There's this beautiful teenager of about 17 years of age. a very beautiful and skinny fine girl that once lived in the same compound with me. her dad was the caretaker of the compound but later had misunderstanding with the landlord and he was asked to pack out of the house. to make long story short. they moved to a place that is not too far from us. her dad is a cab driver n her mom is late. the dad doesn't allow them to leave the house without reasonable excuse. but since on Monday till yesterday Friday. everyday consecutively this girl will take permission from her dad that she's coming to my house and that she'll spend some time with me and my family since I don't stay alone, and considering our close relationship with the dad, the dad will grant her permission quick quick but whenever she comes to my place she will spend like ten minutes then Snick out only to come back in d afternoon with one flimsy excuse or the other that she's within the neighborhood. me and my family are beginning to suspect her movement that there's a boy in the area she's coming to see. will it be right for me to tell her dad? I just thinking about it on what to do

Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?
#OurMumuDonDo

skimena:
There's this beautiful teenager of about 17 years of age. a very beautiful and skinny fine girl that once lived in the same compound with me. her dad was the caretaker of the compound but later had misunderstanding with the landlord and he was asked to pack out of the house. to make long story short. they moved to a place that is not too far from us. her dad is a cab driver n her mom is late. the dad doesn't allow them to leave the house without reasonable excuse. but since on Monday till yesterday Friday. everyday consecutively this girl will take permission from her dad that she's coming to my house and that she'll spend some time with me and my family since I don't stay alone, and considering our close relationship with the dad, the dad will grant her permission quick quick but whenever she comes to my place she will spend like ten minutes then Snick out only to come back in d afternoon with one flimsy excuse or the other that she's within the neighborhood. me and my family are beginning to suspect her movement that there's a boy in the are she's coming to see. will it be right for me to tell her dad? I just thinking about it on what to do

I think it will be wise to have a kind of father to daughter talk first..or involve your wife. If after no changes you tell the father...

Obviously one boy is somewhere sweet talking her already. Please do this fast... One mistake could ruin her life completely

Do not report her to her father. That will peradventure lead to some sort of grudges if not properly handled. All you have to do is restrict her from going anywhere once she come around to your place and promise to stop her from coming to your house whenever she’s caught outside.

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Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?

The simple reason why some mighty men fall easily is because they think they know too much. advise nor b curse

Talk to her, Warn her not do such again whenever she visits, if it happens again, report to her dad.

God forbid, what if something bad happens to her when she sneaks out, you guys would be held responsible.

jawalis:
Do not report her to her father. That will peradventure lead to some sort of grudges if not properly handled. All you have to do is restrict her from going anywhere once she come around to your place and promise to stop her from coming to your house whenever she’s caught outside.

In addition, sit her down and talk to her

Ah ah common sense suppose tell you weytin you go do.
two reasons you should tell the father.
1.his respect for you and your family would increase.
2.what if you were in his shoes wont you like to know.
3.When she gets pregnant and people start insulting him of bad parenting just know you contributed and took his respect towards you for granted.

mabeni:

Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?
#OurMumuDonDo

can u ever make comments without abusing people?

You sure say this one na adult? The girl is 17.. he might just be 19/20.

mabeni:


Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?

#OurMumuDonDo

No,whenever she leaves, call the father that e should rush down to your house for an emergency. let him come and discover she is not there.

Tell her daddy. you are not only helping her, you're also helping your self
if anything happen to her your name will be mention and is like her daddy trust you that is why he allow her to leave d house believing she's coming to your place.
in order to continue enjoying the trust and to safe your self in case anything happens to his daughter. tell him
I know some people will ask you what concerns you. tell them you also have children

skimena:
There's this beautiful teenager of about 17 years of age. a very beautiful and skinny fine girl that once lived in the same compound with me. her dad was the caretaker of the compound but later had misunderstanding with the landlord and he was asked to pack out of the house. to make long story short. they moved to a place that is not too far from us. her dad is a cab driver n her mom is late. the dad doesn't allow them to leave the house without reasonable excuse. but since on Monday till yesterday Friday. everyday consecutively this girl will take permission from her dad that she's coming to my house and that she'll spend some time with me and my family since I don't stay alone, and considering our close relationship with the dad, the dad will grant her permission quick quick but whenever she comes to my place she will spend like ten minutes then Snick out only to come back in d afternoon with one flimsy excuse or the other that she's within the neighborhood. me and my family are beginning to suspect her movement that there's a boy in the area she's coming to see. will it be right for me to tell her dad? I just thinking about it on what to do

tell her dad in this case bro..

