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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Slimsly100(f): 4:28pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Hmmm! I'm crying already OP why don't you just pretend you've agreed with your dad Then go back to that your informant, make her trust you without leaking her ID or secret to anyone, then you both can try to search for your mother together Since she said ur mum's dowry was paid, she's supposed to know something about your maternal family. Then, you guys can start your search for a new there. I really wish you good luck dear. My heart's with you |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 4:30pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
ifko:Subtly advertising your church so they can get their own cut of the money.. Swear they will pray for her for free |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 4:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
KingRollins01:Aswear... The guy wants to sound tribalistic but obviously bad at using the wrong Situation for that.. Dude is sick mentally 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 4:40pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Obrigardo:Very insensitive I must say, Ishilove could be a fake online personality afterall |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Momcherry(f): 4:41pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Oh my God! This is painfully sad! |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 4:45pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godfullsam:I believe her story 100%..imagine the emotions flowing in this her story, it reeks of an energy expended venture, a troll can't keep up with this unless the troll is psychotic of which such a troll would be drowsed somewhere in a lonely hospital with no access to phone 4 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by miketayo(m): 4:54pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
timagentms: oga read the comments before u write ur own |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by squad03: 4:59pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
bobbina: Talk about biting the fingers that fed you. This will ultimately complicate the situation for her and portray her in a bad light.The result will be that everyone who can potentially be of help will ignore her plea for an intervention. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Ishilove: 4:59pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by LastProphet: 5:03pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: If you still fear such a worthless father who saw you dehumanized then maybe you deserve where you are. I thought you said you are independent? You better go and sue his ass to court for forging a birth certificate for you, and you will be stupid if you are still greeting that slave master you call step mum 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by squad03: 5:04pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Dear OP,speak to a shrink.The benefits are often underemphasized in this part of the world.The surge of emotions you may be feeling will be channelled correctly when you see things through the insight therapy might bring. You need to have peace within you so that regardless of the outcome,this discovery won't traumatize you for life. All the best. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by FryMosquito: 5:05pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Op wisdom wisdom is what you required and need to pray for. With it hope and and pray hard about it that more revelations will will come out without you over stressing yourself. Think about how you know the truth without you struggling for it, that's how revelation about who's ur real mum will come. See, do those social media stuffs with ur childhood pics, dad and step. Now confide in that person that reveal it to you before to tell you who ur real mum is. You will now use the social media post as ur source for getting the information incase questions from ur dad and family start to pop up. So that the person will continue to remain anonymous. Apply wisdom now. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Vikalinda(m): 5:20pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
I suggest you don't push too much as this matter is a very sensitive one for the sake of your life. Allow time to pass, that means being patient, and pray that your step mother or Dad never develop a wicked heart against you, thank God you're alive and intelligent. It will be better handled when you must have left the family to your own, maybe after marriage, this is because of the kind of Dad your father is. How are you sure that he is your biological Dad. Don't let the pain you feel about this matter which is understandable control your life. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:26pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Maobichek:Ogbeni give her your advice her or still hold it to yourself.. That's an old trick u pulled so she can contact you |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by yhemsy62(m): 5:27pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Op I prayed God Almighty guide ur path. You can't do this alone. Pray and seek God guidance |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Enemyofpeace: 5:28pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Go to Google and ask,type "who is my mother and where can i find her?" Google is your friend |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murmee: 5:28pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
I will advise that u let it be for now.A very sensible advice! |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by 2016easy2017: 5:30pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: U got the best advise. Perhaps he's not your real father. No real father would treat his baby as such and deprived her of her most beloved. Sue him and the court would compel them to tell the whole truth. You'll be amazed there's still alot being hidden 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by schoolmaster: 5:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
You got this information from someone and nothing happened to him or you. So pressurize him or other extended family members, with assurance of not exposing your informant. If you keep persisting he will surely tell you, if he has the confidence that you will not betray him. Try harder |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by stonecoldcafe: 5:31pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Don't sue anyone. Be smart. Allow me go spiritual, the bible says in Mark 9:29 that So He said to them, “This kind can come out by nothing but prayer and fasting.” In this your case, it means you need to use proper sense to get what you want. Smile with dad, laugh with dad and step mum. Don't do gra gra with them, you will find out what you seek with patience, prayers and perseverance. You may come across some documents some day (fat chance) but your key may be speaking with relatives. They know, not anyone is scared of him. Confide in one of them, pray before you commence discussion, win their trust, help them, one of them will open up. And when they do, protect that individual, do not make noise or raise dust about your biological mum and what your dad did or did not do. Just carry on with your life jejely and build a relationship with her. All the best. Be calm, don't sue anyone... by the way, what of your birth certificate? |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by cynhamscakes(f): 5:32pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Tread with caution. Has it even occurred to you that they can eliminate you? Let the matter die down for now and think with a clear head. Don't sue your father. You will regret it. You survived all these years without your mother, you will survive a few more months. Apply the greatest wisdom in handling this issue and if possible relocate to a place no one knows for now. After some weeks quietly start making your investigations. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by AuroraBrls: 5:32pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
