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Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by mrchineke: 9:03pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
stanliwise: I hear you but las las whether my daughter is a giver or not I want her to be able to cater for herself. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 9:06pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
luminouz: You will not guilt trip me into anything I don’t care. I dated broke and stingy men that just took took and took. Never will I ever. I’m not saying one party should be a leach. There needs to be a balance and both people working together. The thing is people should just stick to their level. If you make 30k date someone who makes 30k. Both of you are up to par and one person is not using the other. It is not a crime to want someone who has their life in order when you have your life in order. Everyone has a spec. Just like you men specify the woman that you want in terms of looks. Nothing wrong with me desiring a successful man as I am successful. I will never let anyone guilt trip me. Instead of abusing me online go to work. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 9:07pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
mrchineke: You will not guilt trip me into anything I don’t care. I dated broke and stingy men that just took took and took. Never will I ever. I’m not saying one party should be a leach. There needs to be a balance and both people working together. The thing is people should just stick to their level. If you make 30k date someone who makes 30k. Both of you are up to par and one person is not using the other. It is not a crime to want someone who has their life in order when you have your life in order. Everyone has a spec. Just like you men specify the woman that you want in terms of looks. Nothing wrong with me desiring a successful man as I am successful. I will never let anyone guilt trip me. Instead of abusing me online go to work. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 9:13pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
luminouz: You will not guilt trip me into anything I don’t care. I dated broke and stingy men that just took took and took. Never will I ever. I’m not saying one party should be a leach. There needs to be a balance and both people working together. The thing is people should just stick to their level. If you make 30k date someone who makes 30k. Both of you are up to par and one person is not using the other. It is not a crime to want someone who has their life in order when you have your life in order. Everyone has a spec. Just like you men specify the woman that you want in terms of looks. Nothing wrong with me desiring a successful man as I am successful. I will never let anyone guilt trip me. Instead of abusing me online go to work. What do you term broke? Different translation to that one word. Why not ask what I meant? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by lexy2014: 9:17pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
luminouz: Bro, am glad u made d observation u made. I was also seeing it that way. D lady sixfeetbelle made nothing less than five posts. And in all d post she made on d subject, it was only about what her boyfriend is supposed to do for her. At no point did she even make d mistake of stating what she is supposed to do for her boyfriend. So as far she is concerned, a relationship is an avenue for her to meet her financial/material needs. D relationship exists because of her financial/material needs. Take a look at d following reasons y she is or wants to be in a relationship: "Dates, hangouts and meet ups at cinemas, etc. calls, car rides and texts, birthday messages and celebrations, random gifts and cash". She can't go to the cinema to catch a movie on her own. She needs a man to do it for her. She can't do her b'day without a man's money. She can't buy herself a gift without a man's money. She can't enter a taxi without a man's money. Infact, her whole life revolves around provision from a man. D most ludicrous of them all is d cash she put on d list. I had asked her several times that if she says she has a means of livelihood, y would she still depend on a man for cash if she isn't d epitome of an economic liability? D problem is that she feels she is entitled to all manner of financial, material & pecuniary gain from her boyfriend just because she is dating him. That is just a predatory mentality meant to suck d man dry. In all, she says that is a relationship even when she has no idea what she ought to contribute to enhancing d life of d guy 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Sixfeetbelle: 9:36pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
lexy2014: Your problem is lack of comprehension. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by lexy2014: 9:40pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: No it isn't. My comprehension is very intact except u are denying & disowning ur own comments or worst still u didn't comprehend what u wrote |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Sixfeetbelle: 9:44pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
lexy2014: It is, actually cause when you refuse to view the other persons point objectively, it makes you an unintelligent person. I do not wish to receive any mentions from you again on this thread. Good night. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Alexaonfleek: 9:54pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
Pelxmiye:Okay Thing is,a good number of guys don't know how to balance things up. We see some guys who cry about how they spend all their money on their girlfriends. Then again,there are guys like my ex too. How exactly do you invest in your woman? And how do you wish for your woman to invest in you? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by stanliwise(m): 9:56pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
mrchineke:no argument on that! It is a skill necessary for anyone who wants to be truely independent in the present world. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by lexy2014: 9:59pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
Sixfeetbelle: What has objectivity got to do with d discussion, with my comments or ur comments? Or did u just learn d word? So when it comes to intelligence, all ur intelligence put together isn't up to an atom of my unintelligence. Now u have received a mention from me on this thread against ur wish. What are u going to do about it? What can u do? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Alexaonfleek: 10:03pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
