Virtually everyone today has a secret they can not disclose to anyone easily. Most times we hide things from our loved ones, just for us to be emotionally saved, but in some cases, you might have thought that telling the person those secrets will make you be free from emotional bondage simply because some secret is a serious burden and somehow hinders us from moving forward.

In your relationship, things you discuss or share with your partner will infer the nature of existence and how long the relationship will last. Whether married or still in a relationship, the fact is that there are some certain enigmas that are better not said with anyone. It is something you take to your grave necessarily because once it is let out, what will happens next will not be pleasant to you.

Your partner may not be emotionally strong or ready enough to deal with such secrets, so it is crucial you keep such knowledge to yourself as your partner's behavior towards you will change or at worst, he will break up with the relationship and this was not your intention when you thought of discussing it with him.

Here are the 6 most critical secrets you should never share with your lover.

1) Don't discuss the last relationship with your current lover. Some ladies in their past relationships had eliminated unwanted pregnancy because she was not ready to go into marriage at that time. Telling your present lover about how many times you have removed fetus in the past is not something every man would take for granted, his character towards you will definitely change, he will stop treating you like a Queen he used to treat you or he may even break-up with you.

2) Don't tell anyone how good or bad your partner is in the bedroom, this has turned so many happy marriages today upside down. This is confidential discussion and such should be only between you and your lover. If a woman should brag to her friends about how good her man is in bed, their marriage will face terrible challenge simply because the woman you discuss such thing with will go to your man in your absence and start flirting with him and you know what that means to your relationship or marriage.

3) Don't discuss your partner's weak points with anyone or how you usually have misunderstandings with him or her. Sharing your marriage to the people around without considering the negative outcome and the harm it will later bring to the marriage is disastrous. No matter the situation your relationship or marriages is facing, always make the outsiders see it as a perfect union while you settle issues amicably from the inside.

4) Don't say anything negative about your mother-in-law or your father-in-law, either to them or with anyone. This is something that if you let out, you will not like the consequences especially if your Mother in law is a jealous type. Except you are willing to live a life without peace or fight every day in your marriage, keep the secrets to yourself.

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Your partner may not be emotionally strong or ready enough to deal with such secrets, so it is crucial you keep such knowledge to yourself as your partner's behavior towards you will change or at worst, he will break up with the relationship and this was not your intention when you thought of discussing it with him.

unless you are ready and willing to be FULLY HONEST to your partner, you shouldnt remotely think of getting married to someone...

1) Don't discuss the last relationship with your current lover. Some ladies in their past relationships had eliminated unwanted pregnancy because she was not ready to go into marriage at that time. Telling your present lover about how many times you have removed fetus in the past is not something every man would take for granted, his character towards you will definitely change, he will stop treating you like a Queen he used to treat you or he may even break-up with you.

your past r/ship are a definition of who you are...what you may like or not, why you are the way you are etc. it is very important for your partner to fully understand that, and the only way is to tell them exactly what happened in your past, so that they can comprehend fully who you are and why you are in such a way.
failure to be fully honest in marriage will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #1

3) Don't discuss your partner's weak points with anyone or how you usually have misunderstandings with him or her. Sharing your marriage to the people around without considering the negative outcome and the harm it will later bring to the marriage is disastrous. No matter the situation your relationship or marriages is facing, always make the outsiders see it as a perfect union while you settle issues amicably from the inside.

there is nothing wrong with seeking advice from outside your home and explaining where the issue lay... a person with an outside look will be better fitted to see whats wrong in your marriage, especially if it is someone whom you trust their judgement....aka a family member, a close friend, a confident etc
believing that you cant talk to outsiders about your marriage issues will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #2

4) Don't say anything negative about your mother-in-law or your father-in-law, either to them or with anyone. This is something that if you let out, you will not like the consequences especially if your Mother in law is a jealous type. Except you are willing to live a life without peace or fight every day in your marriage, keep the secrets to yourself.

in life you have to be fully honest with everyone around you, whether good or bad.... you cant possibly pretend to like anyone OR smile to people, if you dont want to... just be respectful by telling them what time it is. living your whole life being a fake individual will hurt you much more in the long run than anything else. NEVER be afraid to be yourself, NEVER be a coward, NEVER lower yourself to attain so BS points with others.
living life as a slave to your in laws feeling will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #3

In my own view, when you decided to merge your life with someone in marriage, you should be able to give full explaination of your past life with him/her. Hiding some information might be dangerous to you both.
He/she deserves to know about your past and make a decision either to be with you or not.

What if someone comes back from your past to blackmail you in the marriage? What will you do?

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unless you are ready and willing to be FULLY HONEST to your partner, you shouldnt remotely think of getting married to someone...



your past r/ship are a definition of who you are...what you may like or not, why you are the way you are etc. it is very important for your partner to fully understand that, and the only way is to tell them exactly what happened in your past, so that they can comprehend fully who you are and why you are in such a way.
failure to be fully honest in marriage will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #1



there is nothing wrong with seeking advice from outside your home and explaining where the issue lay... a person with an outside look will be better fitted to see whats wrong in your marriage, especially if it is someone whom you trust their judgement....aka a family member, a close friend, a confident etc
believing that you cant talk to outsiders about your marriage issues will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #2



in life you have to be fully honest with everyone around you, whether good or bad.... you cant possibly pretend to like anyone OR smile to people, if you dont want to... just be respectful by telling them what time it is. living your whole life being a fake individual will hurt you much more in the long run than anything else. NEVER be afraid to be yourself, NEVER be a coward, NEVER lower yourself to attain so BS points with others.
living life as a slave to your in laws feeling will be your GRAVE MARITAL MISTAKE #3

You have hit the nail on the head. Blind rules like the above are why people get into abusive situations

Hmmn!