This is a simple case. As simple as ABCD. If bride price was paid and returned, that makes it all easier to find out and resolve. A private Investigator only needs to live in( or pay a Corper residing there or someone who lives in and speaks the local dialect) your Dads village incognito for less than 2-3 months. The more difficult part about these things is the emotional and after effect part. What if she was used for rituals or assassinated by your Dad, what if she was demented, what if she took to prostitution, what if a lot of possibilities. The final answer when you do get it may have the possibility of driving you insane as it may be very terrible to bear. Get the services of a Professional and good Shrink/Therapist/ Counsellor first. Keep off spreading your deep secrets on social media with reckless abandon, forget the court aporoach for now. Discontinue escalation of the matter and feign that you have forgotten and dumped the matter to enable your family relax their hard stand and soften up. What if your Dad decides to silence/do away with you to bring all this noise to an end? Stoop to conquer and possibly get the answers drop into your hand effortlessly. Please don't put your informant in trouble, keep away from him/her for now, what if your dad has already paid a private investigator to find out how you found out. Try and procreate, find love if you can, even if you are gay/lesbian/ whatever. Saying you have decided not to marry for reasons best known to you is surprising, someone brought you into the world, try and bring another into the world, make their life happier than yours as much as you can. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Godlovesyou28: 5:35pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Wow! I just woke up from my "pill-induced" sleep to see this. Out pouring of concern What can I say? For all your sincere love and concern am so grateful and overwhelmingly encouraged for those who find it hard to believe me, it doesn't matter if you believe me or not. For the those who have suggested that I go back to my original source, trust me when I say that "I have squeezed out every drop of juice from that orange". I can't push further and will never use undue force when I should show gratitude, but your pragmatic approach only shows how willing you are to help solve my problem. For those who want me to approach it spiritually (I have been told many things, especially that my real mum is alive but will not dare contact me), I have been praying though sometimes my faith challenges me but I am growing by Gods Grace. Thanks I am also weighing my legal options but not yet exhausted my other options. And No, my older siblings will not help. Yes lease I forget I cannot say too much anymore for fear that I am being monitored but I will like you to know that I feel surrounded by a family and will carry you along in a manageable fashion. Thank you for your kind words, tears and loving embrace. God bless you all. 11 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:37pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
judecares1:This your story is touching 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by TheFreeOne: 5:37pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
@Godlovesyou28: Your story is quite saddening if true. But it beggars more questions than answers cos you didn't reveal much details. What if your parents former housemaid is your biological mother? What if your mum is a sister to your step mum? What if there's a conspiracy way back that your parents/family are trying to hide and exposing such could bring your family/father into disrepute and more pains to you? And what if your real mother doesn't want to be found? These are possibilities that your search may lead to, a kinda dark hole that you may not be prepared for psychologically, emotional except you are truly prepared for any eventuality. However it's your right to know your real mum but from the story it seems your dad would rather die with the secret than tell you. Who knows maybe he's trying to protect you or it could be your step mum engineering the whole thing as it's hard believing it's coincidence for you and your cousin being sent to the seminary. The same cousin whom a family claimed is of the same mum with you? Well I wouldn't want to judge but you have to calm your emotions if you want to find out the truth. It's all within your freewill as a human spirit if you so desire but there's more to life which is a gift from the creator. So relax, take care of your health and apply wisdom in the situation. Your answers lies in the village if you can find a reliable family member, friend to dig for it. Moreover, our parents are vehicles for our earthly life/experiences which is just a step in creation and at a point we have to choose our paths as 'independet spirits' and there may be a silver lining on your own path. I wish you all the strength in your 'journey of life 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:41pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
perryy:Understand her well naw.. She's saying the seminarian's acclaimed brother is the uncle's son whereas the seminarian(now her brother) looks like their dad |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Housing(m): 5:41pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: He can't if you it go viral. You need to overcome that fear first. Go to radio stations especially the one in your home State and your present state. Reveal your family history for help. With that you would have disarm him. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by GODSMILEFOREVER: 5:42pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Please, look for that your cousin in the seminary ant talk things out with him . The Bible say that two are better than one . I know that GOD will help you out cause HE is the very present help in the time of trouble. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:44pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Eze2000:Even with this definition you're wrong.. Remember a dowry was paid for the mom which signifies marriage in African setting, which was later returned.. So how can a child whose mother's dowry was paid for be illegitimate.. Or u just find the word illegitimate sexy to use? |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:47pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
midehi2:Please share the story naw.. We're here to learn.. No one knows u.. Is really touching |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:48pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
musabayokanu:Lol.. I thought when he mentioned he was freed he's gonna say he's more useful and prosperous.. Many lack the right approach to life |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by murphyibiam15(m): 5:50pm On Jul 19, 2020 |
Eze2000:Read her follow up comments 1 Like |
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