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Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by donkaz2(m): 12:01am On May 21, 2020 |
She want you to use her for money 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by dayorich: 12:03am On May 21, 2020 |
As you ask me now, who I go ask? Na me born am? You nor date am take know her behaviour? I beg park wella and carry your cross because you don carry oooo ademidedavid: |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Ijaya123: 12:08am On May 21, 2020 |
Another story for the marines. I think people should just stop replying these kind of stories. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by iamjean(m): 12:09am On May 21, 2020 |
Omo, this life Shaa, me I have been working since 22 yo, I earn 4 times that amount and still I don't even think I am ready financially for marriage, maybe because I am just 26 now though. I am constantly thinking of personal development and how to make more money,I don't even have nor keep any girlfriend, I run from girls as if they are plagues. 3 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by covid2019: 12:21am On May 21, 2020 |
Poorboy: Baba, this post of yours sweet me oo. I have been looking for what to do with some money. Can I see your house design? You can see a thread I opened earlier. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by FGonline: 12:31am On May 21, 2020 |
meetme01:Nonsense Infact u are very stupid to pick d fp as to fault op. Didn't u read what she said. U just won 4m Nonsenses here. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by larryking540: 12:33am On May 21, 2020 |
ademidedavid: When I see a lady that can't stay a minute without social media I run as far as my leg can take me , because these type of ladies will compare you with every James,Peter and Paul on the social media,, making life miserable for you 5 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by FGonline: 12:35am On May 21, 2020 |
LegitGirl:Nonsense u too For no reason should u provoke a man to beat u 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by FGonline: 12:36am On May 21, 2020 |
ademidedavid:u did well 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ngwababe(f): 12:36am On May 21, 2020 |
ademidedavid: Bros, let her visit her family for at least a month. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OdenKelechi(m): 12:42am On May 21, 2020 |
I might end up not getting married like this. Cos all these stories of struggling marriages plus the ones I've seen, I'm tired. 4 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Monniluv: 12:53am On May 21, 2020 |
metme01: |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by ghettochild(m): 12:54am On May 21, 2020 |
ademidedavid:Tell her u will use her for blood money since she wants u to make more money. Make she sef go find work o 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Stevven(m): 1:00am On May 21, 2020 |
The way you start a relationship really matters a whole lit, how did you place yourself? Now she has found out you can't afford the lifestyle you promised. Dude it's your opportunity to set the record straight. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by mydeporch(f): 2:37am On May 21, 2020 |
NaBanga: This is how they turn the remaining good men to another thing. Women got to thread carefully in marriage. Greediness ain't a good thing. Am amazed at how some are faulting the husband...@Ademidedavid What you wont tolerate at the long run, dont start taking it now. She is exhibiting some characters which you need to be cautious of....@emmaodet and @exc2000 have said my mind. I do tell my husband anytime we are talking nd he says some women did some crazy things, I would say dy need just one resetting slap. Just as people will be saying men got problems.....av come to realize some women own sef na craze level....if u cant sit down nd reason on ur own, u get people to reason wt u nd u no get am too....people dealing wt u need to wise up. Just as some women dont have appreciative husbands, we have men too who despite everything, they will still tell you u have done nothing. When we are not in peoples shoes, we dont seem to understand how hurtful berating words could be to an hardworking man. I only read 2 pages nd I dont like some peoples response.... Op please pick the wise pieces of advice on this ur thread... 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by BluntTheApostle(m): 2:55am On May 21, 2020 |
meetme01: Raising your hand to any human being is degrading. Violence is for animals, not humans. Some people show disgust when a man hits a woman, but this same people hit their maids or houseboys. They hit other men when they are provoked. They are animals without knowing it but they think they are gentlemen because they don't hit women. Self control should not be applied when dealing with women alone. It should be applied when dealing with all human beings, even children. Back to the main issue. Your wife needs your unreserved apology. You need remorseful which is through your attitude. Let her know you are deeply sorry. Has she apologized for the abuses he has suffered from her? Abuse is abuse, whether it is verbal or physical. You can't resolve issues in a marriage when you put all the fault at the feet of a single person. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by BluntTheApostle(m): 3:05am On May 21, 2020 |
NaBanga: So, nagging makes a woman a strong vessel? You people will just come and make some really annoying statements. She was angry and abused him. He was angry, and he hit her. They were both weak, and gave in to their emotions. Moreover, hitting a person is not the only weakness a person is capable of when provoked. Walking out on your partner is also a weakness. I have a lot of men like that in my workplace. They prefer to do overtime than to go home because home is hot. They are avoiding confrontation. But does that make them strong? They will tell you that their wives are demons and that if they stay with their wives for a second, they could strangle her. So, they stay until night in the office. Some of them even drive straight to the pub from the office. Anywhere but home. Is that strength? Please, we should not be too quick to judge others. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by BluntTheApostle(m): 3:15am On May 21, 2020 |
