thedeedray:


They don't understand that the op is human and he has to have such urges...... I have the same situation like him (same age bracket, introvert).
1. He should try to communicate more with people
2. No matter how you try to keep your mind or body busy, your emotions will still show up (you can't suppress it)
3. Stay away from porn (that shit doesn't work, i tried it so many times)
4. Leave your forking shell,
5. Communicate with people, try to have a good and healthy relationship with the opposite sex

Now you are hitting the point. Being an introvert could lead to depressed behavior and make or mar you. It depends on where you direct your energy to, this is because introvert don’t have many social activities and they take strong hold on the one they lay their hands. Op should find a way of improving his communication and social confidence. He will later find out that spending quality time with friends give much pleasure than porn. And hanging out with a beautiful lady is more self satisfy than pleasuring a porn star in your head.
Op should get out of his small shell and become more self aware

stanliwise:
Now you are hitting the point. Being an introvert could lead to depressed behavior and make or mar you. It depends on where you direct your energy to, this is because introvert don’t have many social activities and they take strong hold on the one they lay their hands. Op should find a way of improving his communication and social confidence. He will later find out that spending quality time with friends give much pleasure than porn. And hanging out with a beautiful lady is more self satisfy than pleasuring a porn star in your head.
Op should get out of his small shell and become more self aware

Well said... According to the Bible, angels fell in love with daughters of men ( they couldn't control their urges). So, who is the op not to also have urges??

The earlier he leaves his shell, the better for his konji

pitamah901:
Am 20 and not had sex before, am an introvert and getting a girlfriend is not in my plan cause of the the responsibilities involved and have to focus on succeeding before getting a fiancee no time for gf things. But this sex urge is getting too too much and masturbating is not solving it at all,it used to before until this very strong urge that I can't control anymore took over.

Another thing is I come from a very religious home where no one taught me abt sex education or that I would have this sort of urge at this stage of my life, all they say is abstain till marriage and all that, like they didn't pass through that stage too

How do I go about it.

Don't you masturbate?

Squillaci:


Don't you masturbate?

I do but it's not solving the issue anymore

Stay away from Porn.

bestabigaelever:
Do u want to have or not?

want to gve him??

bestabigaelever:
Do u want to have or not?

Would love to

Oluromantic:

Honestly. I wanted to give op this advice but held it back before ppl say I'm giving bad advice.

Ashawos are useful.. very useful.

these corona period!

Viciheaka:
is this sarcasm or what ever you have said necessary or even useful in regard to what op wants

I'm trying to help him with a solution to his problem, innit?

Op.. Be close to God. You will enjoy sex when the right time comes. avoid porn.. aside hormonal ish, avoid watching porn as it can increase urge of such.
Channel your attention to something important like learning skills and buldup yourself. I know is not easy but just try soon you'll get over it and be glad you did it in the end. Also communicate with people as others rightly pointed out herein.

You can fight that urge, it's a choice.

Good luck,may God strengthen you

thank God u knew keeping a girl is a responsibility
2. Having sex has its risk, and there are mistakes u can redo but there are some mistakes with permanent deformity, pre marital sex is one of them. Over speeding ur car is another one. They are sweet risks but the consequences of misbehavior could be life destructive and life reduncting.
my advice is stay away from objects, friends or events making u think sex. Besides sex could be harmless if u r ready for the responsibilities. condoms are just 98%safe so what happens to 2%. More so Masturbation in fews year time makes dysfunctional in bed and eventually make u depressed for not being able to satisfy ur legally married wife.

Divert ur energy to learn a skill. MY FRIEND U R IDLENESS UR BIGGEST PROBLEM.

learn programing, learn driving, learn cooking, learn learn learn.

my guy am 21 nd still a virgin just lyk u

i dnt normally hv time for galfrnd stuff coz am always busy guy



bt wt do i do when am Hot ?



. . .

Ecbatana:
Put your dick in a freezer.

Where's the power, abi na kerosene fridge?

pitamah901:
Am 20 and not had sex before, am an introvert and getting a girlfriend is not in my plan cause of the the responsibilities involved and have to focus on succeeding before getting a fiancee no time for gf things. But this sex urge is getting too too much and masturbating is not solving it at all,it used to before until this very strong urge that I can't control anymore took over.

