Biodun1929:
I have so many. Damn! I was so shy back in the day and thought that was how I will be forever.

Imagine, I was on my own jejely in year one, reading my book and minding my business. Although I had a girl I used to talk to, but just as a friend. Then one day, the girl's friend came to meet me and asked why I haven't asked the girl out. What?? I said. And the girl said her friend likes me that I should ask her out after classes.

That's how my heart started beating. Lol. Girl that I normally talk to on a regular was now making my leg shake, and making me sweat like Christmas goat. The girl even asked me what was wrong with me. Lol. That's how I opened my mouth and said with shaky voice, 'bimpe said I should ask you out.' Worst day of my life. Lol! The girl started avoiding me after that incidence.

Before then, I wasn't good with toasting girls, but after that, I had a crazy phobia and never approached a girl again. Till one day, I had shoulder pain cos I used to carry a lot of books in my bag...I went to see the doctor, and he gave me some drugs to use. Men! I don't know if cocaine was part of the drugs, but my confidence on that day was on another level. I was standing on my corridor in our department when one fine girl I could have never opened my mouth to talk to passed by and I just said, hey come here. And the girl answered me. I was shocked. I started talking to her, flowing, and the girl was smiling and flowing with me. I was like, WTF, so it is this easy? From that day, things started changing small small.

jakizio42:


But guy year one for crying out loud what where you thinking even my bro in js2 can't do that

myles16:



Was just being sarcastic, actually it has always been like that, even my ss1-3 was like that

myles16:



Asin she even sat at the VIP table with my place empty, I could see her face mehn, she was fukin lonely...I pitied her even tho I was the one that put her in that situation with nothing I could do....
She wouldn't have bought the gown in the 1st place, she would have stayed home jeje...I stressed her

Prinsola:
My Shyness won't even let me walk up to a girl talk less of toasting her. I'm 26+ now and I'm still battling with that. My life is even becoming boring day by day.

I'm seriously regretting it but wetin I go do when there's no one to help

ume1000:
What if girls come Waka jam this thread

Albertone:
How about those who don't know what to say?

Any help

jakizio42:

But the girl was so strong to even still talk to you again o and you were so wicked you know how girls are am sure she started planning for it since her js3 chai such a pity

jakizio42:

Azin ehn me sef i neva see. She tok say she get boyfriend she still con kiss am abi me no read am well
Nna but who am i to judge who am i

myles16:



Asin she even sat at the VIP table with my place empty, I could see her face mehn, she was fukin lonely...I pitied her even tho I was the one that put her in that situation with nothing I could do....
She wouldn't have bought the gown in the 1st place, she would have stayed home jeje...I stressed her

jakizio42:

Azin ehn me sef i neva see. She tok say she get boyfriend she still con kiss am abi me no read am well
[b]Nna but who am i to judge who am [/b]i

boyjo:

Eyaah..if she know na shyness cause am, she for waka come down from the table come meet you, lock hand with you and lead you the table.
She no know.

majamajic:
I still wonder how some one shy to toast a girl , in fact toasting is my hobby , I do it for fun .
Toasting a girl inside a group of girls is not cool , but if u want to, first start playing with the ugliest among them , then u can switch to the one u like.
Instead of u to run for that girl , u for go ask her ' pls I want join a group in this church, pls recommend for me a group ,
Whatever answer she gave u , say thanks and go . Then perfect everything next Sunday
Church toasting is very easy , try salon toasting

Lifeisnotfair:
Where do I even start from? My own shyness is out of this world. There're many experiences I've had but I think this one was by far the worse. I remember my second year in school I saw one girl like that and wanted to form James Bond in front of my friends, I asked my friend to call her for me and he did.

When she was coming closer to where we was standing, it was as if the world has suddenly come to an end, everywhere became very dark in my eyes like I was going blind, I was shaking, sweating and breathing very fast at the same time. Very hot tears started coming from my eyes.

She finally got to where I was standing, I didn't know how these words came out of my mouth "I just wanted to greet you" and she said okay, waited for some minutes and then she left because the silence was like a graveyard. Till forever my extremely low self-esteem would not even allow me say hi to any girl talk more of toasting her.

