whitelotus:


I too was reasoning it. How can a person get married if he doesnt have money?

tompat86:
The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria

should be

between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something,

to be someone is so immense. When you look around

you everyone seems to be doing something for

themselves, people seem to be living a life you only

dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have

been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.

Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age

when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs,

because the disappointments become too much and you

find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few

people you studied with have been lucky enough to land

jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly

they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with

yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do

when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they

are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and

planning another trip South Africa while you are not sure

of what your next meal would be?

Most times you follow the conversation silently, all

alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is

no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep

around the more the pressure to be something, takes a

toll on you. You know when stories about house parties

come up and you act deaf because you don’t know

where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you

ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone

on the market or how British Airways offers poo services

and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is

chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that

talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet, jobberman or job

vacancies sites“.

But you sit there as these people are lost in their

lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking

minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of

a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while

one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another

drink and you wonder if you should just say No and

head home, but head home to do what? So you

grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one

last one“ Lie.

But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready

to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as

long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger

in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5

years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced

to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not

doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the

employees when they are broke and they can’t order

with fast food. This is when conversations about where

people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of

any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t

matter – you have resorted to surviving.

Once in while you will bump into your now well to do

classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even

eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you

feel better about yourself, because in your mind you

wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort

your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you

will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but

always it’s your face that would look the odd one out –

not even the best filters can hide a face which has

suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled

beans.

The worst mistake you can do during this period is to

try and date – there is nothing that a person going

through such times can offer in terms of love. How are

you going to do evening romantic walks when you are

tired from walking delivering letters in offices around

town? What are you going to tell your lady when she

says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or

love garden sites that are in town? That your financial

religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when

you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to

date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older

than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your

life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in

life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if

you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and

if by then your life is still in disarray like Arsenal fc's performance in the EPL then my friend be

prepared for a walk out.

But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about

life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only

hard moment in your life would be when you lose your

parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have

them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance,

about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it

teaches you something about friendship, love, career

growth and personal responsibility. This is always your

rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.

How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how

you handled your life in this phase.

Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win.

whitelotus:
A friend of mine, a man, just got engaged. He is 34.

On our "group of friends" WhatsApp group, someone mentioned that the guy is marrying too late. It started a whole debate. The guy getting married at 34 defended himself that he waited until he had money, as starting a family is no joke, financially.

Some people were arguing that one should just get married at 25 and everything will fall into place.

I got married at 30 and people on the group were also blasting me that I got married a bit late. I am a man also

What do you guys think?

Please, mature responses

Ninejaywon:
34 is not late. Infact 35 years is the ideal age for a Man to get married.

whitelotus:
A friend of mine, a man, just got engaged. He is 34.

On our "group of friends" WhatsApp group, someone mentioned that the guy is marrying too late. It started a whole debate. The guy getting married at 34 defended himself that he waited until he had money, as starting a family is no joke, financially.

Some people were arguing that one should just get married at 25 and everything will fall into place.

I got married at 30 and people on the group were also blasting me that I got married a bit late. I am a man also

What do you guys think?

Please, mature responses

ademasta:
No, 34 isn't bad.

Naija no easy... Many people never marry at 39

harsysky:


Best age to marry is 16. There are questions people ask and you wonder the level of IQ they have. When you put hopes on people to tell you how somethings common sense would have settled, you will only slide to become dumb.

Next, you will come and ask Nairaland the best sex position for your wife when you get married, the best way to hold a cup of tea, the best way to pee , the best way to die etc.

OlawaleBammie:


[b]WHEN UR DADDY IS TINUBU, OTEDOLA, DANGOTE, SARAKI, IWU, OJERINDE, FAYEMI, FAYOSE, ODILI, NUHU RIBADU, LAMIDO, LAI MOHAMMED, ADENUNGA, JONATHAN.....ET AL.


AND UR MAMA NA ALAKIJA, IWEALA, PATIENCE JONATHAN,

ofcourse it wil b easy for u to marry at 17, see u can even marry at 10.

As in guy....u can start ur courtship at 7, u dont get me?? i mean u can start wooing gals at 5..yeah dat is wat i mean.



BUT WE WEY B SAY OUR PAPA AND MAMA....HMMMMMMMMMMM

U don even graduate at 26?? ur service go end wen u clock 29 cus u go wan hustle before u go for service..