Another thing is I come from a very religious home where no one taught me abt sex education or that I would have this sort of urge at this stage of my life, all they say is abstain till marriage and all that, like they didn't pass through that stage too

How do I go about it.

You May be from a Christian home but

Are you filled with the holy spirit?

What's your personal relationship with God

Do you love God and want to live for him alone or you want to carry worldly pleasures of sin along.

Do you have a conviction that you have to and can live righteous?

How much of the word of God do you have on your mouth and heart.

Have you sufficiently loaded yourself with scriptures that when you speak, the word of God flows naturally from your mouth?

How is your prayer life. Are you fervent? Or is prayer a stress?

How is your communion with God? Do you feel the presence of God around you that you are sometimes lost in worship?

Such intimacy that you don't want it to end?

How is your revelational Life. Does God reveal things to you?

Do you see yourself speaking to circumstances and they obey you?

Consider what I just stated above and there's no way you Will be trapped in the cage and chains of lust. No way!!!

Unless you're not interested, you can keep deceiving yourself.

Thanks

I do i want too have

bestabigaelever:
Do u want to have or not?

zexy2030:
thank God u knew keeping a girl is a responsibility
2. Having sex has its risk, and there are mistakes u can redo but there are some mistakes with permanent deformity, pre marital sex is one of them. Over speeding ur car is another one. They are sweet risks but the consequences of misbehavior could be life destructive and life reduncting.
my advice is stay away from objects, friends or events making u think sex. Besides sex could be harmless if u r ready for the responsibilities. condoms are just 98%safe so what happens to 2%. More so Masturbation in fews year time makes dysfunctional in bed and eventually make u depressed for not being able to satisfy ur legally married wife.

Divert ur energy to learn a skill. MY FRIEND U R IDLENESS UR BIGGEST PROBLEM.

learn programing, learn driving, learn cooking, learn learn learn.

Have learnt most of these things

NockMedia:

Rub the oil of sardines directly on your penis and go look for someone that owns a bulldog or a wild dog. Unclothing yourself is necessary in presence of the dog.
Make sure the sardine oil is well applied to your penis and the dog(s) are quite hungry.
I heard sausages are healthy for dogs consumption.

Carol baskin

pitamah901:
Am 20 and not had sex before, am an introvert and getting a girlfriend is not in my plan cause of the the responsibilities involved and have to focus on succeeding before getting a fiancee no time for gf things. But this sex urge is getting too too much and masturbating is not solving it at all,it used to before until this very strong urge that I can't control anymore took over.

Another thing is I come from a very religious home where no one taught me abt sex education or that I would have this sort of urge at this stage of my life, all they say is abstain till marriage and all that, like they didn't pass through that stage too

How do I go about it.

Oga u will kill yourself by yourself.


Let me advice u, go get a girl, there is a girl for every guy man in Nigeria.

Don't go for the Toke Makinwa type ( your salary and gratuities go finish under 1 month)

Try and be friend a girl from low income family and make a relationship with her, as time goes on maturbation will stop and sex will come naturally.

pitamah901:
Am 20 and not had sex before, am an introvert and getting a girlfriend is not in my plan cause of the the responsibilities involved and have to focus on succeeding before getting a fiancee no time for gf things. But this sex urge is getting too too much and masturbating is not solving it at all,it used to before until this very strong urge that I can't control anymore took over.

Another thing is I come from a very religious home where no one taught me abt sex education or that I would have this sort of urge at this stage of my life, all they say is abstain till marriage and all that, like they didn't pass through that stage too

How do I go about it.

Op high sexual urge is a normal thing at ur age but controlling it now lies in ur hands, many overcame and u can too, my suggestion is this, avoid doing those things that stimulates your urge for sex such as watching pornography, looking at a lady that is sexually attractive more than twice and thinking of the person..Also always engage yourself with something Positive...idle man is a devil's.... Did you just say you masturbate..haba that's irritating..you are just 20 if u can plan your life positively for the next 6years, make your money and get married to the right person...then you understand that sex is been exaggerated... Remain blessed

pitamah901:

Would love to

You need to relax. I know virgins who are way older than you so just take it cool. You're currently among a special set of people in the world so I think you should appreciate it.
What you're experiencing is absolutely normal as an adolescent. By the way, you're an amazing person from the look of things, you're more powerful than you think, so yes you can control your urges.

