Starz825:

So the lady is not weak...after the initial gra gra of care and seriousness and then she decided to stop all of a sudden...
She simply doesn't know what she wants yet
..that's the summary of the whole thing if the op isn't lying about the situation and how it began...

She isn't weak. I suspect she pulled out of the relationship cause she either has a dirty past he won't be able to reconcile with or is seeing another nigga and doesn't want to use Op. More the former sha.

Op was saved a lifetime of trouble. He should be grateful and move on

Seems like it's all men that have relationship problems in Nigeria these days which man is now immune?.

Op thread too long why

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This girl is an awesome person. Keep her as a distant friend.

Mehn I tried keeping it short

ZINIBANKS:
Op thread too long why

Someone who made up her mind since but chose to tell me after 15 months I can do way better

cooooooks:
This girl is an awesome person. Keep her as a distant friend.

She actually told me many guys were on her matter blah blah blah. Wanting to be alone and not interested in any relationship with any guy coz she wants to still heal. How long does healing take for you ladies really

Sixfeetbelle:


She isn't weak. I suspect she pulled out of the relationship cause she either has a dirty past he won't be able to reconcile with or is seeing another nigga and doesn't want to use Op. More the former sha.

Op was saved a lifetime of trouble. He should be grateful and move on

Use your head.

NextD18:
I don't know why most people hate honest people with the truth.

A lady was straight and honest enough to tell you that she isn't a perfect person for you, yet you are forcing and emotionally torturing yourself into her life?


How about common sense? Is it on lockdown?

OP, MOVE ON!!!

The main thing is that she told you how she felt. Feelings change.

Theonlywan:
Someone who made up her mind since but chose to tell me after 15 months I can do way better

Theonlywan:
She actually told me many guys were on her matter blah blah blah. Wanting to be alone and not interested in any relationship with any guy coz she wants to still heal. How long does healing take for you ladies really

It has nothing to do with ladies but as human beings. People heal at different rates and based on what the pain was. A betrayal hurts differently when compared to rape.

She left you, move on, otherwise it will end in tears

Thank you all for the advice....i'll take my loss and forget about her.

To think i really knew her and what we both wanted humbles me at the moment.

Sixfeetbelle:


It has nothing to do with ladies but as human beings. People heal at different rates and based on what the pain was. A betrayal hurts differently when compared to rape.

She left you, move on, otherwise it will end in tears

Move on and act like a real man bro. Get your mind occupied and forget about all these daughters of 2nd Timothy

Theonlywan:
Good afternoon, I am a private person and never thought a day like this would come for me to seek advice from people. But in other not to lose my mind here goes�‍♂️ I have a lady friend of mine who I would love to settle down with because of how close we became and what she has done for over time, We started out as friends based on her terms and became so open and comfortable telling each other stuff. Now during this course of friendship I gave her hints of my intentions and initially she was receptive, almost taking the thing more seriously than I the toaster asking if we'd eventually get married and many times my response was "hell yeah" Few months further and things took a wild turn between us, she was being distant, her actions and demeanor gave her out and I called her attention to it coz I was scared she wasn't going continue. Nothing improved actually and we had many fights about it in which she would clearly tell me to remove her from my mind,stop pressing for answers and other mind bugging responses. I could feel it in my bones this person who once claimed to love me and wanted to be with me was trying to end things but didn't know how to go about it, Her final reason was that she's a work in progress and isn't meant for me. The pain I feel inside after so many invested time and emotions is killing, How does one stop loving who you saw forever with

just forget about her.... That why I don't put my eggs on one basket, I spread them to avoid unprecedented action..

God bless you

Sinzuko135:
just forget about her.... That why I don't put my eggs on one basket, I spread them to avoid unprecedented action..

Acting like a real man involves ignoring her messages and completely ending all contact with for wasting my 1 year and 3 months of my life??

Doyin400l:
Move on and act like a real man bro. Get your mind occupied and forget about all these daughters of 2nd Timothy

I will eventually, The pain is less than a week and still fresh but i will live.

Brunicekid:
OP, MOVE ON!!!

I was told i wouldnt understand her anyways

VahlarMorghulis:
Another version of

"It's not you, it's me"

Theonlywan:
Someone who said she loves me and also wants to be with me?

I think she actually loved you( though not like crazy) but along the line as time went on she met someone who swept her off her feet. So she's trying to tell you off politely.

It wasn't love brother

You cant love someone and then tell them you are letting them go to work on yourself. I agree she must have found someone she now loves or probably went back to the one she claims to be healing from. God dey sha.

Semperty:
I think she actually loved you( though not like crazy) but along the line as time went on she met someone who swept her off her feet. So she's trying to tell you off politely.

Theonlywan:
It wasn't love brother

You cant love someone and then tell them you are letting them go to work on yourself. I agree she must have found someone she now loves or probably went back to the one she claims to be healing from. God dey sha.

so what you plan on doing now?

Delete her number,mourn and move on

Semperty:
so what you plan on doing now?

Theonlywan:
Delete her number,mourn and move on

Good. It's not easy at all but you have no other option than to move on for your own good. I wish you the best .

Theonlywan:
Acting like a real man involves ignoring her messages and completely ending all contact with for wasting my 1 year and 3 months of my life??

Yes bro. Do it and thank me later.
Remove anything that'll make u remember her