U dont understand abi?? as in three years u re still wondering if u went to school at all cus u no get person wey know person wey come know person wey come know clerk, i mean clerk wey know PA, as in, PA wey sabi talk to hin oga, but hin oga must stil know person wey know......mtcheew, wooo forget it, no job for u.

Just put ur certificate inside one cellophane and hit the street like Almajiris..

Before u find ur feet at the street u don clock 36 already, den u can work for two years before u can reason marriage..

Remember, within that 29 and 36, gals no go wan date u oo cus na legedez benz u dey rock.

ademasta:

Smiles... Baba you dey vex o.

I think the guy just needed public opinions before peer pressure pushes him to do beyond his limits.

harsysky:


I no dey vex but it is questions like this that would make one tell his friends and enemies everything about them.

ademasta:
No, 34 isn't bad.

Naija no easy... Many people never marry at 39

tompat86:
The most difficult age for any man born in Nigeria

should be

between 24 and 29 years, the pressure to be something,

to be someone is so immense. When you look around

you everyone seems to be doing something for

themselves, people seem to be living a life you only

dream of. You have applied for jobs and the results have

been more disappointing than Yakubu Aiyegbeni goal miss at the world cup.

Sadly this is the age when most guys lose it, the age

when if not careful one is consumed by alcohol or drugs,

because the disappointments become too much and you

find alternative ways to face reality. Worse is when a few

people you studied with have been lucky enough to land

jobs, soon your circle of friends gets thinner – mostly

they don’t even cut you out but you will be real with

yourself and cut yourself off. I mean what will you do

when you are in a WhatsApp group of friends and they

are discussing about last week’s trip in Dubai and

planning another trip South Africa while you are not sure

of what your next meal would be?

Most times you follow the conversation silently, all

alone like a cross on the grave. Soon you realize this is

no longer your kind of crowd because the more you keep

around the more the pressure to be something, takes a

toll on you. You know when stories about house parties

come up and you act deaf because you don’t know

where an extra 5 guys would fit in your house. Have you

ever sat in a group of people discussing the new iPhone

on the market or how British Airways offers poo services

and you can feel your heart whisper to you “boss this is

chest pain hour, can we just go and find a group that

talks about GMAT, SHLn Dragnet, jobberman or job

vacancies sites“.

But you sit there as these people are lost in their

lifestyle conversations, you are like a secretary taking

minutes in meeting. You are totally forgotten like one of

a woman’s breasts during pre-intimacy. Once in a while

one of the friends will turn and ask if you need another

drink and you wonder if you should just say No and

head home, but head home to do what? So you

grudgingly drop in the comment “I will have just one

last one“ Lie.

But after a few years of job hunting, you are now ready

to take anything even if is to smell a rich man’s farts as

long as it pays , so you end up as an office messenger

in one blue chip company in town. To imagine that 4-5

years of studying and getting a degree is now reduced

to picking and dropping off letters and if you are not

doing that, you are being sent for cheap lunch by the

employees when they are broke and they can’t order

with fast food. This is when conversations about where

people schooled start, you go silent for it’s no longer of

any use to say you also reached University, it doesn’t

matter – you have resorted to surviving.

Once in while you will bump into your now well to do

classmates, they would offer you lunch, but not even

eating the meals at Eko Hotel or Sheraton will make you

feel better about yourself, because in your mind you

wish instead they would give you the 30k and you sort

your meals for the next 5 weeks. As it is the norm you

will have photos taken, and uploaded on Facebook, but

always it’s your face that would look the odd one out –

not even the best filters can hide a face which has

suffered the city's dust and sun but survives on boiled

beans.

The worst mistake you can do during this period is to

try and date – there is nothing that a person going

through such times can offer in terms of love. How are

you going to do evening romantic walks when you are

tired from walking delivering letters in offices around

town? What are you going to tell your lady when she

says she wants to go for relaxation at the bar, pool or

love garden sites that are in town? That your financial

religion doesn’t allow it or what? This is the age when

you sit back and watch as the ladies you would want to

date are dating or getting married to guys 10 years older

than you. And you can’t blame them – it’s only that your

life seems to be progressing slower than their goals in

life. Most of the ladies you meet during this period, if

you are lucky will be patient with you till you hit 28, and

if by then your life is still in disarray like Arsenal fc's performance in the EPL then my friend be

prepared for a walk out.

