kurupt1:
Yeah ,especially when women are looking for a rich man in a country where 70% of the population are poor .And most young men are struggling.

Stephenomozzy:
Immediately a person takes their mind away from material aspects of life, it eases the possibility of finding a partner.

Sometimes, our expectations are so unrealistic that we can only have the kind of partners we want in dreams.

If you want perfect, without putting effort to build (i.e not getting to know a person who likes you and see if you may actually like them on closer look), then first be perfect yourself.

Swtbabyvee:
To me many men in Nigeria do not hv future ambition , atleast a man should hv a job or little business and private placehe stays.. All those men are said to be taken and the jobless and lazy ones r the ones everywhere or yahoo boys. Or would u expect a matured sister old enough for marriage to date an undergraduate? Someone without a job ? Even if she’s jobless. The building part to me is the riskiest investment a woman can make , and even if she chooses to take the risk, the man should also hv something doing regardless.

Samadhii:
In my own opinion, the hardest thing to acquire is a job as a fresh graduate. I don't know if I'm the only one :PIn my own opinion, the hardest thing to acquire is a job as a fresh graduate. I don't know if I'm the only one

kurupt1:


The building part is the riskest part?
See una mentality? So u want a man to build and sweat and u just pack into his life without building with him?
This is not how the older generation saw life.Most women then started from scratch with their husbands!
Continue to look for who has built,let you park in .What a lazy mentality
Do you know what it means when you are someone's wife?

donbachi:
Today is sunday,stop misleading people..u had all time to choose or make amends.but u did not.not like they weren't coming,they sure did.but greed and love for material things didn't let them you/them see mr right.as for the guys.they allowed their love or lust for big nyansh and breast to over cloud their sense of beholding true beauty of a woman..they were busy doing fine boy and curvy girl..na time don pass.u come nairaland dey encourage ur sef...u better behave.

Swtbabyvee:
every woman old enough for marriage is looking for a stable home for her kids , u all hv to understand that.

Swtbabyvee:
To me many men in Nigeria do not hv future ambition , atleast a man should hv a job or little business and private placehe stays.. All those men are said to be taken and the jobless and lazy ones r the ones everywhere or yahoo boys. Or would u expect a matured sister old enough for marriage to date an undergraduate? Someone without a job ? Even if she’s jobless. The building part to me is the riskiest investment a woman can make , and even if she chooses to take the risk, the man should also hv something doing regardless.

Swtbabyvee:
to me there are jobs everywhere, just that many guys hv a standard they want and money they want , forgetting that many people started from somewhere . If u are looking for a 20k job u would see one in weeks .

PUSSYHOE:
can you marry a man with 20k job? stop the hypocrisy abeg, it is your thread for God sake!

Swtbabyvee:
to me there are jobs everywhere, just that many guys hv a standard they want and money they want , forgetting that many people started from somewhere . If u are looking for a 20k job u would see one in weeks .

Swtbabyvee:
nope but it’s still better than being jobless right? Some women can build with that . While u look for better jobs

Swtbabyvee:
Having a partner seems to be one of the hardest things to get right now. That companionship and friendship, someone to call, someone who calls and care for you , it ain’t easy. Especially for women. U can set ur mind on any other thing and achieve it but no matter how u twist ur standard to be more accommodating, that does not assure you of anything , yeah it’s sad and frustrating sometimes , who u like won’t like you , the ones who like you u don’t like them, and people u decided to be with disappointed you . I feel ur pain and know exactly how u feel.

To my single sisters and brothers out there, just know that u are doing ur best , and it’s not ur fault . “Na the way u see life u go take am” U may never hv a partner, hv that at the back of ur mind, and stay far from depression and desperation, You are a complete human being with or without a partner, be close to God and take care of urself , You are not the only one with these issues . Cheers .

PUSSYHOE:


what do you mean by "u look for better jobs"? I asked you a question you answered why assumed I am in that category.

you see hypocrisy and selfishness? some women but not you, you can't but some women should.

Swtbabyvee:
To me many men in Nigeria do not hv future ambition , atleast a man should hv a job or little business and private placehe stays.. All those men are said to be taken and the jobless and lazy ones r the ones everywhere or yahoo boys. Or would u expect a matured sister old enough for marriage to date an undergraduate? Someone without a job ? Even if she’s jobless. The building part to me is the riskiest investment a woman can make , and even if she chooses to take the risk, the man should also hv something doing regardless.

ednut1:
stop contradicting your self. Can a man on 20k salary think of marriage. The situation of the country is deteriorating. If a woman has money and her bf is poor nothing wrong in her being the bread winner. That is why there are many ladies over 35 singles and frustrated. Majority are looking for men that can give them big Cinderella marriage. Una go tey for una papa house o. If the desirable is not available the available is becomes desirable. If u no gree u either stay single or become old cargo

Stephenomozzy:

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How did she get to be liked by the so called useless, immature and jobless ones?(I don't mean being toasted/wooed). Work on yourself and surround yourself with people of like minds, build a circle and live your life.. You'll surely find someone who at least ticks some of your boxes.
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All human endeavors are with their risks, love and loving is not any different. Men take a risk to love just as much as you think woman may be taking a high risk.

To say many men in Nigeria don't have ambition is an insult and a biased narrative. That a man is not pushing for what you would term a blue collar profession doesnt make him any less ambitious. Everyone has a defined hustle that they're pushing for (legal things of course)

Swtbabyvee:
so singles should wallow in sadness, they shouldn’t be encouraged? Why ? Because u think it’s their fault . Are there not guys who get that big ass they want and are in a stable relationship? Are there not women who focus on material things and are with the men of their dreams, I had a friend who was extremely materialistic. If u don’t hv money don’t go close to her , I was even advising her to take it easy , right now she’s engaged to a financial stable man and they hv a son . So please there is no formula. Life is life , it’s unpredictable

Swtbabyvee:

Swtbabyvee:
do u know how many men dump the so called women that built with them ? That’s the risk I am talking about . And like I said even if the woman wqnts to take the risk he also needs to hv something doing.

Swtbabyvee:
will u give ur sister this advice?

Stephenomozzy:


Very immature.

Swtbabyvee:
do u know how many men dump the so called women that built with them ? That’s the risk I am talking about . And like I said even if the woman wqnts to take the risk he also needs to hv something doing.

donbachi:
my sister,morning is for breakfast and not dinner and dem no dey fine black goat for nite..mind u,most of the married people.dat married for material things,nyansh and breast are regretting it...cheating here and there is as a result of marrying for something dat is not love...they are also wallowing in sadness...may GOD give u speed in life as u fine a life partner,prosper u and give u,ur own kids..have a nice Sunday...labonita.