I was eating when her message came in that i have being deceving her all this while that i should go love myself. The food turned sour all a sudden.
She was just being unreasonable and she meant it...
Anyway, it was hard but i managed to get her back...
The last one1 was his sick cousin... She says i dosen't go frequent to visit him. It's not like i don't go to see him o but her problem is that i don't go more frequently to see him.
I just hissed when she told me this and brushed it aside as irrelivant. You can't believe she said it's over between us because of that which gat me wondering. She said i don't value her opinions.
I didn't get the chance to beg her that day because her friends came around. But i used every slightest oppotunity that comes my way to beg her but she seems to have made up her mind.

There are rules of engagement in every relationship.
If you fail to adhere to these rules.
You are done for.
Op, I like to know how old you are.
I don't think your long term happiness matters to you.
What you permit now in a relationship, don't complain about later.
How can you descend this low to date a married woman, regardless of the circumstances?
The words on wall that you refused to read is going haunt you.
Your self worth stinks. Na woman wey don drop engine you see? You dey straddle a preggo, come here dey mouth love, your brain divorced your head? Or it that her bum bum is bigger than your destiny? Fact of your matter is that, she don use your destiny play papa ijebu
How can you allow such a woman control the dynamics of your relationship under the guise of am shy. If she disvirgins you, so what? My dear go beep other pus_y
You Will understand that all women are not same.
She sees a weakling in you and the only thing left to do to salvage your battered dignity is to take a walk.
This is a toxic relationship and nothing good is guaranteed to come out of it and she knows this.
By the way, don't you have a mother?
She will not consent to such atrocious indecent relationship

Note: a day before i travelled for some months i had a little misunderstanding with the husband.
As usual i went there to know how she was doing after being discharge from from the hospital. She now goes from home to school for her exams. I wasn't expecting to see the guy sha but i greeted casually and faced what brought me there(the wife). I was gisting with her in his presence, this got him really angry as no one seemed to notice him, though i do chip in small words to him at times. He called his wife outside and the mother to the girl and said he is not confortable seeing me around. Mum tried to explain to him how i'm an innocent fellow who meant no harm but only a friend to the girl. All plea fell on deaf ears. He called me out and i followed him outside. I met bae crying. I know he didn't hit her cause i've been watching from the glass window. She was crying because he was telling her that he dosen't want to see me around her again....

which kind super story be this. op. you mumu sha

"u can do whatever u wish to do with me but not getting rid of my friends" i heard her say inbetween sobs. I felt for her but held my peace in other not to sell myself out.
Luckily 4 both of us(the guy and me) i would be travelling the next day. I knew it could have resulted into a conflict between us if i had been around for just 1more day as i can't imagine not seeing her for just a day to know how she is doing when i'm around which i'll later come to regret if it had resulted into a conflict. He took his time to explain to mum how he has been suspecting me since i've been calling his wife while their were both in school. He said he heard me asking the wife when she would come home again. I also thought about d 'i love you' i always say 2 her each time i call her. Why didn't he hear?. The wife always refuse to let him take my calls each time i call which is unusual as she lets him take every other guys call but not mine. I felt my head swell when he was naratting this 2 mom. I'm a special 1,2 her afterall.

This gal they dance ajaso untop my guy destiny.. them use her to.to swear for you?

So that's my story....
I need help seriously because even though i now know she might have never really liked me. Maybe she needed me to be a distraction from her husband and now that the husband has taken his bride price which makes her single again, she decided i'm no longer useful to her thereby her tactics to call it a quit.
I still like her even though i'm in a far away town from where she is now. I'm in Accra ghana. she is somewhere in the east nigeria. i've been here for the past 1month now and i'm still thinking about her. I'm sure if i go home now i'll still find myself begging again, please i want it to end like this. I've distracted myself with so many things yet i still think about her. I'm not sure if it's a jinx but then the feeling is still there strong. How do i get rid of it please? I've exhausted the ones online.
And i want to know if i contributed to their broken home cause sometimes i feel guity like i was the epicenter of it all...
Thanks in addy

This is obviously fiction.

