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Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Nobody: 7:13pm On May 05, 2020 |
Mariangeles: thank you! in addendum to her repulsive attitudes you mentioned, she's megalomaniacal and toxic as well! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by sedoopeters(m): 7:15pm On May 05, 2020 |
Divorce her joor |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by mamatwiny(f): 7:17pm On May 05, 2020 |
enemyofprogress: Don't let Dominique hear this. Na ban till 2030. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Nobody: 7:17pm On May 05, 2020 |
noakchukibadan: the OP shouldn't had qotten married to her at all! Hiqh BP @ 42, imaqine?! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Tribalism123(m): 7:17pm On May 05, 2020 |
I didn't see anything bad in the character o. U can only put her away by divorce only if she commits adultery. That is if u are a Christian. But if you are a Muslim, u can slap her out of ur house. Now the issue here is u. What are u doing with Birthday OGA? What are u doing in the kitchen? Ignore ur birthday and take beer when the date comes and present her with her birthday when hers comes. She is a woman and that matters to her and not u. Go outside and eat and do domestic chores that is personal to u. Some times, just woze her dirty slap to reset her memory, unless if she is stronger than u. In sex, Bleep hell out of her to show u respect and of course, carry girls if u like. Just do what u like and enjoy EARTH 1 Like |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by adroit1: 7:17pm On May 05, 2020 |
Hmm... But you have some issues too. Must you expect her to idolized your birthday? She got you a gift, fine. Accept it and give peace a chance. Reach out to her again. Assured her of your love. Discuss with her on how both of you can make the marriage work. Do that with a sincere mind. Resolves to make the marriage work. Apply what you resolved to do and reminds her to do same but not to police her. Best wishes! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by chocolatelady(f): 7:19pm On May 05, 2020 |
I have one word for my dear nairalanders, “NEVER U THINK U CAN CHANGE UR SPOUSE “ It is very hard to change someone that is up to 12 years not to talk of an adult. Parents should endeavor to inculcate any morals they wanted for their children before they get to age 12, otherwise the child grows with the character she or he has as at that time. Please if at any point u noticed a character in him or her during ur relationship and u will not be able to cope with after marriage , do not go ahead with that marriage otherwise u are inviting high blood pressure to urself of which might lead u to ur early grave. For OP, I have to be blunt with my advice for u. 1) U noticed that she has character not pleasing to u but u still went ahead to marry her. According to u, ur pastor told u that she will change after marriage and u believed that. Sorry to tell u this, u are just myopic for adhering to what ur pastor told u. I have said this and will keep on saying it, please stop going to ur pastor to help u choose whom to marry. It is totally wrong becos the pastor will just tell u what he feels or thinks. So many people have fallen victims of this so called pastors telling them that this person is whom God said they should marry. Why don’t u go on ur knees and hand everything to God in prayer ? Believe me, God will reveal to u if that person will be good for u. Besides , it is better u choose by urself to avoid blaming anybody when things aren’t rosy. This is ur number 1 mistake but we will not kill u becos of this mistake. The way forward is simply what u need now. 2) Please for God’s sake , stop crying and begging her for that makes her feel that she is on top. This will toughen her the more. 3)Try and ignore her anytime she did something and is expecting u to beg . 4) Believe u me, if u ignore her for like 3months, she will be forced to ask herself what happened and she might be afraid may be u are planning something for her probably divorce. Nobody will tell her to start amending her ways before it will be too late for her bearing in mind that she never had a good relationship with her people. 5) It baffles me how u always beg someone that doesn’t not have a good relationship with her siblings, aunts and uncles. U would have use this to ur advantage since she has refused to give u peace. 6) Since she can use silence on u anytime u guys have quarrel, OP, pls developed a thick skin and ignore her. If she waited for some days and see that u no send am message, she will stylishly come to u and ask how u are faring. 7) Please be happy, engage in other activities like visiting gym even ur friends. If u guys have any issue and she refuse to talk to u. Once u are back from work, pls load ur phone with credit and start calling ur friends mostly male friends, always laugh so loud whether the discussion is making u laugh or not. This sudden attitude of urs will kill her the more. She will not be able to bear it again after u have done it for like one straight week. This way, u have totally ignored her and have shifted attention to ur friends. She will ran to u for discussion by force. 9) This issue can be properly managed if u try. Do not think of divorce for now. Good luck to u and may God bless ur marriage! 2 Likes |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Adeyebi24(m): 7:19pm On May 05, 2020 |
Your write up make big sense bukatyne: |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Fearcom(m): 7:20pm On May 05, 2020 |
Eulalia: Did you skip the part where it's now his birthday (May 2) and the wife didn't even remember And it has been happening for five years straight. Something is most definitely up! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by wafob: 7:20pm On May 05, 2020 |
