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How Do You Handle Loneliness by Missyajoke(f): 4:15pm On May 30
Good afternoon everyone, am here to share a message on How to deal with Loneliness. May God bless us all throuIt is not tryhis no sad world. ad world.

How do you handle loneliness

The grass is greener on the other side they say, but it hurts to see people whom you care about leave your daily routine. In your heart, you know the time is right to take the next step in their journey, but selfishly, you ask " where does that leave me?" Is my lot in life to encourage others, only to have them depart? You desire to give all the glory to God, but loving others can leave scars. It hurts to give yourself selflessly, yet at times you feel underappreciated or taken for granted, but who are you serving, man or God? The yearning to attach and connect, to love and be loved, is the fiercest longing of the soul. If you have ever felt loneliness, you are in a good company. No matter how we walk with the Lord, we cannot escape the impact of a disappointing and sometimes evil world . A core sadness will not go away is evident not of spiritual immaturity, but of honest living in sad world. The best way to combat loneliness is share your feelings with others. Tell your friends what you're passing through. Living the christian life is not up to us. It is not try harder. Instead, ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Walking with Christ is not about you trying to succeed in one more thing. Its about you realizing that you can't do it and letting Him take over. We cannot grow alone. God made us for community. It may be that even today you have to seek encouragement of an older believer. Take the initiative. Seek out someone. If the person you talk with is not helpful, talk with another. God will either provide answers or He will give you a peace about living with your questions. And in the process you will experience the comfort of community.

Here are some tips for recognizing loneliness for what it is and dealing with it in the healthiest ways.


1. Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness gets our attention.

But then the brain tries to make sense of the feeling. Why am I feeling this way? Is it because nobody loves me? Because I am a loser? Because they are all mean? Theories about why you are feeling lonely can become confused with facts. Then it becomes a bigger problem so just realize that you are having this feeling and accept it without over reacting.

2. Reach out because loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are a loser, an outcast. You might react by withdrawing into yourself, your thoughts, and your lonely feelings and this is not helpful. At its best, anticipation of loneliness might motivate us to reach out and cultivate friendships, which is the healthiest thing to do if you are sad and alone. When you are a child, and your sadness causes you to cry, you may evoke a comforting response from others. If you’re an adult, not so much.

3. Notice your self deflating thoughts.  We often create self centered stories to explain our feelings when we are young, it is not unusual for children to assume that there is something wrong with them if they are not happy. If they are lonely and sad, children may assume other people don’t like them when this is rarely the case.


4. Make a plan to fight the mental and emotional habits of loneliness. If you realize you are dealing with an emotional habit, you can make a plan to deal with loneliness. Since healthy interaction with friends is good, make some effort to reach out to others, to initiate conversation and face time even when your loneliness and depression are telling you not to. Yes, it is work, but it is worthwhile, just like exercising is worthwhile even when you are feeling tired or lazy.

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Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by incogni2o: 4:18pm On May 30
Thanks for this
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Ernerstdavid55(m): 4:53pm On May 30
Good nice one op.... Lala wat are u waiting for
the young ones needs dis
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by emmyskies(m): 2:21am On May 31
Good one OP..... Buh introverts like myself enjoy our time alone smiley
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Jacksparrow7: 10:08pm On Nov 20
emmyskies:
Good one OP..... Buh introverts like myself enjoy our time alone smiley
relaxing, sleeping...or what?
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by emmyskies(m): 10:38pm On Nov 20
Jacksparrow7:
relaxing, sleeping...or what?
Enjoying our hobbies
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Jacksparrow7: 9:07pm On Nov 21
emmyskies:

Enjoying our hobbies
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I no get light kpatakpata for my area which kind hobby I wan to enjoy now. Every night, generator... mtcheew. But wetin b the hobby
Tell me make I upgrade my own
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Kenneygirl(f): 12:34am On Nov 22
I agree, but I don't think telling people your ish is good tho, most times they'd pretend to care but end up judging you with what you told them.
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Missyajoke(f): 12:41am On Nov 22
Kenneygirl:
I agree, but I don't think telling people your ish is good tho, most times they'd pretend to care but end up judging you with what you told them.

That's why you study people carefully before leaking your secrets to them.
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by amidel(m): 1:48am On Nov 22
emmyskies:
Good one OP..... Buh introverts like myself enjoy our time alone smiley

Staying Alone doesn't mean loneliness.