Pelxmiye:Well,you can't exactly blame us,we want to look good . That's where you'll have to 'shine your eyes' and look for who's truly interested in you and not the one looking for next atm machine. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by n1ky(f): 11:21pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
Pelxmiye: That is it, The situation is in two sides........ a guy that is not spending should not expect that ladies must be cooking and washing his clothes as a sign of wife materials.......... it goes hand in hand jare 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 11:23pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
lexy2014: You nailed it bro... |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 11:29pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: Lol...so according to your faith,when looking for a husband, he must be successful abi? What if God wants you to marry bro. Jude the hustler instead of bro.Tunde the rich guy? God sees the future right and he knows best for you but according to you myopia, you will think Tunde is better than Jude cuz he is more successful and there goes your marital happiness. The topic ain't even about broke till you added it,its been about stingy men and entitled women. I still maintain my stand. That you spent on your ex(for how long exactly) and making all this noise shows you hated being their destiny helper yet men do that and way more for women. I bet you never even paid your ex's house rent or school fees before and yet you no wan let us hear word I blame those exes for being lazy enough to depend on you though. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 11:32pm On Jul 17, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub:Lmaoooo... Nawa o...just because you achieved some success in life made you seem better than those exes? When you had nothing,I bet you were humble in church. Now,God has blessed you and you suddenly remember that others were broke and 'took,took and took from you', segregating yourself from them. I wonder what God thinks about that. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 12:27am On Jul 18, 2020 |
luminouz: You don’t know me. You are allowed to think the way you want |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 12:29am On Jul 18, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: I don't want to ma'am. I hope your philosophy works out for you even though I disagree with it |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 12:38am On Jul 18, 2020 |
luminouz: Insanity is doing the same thing and expecting different results. I have dated men who earn less than me about 3 times. They were always a burden. When I say he should not be broke I’m not saying he should have mind blowing money. If God allows it so be it. My husband should just earn more money than I do. I can’t date anyone who makes less as a lot of these men are intimidated by success and they become toxic and start calling you controlling and all these things/names you are not because of their own insecurity. One of them actually had money but he was selfish. There’s times I would send the sisters my own money for upkeep but not a kobo he ever gave me. He was not doing bad either but he was stingy. Sometimes rich and stingy go together just like broke and stingy can go to. Frankly you can think what you want. In the end God judge us all. This is my opinion and I’m sticking to it 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 1:02am On Jul 18, 2020 |
luminouz: You better get to work as no woman wants a lazy stingy man |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 1:06am On Jul 18, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: *sighs* You see where I have issues with you? You automatically assume I'm worthless because you presumed me to be lazy and stingy,just because I told you not to use your two bad experiences to judge all men. There are no assurances that the men in your social class will make you happy or sad and as a xtian,placing your hopes on status rather than God's direction is crazy. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 1:10am On Jul 18, 2020 |
luminouz: You are the one assuming it’s on status alone. Did I tell you that? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 1:12am On Jul 18, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: Then why say to me 'no woman loves a lazy and broke man'... Is that not presumptive that no woman will want me(worthless) because I'm broke and stingy? How is that not a status definition of what a woman wants? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 1:14am On Jul 18, 2020 |
luminouz: I’m sorry that you translated in that way. That’s not what I meant |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by luminouz(m): 1:28am On Jul 18, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: No need to apologize,I dont need it. Lemme tell you what I think of you: Based on my experiences with women offline and on NL, I think deep down,you're not a bad person and you got hurt by a man who was going through some self esteem issues and rubbed his insecurities on you. Your heart is soft and despite what you say, loving someone based on status is TRULY not what you want. You want your man to love and cherish you and you will move mountains for him. I see that quality about you and thats different from some of the other female posters. You posted from a position of a hurt heart and you ERRONEOUSLY thought those exes were like that because they were broke but nope. They treated you like that because they were insecure to begin with. A man who measures his own value based on material possessions is no alpha male. You could be way richer than me in real life but there is no way I'd feel insecure about that. I have such self confidence it scares women. I have always been like that all my life and I have gone through some real shiits in life(I have seen the dead,ghosts and I survived many betrayals and an attack by a lion), yet,I never lost my core(who I really am). But not all men or women can be like me. I have dated women who had nothing and rejected a senator's daughter who had everything. Decisions purely based on character and mindset because I know one fundamental part, being broke is a state anyone can get out from but your character/mindset is like your blood,its a part of who are. Experiences can shape us in some ways but so long you don't lose that core, you are overcome anything. I dont value people based on what they have but on who they are and I think you should do so too. I typed all these because I sense that you still have good in you. Dont lose it based on what others use to evaluate men/women. If status is all women want, I'd never be propositioned by wealthy married women,girls and even gays. One love 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by HeavenlyCherub(f): 2:03am On Jul 18, 2020 |
