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|Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 12:11pm On Jun 01, 2020|
You can go to this thread to see what sexual abuse can do to kids:
You can visit this thread for sexual abuse on men
DO NOT DERAIL THIS THREAD Thank You
Since 1973 to 2020, of the thousands of rape cases that have occurred and been reported in Nigeria, only 65 have led to convictions.
This thread is something I have been thinking of since yesterday that I've been reading on the horrible things done to women in this country, but seeing that Genevieve thread and the responses on Nairaland, from the same men that hide and support these rapists amongst them, I am now moved to start the thread.
NIGERIAN MEN, CALL YOURSELVES TO ORDER.
It is bad enough that most of you are totally ignorant of the ingredients that constitute rape, but the fact that the few educated ones stay silent, thereby encouraging these fiends, is even more disturbing.
WOMEN LIVE IN FEAR OF MEN. Women cannot go out at night, because of fear of being raped. Women cannot walk down a street filled with men, without the fear of being molested, women cannot go into a car filled with men, for fear of being kidnapped or being molested. A woman goes into a room filled with men, and the entire time, she is on edge, looking for other women. Women cannot go to clubs, unless they are in groups, and they still have to look out for eachother. You can not go and have fun, without thinking of worst case scenario as a woman.
Men, CAN YOU RELATE?
CAN YOU RELATE TO LIVING IN PARANOIA FOR MOST OF YOUR LIFE? CAN YOU?
DO YOU FEEL FEAR WHEN YOU WALK INTO A ROOM FULL OF WOMEN? DO YOU SEE A BUS OR CAR FILLED WITH WOMEN AND DECIDE TO WAIT FOR ANOTHER ONE? DO YOU CROSS THE ROAD WHEN YOU SEE A GROUP OF WOMEN AHEAD OF YOU?
There is NO AGE of women that do not feel this fear. You are not too young or too old for a man to rape you. From one day old to 101 years old, rape can meet you anywhere.
At HOME, you are raped
At SCHOOL, rape
At your job, rape
Even In CHURCH, RAPE.
Where is our sanctuary? When does it stop? Does being a woman mean a life of constant fear? Did we choose this? Who trained these men?
WHAT IS WRONG WITH ALL OF YOU?
Then, when women say they live in fear of men, you lot come with the usual trash:
"Not All Men"
"Some of us are good"
And my personal favorite, "Plus your father and brothers"
Is it not fathers and brothers of people, raping others?
How do we know who is and who isn't a rapist?
If a SARS or Police officer stops you on the road as a man, do you know who is dangerous and who isn't? When you call for the END of SARS, do you care which of them is good and who is bad? Why not say "Some SARS officials?" Why not say "Not all Police officers?"
That is what Genevieve and many women mean. Not all men arerapists, but are we supposed to wait and find out who is dangerous?
AS WOMEN, WE LIVE IN CONSTANT FEAR OF MEN.
Rape happens to all genders and either gender can be the aggressor, but if you did a survey today and asked 10 Men and 10 Women, if they had been molested or raped, more women will have faced these things than men.
If you walk down ANY street and ask MEN, "WHO IS MORE LIKELY TO BE A VICTIM OF RAPE BETWEEN A MAN AND A WOMAN?" YOU, the same men, will admit that WOMEN are more likely to be victims.
Why do you think so?
DON'T BE AN INSENSITIVE TW#T, DON'T TELL US MEN ALSO GET RAPED. THAT IS EQUAL TO WHEN BLACKS ARE PROTESTING THAT BLACK LIVES MATTER, ONLY TO BE TOLD ALL LIVES MATTER.
We are not saying men do not get raped, we are saying, in this moment, the topic is women. STICK TO THE TOPIC
It is convenient, that men will never bring up the abuse of other men, unless women want to talk about women getting abused.
We Are Fighting One Cause At A Time. Do not distract from one cause, or reduce the weight of it, by bringing up your own. THIS IS NOT SUFFERHEAD OLYMPICS. YOU WILL NOT GET A MEDAL FOR BEING THE MOST RAPED GENDER.
Men, CALL YOURSELVES TO ORDER. REFLECT ON YOURSELVES. YOU KNOW RAPISTS.
That your friend that drugs women when you go out- RAPIST
The one that threatens unwilling women to have sex with him- RAPIST
The jokes about "If she chop my money, I go chop her"- RAPIST
" She spent the night in my house, she dey mad wey I no go smash?"- RAPIST
"Wetin carry her go there?"- RAPIST
" Dress well and you will not ksgfjsozndoxn"- RAPIST.