Chiomsies: Stop encouraging bad behavior. Nagging is bad. You people should stop encouraging women to nag by saying that their power is in their mouths. What is bad is bad. Abuse is bad, whether it is physical or verbal. A woman who can't control her mouth is no better than her husband when he beats the hell out of her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by obstead200(m): 3:18am On May 21, 2020 |
Oluneutral:I don't know why people over react to issues. Except the OP has other issues he is not telling us. If not, the solution is simple. Just apologize for hitting her. Then give her the marching orders: if u can't live within the means I have provided for u, there are 2 choices. Either u provide the rest urself or u get the f*CK outta my house- without Ur daughter ooo. If I catch u cheating just to meet up, u will still get the f*CK outta my house. Sense will just come to her Naturally. Despite all those stupid friends of hers, she can never be deceived about the need to remain married to a good man and have a stable family life. She won't be foolish enough to be a divorcee over something she can avoid. If she decides to leave and marry another man, then know she was never meant for u initially. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by BluntTheApostle(m): 3:23am On May 21, 2020 |
koyyess: Imagine. So, a man has to stop a woman from nagging? Are women babies? If a woman can't control her mouth, or can't find a more peaceful way to resolve issues, why should she expect her husband to meet her agbero method with an angelic face? A woman who nags would invariably be beaten up one day. If her husband doesn't do it, a total stranger might. Nagging is bad. There are far more conflict resolutions that women can explore when dealing with relationship conflicts. Nagging escalates conflicts. It causes emotional trauma. When you nag, you worry your husband and take away his ability to think with a clear head. The worst thing that can happen to a man is to be joined with a nagging wife. Even the Bible says it is better to live on the rooftop than with such women. 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 3:26am On May 21, 2020 |
Heheheh....am I the only one that find this funny Marriage and its wahala. Guys shine yah eyes well well ooo. So that you won't it get it wrong from the onset. They usually say it's not by beauty but ladies can fake anything including characters though I think it's even safer to marry an 'ugly' (no one is ugly actually) person than to be looking for a 'manmade' damsel. My advice for guys; I mean we bachelors ooo...make lotta investments; my secret . Invest, invest and invest like Warren Buffet so that you can relax when they start their usual things. More so, be very very comfortable before tieing that knot. If you're ok, respect will follow. But never raise your hand against a woman; it's a curse of a life time. Peace! |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 3:35am On May 21, 2020 |
BluntTheApostle:Bruh, maturity doesn't come with age. Some are actually babies even in their 30s. Women are like schools on their own that a man needs to attend and graduate then you can be sure of your readiness to cope with their tantrums. It's really not difficult at all...just be sure of your own maturity. C'est fini je peux sortir! Sante! |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by KanwuliaExtra: 4:20am On May 21, 2020 |
pDudd: Indeed! Which of your online personality am I dealing with? The abusive one or the cowardly one? Let me give you time to reveal your real agenda. Welcome! |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by juniorstar(m): 4:29am On May 21, 2020 |
many women dont understand the value of money. They think its just something that grows on ground. you need money to make money, unless you have an idea that is really valuable with the ability to convince people with money to invest in your idea. if you are a salary earner its hard to please your woman except maybe you work in an oil company, a politician , a fraudster or have really gotten to the peak of your career. every woman desires to be comfortable which then depends on her definition of comfort, while others won't make do with just the basic need to live a house over your head, food, clothes while their man strikes for financial progress. I.e They want to be live as if they av arrived at the expense of financial growth. they want you to spend your monthly income and even borrow thereby living a life of perpetual financial deficit and you begin to wonder why your life isn't moving! zero savings, with maybe a couple of business ideas that would have come to improve your finances had it been your monthly income had been spilling over. and you know what she would blame you and eventually tell you that she regrets marrying you. never please a woman at the expense of your financial growth, live within your income, save, invest it might be slow at first, slow and steady wins d race. dont live superficial lives that will end up attracting women that cant support you desire for financial progress. And to our ladies you cant eat you cake and have it. Encourage your man goal of financial progress cos if you dont you would have yourself to blame. cos he might be able to afford it now but would he be able to afford it in the future. except you dont mind jumping from one man to another 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Nobody: 4:48am On May 21, 2020 |
