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Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 8:44am On Apr 22, 2020
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Nobody: 8:45am On Apr 22, 2020
Lolz.. It's expected na
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by thorpido(m): 8:54am On Apr 22, 2020
It's a patriarchal society and in some parts of the country,having a male child is equivalent to having peace and stability in the home for the women.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Smile4mee01: 8:54am On Apr 22, 2020
Look around isnt it obvious.

Why add to the number of growing females with an increase in the decline of values. And besides the Prophesy is with the male child.

No matter how hard feminists try to sell the idea that women are game. For every womans good consider having a make child first.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by donbachi(m): 8:55am On Apr 22, 2020
Ahamefula.....(make my name no lost)

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by MJBOLT: 9:07am On Apr 22, 2020
i think it's due to pressure from their husbands and the society at large.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Smile4mee01: 9:15am On Apr 22, 2020
https://www.1843magazine.com/features/its-a-boy-thing

While we know that the husband is responsible for determining the sex of the child. If you are African lady, for your peace of Mind. Do what u can to ensure u have a make child on the first few attempt. Many men are staying married today just because of their sons.

Away from that as the world goes to an end and that prophecy of 7 women to 1 man occurs. Many women will end up unhappy and bitter. So why add to that number ?

Men have thier struggles too... and their is to hustle.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:18am On Apr 22, 2020
Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.
It is because of the society and how they have been conditioned to reason whike growing up.
And when married their husbands and his family in extension mount pressure on their wives to give birth to a male child for them so as to continue their so called legacy and lineage.Who the thing help I nor know.I think there are exceptions though not common I know of a man who wanted 3 kids and the wife had 3 girls and wanted to try for a boy.The husband said no that 3 was 3 and that he was okay with it and did not care.The wife was just pressuring herself and they just have 3 daughters.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:21am On Apr 22, 2020
Smile4mee01:
https://www.1843magazine.com/features/its-a-boy-thing

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Smile4mee01 post=88718495:
Look around isnt it obvious.

Why add to the number of growing females with an increase in the decline of values. And besides the Prophesy is with the male child.

No matter how hard feminists try to sell the idea that women are game. For every womans good consider having a make child first.
While we know that the husband is responsible for determining the sex of the child. If you are African lady, for your peace of Mind. Do what u can to ensure u have a make child on the first few attempt. Many men are staying married today just because of their sons.

Away from that as the world goes to an end and that prophecy of 7 women to 1 man occurs. Many women will end up unhappy and bitter. So why add to that number ?

Men have thier struggles too... and their is to hustle.

Absolute nonsense.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Smile4mee01: 9:22am On Apr 22, 2020
Hmnnn.... I guess she does not want surprises later in Life. I think some women see male children like an insurance policy to a man's estate.


Ladyhippolyta88:

It is because of the society and how they have been conditioned to reason whike growing up.
And when married their husbands and his family in extension mount pressure on their wives to give birth to a male child for them so as to continue their so called legacy and lineage.Who the thing help I nor know.I think there are exceptions though not common I know of a man who wanted 3 kids and the wife had 3 girls and wanted to try for a boy.The husband said no that 3 was 3 and that he was okay with it and did not care.The wife was just pressuring herself and they just have 3 daughters.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by LewsTherin: 9:23am On Apr 22, 2020
My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:26am On Apr 22, 2020
Smile4mee01:
Hmnnn.... I guess she does not want surprises later in Life. I think some women see male children like an insurance policy to a man's estate.


What century do you live in?
Is the man complaining or don't you know that females can inherit their father's property?

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 9:27am On Apr 22, 2020
LewsTherin:
My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.
Exactly.
Women are the gate keepers of their own oppression

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by crackkhaus: 10:17am On Apr 22, 2020
LewsTherin:
My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.
grin

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by havilla(f): 10:22am On Apr 22, 2020
Am not married yet but I think most women are of the impression that a male child would make their husbands happier, and since most women want to please their husbands they prefer to have a male child.

Secondly, it's generally harder to get a male child as female eggs swim faster or survive better (not sure am right) so they prefer to get a male child and get it out of the way.

As enlightened as I am anytime I see a woman with three or four only female children sometimes I feel sorry for them honestly, dont really know why I think this way even though I know deep down it doesnt matter.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Amanee(f): 10:44am On Apr 22, 2020
Welcome back from the moon



Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by cococandy(f): 10:53am On Apr 22, 2020
1) Asking questions you already know the answer to.
2) women who are ardent foot soldiers in ensuring such misogyny thrives will also tell you that there’s nothing like oppression grin
3) pray for them

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Plead(m): 11:31am On Apr 22, 2020
OchoL:


Here we go again..
Why not shut up if you've got nothing reasonable to contribute. "misogyny this, misogyny that" lipsrsealed

You’re one of the foot soldiers of misogyny she spoke about.

It’s an undisputed fact that patriarchy/misogyny still thrives because women enable/tolerate it knowingly and unknowingly.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Rawhumper(m): 12:25pm On Apr 22, 2020
Like seriously








quote author=cococandy post=88722583]1) Asking questions you already know the answer to.
2) women who are ardent foot soldiers in ensuring such misogyny thrives will also tell you that there’s nothing like oppression grin
3) pray for them [/quote]
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Mizwisdom(f): 12:42pm On Apr 22, 2020
Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.