Life is not fair oo!!!

GreaterDC:
abeg o, na so life treat me.

gowonmaharajah:
i don't pray this happens to a shy nigga just like it did to me.after working on my confidence, rehearsing some pick up lines.

I have got this gal who usually comes to my dept to read after days' lectures.really good looking,seemed porshe .first day sighting her,i was struck.What a beauty!
told ma my close pal about her and knowing the type of guy I am. I appreciate fine girl miles away but won't dare approach em.
ma guy sha dey boost my morale to do the do buh this shyness won't leave me oo.
when I determined on taking action,telling her how much how attracted
I was to her...Omo,I'd just relapse.
I wanted to surprise myself one day.rehearsed some words that could get her attention.seated in a corner flipping thru her book, naso I carry myself go meet this babe.
me:hello,can I disturb you for a moment?
that my approach was a big mistake.I shouldn't have used that line as a startup.
naso de girl look me puzzlingly oo.
her:you say what?
I repeated my initial statement. Omo,naso de girl gimme all this kind attitude. talked to me as if I was a kiddo or smthng
sensed she was nt gonna hear me.I just walked out there in shame oo.
my confidence was damned bruised.e pain me o

I do see her on campus sha.

2018PROFSUNDAY:
Ok now she's a bread that's why you're toasting her. The word WOO is the correct word to be use.for example I wooed Cynthia yesterday night.

Biodun1929:


Lol @ 'lilly-livered.'

By the way, I already wrote my story. Diary of a Shy College Kid. It is in the Literature section, but not under this my moniker. I have another account dedicated to my stories (Kayo80). You can check it out if you are interested.

StChivalry:

Share me the link. That would be better.
I think u outgrew your unnatural shyness when u entered tertiary school.
Women are humans meant to complement us, men. We should not get frightened by them.

HazardMan:

No worry, when e reach time for you to marry village people go help you settle that matter

miracood:
I'm 19. The first time I asked a girl out was 2wks to my 19th birthday and it was under funny circumstances


On this faithful day, I was on the staircase that leads to my lecture room, when I saw my guy with a very beautiful girl.

She's from my department, and I've seen her for sometimes tho.. my mind was never in to her..


That faithful day on the staircase, I jokingly told her I liked her... She was like.. really??

She asked about my gf... I told her I had no gf...

Naso relationship begin.. she even gave me the first sex in my life... before her, I've never asked any girl out before... But after she accepted me, it gave me confidence to ask other girls out.

Albertone:
Wow!This kind of scenario is very rare!

How old is she?

dumininu01:
Just be confident,make eye contact n no frown o before u approach her, start by approaching ladies you don't like so the pressure won't be great as you don't need to worry about rejection or embarrassment
On what to say it depends on how you met her... If she wears a nice gown or has a nice hairstyle You can say u like it and want to recommend it for someone... I think someone said it here too... I once met a lady at the market and approached her and said it's my first time of coming here she should help me out... From there it lead to other discussions and I collected her number... So it depends

miracood:
20

Albertone:
She didn't mind the age difference or she didn't know she is older??

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright

Toasting woman na the easiest thing on planet earth

Just start with wetin them dey like talk about. Just think of anything them dey interested in
For example
Just first tell her say
Girl this hairstyles looks good on you. What is the name let me recommend it for some one
She will definitely answer you because body go sweet her for the compliment
Where have u been all this while ma guy...me sef na shy guy and e be like say u na professional and u go don cancel like 2 million yanshes with wetin ur post so

Then try to go further into hair styles
Probably name some hairstyles for her and try to make her educate you about it
Rihanna, bob Marley, kinky ball, twisting, side path, crotchet, braiding, chuku

Almost every lady dey like this discussion and they will be happy to enlighten you.
Like play like play discussion don start
You as a shy niggarrr supposed know what to do next because she will be so free at heart talking about it

miracood:
she had no clue I'm 19.

I'm a tall slim fella

Albertone:
I thought as much cos many girls don't want to date someone they are older than.

So I'm guessing you lied about your age or you guys never talked about age ish.