Cos,she already using your house to get permission,if yawa gas,you will be involved..

The girl just de use una the play ball.

Please tell her dad

You see all of you saying talk to her...she will act like she has heard and then device another means of doing it without you knowing. She will inform her partner that you've complained and he will teach her how to prevent you from knowing. She deviced a means that prevents her parents from knowing already.

My take is to tell the parents. Plan to follow her secretly to where she goes at least to be sure it's a boy or know exactly what it is. If she's caught doing anything bad then disciplinary measures which I leave to be parents can be taken.

Aproko

skimena:
There's this beautiful teenager of about 17 years of age. a very beautiful and skinny fine girl that once lived in the same compound with me. her dad was the caretaker of the compound but later had misunderstanding with the landlord and he was asked to pack out of the house. to make long story short. they moved to a place that is not too far from us. her dad is a cab driver n her mom is late. the dad doesn't allow them to leave the house without reasonable excuse. but since on Monday till yesterday Friday. everyday consecutively this girl will take permission from her dad that she's coming to my house and that she'll spend some time with me and my family since I don't stay alone, and considering our close relationship with the dad, the dad will grant her permission quick quick but whenever she comes to my place she will spend like ten minutes then Snick out only to come back in d afternoon with one flimsy excuse or the other that she's within the neighborhood. me and my family are beginning to suspect her movement that there's a boy in the area she's coming to see. will it be right for me to tell her dad? I just thinking about it on what to do

That a was a very naughty one from her

Using your family name to do her escapes

Pls don't inform the dad yourself

Let your mum do that because I'd anything happens she becomes pregnant

Her dad already believed she goes to your house and you will be the dad's first suspect

Discuss with mum to report her to her dad and let her stop coming to your house

.

femmoy:



can u ever make comments without abusing people?

how is this an insult? I have never insulted anyone on nairaland before. Check all my comments.

MInd ya biz crew.....over to you

Memberclub:
Don't waste your time talking to a teenager. Especially when you aren't the biological father

Very true, I don't think the OP is married he might probably he a little above teenager and the house might be he's parent house. Also, the looks like he has feelings for her and can't stand chance that she's giving her attention to someone's. Hope when she get pregnant and he put it on you, then you have sense you'll would have reported her to her father in time. First warn her and if it continues report her. Teens are usually very careless when it comes to romantic affairs.

mabeni:


Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?

#OurMumuDonDo

Honestly I feel you. That's reason why most times I think 90% of these NL stories are cooked-up fake shiits from bored OPs.

He calls himself a man who already has a family and doesn't know what to do with the 17yr old gir.
@OP, just allow the girl keep sneaking out of your domain to collect dck. When she carry belle now, her father will hold you responsible.
Instead of holding the girl at gun slap point and tell her that if she ever try that shiit again you would slap her. Also if you're a responsible man and close to her father like you claimed, you should be brave enough to tell her dad, you're only helping her, she doesn't know the implication of her bad behavior now. If anything happens to her, you're responsible for it.
This is all what I expect you to know as a grown man, instead of coming here to seek advice from jambites and other 17yr old kids here.

mabeni:
how is this an insult? I have never insulted anyone on nairaland before. Check all my comments.

no p bro,just tryna caution u. stay safe.

seunlayi:

In addition, sit her down and talk to her

Adviser

For her Dad to allowing her visit you n family, that means he has trust in you.
Pls, call her Dad immediately and inform him, if not you will be the first suspect to be arrested by the Police, incase any foreseeable incident( yahoo yahoo rituals) occurs. You know she is still mentally immature.

Tell your parents first, they will know how to handle the matter.

jawalis:
Do not report her to her father. That will peradventure lead to some sort of grudges if not properly handled. All you have to do is restrict her from going anywhere once she come around to your place and promise to stop her from coming to your house whenever she’s caught outside.

I think this is the best suggestion so far

mabeni:

Must you bring this to nairaland? Can't you use your discretion as an Adult?
#OurMumuDonDo

I tire ooo... maybe they are mates