OP is seriously insulting the sensibilities of men here.

Difficult to believe any young man can be fumbling like this.

No mind me abeg. No be me create my heart, that's how mine works. What do you think?

Bugatie:
This is obviously fiction.

OP is seriously insulting the sensibilities of men here.

Difficult to believe any young man can be fumbling like this.

I now know it is stupid but how to walk away is the problem. And please it's not a fiction. All this happened in not more than 10months ago. She is on her 9th month.

Nigga I've read your story and all I f can say is that this stuff won't end well...

[quote author=Dobson43 post=88459722]There are rules of engagement in every relationship.
If you fail to adhere to these rules.
You are done for.
Op, I like to know how old you are.
I don't think your long term happiness matters to you.
What you permit now in a relationship, don't complain about later.
How can you descend this low to date a married woman, regardless of the circumstances?
The words on wall that you refused to read is going haunt you.
Your self worth stinks. Na woman wey don drop engine you see? You dey straddle a preggo, come here dey mouth love, your brain divorced your head? Or it that her bum bum is bigger than your destiny? Fact of your matter is that, she don use your destiny play papa ijebu
How can you allow such a woman control the dynamics of your relationship under the guise of am shy. If she disvirgins you, so what? My dear go beep other _

I'm 24-25 thanks
You won't understand...
But what do you think about the marriage?.
Did i contribute in shattering it or it was alre

DanteSilva:
Nigga I've read your story and all I f can say is that this stuff won't end well...

It already ended but my feeling is the only thing i'm battling with right now. And guilt

dude you need to go for emotional intelligence course and get a job to build up your life. forget that girl, and with time she will be a history. just imagine how you are tripping for a lady that has 2 kids + another yet to be born when there are so many beautiful angels around. Grow up you deserve something better

HazardMan:

I now know it is stupid but how to walk away is the problem. And please it's not a fiction. All this happened in not more than 10months ago. She is on her 9th month.

What's stopping you from walking away when the unborn child is not yours, and you've not done anything on her head...
It's likely she treated her former husband worse than she's giving you now, but you defended and provided her with emotional succour, while painting the man black.

Just move on with your young life as she is certainly going to sort out her issues with him.

Bugatie:


What's stopping you from walking away when the unborn child is not yours, and you've not done anything on her head...
It's likely she treated her former husband worse than she's giving you now, but you defended and provided her with emotional succour, while painting the man black.

Just move on with your young life as she is certainly going to sort out her issues with him.

You know i just realised something. I never heard his own side of the story. But then he wouldn't come begging all the time if he isn't entirely at fault

HazardMan:
So that's my story....
I need help seriously because even though i now know she might have never really liked me. Maybe she needed me to be a distraction from her husband and now that the husband has taken his bride price which makes her single again, she decided i'm no longer useful to her thereby her tactics to call it a quit.
I still like her even though i'm in a far away town from where she is now. I'm in Accra ghana. she is somewhere in the east nigeria. i've been here for the past 1month now and i'm still thinking about her. I'm sure if i go home now i'll still find myself begging again, please i want it to end like this. I've distracted myself with so many things yet i still think about her. I'm not sure if it's a jinx but then the feeling is still there strong. How do i get rid of it please? I've exhausted the ones online.
And i want to know if i contributed to their broken home cause sometimes i feel guity like i was the epicenter of it all...
Thanks in addy

Okay I'm going to advice you like a brother,

Stop dwelling on the guilt of breaking her marriage, as it doesnt matter anymore else you'll continue to be drawn to her as a way of restitution and making up for what you shattered.
Obviously the lady is way mature than you in relationships and that's not so good with your stories.

Face your life, develop yourself and make a meaning out of it. And when it's time for relationship, you will definitely find someone your level and fall in love with.

All the best.

Rocktation and farano please i would really appreciate it if this reaches to more people. The little insults and critics i'm receiving right now is already doing wonders to my body, realization is dawning on me slowly. Maybe all i needed was to talk to some people so they talk sense into me. It has been a secret relationship so i haven't had the gut to tell people around me...
Thanks.