AS A MAN THINKETH, SO IS HE
It's all fun and games in Nigeria, until you need to travel abroad and someone brings up your Rapey posts from the internet.
DON'T WORRY, YOUR RAPIST FRIEND WILL NOT GO TO JAIL, THE NUMBER OF CONVICTIONS IS ON THEIR SIDE, JUST TELL US, CALL THEM OUT, LET US KNOW AND AVOID THEM. DON'T SIT BY AND ALLOW WOMEN JUMP BLINDLY INTO DANGER.
NIGERIAN MEN, CALL YOURSELVES TO ORDER
We Appreciate All The Sensible Men That Are Standing With Us In These Times. We Appreciate All The Men That Are Not Quick To Pick Offense And Attack Us For Speaking Out. Plenty May Be Useless, But There Will Always Be Those Who Have Sense.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 12:16pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Op well said.
I feel devastated when reading the news about women and girl who get raped.
This rape culture and wanting to shame the victim instead of the perpetrator encourages rape because the lowlifes think they can get away with it.
We really need to reorientate our men and young boys growing up that they are not entitled to a woman's body without her consent.
Nigerian men should call themselves to order they have no right to abuse women.
Rapist should be made to face the music.
To rape apologist or enablers remember you have female relatives among you and you will not want them to live in fear that their human dignity is being insulted so instead of justifying rape acts denounce them and report them.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by LegendaryLover(m): 12:28pm On Jun 01, 2020|
R.I.P to the girl raped and beaten to death in church. The perpetrators cannot remain hidden forever. They'll be caught & dealt with.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Generalnomercy: 12:33pm On Jun 01, 2020|
@op, you've spoken well, However, women, ladies, girls should also respect themselves and be responsible for once.
Insecurity is insecurity everywhere in the world irrespective of male or female involvement.
It's not about the men but about common sense and fallen moral standards.
You will always find girls at the wrong place, in the wrong companies.
You will always finds girls doing what they're not supposed to be doing.
Like the girl's case in Benin, NOTHING, I MEAN NOTHING SHOULD HAVE TAKEN HER TO THAT SHRINE/CHURCH AT THAT UNGODLY HOUR, THE TRUTH BE TOLD.
MY SISTERS, NO MAN WILL EVER RAPE A GIRL IN AN OPEN PLACE, THE GIRL MAY HAVE GONE TO WHERE SHE SHOULD HAVE AVOIDED BEFORE RAPE CAN OCCUR.
GIRLS USE YOUR COMMON SENSE TO PREVENT RAPE.
GOD SAVE ALL !!!
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 12:38pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Generalnomercy:Do women and girls plan to get raped?So how exactly should they be responsible in this context.You are sounding like a rape enabler.
Insecurity is insecurity everywhere in the world irrespective of male or female involvementThe topic is about rape and women are mostly the victims even men also but women are more disadvantaged and get shamed for being raped your comment is a clear example.
It's not about the men but about common sense and fallen moral standards.It is being perpetrated by men so it is about them and their failed moral standard and lack of commonsense.Is there a venue to where rapist are found that you are saying they find themselves in wrong places.
You will always finds girls doing what they're not supposed to be doing.Uncle what are they supposed to be doing? Are you to tell them what to do.So in the closed place they are in women should not feel safe abi?Instead of you to denounce these rapisr you are busy sounding like a rape apologist and blaming women?what right do they have to rape and kill her.What are you saying abeg?So she cannot even feel safe in church the house of God again so where exactly can a woman feel safe in this country.I am lost for words with what I am reading.I am yet to see where you have condemned rape culture in Nigeria ooo.
NO GOD WILL SAVE YOU FIRST
You should be saved first so that people with your line of reasoning will not be justified to rape people since it is the lady's fault for being there in the first place.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ishilove: 12:42pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Nobody should even mention male rape here.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 12:51pm On Jun 01, 2020|
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Nobody: 1:09pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ishilove:Why? And we really want to curb Female rape?
Do you know that most male rapist are psychologically disturb lots,some of whom form their sexual orientations from past molestations by Aunties and Maids ? A molested male child will grow to be a rapist because that was what he was exposed to while growing (although not in all cases) But it is interwoven.
Until we are able to read what goes on in a Rapist mind we may never be able to find solutions. The best we will all do is to scream and rant like what we have been seeing everywhere.
We need to fight RAPE across all genders ! And yes Men get rape too!