My advise for you is simple. U need to recognize that people are different and unique in their way and appreciate the beauty of that. You are brought up in a loving family where u remember and celebrate birthdays which is not the case for your wife. See, my brother it costs me my first relationship before I started taking birthday serious, and that does not mean that I didnt love my ex. Secondly, as a married man, i must confess to you as a man, if you want to have long life, don't always complain at every of your wife mistakes. The reasons are obvious: 1. She will not fill comfortable with u, 2. It will affect your health 3. Most married women don't like to always say sorry to their husband all the time because they expect you to understand. Also, I will advise you to find time to express love to your wife, if you love her more she will make life easy for you and I tell u she will not forget your date because you will always tell her. Don't test your wife and don't be tribalistic. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by jolaeri(m): 7:21pm On May 05, 2020 |
Honestly you ignored the danger signs when you ought to have backed out. Now she ain't seeing herself as married. If you die today she will continue with her life. Put it to God in prayers, plan on how ypi want to take care of the children (if any) then what next, Alaye, find your square root!!! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Medunah: 7:22pm On May 05, 2020 |
noakchukibadan:@noakchukibadan Personally, I think marriage is not a do or die affair. If it is causing you sadness or headache consistently, it might be time to let go. Get a good lawyer and File for divorce. Or better still, separate for a while and see how things go from there. Wishing you all the very best 1 Like |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Cyanife(m): 7:23pm On May 05, 2020 |
oga my advice is just free her and be doing ur won thing act like she's not getting to u trust me I know people from that side they have most of the worst characters in them bro |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by P1PrinceKT(m): 7:23pm On May 05, 2020 |
just divorce her simple. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Fearcom(m): 7:24pm On May 05, 2020 |
Eulalia: Did you skip the part where it's now his birthday (May 2) and the wife didn't even remember And it has been happening for five years straight. Something is most definitely up! How can a wife go for MONTHS without talking to her hubby?? She has only apologised three times in EIGHT YEARS?!? What kind of marriage is that Even her family is afraid of her! The OP was deceived and convinced to marry a lady with so much physical, emotional and psychological baggage! |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by SweetyZinta(f): 7:28pm On May 05, 2020 |
I am sorry for your misfortune. You have done your best. Since finance is not your problem, you deserve to be happy! I am just thinking of your children, they should not be brought up in a toxic atmosphere. No peace, love and forgiveness. I will suggest you go seek divorce and start afresh. A million and one women will take you the way you are, shower you with love and be loyal 100%. I wish you luck. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by chaloskyx: 7:32pm On May 05, 2020 |
its obvious you arnt yet tired it remains for the woman to poison you before you realise that you married a narcissist. believe me once you are tired you wont come publicly to ask for advise you would do whats best for your well being. and please just because your wife is prayerful does not make her a good woman and that was obviously your first mistake thinking its and woman you see who goes to church and prays thats a good partner. i can only say a home is meant to be a place of solace and peace once its only seen as a war zone my brother leave your wife take the kids and be happy. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by IamgratefulLord(f): 7:33pm On May 05, 2020 |
noakchukibadan:My advice: Ignore her and play the fool. She would come begging. Always call on God at night If I tell you my story, you would know that God truly rules in the affairs of men. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by maasoap(m): 7:34pm On May 05, 2020 |
bukatyne: Even at the point of high blood pressure/ hypertension? Who even made this law in Christianity as I understand that Jesus did not even marry? You have tried counseling, reporting her to family etc. etc. and it has not worked. Relationship doesn't have to be this way now. Na by force to stay in relationships in this manner? Using this approach, op can never find peace. This is like pretending that all is well when in actual fact, it is not. Don't beg or cajole her to 'change' or 'be better' or whatever: you are telling her that she has power over you. All these na window dressing. It's like treating the symptoms instead of the actual disease. Relationship doesn't work this way. Op will end up die young if he doesn't move away from the radiation |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Risentouch(m): 7:35pm On May 05, 2020 |
Since you said you guys married in the church, I won't advise to go for a divorce after all you knew her character before marrying her, and the fact that none of her family members have a say in her life shows more how terrible of a person she is. My advice is try not take things personal again just try live your life like as if she doesn't exist you can go to gym, hang out with friends, just try do things that make you happy thank God you said finance is not an issue, just ignore things that bothers you about her and move on with your life, but always remember to pray to God and never abandon your children. We all have a cross to carry in life. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Thegoodone13(m): 7:37pm On May 05, 2020 |
