Justbehave:
So he should allow her waste her life because she is not his daughter?

Amotolongbo:
We should learn how to separate business from personal life.

She is your sales girl, relate with her strictly on business and show less concern on her personal life.

The way I’m reading your message, there is already a growing emotion in you already towards the girl, the reason you felt so highly disappointed and wanna lay her off, not because she is underperforming but the way she chose to live her life, which should be less of your concern.

In as much she is performing her responsibilities to your satisfaction and not using her “wayward” life to affect your business like she did the first time she went for abortion, leave her alone.

The only reason why you can lay her off is if she goes on abortion again and that makes her to take a time out of work and underperforming.

jidxin:
but you will have to prove it to them

WeRblessed:



I don't argue with chauvinistic pigs. Obviously, your education did not ever taught you what personal space means.

luluosas:
OP, I empathize with you.
Well, don't you ever fire her as a result of her waywardness in her private life, especially if she is performing on her job. And yes, you didn't make any wrong by assessing her Facebook Messenger, as this action has actually caught her unawares and exposing her true personality.
This is why Christianity is NOT BY GOING TO CHURCH, CARRYING A BIBLE OR TYING YOUR HAIR, it is what you are in private, not the false pretence you present in the public.
Good morning all

stanliwise:
For people to behave differently is not the watch work of the adviser but the sole aim of the adviser is to help orient people of the consequences of their actions and create awareness.

You still don’t understand me

stormborn28:
it is you that don't understand... You don't know some people are bent on self destruction? A typical case is pharaoh. God even told Moses I know he won't allow you to go

stanliwise:
Like I have been saying your goal to advise people is not to save them from destruction but to create awareness. Not all people indulging in bad things are always bad. Some are just ignorance and full of youthful exuberance.
Creating awareness could help give a better mindset and maybe just maybe a change would happen.

stormborn28:
thank God you are also seeing it from my perspective. It is not that I don't advice like you advocated but over the years of my experience with girls... The moment you give them advice especially teenagers to stay away from relationships, you automatically become their number one enemy.. They will even stay away from you. Na day

MoodyQueen:
She'll appreciate you if you mind your business.

Grandmeister:

Another irrational pseudo social justice warrior...you just learnt a new word(chauvinist) recently I guess? You're a spawn of a Morally bankrupt generation...

WeRblessed:




Another jobless, frustrated, hungry, dirty, smelly, Nigerian bastard. Even if you fast and pray and fast for eternity, you nor your generation will never be at my level. You think everyone that comment on NL is Nigerian or as dumb as you? I comment on the truth when I see one, and those are my openions. People like you is the reason why an uneducated illiterate dullard is your president. That is why your country is backward and messed up. If someone like you can speak up for the oppressed or defend their rights without pulling people down, your country would go a long way in fighting human rights abuse. But unfortunately, you dont know any better. What a scum bag and lower than low of a man. I'll rather have a dog as a family member than someone like you. Next time you see my comment please stay clear, because I only discuss with intellectuals and not a backward and low life scum like you.

BlueAir:
And they will have to prove I did it. who do u think you are talking to? Or am I too lame to get a lawyer or know the law? Mr Man she was my employee not my ward.and she's fully adult under the law and that's probably what compelled her further into her chosen life

Ebenezer2O2O:
shut up

jidxin:
now my point is why would you wanna go tru all this stress

BabaJoe001:


If you think 21 is not a Minor, then you shouldnt had given that last Advice. Seems you are confused yourself. 21 is not yet Matured. Many shit we did in our early 20s that we not proud of and we had wished we had someone who could advise us then

Grandmeister:

It's not even the Christianity angle...let me play a scenario (which has happened all too often) that has led many innocent men to jail..
1. The girl dies during an abortion
2. The grieving family will ask questions and demand answers.
3. They will involve the police.
4. The police will want to know the known male acquaintance(s) of the deceased girl.
5. They will obviously come to the Op as a male the deceased comes in contact almost daily.
6. They will invite the Op to the station for statement (e don enter police matter like play)
7. He might be detained for further information( now he has become a suspect in accessory to murder)
8. The media might get the gist and it will read '21 YEAR OLD SALES GIRL DEAD AFTER ABORTION, BOSS IMPLICATED'.....
It will take a very good lawyer to extricate the Op from such legal ditch...if you have been to the prisons you will know this is an all too familiar story.

luluosas:
You are really not making any sense because you failed to view the matter from the angle the OP does. Who cares whatever you choose to do with your life, but don't ever pretend and lead people into rating you high when you are actually the lowest of all. Take care

obentenyson:
your head dey there jare. All this privacy invasion nonsense that some people are shouting is thrash... The girl using her boss phone to do something private is wrong in the first place. If some took your phone without your knowledge n log in to fb. Then u pickup the phone n use it to log in to fb n u noticed that there is something different it is normal for one to want to look in to the inbox of the person who used your phone. For all we know the person maybe planning something against you. If it was her phone that the boas took n then check her fb then he has gone past his boundaries

Ariza:
I had to ask ni, abi who shows special treatment and likeness, who discuss a woman to his wife ,who gives extra money to employee and could only think of sacking her when he found out who she really is?

Lemme answer: One who has a crush .. but then we live in a world full of sanctimonious people. So Op is clean and only assuming a fatherly role until he is caught doing otherwise.


Everybody go dey alright...las Las.

LastProphet:


I don't even know where to start from to address you. But take note that reading someone's messages is a violation of privacy and it can be sued for though maybe not here. I'm an employer of labor and a management consultant so this is not a jambite or Malian talking pls.

I don't know why Nigerians adoot this big brother attitude even where they are not invited. Does the OP know how many times his own daughter has aborted? His younger sister? And even you that's typing do you know the REAL MOTIVATIONS of the OP? And you again do you know how many abortions you might pay for in the future? Yes tell me those church yen yen yen, you haven't seen anything yet. We have caught pastors aborting who never imagined they'd share street with someone who does. Learning to mind your business never goes wrong.

coolhumble:
I fear your mouth well i think OP was just reacting according to the trust he has in her and the respect he has for her for being decent and devoted Christian. OP is not a man like me, no matter how much i trust you i will always keep hollow space for disappointment or unexpected event. Am i too sensitive?

maasoap:


Keep deceiving yourself. Like you have never read anyone else's messages before. Mind you, his phone.



That's why you now have liveable society

lefulefu:
he is a naive young man.that a girl can speak in tongues and be in the spirit is nothing.those ones wey dey carry church for head na dem dey fuk pass .any man who know this one is naive .

Michelle55:
The earlier we learn to mind our business, the better it would be for us all..
Op, simply turn a blind eye like nothing happened, you don't have any right to snoop around her like that.. You are only her boss not her parents