Your small circle isn't a good sample size to depict the heart desires of over 100 million Nigerian women. Most women will want a change after having two or more of a particular gender. For example, after two boys majority will desire a girl, same way after two girls they will desire a boy. Another issue is family pressure from the husband and inferiority complex on her part but generally many want both genders.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by bukatyne(f): 12:56pm On Apr 22, 2020
LewsTherin:
My sad observation is a huge part of that pressure comes from women in the husband's family.

As in eh!

Ota po ju enemy lo.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by bukatyne(f): 1:01pm On Apr 22, 2020
Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.

1. They feel it 'cements' their place in their 'husband' s home and access to his wealth/inheritance

2. They have a better relationship with their husbands.

3. Their in-laws (read women in their husbands' families) pressurize them for male children.

4. They want to be served as MILs in future.

Times are changing and people are becoming more content with whatever sex of children they have especially as people are now having just max 2 kids.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 1:14pm On Apr 22, 2020
bukatyne:


1. They feel it 'cements' their place in their 'husband' s home and access to his wealth/inheritance

2. They have a better relationship with their husbands.

3. Their in-laws (read women in their husbands' families) pressurize them for male children.

4. They want to be served as MILs in future.

Times are changing and people are becoming more content with whatever sex of children they have especially as people are now having just max 2 kids.

You are so reasonable and I always value your contributions.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 1:15pm On Apr 22, 2020
Ladyhippolyta88:

Exactly.
Women are the gate keepers of their own oppression

True.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 1:18pm On Apr 22, 2020
cococandy:
1) Asking questions you already know the answer to.
2) women who are ardent foot soldiers in ensuring such misogyny thrives will also tell you that there’s nothing like oppression grin
3) pray for them

You have a female child right? Say that you don't desire a male child cheesy

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by doitforyou(f): 1:19pm On Apr 22, 2020
Kuns84:
It's really astonishing the amount of counselling I've had to do for women who have sunken into depression after finding out the gender of their baby - and I've noticed most of these women are pregnant with girls.

The only time I encountered someone unhappy with a male pregnancy, was because she already had 3 boys and was desperate for a change the 4th time round.

Why is such mentality prevalent amongst our women? In fact, the way some of these pregnant women act makes me question if women hate their gender so much that they can't bear to bring in another of their kind into this world.
Nigerian men and patriarchy, but you already knew that.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by bukatyne(f): 1:20pm On Apr 22, 2020
Kuns84:


You are so reasonable and I always value your contributions.

Thanks a lot.
Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 1:20pm On Apr 22, 2020
havilla:
Am not married yet but I think most women are of the impression that a male child would make their husbands happier, and since most women want to please their husbands they prefer to have a male child.

Secondly, it's generally harder to get a male child as female eggs swim faster or survive better (not sure am right) so they prefer to get a male child and get it out of the way.

As enlightened as I am anytime I see a woman with three or four only female children sometimes I feel sorry for them honestly, dont really know why I think this way even though I know deep down it doesnt matter.

shocked

It's so sad that a fellow woman can say this. Do you have male kids? If so, does this make you feel superior to other women who don't?

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by NoToPile: 1:23pm On Apr 22, 2020
Tradition/culture which I believe is a major factor

Some cultures make having a male child a do or die affair, wife has no place in husbands home if she doesn't have a male child, when the hubby dies the uncles swoop over everything because there's no heir. angry

The extent to which women married to such cultures go to have a male child is something else because they believe all will be lost.

Most women may not mind not having a male after having the no of children they desire but when they think of the future and tradition they go all out- fasting and prayer on the mountain sex selection etc.

I still cant wrap my head around it, different threads in this section showing women's agony on their inability to produce a male child.

A woman in my church had 5 girls anytime they ask for those looking for the fruit of the womb she will be the first to run out, last last she had a boy as the 6th see the way we were all rejoicing because we know her feet is now firmly rooted in her husbands house.

The 2nd lady told me point blank that shes happy she had a boy as her 2nd child because 'for my place if you never born boy you never start'

Nothing wrong in wanting variety most couples desire to have boys and girls under normal circumstances and may not even mind if they have just one sex but pressure from the village people and the tradition of the husbands place is always the issue.

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Re: Why Do Nigerian Women Wish For A Male Child Whilst Pregnant by Kuns84(m): 1:24pm On Apr 22, 2020
NoToPile:
Tradition which I believe is a major factor

Some cultures make having a male child a do or die affair, wife has no place in husbands home if she doesn't have a male child, when the hubby dies the uncles swoop over everything because there's no heir. angry

The extent to which women married to such cultures go to have a male child is something else because they believe all will be lost.

Most women may not mind not having a male after having the no of children they desire but when they think of the future and tradition they go all out- fasting and prayer on the mountain sex selection etc.

I still cant wrap my head around it, different threads in this section showing women's agony on their inability to produce a male child.

A woman in my church had 5 girls anytime they ask for those looking for the fruit of the womb she will be the first to run out, last last she had a boy as the 6th see the way we were all rejoicing because we know her feet is now firmly rooted in her husbands house.

The 2nd lady told me point blank that shes happy she had a boy as her 2nd child because 'for my place if you never born boy you never start'

Nothing wrong in wanting variety most couples desire to have boys and girls under normal circumstances and may not even mind if they have just one sex but pressure from the village people is always the issue.

LMAO!

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