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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Gloriagee(f): 3:30pm On Jun 20, 2020
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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Gloriagee(f): 3:32pm On Jun 20, 2020
You know someone that wants to teach people morals. I read one today n the writer even said he confirmed the story by himself.

Ishilove:

Shey I no tok am?

I wonder who composes all these stories.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Ishilove: 3:33pm On Jun 20, 2020
Gloriagee:
You know someone that wants to teach people morals. I read one today n the writer even said he confirmed the story by himself.

And then social media shares it. Let us hope people will learn from the lessons.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 3:43pm On Jun 20, 2020
Fountainofyouth:



Because she endured years of bullshit right? Naso.
No. Because she had the heart to remain humble in spite of her riches, and forgive him in spite of his stupidity.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 3:45pm On Jun 20, 2020
cococandy:


Surprise me smiley
If given the chance I def will wink
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 3:50pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

No. Because she had the heart to remain humble in spite of her riches, and forgive him in spite of his stupidity.


No. Because she endured 12 miserable years of nonsense, that is you guys definition of "rare gem" and "heart of gold". A virtuous woman to you guys is one who can endure and enjoy being miserable. We all know the tune y'all sing here, so don't try to be smart by half.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 3:58pm On Jun 20, 2020
Fountainofyouth:



No. Because she endured 12 miserable years of nonsense, that is you guys definition of "rare gem" and "heart of gold". A virtuous woman to you guys is one who can endure and enjoy being miserable. We all know the tune y'all sing here, so don't try to be smart by half.
Whatever rocks you boat lady.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 4:01pm On Jun 20, 2020
cococandy:




Not that rare.Many such women abound. Many many.
You’re only believing this because it’s coming from a man’s perspective. Because that’s the only person you would believe.

If the woman in this story had come forward to complain about the man and the man while still in his unrepentant state countered her accusations, y’alls default position would be to doubt her.


In fact, they will be asking for the man's side of the story, very anyhow people, especially that dominusprime.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Fountainofyouth(f): 4:01pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

Whatever rocks you boat lady.


Yeah run as usual.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Mariangeles: 4:05pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

No. Because she had the heart to remain humble in spite of her riches, and forgive him in spite of his stupidity.

Forgiveness is one thing, but can one ever trust such a person again with their emotions? Always wondering if he's back to his old acts every time he gets moody or angry...
The man too on his part will be too careful not to offend.
Things will certainly never be the same again.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by cococandy(f): 4:06pm On Jun 20, 2020
Fountainofyouth:



In fact, they will be asking for the man's side of the story, very anyhow people,.

We all know this

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by cococandy(f): 4:06pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

If given the chance I def will wink
okay smiley
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 4:13pm On Jun 20, 2020
Mariangeles:


Forgiveness is one thing, but can one ever trust such a person again with their emotions? Always wondering if he's back to his old acts every time he gets moody or angry...
The man too on his part will be too careful not to offend.
Things will certainly never be the same again.
Exactly. Trust once damaged changes a lot of things. She might even later get angry at all he did.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 4:14pm On Jun 20, 2020
cococandy:
okay smiley
Just checked. You are a married woman...let me come and be going...lol... grin
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Mariangeles: 4:20pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

Exactly. Trust once damaged changes a lot of things. She might even later get angry at all he did.
On point.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 4:23pm On Jun 20, 2020
There are terrible men, there are terrible women who go to make terrible spouses.

There are men whose dreams have gone down the drain because they have to go for what makes money for the family than their passion.

I have seen men take insults from younger people like bread and butter because they have a family to feed.

I have seen men turn down greater opportunities because it would keep them from their families for extended periods.

I don't know where these stories about marriages all doom and gloom for women is coming from.

Life itself is a bed of roses with thorns and that translates to every aspect of life: marriage, parenting, work, schooling, religion, extra-curricular activities.

If you can't put your spouse first and be wise enough to marry a spouse who would put you first, don't bother with marriage.

If you can't figure out what your dreams are and marry someone in line with them, don't put the blame of your lack of productivity/fulfillment on your spouse.

I have women around me who are married with kids and achieve what they set for themselves: no matter how mundane or lofty.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Mariangeles: 4:38pm On Jun 20, 2020
bukatyne:
There are terrible men, there are terrible women who go to make terrible spouses.

There are men whose dreams have gone down the drain because they have to go for what makes money for the family than their passion.

I have seen men take insults from younger people like bread and butter because they have a family to feed.

I have seen men turn down greater opportunities because it would keep them from their families for extended periods.

I don't know where these stories about marriages all doom and gloom for women is coming from.

Life itself is a bed of roses with thorns and that translates to every aspect of life: marriage, parenting, work, schooling, religion, extra-curricular activities.

If you can't put your spouse first and be wise enough to marry a spouse who would put you first, don't bother with marriage.

If you can't figure out what your dreams are and marry someone in line with them, don't put the blame of your lack of productivity/fulfillment on your spouse.

I have women around me who are married with kids and achieve what they set for themselves: no matter how mundane or lofty.



