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Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Orpe7(m): 10:46am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Try your best to make it to university, get a good 9-5 job after wards, After, jakpa Don't ever look back 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by ttaiwo09: 10:46am On Jul 19, 2020 |
The person that told you about your mum is feeling your pain already. Plead with her on daily basis, with time she'd give you tangible information about your mum. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by nams77: 10:46am On Jul 19, 2020 |
zedegit:Im still thinking in this direction but i can't think up the relevant laws that address this. I am no lawyer though. Maybe she can talk to one |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by djojo(m): 10:47am On Jul 19, 2020 |
This is what you will do that will work for you dad to tell you who your real mother is. Go to him if you can get a gun it will be better or a knife tell him you will kill yourself since he is not ready to show you who your real mother is, i bet you no man will want her child to die in his present, he will definitely talk. Forget cry cos it won’t work be over serious on it and attempt to do it like trying so hard to kill yourself. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by zedegit: 10:47am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: He will not. Report him to Naptip. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by SIRKAY98(m): 10:48am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Ask your dad..okay. he knows the story |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nobody: 10:49am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I am sure your are Yoruba they are fun of this kind of distortions . Maybe your mum is a northerner . My advice just live your life and ensure you have a DNA certify birth certificate for your kids.Birth Certificate can be gotten in Lagos for 2k,so it aren't no big deal. 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Mvici: 10:49am On Jul 19, 2020 |
your daddy is still waiting for the right time Pls exercise some little patience. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by BarrElChapo(m): 10:49am On Jul 19, 2020 |
What would you be praying the court to do for you if you sued him ? Has he done anything wrong in the eyes of the law ? As much as I share in your pains you still need to have a clear head in finding out the truth. You may want to go back to the relative that told you in the first place and put pressure on him. Another option is go back to the village if your father is popular or not people will generally know him and his past that maybe why he was so protective of you guys and the information you got. As an example someone could pose like he wanted to marry you but is on a fact finding mission. May not ask someone from your kindred so as not to make anyone call your dad but may see someone who knows your family's story extensively to give you a headway. But you would need two things Patience & Perseverance. In all if you're religious stay close to God too. Good luck 7 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by zedegit: 10:50am On Jul 19, 2020 |
djojo: Ogbeni this is outrightly stupid. 7 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nobody: 10:50am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Story of May is just hitting FP Seun take time. OP, if you are still reading this thread Your step mom is obviously a witch That your Real Father can't tell who your real mom is without asking your stepmom permission Pray. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by MountainView: 10:51am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by oladcity(m): 10:51am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Why do i have a feeling that telling you who your mother is may bring more pain to you. Godlovesyou28: 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Babygirltess: 10:52am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I think your father had an affair outsiders his marriage and in other to keep his marriage with your step mom he decided to cancel all evidence of your real mom birthing you, maybe you should just let it go |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Kaypaparino(m): 10:55am On Jul 19, 2020 |
There's more to this scenario,Please cool down and be wise in taken your decision. I will link you up with an investigator to help you out secretly to find out what's happening to your family. You can call or text me on 08168034467..Kola .. you will definitely find her someday just believe in God and if she's I alive. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by emmy512: 10:55am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Don't give yourself high expectations so u won't get let down. I was in your shoes once, I know who she is, we've made contact twice, like 14 years ago since then we haven't seen and I believe I lost that sense of belonging anywhere so recently she got me on Facebook and she be trying to apologise, to forgive her and all, but I'm actually not angry with her, no grudge it's just that I'm used to being a loner that i rarely have the emotions needed for such relationships now and she takes it that I'm angry. Locate her through the person that told you about it, they obviously know more but cos of your dad they don't want to be the ones telling you I believe it's someone your fathers people all knew, else why will they hide her identify if they know shes not nearby. Or they feel revealing her identify will cause a greater problem than the one you already have with them or cause you more pain than this while also spoiling the family name. So they may be choosing the lesser of evils on the table. She's probably been keeping tabs on you without interference if she recognized you. Hope you find her. Ciao 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Wizvicky(m): 10:55am On Jul 19, 2020 |