Are your urges going to fade away after having sex? Best chances are that they'll be heightened

How do you fight your urges?
I'm glad that you've acknowledged it. Steer clear of your triggers, but then you need to distract yourself with something that thrills you other than masturbation and porn. Find that enjoyable thing that excites you and won't heighten your urges. It could be outdoor sports, video games, board games, movies, reading funny stories, video chats etc. Remember you need to fill that vacuum of not pleasing yourself. Don't forget.

Equally important is having someone you can be accountable to like a guy who's older than you. Two of you can always discuss your struggles on a regular basis and discuss ways out. If you have no one for this, you may send me a PM.

Since you're from a Christian background, I won't continue with my "Should you choose to have sex ..." part. Just know that your urges are temporary, so don't make a permanent decision on a temporary urge.

I hope that makes sense to you. Remember, you're more powerful than think. Goodluck!

Especially both chronic masturbator & womanizer...

zionmde:

Do u want to help him or not?


OP U are too young for wat u are occupying ur mind with. Channel all ur energy on somethimg productive. Ur age is the best age to take that leap to success, read books about people who succeeded at an early age, develop a skill that u can always rely on in future. A lot of us wish we can turn back the hands of time and restart at that ur age

I am having thesame problem just exactly like you. I’m introvert, dont have a girl friend we just have similar issues. I am still fighting this damn shit till now. I would like both of us to over come this. I’m tired of this urge I swear. It’s killing me.

bestabigaelever:
Do u want to have or not?

bad teacher

pitamah901:


God loves everyone

Of course, i know God loves everybody.

But, the area of emphasis here is on "sexual chastity"... That's how i said sexually pure people.

Hope you get that

bigthink:


Op high sexual urge is a normal thing at ur age but controlling it now lies in ur hands, many overcame and u can too, my suggestion is this, avoid doing those things that stimulates your urge for sex such as watching pornography, looking at a lady that is sexually attractive more than twice and thinking of the person..Also always engage yourself with something Positive...idle man is a devil's.... Did you just say you masturbate..haba that's irritating..you are just 20 if u can plan your life positively for the next 6years, make your money and get married to the right person...then you understand that sex is been exaggerated... Remain blessed

masturbation is a normal practice and it has health benefits, go ask medical practitioners

Christiano25:
I am having thesame problem just exactly like you. I’m introvert, dont have a girl friend we just have similar issues. I am still fighting this damn shit till now. I would like both of us to over come this. I’m tired of this urge I swear. It’s killing me.

u could send ur wsap number so we could chat together

Brunicekid:
Maintain sexual chastity please @ OP...

God loves sexually pure peopl

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See, no one can really be free from the urge because it's natural. When I say natural I mean it's a normal thing to feel sexual urge. Even pastors have sexual urge. And if you say you want to stop it in the name of religion, then you are waiting on a long thing. No amount of prayer and fasting can stop it. Because it's normal. Just like feeling heat or cold is normal. I tell you, the day you stop feeling sexual urge, it means you are no longer a human being. You are a zombie. So cheer up and embrace life. Period.

zionmde:

Do u want to help him or not?


OP U are too young for wat u are occupying ur mind with. Channel all ur energy on somethimg productive. Ur age is the best age to take that leap to success, read books about people who succeeded at an early age, develop a skill that u can always rely on in future. A lot of us wish we can turn back the hands of time and restart at that ur age

Oga, stop this unnecessary ranting. You that is advising him, have you channelled your energy? Maybe konji has not catch you before. If he catch you, then you have no other choice than to give in. From experience.

Mikefrik:

Oga, stop this unnecessary ranting. You that is advising him, have you channelled your energy? Maybe konji has not catch you before. If he catch you, then you have no other choice than to give in. From experience.

na wetin dey happen to me now ooo, the konji just too much like i no fit even explain am again and this masturbation thing no dey satisfy again

Go to your Bible for solution