People change.
The person you think you knew very well and married might turn out to be a stranger you barely even recognize. Even some people don't recognize who they become later in life, let alone...
I'm very sure the man in the story wasn't always that way until his wife became more successful than him. I bet he himself never knew that side of him.
Nobody has it all figured out.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by cococandy(f): 4:42pm On Jun 20, 2020
DominusPrime:

Just checked. You are a married woman...let me come and be going...lol... grin

I don’t see how that affects the topic of discussion

But okay

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DominusPrime: 4:46pm On Jun 20, 2020
cococandy:


I don’t see how that affects the topic of discussion

But okay
Let's just say in had other things in mind wink
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by LordKO(m): 4:46pm On Jun 20, 2020
bukatyne:
There are terrible men, there are terrible women who go to make terrible spouses.

There are men whose dreams have gone down the drain because they have to go for what makes money for the family than their passion.

I have seen men take insults from younger people like bread and butter because they have a family to feed.

I have seen men turn down greater opportunities because it would keep them from their families for extended periods.

I don't know where these stories about marriages all doom and gloom for women is coming from.

Life itself is a bed of roses with thorns and that translates to every aspect of life: marriage, parenting, work, schooling, religion, extra-curricular activities.

If you can't put your spouse first and be wise enough to marry a spouse who would put you first, don't bother with marriage.

If you can't figure out what your dreams are and marry someone in line with them, don't put the blame of your lack of productivity/fulfillment on your spouse.

I have women around me who are married with kids and achieve what they set for themselves: no matter how mundane or lofty.


Honour will never elude you anywhere you go.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 4:57pm On Jun 20, 2020
LordKO:


Honour will never elude you anywhere you go.


My brother, I claim it.

Amen.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 5:10pm On Jun 20, 2020
Mariangeles:


People change.
The person you think you knew very well and married might turn out to be a stranger you barely even recognize. Even some people don't recognize who they become later in life, let alone...
I'm very sure the man in the story wasn't always that way until his wife became more successful than him. I bet he himself never knew that side of him.
Nobody has it all figured out.

This is lazy man's (woman's) thinking.

People don't change, they manifest and EVERYONE already has their attitude/behaviour formed in them.

The problem is that we look at people's behaviours in silos and not holistically.

For instance, a low self-esteemed person will manifest it in bullying or timidity; someone who is not content will manifest it in greed, selfishness, envy, jealousy etc.

Now imagine someone surprised that her jealous husband turns greedy twenty years later or a husband surprised that his masturbation addicted wife loves porn.

My people will say a man that smokes and drinks would womanize grin sure there are exceptions (some men womanize without drinking or smoking; some others smoke and wouldn't touch alcohol or women; some others would drink and think smokers are evil bla bla).

Every behaviour has markers, has traces.

Saying nobody has everything figured out while true is leaving a lot to chance and absorbing them of responsibilities of due diligence.

A man like the OP is easy to detect; they are plenty at my place of work and at school. A male class mate gathered courage to tell me he couldn't marry a girl like me ( I was with my husband then) because I was too ambitious.

Others (male & female) were not so bold and shunned when I did maths tutorials, when I joined my husband to learn some programming language for my final year project or upturned their noses when I said I wanted to form my final year project and not pick a topic done before.

At work, they are plenty with 'I don't like career women' even though they want to marry a working wife. This means they have an internal thresh hold the woman MUST not cross.

Mariangles, by everyone's fruits, you will know them. Observe, listen, perceive, trust your intuition... you will see.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Klass99(f): 8:01pm On Jun 20, 2020
Bukatyne were you around in the days of Debrief?

Did you follow her story? Did you see her ex-husband's version which basically corroborated everything she had been saying?
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 9:12pm On Jun 20, 2020
Klass99:
Bukatyne were you around in the days of Debrief?

Did you follow her story? Did you see her ex-husband's version which basically corroborated everything she had been saying?


I did not follow her ex-husband's version of the events.

Would you be kind enough to bring out your point?

I don't like dragging members' family if they did not table their matter.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DonroxyII: 9:16pm On Jun 20, 2020
bukatyne:
Interesting thread.

Thank God the wife did not let the killjoy husband derail her.

There is a need for an overhaul in how we train our kids.

I remember speaking to a child some years back and asking the random 'what do you want to be in future' question.

And she said a nurse.

'A doctor you mean?' I corrected.

'No, women are nurses and not doctors. So she is going to be a nurse.' Replied her mother.

Omo, I weak.

Hopefully, the author would pass his insight to his kids.
How would someone desire to be a Nurse and you corrected her to be "Doctor" .... No difference between you and her mama Both of you did the same thing in different form.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Ybaby: 9:33pm On Jun 20, 2020
You have managed to push down your true feelings.... well done!

The only solution is to work harder than your wife. In marriage there is the male and there is the female for polarity to take place.

Your wife has done nothing wrong but you have now taken on the female role because of your lack of ambition and zest for hardwork.