But then this is the age when you learn a lot of about

life, if you can hack through this stage of life the only

hard moment in your life would be when you lose your

parents - that’s if you are still lucky enough to have

them. This stage teaches you a lot about perseverance,

about appreciating the small wins you have each day, it

teaches you something about friendship, love, career

growth and personal responsibility. This is always your

rise or fall moment depending on the choices you make.

How you live your life in the 30’s is determined by how

you handled your life in this phase.

Do not Give up. Do not Be Depressed. remain focused and create a Strategy. Be consistent, you must Surely Win.

CsRockefeller:
30 isnt late na.

Your friend said he was waiting to make money abi? Guess what? My friend just lost his job yesterday. I wish people would understand that word "money"

If I was a yoruba guy, I would have gotten married right now at 28 because only a Yoruba woman is ready to start small with you and watch it grow.

With d little u have and with what they have, they dont mind starting d journey even Beroms from Plateau are like that.

But u see Igbo gals, tufiakwa!!....... Its d love of money from them and their families that is their undoing.

Its just that I want to keep my bloodline in d Igbo way, if not......

SangoOlukosoOba:
Why do you believe their is a general opinion about your question? You must be in the league of "What will people say" irrespective of what you desire

Hello Mr, Anytime is good if you happy within. That`s the most important thing.

Your happiness is paramount as age is just a number and its negligible.

graciousolo:



Let's analyse your thoughts.

You think it is not smart to make preparations before getting married and you reason is that someone lost his job.


You think Yoruba ladies are willing to plan a life with you and, Igbo ladies aren't.


But, same you still wants to keep your lineage Igbo so, Igbo lady it is.


.


I hope you see how uni-directional your cognition is.

CsRockefeller:


What do u mean by preparations?...... A car? a house of your own? earning 6 to 7 figures?

I referred to d job because even in marriage a financial stable man can go instable in secs.

Financial stability keeps swinging like d pendulum clock as long as you live, so making it an excuse is not a good enough reason.

Nevertheless, those who want to wait till they become millionaires can keep waiting, the money is on its way home to them.

CsRockefeller:


What do u mean by preparations?...... A car? a house of your own? earning 6 to 7 figures?

I referred to d job because even in marriage a financial stable man can go instable in secs.

Financial stability keeps swinging like d pendulum clock as long as you live, so making it an excuse is not a good enough reason.

Nevertheless, those who want to wait till they become millionaires can keep waiting, the money is on its way home to them.

harsysky:


I no dey vex but it is questions like this that would make one tell his friends and enemies everything about them.

whitelotus:
A friend of mine, a man, just got engaged. He is 34.

On our "group of friends" WhatsApp group, someone mentioned that the guy is marrying too late. It started a whole debate. The guy getting married at 34 defended himself that he waited until he had money, as starting a family is no joke, financially.

Some people were arguing that one should just get married at 25 and everything will fall into place.

I got married at 30 and people on the group were also blasting me that I got married a bit late. I am a man also

What do you guys think?

Please, mature responses

whitelotus:
A friend of mine, a man, just got engaged. He is 34.

On our "group of friends" WhatsApp group, someone mentioned that the guy is marrying too late. It started a whole debate. The guy getting married at 34 defended himself that he waited until he had money, as starting a family is no joke, financially.

Some people were arguing that one should just get married at 25 and everything will fall into place.

I got married at 30 and people on the group were also blasting me that I got married a bit late. I am a man also

What do you guys think?

Please, mature responses

ademasta:
No, 34 isn't bad.

Naija no easy... Many people never marry at 39

CsRockefeller:
30 isnt late na.

Your friend said he was waiting to make money abi? Guess what? My friend just lost his job yesterday. I wish people would understand that word "money"

If I was a yoruba guy, I would have gotten married right now at 28 because only a Yoruba woman is ready to start small with you and watch it grow.

With d little u have and with what they have, they dont mind starting d journey even Beroms from Plateau are like that.

But u see Igbo gals, tufiakwa!!....... Its d love of money from them and their families that is their undoing.

Its just that I want to keep my bloodline in d Igbo way, if not......