I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

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Sorry is ya name. You go turn boyboy after 2 months when she gets tired of carrying you.


Lalasticlala this young man needs advice o.

hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

Do you wanna b at the mercy of a woman? Anyways if you can get a job over there and you are sure she's a good woman, go for it. Remember na online things and I doubt you know her real character

I can't believe an IT professional is actually saying this

In the world of Information Technology...
There are no boundaries!

Being at the mercy of a woman in a land where my parents are not around

Sounds like your parents still control a great part of your life. Are you sure you are even ready to marry in the first place?

Buy large plots of land before leaving O! Over there could be something else.

GreatMage:
I can't believe an IT professional is actually saying this

In the world of Information Technology...
There are no boundaries!

me sef still dey wonder o

hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

my 2cent advice....find your way to canada. IT job pays more over there and they are in high demand. after some months invite her over, Nurses are also in high demand in Canada

My younger brother took a similar step and he's better off for it today.

Personally, I CAN'T take such a risk. Not all women can cope with a struggling man yet to find his feet. With bills to pay, love is not just enough oo.

It's very dicey. Just pray about it and follow your heart.

hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. ?

boss na corper I be, I dey PH like this but I never get PPA. I go really appreciate your assistance...

Follow your heart, ND do what's right for u.

SweetCunt97:
Do you wanna b at the mercy of a woman? Anyways if you can get a job over there and you are sure she's a good woman, go for it. Remember na online things and I doubt you know her real character

Yeah...don't know her character much but she seems to be a nice girl tho. So ur advice is a no?

maxjax:


me sef still dey wonder o

Baba truth is that i have better opportunity in my current place of work and also kinda got a haunch to hit managerial position in time. Just wouldn't wanna go start serving white men perhaps have people I'm better than control me.

can your 400k give you job security tomorow? can it give you a good house, a good working space, take care of your immediate family n possible extended ones, can your salary keep away police intimidation n sars brutality? envy n juju from co staff or neighbours?
guy, as an IT man, better job dey U.S. dey wait you..relocate fast fast.

I dey Choba , pls I need job, incase you relocate

hesilo:


Yeah...don't know her character much but she seems to be a nice girl tho. So ur advice is a no?

Capital NO. But you can try.

valentineuwakwe:
can your 400k give you job security tomorow? can it give you a good house, a good working space, take care of your immediate family n possible extended ones, can your salary keep away police intimidation n sars brutality? envy n juju from co staff or neighbours?
guy, as an IT man, better job dey U.S. dey wait you..relocate fast fast.

I dey Choba , pls I need job, incase you relocate

Yes. 400k will give him that. Do u know how many years he has been earning such? If he's diligent, he should have built his own house by now

hesilo:

Baba truth is that i have better opportunity in my current place of work and also kinda got a haunch to hit managerial position in time. Just wouldn't wanna go start serving white men perhaps have people I'm better than control me.

Mr, stay here. Atleast no racial nonsense and you can enjoy your money. When you have much money, u can visit abroad for holidays whenever you want. Be here and send ur kids abroad. You mustn't live abroad for your kids to study there.

As for me, it's very risky! Starting all over again there. Tell her to come and spend some days with you in Nigeria first, then follow your heart

you earn 400k per month in pH Nigeria and you are courting somebody who is lives across the Atlantic ocean!
something is wrong somewhere

if u said u were quitting your job for further studies overseas then i might understand but for saying u quitting ur job in naija cos u want to get married to a woman who is based in yankee means u lack focus.
guy u need to have priorities and know the things that are important in life
u marry this woman and she will now turn u to houseboy.ur job will be of washing plates and cleaning her car in the mornings b4 she goes to work
and while she comes in the evenings u will now service her in za oza room.is that the kind of life u want for urself?

A friend got married to his doc. Fiance. He left his good job and went to USA. They are doing well. If the girl is a good xtain u no go get issue

Think deep B4 u leave oo





Abroad no be beans .



If u going make sure u have saved enough just incase .....




Bros I need job oo


I don't mind if it's 50k per month

Bola146:
As for me, it's very risky! Starting all over again there. Tell her to come and spend some days with you in Nigeria first, then follow your heart

She would be coming this November...Her family is abroad tho, but she said she would wanna come to spend sometime in Nigeria and we perhaps use the opportunity to bond too. She's spending the stay in Nigeria with me tho

I really don't think that's what she wants tho. She's actually is the person who wants me to come over and has more encouraging words that i would get a job quicker since I'm in IT. I still get your point tho my only fear is going there to get a job where i will have to put in more effort to count. I already have gotten to a supervisory position here and would be heading for a higher position in no time, otherwise i would be considering her advice without a second thought

lefulefu:
if u said u were quitting your job for further studies overseas then i might understand but for saying u quitting ur job in naija cos u want to get married to a woman who is based in yankee means u lack focus.
guy u need to have priorities and know the things that are important in life
u marry this woman and she will now turn u to houseboy.ur job will be of washing plates and cleaning her car in the mornings b4 she goes to work
and while she comes in the evenings u will now service her in za oza room.is that the kind of life u want for urself?

Thank you i want to hear more of this kinda feedback so it would energize me. Thanks for sharing.

boom99:
A friend got married to his doc. Fiance. He left his good job and went to USA. They are doing well. If the girl is a good xtain u no go get issue

hesilo:
I am an IT proffessional who work in an Oil Servicing Company in Ph where i earn roughly 400k a month. However i have been in a relationship with this Nigerian American lady who's a nurse abroad and she's been asking me to come over to yankie so we could get married. I kinda told her i love the job i do in Nigeria and am comfortable staying back here. Meanwhile i had always wanted to marry an raise my kids abroad. Moreso, i told her that we could actually get married and she stay abroad while i stay in Nigeria, perhaps visit them from time to time. She told me she wouldn't want to stay away from her husband and that she's been alone for long and would want to marry and come back home to her husband everyday. I asked if it will be possible she relocated back to Nigeria and stay with me, she said no, that it's be better i come to the US were she stays and get another job. I am at dilema cos i sincerely love the lady and i think she does love me back.

My fear is going there to start all over agin, being at the mercy of a woman especially in a land where my parents ain't around, and perhaps not getting a good enough job to start up with.

What do you think guys?

Should i quit my job or the marriage idea?

Hook her on the neck too by telling her to get a ready job for you over there if it can't happen then omo run o

Your choice to make.

Is anything wrong with that?....does boundaries hold relationships in today's world? In fact i actually met her while i was surfing the net in my office and we have been cool for the 8months now. So what's the heck?

baralatie:
you earn 400k per month in pH Nigeria and you are courting somebody who is lives across the Atlantic ocean!
something is wrong somewhere

stanliwise:
Hook her on the neck too by telling her to get a ready job for you over there if it can't happen then omo run o

Like is that even possible?....wouldn't i be interviewed?....how would it be achieved?

hesilo:


Like is that even possible?....wouldn't i be interviewed?....how would it be achieved?

It's Possible.

Interview can be done online.

Just tell her to keep sending you open opportunities there.


But what makes her think the US embassy will give you VIsa self?

Ayemileto:


It's Possible.

Interview can be done online.

Just tell her to keep sending you open opportunities there.


But what makes her think the US embassy will give you VIsa self?

Like is it not possible for me to get a VISA if i'm married to her inclusive of the fact she's also a citizen.