lexy2014: Some of you men say this but you want that same woman to cook for you and cater to your needs. Why is it hard to cater to the one you love, if she caters to you? 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 2:50am On Jul 18, 2020 |
Toks2008: you women are funny and cunning. 1. you say there is no love without giving...this is true. a man does not have only money to give...he gives attention, love, emotional support, care, protection etc. your post is predicated on the point that the only thing men have to give is MONEY, that is the whole premise of your argument. i hope you see how shallow this reasoning is. there are other things to give even when money is present. 2. you raise the argument that the measure of love is by the percentage that the man gives his woman financially in respect to his income...i call gold digger mentality. i say give as the need arises and what is necessary financially not as she demands. either way your argument is selfish to your perspective only 3. you say giving is a 2 way street, pray tell what women give to a man apart from emotional and intangible things. a woman does not have anything material or physical to give to a man except her body. which is fine if we only want to look at it from a man for money and a woman for sex p.s i understand the point you are trying to make but your points are really selfish...look at it from a man's point of view 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Keji1012(m): 7:36am On Jul 18, 2020 |
All these almanjiries in slay queens clothings go push many men into poverty. Minimum wage is 30k, all these girls will push you to spend all and still not satisfy then tag you stingy and use the opportunity to follow other men. Bro, you better go and get married, then if she decides to ruin your future, you have already featured her in that same future. 1 Like |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by Toks2008(m): 8:33am On Jul 18, 2020 |
ibkonekt: I am a Man, the problem is that many Males who claim to be men are actually boys in reality. You all want to see what you want to see and i am so appalled by the comments i have read from guys on this thread...my advice to them is to just remain single and not bother getting involved in any relationship...like wtf! so as a man are you saying you won't lavish your lady with material things once in while EVEN IF SHE DOES NOT ASK? What kind of mentality is that? Look at all you wrote and please read again and you may be tempted to delete the post....where did i write all you pointed out? But because you just want to twist the narrative to justify their stingy mindset. I think the problem with many guys is self-centeredness, complex issues and probably lack of money. If i decide to give my lady (and not just any lady i have no plans with) money or material things, i am doing it not because i want her to remain with me BUT BECAUSE I CHOSE TO DO IT. So if she lives tomorrow for another man it is no big deal to me cos i was not coarse by her. It is when a lady makes demand and the man starts giving her money like mugu that i had always been against(Check my previous threads). You guys should grow up biko. |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by ibkonekt(m): 9:36am On Jul 18, 2020 |
Toks2008:1. You definitely don’t sound like a man. 2. You are appalled right, so are others about you (you come across as confused) …. keep your emotions in check and make your point concisely. You really don’t have any right to advice other men whether to marry or not. it’s up to them and women that love them. Like I said I would give as it is necessary…. if it is necessary to lavish her then I will…. if it is necessary and she makes a case for it then I will…. if it is necessary I will do whatever. The difference here is the compulsion that you are adding to the scenario like it is some kind of Ritual. Maybe you should calm down and look at your own mentality. Anyone can be wrong. You could be wrong here (so could I). So stop saying WTF. That will not earn you points. Make clear points if you have any. 3. I quoted the post I responded to, if you read it then you would understand what I responded to. Maybe what you wanted to express came out in a different manner. Either way people have the right to disagree with you. Stop shouting wtf like you are rabid. 4. We all have problems as men and women, if you want to generalize we can go there. But I would prefer you use MOST guys…. because if the same analogy is used for women they will come and start saying NOT all women this and that. Either way all the rubbish you wrote about self-centeredness and complex issue and lack of money is just a cheap way of a simp trying to use shaming tactics to force his opinion on others. You make such claims when you cannot justify it, everybody has different standards as to what must be met before acting or doing something, either giving money, attention, emotions etc. Just because other men have higher standards does not make them stingy. It makes them principled. (again this is relative to the individual). Stop trying to apply your standard to all the men. Because that is what your post is attempting to accomplish. 5. It is your money spend it how you want on whatever woman you want, but don’t throw tantrums when you post something online and people respond negatively, once a word has gone public people have every right to comment and make their own take on the subject matter whether you agree or not. I think you are lost in the matrix 2 Likes |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by lexy2014: 9:36am On Jul 18, 2020 |
HeavenlyCherub: Who are d "you men" you are referring? Am I a men? What are d needs u are saying d men u are referring want women to cater for? Is there a reward for a lady because she cooked 4 her boyfriend? Pls what is d reward? |
Re: Dear Ladies, Please Avoid Stingy Guys. by lexy2014: 9:45am On Jul 18, 2020 |
Toks2008: I love d way ibkonekt responded to u as he was able to expose u for who u are. Ur use of emotional intimidation instead of facts have betrayed u a great deal. I asked u to define who a man is and who a boy is but u haven't been able to do that despite throwing d words around. Pls tell me which category does Reno omokri fall into by reason of this tweet: https://mobile.twitter.com/renoomokri/status/1232037526065602565? 1 Like |
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