Most of marriage is like this. I have married 12years ago and I'm experience something like this. Please, for young guy that want to marry, try to marry your friend. We always see the traces but because of love, we go ahead. I little problems we do have when we were Courting has now become big problems. I discovered during courtship but she promised to change. Please let us be following our mind. They always have some good area. Op not every body take birthday serious. If she does not remember your birthday its not a big things. Rejected her gift is bad. 1 Like |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by zicoraads: 7:38pm On May 05, 2020 |
pocohantas:Toh, I know know wetin to talk nau. The marriage is just toxic, I think. But them never turn violent. Anyhow, make dem either see a marriage counselor or divorce. This thing no be do or die. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by maasoap(m): 7:39pm On May 05, 2020 |
kodix: You guys will contribute to the death of this guy. A bad relationship is a bad relationship, no two ways about it. If someone mistakenly entered into relationship with the wrong person, let the person get out as soon as possible before it's too late, I meant before untimely death occurs. Relationships are meant to be enjoyed, not endured. Please, don't scare or trap him with how his next relationship might look like. 2 Likes |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Mattonimo: 7:42pm On May 05, 2020 |
thank you very much nams77: |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by anungangampu: 7:43pm On May 05, 2020 |
The wife is better than him Finacially ....period When your wife doesnt talk to you for a month and boast about it, then she doesnt need your money(if u have one) or help for the kids for a month and dont bloody care cos you are the one that would keep running back. Secondly when u are angry your wife did not remeber your birthday and when she actually remebered all she did was to buy you an apology gift, and you wey b man come dey vex like mumu. The man is actually the woman of the house. Thirdly but a foolish one, how can u marry a girl that is totally disconnected from her family. Who train her, How did she spend her childhood, who does she listen to. The woman is manipulative cos her past is fried. Some kind of psyco and Nigeria is not a place you recommend therapy for people, they would think you see them as mental patient. Fourth, there are issues prayers cannot solve, inshort the said wife is hiding under prayer to cover alot of emotional flaws, deep seated hate and anger. Her prayer point would always be against her enemies. My solution for you is this. Those kind of lady only fear their pastor and God.. Meet the Pastor that you want divorce and mean it. Thats the only way. you can only tame her kind with pastors dey fear. Secondly stop giving birth , and start using all your time to look for money. Woman dey fear and respect man wey value thier business pass them. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Avidtags: 7:43pm On May 05, 2020 |
bukatyne: Did you see were he has high blood pressure? You want him to stay in a marriage that threatens his peace mind and mental health? Do you think even their kids are growing up in a healthy environment? 1 Like |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by maasoap(m): 7:43pm On May 05, 2020 |
andyanders: Not when he wanted but when it matters. At the right time. Op, u knew her character b4 getting married. Try live with it since u don't fight each other. No 2 perfect people on the face of this earth. The dude is dying of hypertension! Did you read that part? Or you believe that he's the one giving himself hbp? The words DIVORCE and SEPARATION didn't exist for nothing |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Nobody: 7:45pm On May 05, 2020 |
Fearcom: That was why I said both of them are at fault. I saw that part quite alright but I feel its a very trivial thing that shouldnt be causing problems in a marriage when there are more pressing issues to deal with. "Birthday"? Hm. Mind you, op admitted he saw the red flags but chose to go ahead with the marriage. So its not true that he was deceived into the marriage like you said. Anyways, let them just look for a way to sort it out. And if worst comes to worse, he should sit her down and ask her if she's tired of the marriage and hear what she has to say. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by Skmoda360(m): 7:45pm On May 05, 2020 |
ceeceeuwa:Well.....it's true sha |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by cpmconsultingltd: 7:46pm On May 05, 2020 |
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Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by BISIXCLUSIVE: 7:46pm On May 05, 2020 |
andyanders:Hey u shutup, did u read his post at all? For good 5 years ur so called wife don't remember ur existence ( birthday is part of it) after u complain she bought gift days after, if you are the one I'm sure u will slap her and the gift ni. That's why I don't seek advice from social media. |
Re: Time To Divorce My Wife? by BISIXCLUSIVE: 7:48pm On May 05, 2020 |
[quote author=andyanders post=89155086] You nailed it here. Op too has got an attitude problem himself. Why complain about Birthday issue and when she got one and presented to him, he never appreciated it 'cus she didn't get it done when he wanted it. Op, u knew her character b4 getting married. Try live with it since u don't fight each other. No 2 perfect people on the face of this earth. [/quo |
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