suing your dad is the best option trust me. don't mind all this people saying you shouldn't consider that. he will be compiled by law to tell you who your real mother is. you are no longer a baby you ought to know the truth. well your dad is quite unreasonable for keeping this away from you for so long. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Wizvicky(m): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
djojo:na movie u dey direct here. lol |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by stanliwise(m): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:Your dad owe you the answer, who knows if he was responsible for her whereabouts ( It is just a suggestion, this is reality). I think some form of wise threat is needed here. I can’t say how you can go about it but he is responsible for your answer. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by timagentms: 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I know what you are passing through because I was once in your shoe, I did not grown up with my mother too, my mum was died on my first day to this world but I was not told until I was growing up, the scenario of my step mum first my Dad relatives to tell me the truth, I was Ten yrs then, up till now if I remember what I pass through from my step mum, it always paining me, but what can I do than to praise God. Now what might happen to you might be two things, is either your Dad impregnated a housemaid then, and recover you from her, or your Dad used to carry Olosho and lead to something else. And finally it might be that your mum might be a mentally insane women and they are avoiding you to know the truth about it. Go and meet all your Dad relatives and please with them, I know the truth will reveal. 5 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by QuinieR(f): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Eeyah I feel for you |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by SweetCunt97(f): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Orpe7:It's obvious you guys don't read! She's now grown and independent! Abi wetin independent mean for your village? 6 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by UGAHAM(m): 10:57am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: If you are on your own house, working can provide for self meet a lawyer he/ she will advice you better or go to welfare. In fact a lawyer will advice you better. Pls don’t kill ur self u must make it. Because of u ur mum will be alive to see u too. |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by dalass(f): 10:58am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28: Your parents are probably shielding you from a bigger horror... If your mum is truly different and alive, why did she not come back or even bothered to look for you?.. All you said your step mom did to you was training you to be the person you are today! did she beat or disfigure you in any way?. You went to school and appear sound plus independent... Abeg thank God... Let that woman find you.... Treat your step mom as your real mom... She never called you bastard or reject you. She called you her daughter, take it like that since she even has her name and signature on your birth certificate! Stop looking for trouble and let sleeping dogs lie... If she truly wants you, She'll find you. Simple! 9 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by stanliwise(m): 10:59am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:You have to start being realistic with things. You are harming yourself more than you are helping issues. You need every bit of your health to find your mom. So please bring yourself to reality and live the reality. 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by anungangampu: 10:59am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:The same village you are running from is where your answer lies.. Another is your Dad old friends.. Look for a female among this set of people I mentioned .. you obviously was not adopted. You are part of the family and I believe during the good days dowry was not paid in secret ... But the truth remains that relationship between your father and your real mum didn't end well.... Tread carefully 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Wizvicky(m): 10:59am On Jul 19, 2020 |
BarrElChapo:hiding her biological mom from her from when she was born is illegal already. her mom is supposed to be a part of her life. Nigerian laws and interpretation don derail our brains we don't even know what is legal or illegal anymore 1 Like |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Nnatuu: 11:00am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I relate to your story... Follow these steps Find an elder in the village that knows your family well. Tell him/her that you want to have a discussion with and Promise to keep their identity secret....including your discussion with them. Most importantly, promise them a lot of money if they get the information for you. Ask them whatever.... The maths will solve itself once you put up a price. Good luck and please don’t feel bad. You’re loved and this too shall pass. Be assured! 3 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by Tsolutionifede(m): 11:00am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Godlovesyou28:instead of going to court, get your Dad and ur fake mother pix here, and place some rewards on who can help u find. Believe me. Just a week u go find her 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by ceeprian(m): 11:00am On Jul 19, 2020 |
I can only understand how you may feel right now but I can also tell you that you might need to give this more time than you think before your answer start coming. Don't take rash decisions like the gun and knife suggested above. Have you tried meeting villagers to ask about your dad, this villagers know a lot even secrets. You don't need to go yourself, someone can ask about him for you. Maybe a guy goes and say he wants to marry someone from that house particularly you and watch these villagers spit what they know. 2 Likes |
Re: Please Help: How Do You Find A Mother You Have Never Met by SweetCunt97(f): 11:01am On Jul 19, 2020 |
Kaypaparino:Naso! Investigator, as if we have detailed computerized system of births in this country. 3 Likes 2 Shares |
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