Do something about it or the underlying issues will keep popping up.... which is lack of polarity.
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 9:53pm On Jun 20, 2020
DonroxyII:
How would someone desire to be a Nurse and you corrected her to be "Doctor" .... No difference between you and her mama Both of you did the same thing in different form.

Five year olds desire to be different things at different times.

Last I remembered, at that age, they can only grasp general concepts of occupation e.g. Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Banker, Pilot, Teacher etc.

If she told me she wanted to be a neurosurgeon, I would be amazed and go on to ask what she knew about NS at 5.

Nobody said nursing is bad or lower/worse off than a Doctor, I only pointed out that she wants to be a nurse because her mother feels doctorship is reserved for only men and the highest a girl can be is a nurse.

If she said she wanted to be a nurse because Nurse Titi at the hospital is kind to her, I would given her a high five and told her to thank Nurse Titi on her next visit. undecided

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Klass99(f): 10:06pm On Jun 20, 2020
bukatyne:


I did not follow her ex-husband's version of the events.

Would you be kind enough to bring out your point?

I don't like dragging members' family if they did not table their matter.

My concern wasn't with dragging anyone's family member either, it was to make a point.

But the point will be entirely lost on you, since you are unaware of the ex's version/full story, so I will die the matter here.

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by Mariangeles: 10:07pm On Jun 20, 2020
bukatyne:


Five year olds desire to be different things at different times.

Last I remembered, at that age, they can only grasp general concepts of occupation e.g. Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Banker, Pilot, Teacher etc.

If she told me she wanted to be a neurosurgeon, I would be amazed and go on to ask what she knew about NS at 5.

Nobody said nursing is bad or lower/worse off than a Doctor, I only pointed out that she wants to be a nurse because her mother feels doctorship is reserved for only men and the highest a girl can be is a nurse.

If she said she wanted to be a nurse because Nurse Titi at the hospital is kind to her, I would given her a high five and told her to thank Nurse Titi on her next visit. undecided

Well, the question you should have asked her was why she wanted to be a nurse, then listened to what she had to say

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Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by DonroxyII: 11:00am On Jun 21, 2020
bukatyne:


Five year olds desire to be different things at different times.

Last I remembered, at that age, they can only grasp general concepts of occupation e.g. Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Banker, Pilot, Teacher etc.

If she told me she wanted to be a neurosurgeon, I would be amazed and go on to ask what she knew about NS at 5.

Nobody said nursing is bad or lower/worse off than a Doctor, I only pointed out that she wants to be a nurse because her mother feels doctorship is reserved for only men and the highest a girl can be is a nurse.

If she said she wanted to be a nurse because Nurse Titi at the hospital is kind to her, I would given her a high five and told her to thank Nurse Titi on her next visit. undecided
Now I understand better ... I'm sorry for my outburst.... She choosed Nurse due to her Mom's philosophy..... She may even end up being a Lawyer grin ....

I choosed Newscaster as a Kid ... due to watching Cyril Stober, Fatima Abass Hassan, Eugenia Abu, Aisha Katung later Bello, Tokunbo Ajayi (RIP) .... I still love them all with deep passion cheesy ... I'm even having goose pimples right now grin

As a Teen promoted to SS1, the day my counselor recommended me to Art Class, at that point , I told her to post me to commercial class and I'm an accountant today ... I made on the spot decision for a boy that carried Newscaster for head since like 5/6years old ... That's because the best TV I had as a kid was NTA and mom always made me watch NTA news grin


Today, anytime I watch Channels TV and I see Chamberlain, Seun Okinbaloye...... I always see what I was supposed to be...

I'm about to be Chartered Anyway with B.sc and M.sc in Accounting !!
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by r0sy247(f): 8:12am On Jun 23, 2020
Fountainofyouth:



In fact, they will be asking for the man's side of the story, very anyhow people, especially that dominusprime.
meanwhile enjoy your ban while it lasts grin
I believe when your ban expires you'll learn how to talk on a public forum
Re: My Encounter With My Successful Wife by bukatyne(f): 8:24am On Jun 23, 2020
DonroxyII:
Now I understand better ... I'm sorry for my outburst.... She choosed Nurse due to her Mom's philosophy..... She may even end up being a Lawyer grin ....

I choosed Newscaster as a Kid ... due to watching Cyril Stober, Fatima Abass Hassan, Eugenia Abu, Aisha Katung later Bello, Tokunbo Ajayi (RIP) .... I still love them all with deep passion cheesy ... I'm even having goose pimples right now grin

As a Teen promoted to SS1, the day my counselor recommended me to Art Class, at that point , I told her to post me to commercial class and I'm an accountant today ... I made on the spot decision for a boy that carried Newscaster for head since like 5/6years old ... That's because the best TV I had as a kid was NTA and mom always made me watch NTA news grin


Today, anytime I watch Channels TV and I see Chamberlain, Seun Okinbaloye...... I always see what I was supposed to be...

I'm about to be Chartered Anyway with B.sc and M.sc in Accounting !!

Honestly, five year old want to be anything that catches their fancy.

Congratulations accatant. smiley

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