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 1:15pm On Jun 01, 2020|
READ THE ROOM, SIR
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Generalnomercy: 1:24pm On Jun 01, 2020|
It's your choice to live a carefree life and you pay the price.
You hate advice but the same you also blame men, why?
Go wear your thinking cap to enable your common sense because it appears deactivated.
You can as well go to an uncompleted building in your neighborhood to study by midnight today, come back tommorow and blame men.
Common sense should teach you that safety comes first. Have you not been visiting different men ? Did they rape you? That's to show you that not "all men" are rapists, the same way not " all women" live a carefree life.
Since there is no way to identify a rapist, the best way is to be cautious, but unfortunately the breed of females we have in this age always throw caution to the wind.
Inasmuch as I discourage such wicked act, the women should take responsibility for once.
Women should propose stringent laws against rape of both sexes and sponsor it at the national assembly.
Rape cases have always ended up in favour of the rapists, do you know why?
Position of the law is simple: "WHY DID YOU GO THERE IF YOU DON'T " WANT" IT?
YOU AS A WOMAN, HAVE TO PROVE BEYOND EVERY REASONABLE DOUBT THAT IT WAS NOT CONSENSUAL.
My NGO have been fighting for woman with such cases for over ten years now and I know the resources that has gone into that, and from my experience, Prevention remains the best law for now.
INDEED YOU NEED HELP OF GOD.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Twoclans(f): 1:32pm On Jun 01, 2020|
They have already started mentioning male rape,some are even asking why she had to go to the church at such an ungodly hour to read as if they were there when it all happened.
In as much as I fear rape and understand the scar it can cause my greatest fear is for people who are rape apologist and enablers. They are everywhere on nairaland and to imagine that nairaland is to some extent a reflection of the society we find ourselves .Waohhh
I just have this funny feeling the rapist is on nairaland.. This behaviour from majority of the male monikers cannot be ordinary .
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 1:38pm On Jun 01, 2020|
You are yarning rubbish.For the sake of my sanity I will not reply a rape enabler who thinks people plan to be raped and know where rapist are GOD HELP YOU YOU NEED HELP
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 2:01pm On Jun 01, 2020|
The problem with people is that they DON'T READ. They just gloss over things, and rush to type
The few who read, have COMPREHENSION issues.
Now, if these men, that are embarrassing their gender, READ and COMPREHENDED my post, they would know not to post their trash opinions here.
If you have been molested as a man, please, I BEG YOU, START YOUR OWN THREAD. It is still your brothers that will laugh at you, because men feel little to no empathy for rape victims. They will victim blame with their full chest.
How Can someone who cannot empathise with a victim, ever understand what they are going through?
I take God beg una, if you are too lazy to read, find someone close to you that can read and understand, and beg them to translate for you.
Don't come to my thread and advertise your idiocy, because I have read enough nonsense over the last 24 hours+, and I cannot stand to read more.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Nobody: 2:06pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Here's the truth to all these, unless you all can seat and reason logically and not emotionally,you or rather We may never overcome this societal problem Rape or at least have a reduction in rape cases. Unless you lots go beyond ranting, typing long Epistles on social media or engaging in baseless arguments on Nl (which ends after few days and everyone goes back to their normal lives) We may never head anywhere.
When I saw Vera thread ,I was close to tears.It hurts and no one deserves that. But has that ever changed the fact that such is likely to happen again? It will, and like "We" always do, There will be uproar, we will rant, create threads,type theoritically correct Epistles, celebrities will REACT,Pastors will pray, Offenders would be punished and then we will go back to our normal lives until another case of million cases finds it's way on the internet again then we will have a repetition of the whole process.Please who are we decieving? . Until we understand the roots and address the issue, We may never get anywhere. And since most perpetrators are MEN. Isn't it wise to try to get into the minds of these people then profer solutions rather than issue unrealistic commands Online? Or getting to understand why they do what they do than create gender wars and man hating threads and opinions? I wonder where it has all got us all these years.
The world is bad enough, bad people are everywhere both Men and Women. Getting all emotional and spewing words that only last a moment won't get us ANYWHERE!
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:09pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Until you women stand up against women raping young boys and men I could give zero fvcks if women are raped, you women thought them how to rape remember, starting from when you women touch the small boys sexually.
Zero fvcks given, zero fvcks taken. If you don't like my post you can commit suicide
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:12pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ariza:I like this girl, you are the most sensible female nairalander.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ishilove: 2:12pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Twoclans:Rape is a horrible, horrible thing to do to anyone but how anyone with their thinking faculties complete will ask why she went to a church to be alone shows they are deeply and irretrievably rotten.