HazardMan:

You know i just realised something. I never heard his own side of the story. But then he wouldn't come begging all the time if he isn't entirely at fault

You admitted at sometimes that you were apologising for even the faults that wasnt yours.
What if that was the case with him too, and it beats common sense that the lady admitted to adultery hence, saying she's not sure who the father of the unborn child is and the husband was still willing to take the child.

I don't know all the stories but what you need to take your distance and allow them sort themselves out.

Bugatie:


Okay I'm going to advice you like a brother,

Stop dwelling on the guilt of breaking her marriage, as it doesnt matter anymore else you'll continue to be drawn to her as a way of restitution and making up for what you shattered.
Obviously the lady is way mature than you in relationships and that's not so good with your stories.

Face your life, develop yourself and make a meaning out of it. And when it's time for relationship, you will definitely find someone your level and fall in love with.

All the best.

Thanks alot, this will help

Bugatie:


You admitted at sometimes that you were apologising for even the faults that wasnt yours.
What if that was the case with him too, and it beats common sense that the lady admitted to adultery hence, saying she's not sure who the father of the unborn child is and the husband was still willing to take the child.

I don't know all the stories but what you need to take your distance and allow them sort themselves out.

Thanks a lot. This will go a long way

Ade1bowale:
finish the story before I can advice you

Hian! You no get joy for me o. I started this story since yesterday noon o. I didn't stop to rest, you can check the time it was posted back to back. I didn't sleep also, you can confirm from the time too. I wrote down till this morning, maybe around 6am before i off. And i'm being sincere when i say off. It was just like they flipped a switch and i went off because i could still remember being very active(but my head was feeling light) typing away with my button phone. I off for like 30minutes or 1hour b4 regaining consciousness to finish the story. So that's it, i had to skip going into some details to summarize, but that doesn't mean i never concluded the story.
Chai! I'm learning to talk tooooo much this days. Anyway, if e get where you no understand make you let me know so i go put you through.... Na my button phone make me no finish on time.
Thanks...

[quote author=Dobson43 post=88459722]There are rules of engagement in every relationship.
If you fail to adhere to these rules.
You are done for.
Op, I like to know how old you are.
I don't think your long term happiness matters to you.
What you permit now in a relationship, don't complain about later.
How can you descend this low to date a married woman, regardless of the circumstances?
The words on wall that you refused to read is going haunt you.
Your self worth stinks. Na woman wey don drop engine you see? You dey straddle a preggo, come here dey mouth love, your brain divorced your head? Or it that her bum bum is bigger than your destiny? Fact of your matter is that, she don use your destiny play papa ijebu
How can you allow such a woman control the dynamics of your relationship under the guise of am shy.
You Will understand that all women are not same.
She sees a weakling in you and the only thing left...
Thanks, my phone couldn't quote all of your words. I believe this will go a long way

If not that i have spent too much time reading this, i would have "waka pass". What kind of super story is this??

Should I say you are daft or mumu or what? Forgive me if i sound insulting but How can a grown up man of 24-25 be doing this to himself all in the name of love. What kind of love is that? So what if she defiled you? You gon eat her poo cos of that?. Guy grow up, sleeping with a married lady and pregnant girl when you are not responsible for the pregnancy. Haba na your dick dey control you, this is not love.

Go and look for a single girl and stay far away from the girl and her family, you didn't contribute to the failed marriage, obviously the guy got tired of her and her wayward lifestyle considering she got pregnant probably for another guy and decided to call it quit. It's not your fault so stop wallowing in pity for her or quilt. Please just stop seeing the girl.

I was reading and was like how can someone be this " mumu", you have low self esteem, inferiority complex. you need to work on yourself and love yourself first then you will stop seeing "after 3" single mother also treating you bad as the one for you. Your Queen indeed

HazardMan:

Hian! You no get joy for me o. I started this story since yesterday noon o. I didn't stop to rest, you can check the time it was posted back to back. I didn't sleep also, you can confirm from the time too. I wrote down till this morning, maybe around 6am before i off. And i'm being sincere when i say off. It was just like they flipped a switch and i went off because i could still remember being very active(but my head was feeling light) typing away with my button phone. I off for like 30minutes or 1hour b4 regaining consciousness to finish the story. So that's it, i had to skip going into some details to summarize, but that doesn't mean i never concluded the story.
Chai! I'm learning to talk tooooo much this days. Anyway, if e get where you no understand make you let me know so i go put you through.... Na my button phone make me no finish on time.
Thanks...