ademidedavid: Give her a matching order. You are the man of the house. If she wants to go into cream online without selling her body, leave her be and support her. If she nor sell cream for the first 6months, body go tell her. Also, give her upkeep funds in bulk for the entire month. She will be tempted to waste it in weeks, once she does, let her have nothing for the rest of the month. Tell her to fall back on her cream business to sustain the family and mean it. She lacks financial management skills. She will change if you start allowing her to handle some financial decisions like managing feeding and upkeep budget for the house monthly. If you stand your ground for the first two months without doing as if you cannot live without her and trying to over spoil her, she will learn. You are used to taking full responsibility for the family upkeep and going the extra mile in making your family comfortable, sometimes you even paint stories about your reality, making her think it is always easy. If you are worth 100, make her believe it is 70 or 50, that way she will keep her taste at 40 or 60. If you tell her or make her believe it is 300 when it is 70, you will slave to keep up with her taste. She will get advice that you are being selfish and she go begin change am for you. So you need to check yourself too. She was not so from the beginning I suppose. So, hold a meeting with your self, by your self and with your own mind and tell yourself the truth. Monitor her online business and if she wants to start sleeping with men for money, you can't stop her. But allow her make a decision on which way to follow. If sleeping with men is her decision. Separate yourself and your kid from her and leave her house, or have her leave the house. I deliberately allowed my wife carry our house expenses since April cos I have not been paid for two months. Guess what? Where 30k will hardly feed us for a week before now, 5k will feed us for a week now. Although I spent a chunk stocking the house with basics. My woman spends carefully now because na her money. Me self don adjust my taste, and I often discuss the lessons I am learning from her with her and we laugh over it. She accuses me of been a wasteful spender over the years and not saving for rainy days. I have stopped having HBP simply because I want to give my family the best. My self-confidence don dey increase because I dey learn from her. And give her exactly what she truly deserves and not what she wants. We keep it as it is, while I go out of my way to spoil her silly at times. But she is learning contentment. Hope you nor dey do side chicks and waste money on strangers only to come here and complain? If she changed suddenly, chances are that she knows, and na why she dey change am. Nobody be fool na. Mind you, this is the same woman I desperately wanted to divorce in 2017-early 2019, because we had become torn in each other's flesh. What changed? I just stopped caring too much, started acting like a better man and learnt her psychological games. Two can play the game better. Where she deliberately does things that will ordinarily push the old me into anger, the new me keeps calm, analyses her actions/possible intentions and will not play into her hands. I use her intentions to yab her until she almost starts crying. Emotional blackmail nor dey work again. And she no longer knows my next move. I find myself dancing or playing good jamz and singing along, when she expects me to be mad as hell. If you want to keep me because of money alone submit yourself for ritual money so the family can have a better life, accept the life I can offer at this time while we discuss ideas on how to better our life financially, or get the Bleep out of my life and go meet those better men out there you just recently discovered. I am not holding you. That is my new philosophy and she knows. If she corporates, I will give her mad TLC she won't need 21K diamond rings to make her feel like a woman. And we can build together and buy that for her cos she deserves it. You should listen to Dale Carnegie's how to win and influence people. It changed my perception of how I was handling things. And believe me when I say that I am now enjoying my marriage because I have developed better people skills. Develop better people skills, and your wife will humble her self or move out of your life and spare you the stress. This was what worked for me and all my marital problems disappeared. My baby is even more beautiful than she was few years back because she has peace of mind. Trust it solves your marital problems. Shalom. 6 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Deoboss(m): 4:50am On May 21, 2020 |
OdenKelechi: Marriage is good only if you meet the right lady for you which is very scarce out there now cause un-realistic expectations from wives nowadays will ruin most marriages 2 Likes |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by KanwuliaExtra: 4:57am On May 21, 2020 |
Tinyemeka: Please, explain. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by coi: 5:13am On May 21, 2020 |
She is keeping bad friends and got influenced. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OsuIgboIpob: 5:17am On May 21, 2020 |
Shinny1:This is stupîd! Always use your brain. No be to dey always do the bidding of every thing wey get hole in-between legs. 1 Like |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OsuIgboIpob: 5:23am On May 21, 2020 |
seanwilliam:You be agbero true true? Which park u dey load? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by Fearcom(m): 5:25am On May 21, 2020 |
meetme01: Now this is arrant non sense. @OP. You did nothing wrong! You're only human and anyone in your shoes would react the exact same way. Don't let anyone who hasn't walked a mile in your shoes let you think otherwise. And nobody should think he is immune to being degraded by his wife just because he doesn't raise his hands on her. Your wife will degrade you whether you're earning 100k or 500k depending on HOW HIGH her materialism is. |
Re: Marriage And Its Challenges; My wife is pushing me to the extremes by OsuIgboIpob: 5:25am On May 21, 2020 |
travelland:Why are some people just so stupîd? Can you comprehend at all? 1 Like |
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