Ariza, I will like to know if there are cases of male rape where the men get beaten to an inch of their lives or killed during the ordeal.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:16pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ishilove:I mentioned it already, I will always mention it because it's important.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Chinwe4real(f): 2:16pm On Jun 01, 2020|
You're stupid. Very stupid. There is no justification for rape. What about girls that were raped in the safety of their homes?
You're simply a rape apologists that has no sense of empathy
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 2:17pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Women will STAND for Women
Women will still STAND for MEN.
What exactly are you doing as a living being then? You cannot protect your daughters, you cannot protect your sons, then WHY THE F*#K ARE YOU ALIVE?
These are the premium men, that Nairaland guys think women are missing out on.
What is your purpose, since women basically have to fight for all genders?
All the school your parents sent you to, and you're still senseless. They should have flushed you down the drain and saved the world from this idiocy.
Nigerian Men CALL YOURSELVES TO ORDER
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:18pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ariza:So what exactly is your point dear?
She talked about Nigerian men and the fact that girls are being raped by men.I am sure the OP's talk is related to Nigeria and horrible news about rape which women are victims of.
The OP did not intend to bring in gender war she only brought her topic to the Nigerian setting where women are being raped?So what is your anger with the topic?
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:19pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ariza:This girl, you too get sense, leave all these emotional women alone, let them keep ranting, let them not tackle the root of the problem. I laugh at their stupidity
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Chinwe4real(f): 2:20pm On Jun 01, 2020|
You're mentally deranged, dear. I pity the women in your lives, dear.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Nobody: 2:21pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ishilove:I know of a case and heard of another where a Guy was gang raped till he FAINTED! Two cases. They could have died. But then you know what my reaction was then? I laughed! Yea.... I laughed and asked what led the man there. And I was told one was a bike man who went to ask for his pay when the lady he took delayed in returning. This thing happen but because the society like I did will laugh at such occurrence most are covered.
Now if you understand what rape victim pass through, you will understand why we have lots of rapist around. The only difference is, Most female rape victims do not have the exact strength to inflict on their counterparts what they went through, a luxury the Males enjoy. See I'm not downplaying Female rape, it's gruesome and not a nice experience.But I just believe we ought to do away with these emotional outbursts we see everywhere when such case happen and seek real solutions. That's my point.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:23pm On Jun 01, 2020|
BigJoe19:Ok male rape happens in Nigeria and perpetrated by who men or women?Answer this question.
I will never downplay male rape but how many men have come out to say they were raped and want justice?Is it not your fellow men that will laugh at them and shame them calling them SIMP's?
The fact that male rape happens does it mean that we should not take female rape seriously especially as it is women that are mostly victims of rape?
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:25pm On Jun 01, 2020|
safarigirl:Women laugh at men who get raped, women are not saints they just hate being on the victim but like being the perpetrators of the wickedness, spare us your sermons, if you can't speak about males getting raped, then you are not against rape, you are just a bloody attention seeker.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:27pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ladyhippolyta88:Until you females speak about male rape too we also give zero fvcks about female rape, it's a 50/50 stuff.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:32pm On Jun 01, 2020|
safarigirl:Men have been fighting against female rape since it's high time men demand same from the women, except women agree they are lower beings than men
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by Ladyhippolyta88(f): 2:32pm On Jun 01, 2020|
BigJoe19:Because the abuses are 50/50 and how many men exactly?
We don't need your FK's now run along.
You are yarning dust.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:33pm On Jun 01, 2020|
safarigirl:You are fool for calling me senseless, I stated my opinion you can commit suicide idiot.
|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by safarigirl(f): 2:33pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Give Me 10 women that have laughed at men being raped and I will give you 100 men that have laughed at men getting raped.
Nigerian men are so useless, the bill to amend the definition of rape in Nigerian law, to include boys, was sponsored by a woman- Oluremi Tinubu. If it is to sponsor bills for child marriage now, that is where you will see men.
You have boldly admitted to how useless you are to your entire family and loved ones as a man, and you are still quoting me. Somebody will rape your daughter and you will sit by and wait for her mother to defend her honor. A proper waste of space.
May you never birth a child, if you won't defend their honor when it is stolen.
And, yes, I am VERY EMOTIONAL.
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|Re: Nigerian Men, Call Yourselves To Order! by BigJoe19: 2:34pm On Jun 01, 2020|
Ladyhippolyta88:If you don't need my fvck why reply me, you are a Titanic fool.
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