So I did not know that you finished the story I'll check now and see if I can give you a suitable advice.

drizzy22:

which kind super story be this. op. you mumu sha

No be small and i just dey realise am [quote author=drizzy22 post=88460271]

HazardMan:

Hian! You no get joy for me o. I started this story since yesterday noon o. I didn't stop to rest, you can check the time it was posted back to back. I didn't sleep also, you can confirm from the time too. I wrote down till this morning, maybe around 6am before i off. And i'm being sincere when i say off. It was just like they flipped a switch and i went off because i could still remember being very active(but my head was feeling light) typing away with my button phone. I off for like 30minutes or 1hour b4 regaining consciousness to finish the story. So that's it, i had to skip going into some details to summarize, but that doesn't mean i never concluded the story.
Chai! I'm learning to talk tooooo much this days. Anyway, if e get where you no understand make you let me know so i go put you through.... Na my button phone make me no finish on time.
Thanks...

First of all, thanks for your candor.
Back to the matter at hand, I was a bit harsh on my submission concerning your relationship. But I want to point out something to you. Concerning matters of heart, you need to abide by some sort of selection process before you go ahead to date any lady. What do you look for in a lady? You have to give that much thought. Don't put emphasis on skin beauty.

If you give in to any lady without first studying her. You have yourself to blame. These points would come handy when you have done healing.


You need to develop yourself especially in terms of expressing yourself. You can't hide under the cloak of been shy and allow yourself to be feed Garbage. You also have to build your self worth. You can't be seen with an adulteress. Who doesn't know the father of her baby. Moreover, it appears that you have so much idle time at your disposal.

Finally, enter dating site and try your hand at getting a replacement. Nothing helps getting over a girlfriend better than a replacement girlfriend.

In all, move on, no point in crying over a spilled milk. She has screwed your brain over and used your shoulder as a soft landing. Screw her, shit happens, get a life

[quote author=Tina001 post=88466330]If not that i have spent too much time reading this, i would have "waka pass". What kind of super story is this??

Should I say you are daft or mumu or what? Forgive me if i sound insulting but How can a grown up man of 24-25 be doing this to himself all in the name of love. What kind of love is that? So what if she defiled you? You gon eat her poo cos of that?. Guy grow up, sleeping with a married lady and pregnant girl when you are not responsible for the pregnancy. Haba na your dick dey control you, this is not love.

Go and look for a single girl and stay far away from the girl and her family, you didn't contribute to the failed marriage
Lol! Kuku kill me o. Chai!
You said nothing but the truth sha. I really appreciate...I'm just realising how foolish i might have been all this while. And what she might have been thinking of me althrough...

[quote author=HazardMan post=88466972][/quote]

Just retrace your steps. It's never too late. Anything you do, DO NOT GO BACK no matter what even if she comes back begging, she will still take you for a fool las las.

I just pray you listen

my only advice
If you don't want to continue blaming yourself, socialize more, and let time pass because time itself heals, very soon you'll forget and meet new people.

Dobson43:




First of all, thanks for your candor.
Back to the matter at hand, I was a bit harsh on my submission concerning your relationship. But I want to point out something to you. Concerning matters of heart, you need to abide by some sort of selection process before you go ahead to date any lady. What do you look for in a lady? You have to give that much thought. Don't put emphasis on skin beauty.

If you give in to any lady without first studying her. You have yourself to blame. These points would come handy when you have done healing.


You need to develop yourself especially in terms of expressing yourself. You can't hide under the cloak of been shy and allow yourself to be feed Garbage. You also have to build your self worth. You can't be seen with an adulteress. Who doesn't know the father of her baby

Wow! Thanks, i'll work on all you've just pointed out to me....