys, though e dey pain me but i couldn't do anything as rules na rules. So why can't she do thesame?. Anytime i tell her my mind about how she plays around with guys, she will go angry at me that i will have no choice than to go back and apologize to her. If i go wrong i apologize. If she goes wrong i still apologize for the fear of losing her. This went on for a while until i got fed up. She didn't wan't to say anything and then i said out of anger.... |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by Olochee: 7:37am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Hmm |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by HazardMan(m): 7:53am On Apr 15, 2020 |
Out of anger i said "if you don't tell me what the problem with you is, then i won't have a choice but to hang up on you and i won't call again to confirm". You guys should all know by now that i never meant those words even in my angry state but i gotta take a shot. One thing must kill a man. "your wish" came her reply. To say i was dissappointed was an understatement. I hissed and ended the call hoping for she to call back... I slet with phone in my hand. No calls , no text |
| Re: "Advice Please". True Story by Funtobewith: 8:02am On Apr 15, 2020 |
I rushed down here thinking u have told her out of anger that u are no longer interested, u need some redpill 2 Likes |
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