omega25red:

i like that boyfriend of yours he has been listening to the advice i have been giving to men. Never marry someone who brings nothing to the table.  

On a serious note i can certainly understand his stance because you as a woman probably wouldn't be willing to marry a man who has an upstart business that is not making millions yet. <<<am i right? so turn around is gair game!!! there is nothing wrong in a man asking you to have a steady job before he marries you no body wants a liability.

I TOTALLY AGREE WITH YOU . WOMEN ARE QUICK TO CONDEMN THE MAN for making such demand .What if it is tha other way round. Will any woman be willing to marry a man that is not making much in his business.

The truth is not all business people are making much compare to paid employment.

In-fact some people are TOO LAZY to keep their 8 hours job, so they resign to start a so called business where they earn far less than their former income.

slovenia:

thanks all for the advice.
i relocated to be closer to him because when i had a job he kept pleading with me to transfer to be closer to him so that we could get married, so i felt that since i didnt have any restriction anymore i should make the sacrifice. i relocated and rented my apartment with my money and furnished it myself. i dont beg him for money. he earns over 300k monthly but the highest amount he has ever given me is 20k. i take pride in achieving for myself
i didnt know that love is tied to a 9 to 5 job. so im wondering if i had a 9 to 5 job and we got married and i lost the job then will d marriage be on hold till i get another one?
well i think its beta for me to leave him now and focus on my business.
maybe i will find a man who will love me job or not.

@ poster

I will like you to look at your option very well. What you need is better communication with him .

A lot of people leave their job to start business, but it all crumble due to economic realities.

You need to understand his FEARS ABOUT BUSINESS.

Well, if you leave him. He will surely get him-self a wife.

Its your choice.

do you luv the guy ? then get a job or ask him to get one for you , period

some people can lie and the worse still to themselves.

slovenia:

thanks all for the advice.
i relocated to be closer to him because when i had a job he kept pleading with me to transfer to be closer to him so that we could get married, so i felt that since i didnt have any restriction anymore i should make the sacrifice. i relocated and rented my apartment with my money and furnished it myself. i dont beg him for money. he earns over 300k monthly but the highest amount he has ever given me is 20k. i take pride in achieving for myself
i didnt know that love is tied to a 9 to 5 job. so im wondering if i had a 9 to 5 job and we got married and i lost the job then will d marriage be on hold till i get another one?
well i think its beta for me to leave him now and focus on my business.
maybe i will find a man who will love me job or not.

dear poster u have made the best decision more grease to your elbows.

slovenia:

thanks all for the advice.
i relocated to be closer to him because when i had a job he kept pleading with me to transfer to be closer to him so that we could get married, so i felt that since i didnt have any restriction anymore i should make the sacrifice. i relocated and rented my apartment with my money and furnished it myself. i dont beg him for money. he earns over 300k monthly but the highest amount he has ever given me is 20k. i take pride in achieving for myself
i didnt know that love is tied to a 9 to 5 job. so im wondering if i had a 9 to 5 job and we got married and i lost the job then will d marriage be on hold till i get another one?
well i think its beta for me to leave him now and focus on my business.
maybe i will find a man who will love me job or not.

Goodgirl

Girl, work your business up or get a job but for whatever reason why you do it please let it not be about him. Do it for yourself, only you matter the most.

Let me ask you this question, say you get a job or the business thing works and you guys get married, what will then happen when the business collapses or you get chucked out of a job?