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Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by Kobojunkie: 4:58am On Nov 22
Missyajoke:
Good afternoon everyone, am here to share a message on How to deal with Loneliness. May God bless us all throuIt is not tryhis no sad world. ad world.

How do you handle loneliness

The grass is greener on the other side they say, but it hurts to see people whom you care about leave your daily routine. In your heart, you know the time is right to take the next step in their journey, but selfishly, you ask " where does that leave me?" Is my lot in life to encourage others, only to have them depart? You desire to give all the glory to God, but loving others can leave scars. It hurts to give yourself selflessly, yet at times you feel underappreciated or taken for granted, but who are you serving, man or God? The yearning to attach and connect, to love and be loved, is the fiercest longing of the soul. If you have ever felt loneliness, you are in a good company. No matter how we walk with the Lord, we cannot escape the impact of a disappointing and sometimes evil world . A core sadness will not go away is evident not of spiritual immaturity, but of honest living in sad world. The best way to combat loneliness is share your feelings with others. Tell your friends what you're passing through. Living the christian life is not up to us. It is not try harder. Instead, ask the Holy Spirit to help you. Walking with Christ is not about you trying to succeed in one more thing. Its about you realizing that you can't do it and letting Him take over. We cannot grow alone. God made us for community. It may be that even today you have to seek encouragement of an older believer. Take the initiative. Seek out someone. If the person you talk with is not helpful, talk with another. God will either provide answers or He will give you a peace about living with your questions. And in the process you will experience the comfort of community.

Here are some tips for recognizing loneliness for what it is and dealing with it in the healthiest ways.


1. Realize that loneliness is a feeling, not a fact. When you are feeling lonely, it is because something has triggered a memory of that feeling, not because you are in fact, isolated and alone. The brain is designed to pay attention to pain and danger, and that includes painful scary feelings; therefore loneliness gets our attention.

But then the brain tries to make sense of the feeling. Why am I feeling this way? Is it because nobody loves me? Because I am a loser? Because they are all mean? Theories about why you are feeling lonely can become confused with facts. Then it becomes a bigger problem so just realize that you are having this feeling and accept it without over reacting.

2. Reach out because loneliness is painful and can confuse you into thinking that you are a loser, an outcast. You might react by withdrawing into yourself, your thoughts, and your lonely feelings and this is not helpful. At its best, anticipation of loneliness might motivate us to reach out and cultivate friendships, which is the healthiest thing to do if you are sad and alone. When you are a child, and your sadness causes you to cry, you may evoke a comforting response from others. If you’re an adult, not so much.

3. Notice your self deflating thoughts.  We often create self centered stories to explain our feelings when we are young, it is not unusual for children to assume that there is something wrong with them if they are not happy. If they are lonely and sad, children may assume other people don’t like them when this is rarely the case.


4. Make a plan to fight the mental and emotional habits of loneliness. If you realize you are dealing with an emotional habit, you can make a plan to deal with loneliness. Since healthy interaction with friends is good, make some effort to reach out to others, to initiate conversation and face time even when your loneliness and depression are telling you not to. Yes, it is work, but it is worthwhile, just like exercising is worthwhile even when you are feeling tired or lazy.


Loneliness is a state of the human mind and has little or nothing to do with the number/quality of relationships in a person's life. Instead it has more to do with a person's ability to accept and adjust to different circumstances in life.

Everyone (irrespective of religious belief or leanings) feels lonely at one time or another. Rather than look to others for cure of one's loneliness, what I have found works best is looking inwards to first understand the reason for the feeling so as to properly resolve it. Looking outwards to others only provides a temporary salve but never the solution.
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by helinues: 5:59am On Nov 22
Loneliness is part of life.

Would rather be lonely than hanging out with people that will add to your woes
Re: How Do You Handle Loneliness by emmyskies(m): 9:09pm On Nov 23
Jacksparrow7:
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I no get light kpatakpata for my area which kind hobby I wan to enjoy now. Every night, generator... mtcheew. But wetin b the hobby
Tell me make I upgrade my own
Oya fine small money take buy one solar panel and a ba3 make you get 24/7 constant light. Then turn that loneliness to a wonderful time with yourself.

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