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Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 4:35pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back. My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with. What do you think guys? Should i quit my job or the marriage idea? 2 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Sweetboy96: 4:40pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
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Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by SweetCunt97(f): 4:43pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
Sorry is ya name. You go turn boyboy after 2 months when she gets tired of carrying you. Lalasticlala this young man needs advice o. 13 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by SweetCunt97(f): 4:46pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
hesilo:Do you wanna b at the mercy of a woman? Anyways if you can get a job over there and you are sure she's a good woman, go for it. Remember na online things and I doubt you know her real character 9 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by GreatMage: 4:52pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
I can't believe an IT professional is actually saying this In the world of Information Technology... There are no boundaries! 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by thesicilian: 5:11pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
Being at the mercy of a woman in a land where my parents are not around Sounds like your parents still control a great part of your life. Are you sure you are even ready to marry in the first place? 6 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Nobody: 6:20pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
Buy large plots of land before leaving O! Over there could be something else. 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by maxjax(m): 6:44pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
GreatMage: me sef still dey wonder o 3 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by maxjax(m): 6:51pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
hesilo: my 2cent advice....find your way to canada. IT job pays more over there and they are in high demand. after some months invite her over, Nurses are also in high demand in Canada 3 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by ecolime(m): 7:02pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
My younger brother took a similar step and he's better off for it today. Personally, I CAN'T take such a risk. Not all women can cope with a struggling man yet to find his feet. With bills to pay, love is not just enough oo. It's very dicey. Just pray about it and follow your heart. 10 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Twirelex: 7:05pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
hesilo:boss na corper I be, I dey PH like this but I never get PPA. I go really appreciate your assistance... 2 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Aimerosa25(f): 7:07pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
Follow your heart, ND do what's right for u. |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 8:57pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
SweetCunt97: Yeah...don't know her character much but she seems to be a nice girl tho. So ur advice is a no? |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 9:03pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
maxjax:Baba truth is that i have better opportunity in my current place of work and also kinda got a haunch to hit managerial position in time. Just wouldn't wanna go start serving white men perhaps have people I'm better than control me. |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by valentineuwakwe(m): 9:07pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
can your 400k give you job security tomorow? can it give you a good house, a good working space, take care of your immediate family n possible extended ones, can your salary keep away police intimidation n sars brutality? envy n juju from co staff or neighbours? guy, as an IT man, better job dey U.S. dey wait you..relocate fast fast. I dey Choba , pls I need job, incase you relocate 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by SweetCunt97(f): 9:15pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
hesilo:Capital NO. But you can try. |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by SweetCunt97(f): 9:16pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
valentineuwakwe:Yes. 400k will give him that. Do u know how many years he has been earning such? If he's diligent, he should have built his own house by now 7 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by SweetCunt97(f): 9:18pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
hesilo:Mr, stay here. Atleast no racial nonsense and you can enjoy your money. When you have much money, u can visit abroad for holidays whenever you want. Be here and send ur kids abroad. You mustn't live abroad for your kids to study there. 11 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Bola146(f): 9:35pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
As for me, it's very risky! Starting all over again there. Tell her to come and spend some days with you in Nigeria first, then follow your heart 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by baralatie(m): 9:52pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
you earn 400k per month in pH Nigeria and you are courting somebody who is lives across the Atlantic ocean! something is wrong somewhere 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Nobody: 10:16pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
if u said u were quitting your job for further studies overseas then i might understand but for saying u quitting ur job in naija cos u want to get married to a woman who is based in yankee means u lack focus. guy u need to have priorities and know the things that are important in life u marry this woman and she will now turn u to houseboy.ur job will be of washing plates and cleaning her car in the mornings b4 she goes to work and while she comes in the evenings u will now service her in za oza room.is that the kind of life u want for urself? 11 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by boom99(m): 10:22pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
A friend got married to his doc. Fiance. He left his good job and went to USA. They are doing well. If the girl is a good xtain u no go get issue 3 Likes |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by austine4real(m): 10:26pm On Jul 07, 2020 |
Think deep B4 u leave oo Abroad no be beans . If u going make sure u have saved enough just incase ..... Bros I need job oo I don't mind if it's 50k per month |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 11:14am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Bola146: She would be coming this November...Her family is abroad tho, but she said she would wanna come to spend sometime in Nigeria and we perhaps use the opportunity to bond too. She's spending the stay in Nigeria with me tho 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 11:16am On Jul 08, 2020 |
I really don't think that's what she wants tho. She's actually is the person who wants me to come over and has more encouraging words that i would get a job quicker since I'm in IT. I still get your point tho my only fear is going there to get a job where i will have to put in more effort to count. I already have gotten to a supervisory position here and would be heading for a higher position in no time, otherwise i would be considering her advice without a second thought lefulefu: 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 11:19am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Thank you i want to hear more of this kinda feedback so it would energize me. Thanks for sharing. boom99: |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by stanliwise(m): 11:21am On Jul 08, 2020 |
hesilo:Hook her on the neck too by telling her to get a ready job for you over there if it can't happen then omo run o |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Nobody: 11:25am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Your choice to make. 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 11:28am On Jul 08, 2020 |
Is anything wrong with that?....does boundaries hold relationships in today's world? In fact i actually met her while i was surfing the net in my office and we have been cool for the 8months now. So what's the heck? baralatie: 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 11:31am On Jul 08, 2020 |
stanliwise: Like is that even possible?....wouldn't i be interviewed?....how would it be achieved? |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by Ayemileto(m): 11:43am On Jul 08, 2020 |
hesilo: It's Possible. Interview can be done online. Just tell her to keep sending you open opportunities there. But what makes her think the US embassy will give you VIsa self? 1 Like |
Re: Quitting My Good Paying Job For Marriage Abroad? by hesilo(m): 12:39pm On Jul 08, 2020 |
Ayemileto: Like is it not possible for me to get a VISA if i'm married to her inclusive of the fact she's also a citizen. |
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