Missy ★ B:

Why not? There's a reason it's called assumption.
Besides, that you think you would act in like manner as the poster doesn't flaw the assumption or cancel the possibility that a good number of you wouldn't do same thing, knowing full well that you'd be breaking your home rather than building it.

Idowuogbo:


i hate u

What did I do nao?

Missy ★ B:

Why not? There's a reason it's called assumption.
Besides, that you think you would act in like manner as the poster doesn't flaw the assumption or cancel the possibility that a good number of you wouldn't do same thing, knowing full well that you'd be breaking your home rather than building it.

Ujujoan:

You are still making assumptions . . .  because you don't know what people can or can't do!

Ujujoan:

How sure are you that the women condmening her here are not even doing the same thing she's doing     

Ujujoan:

Seriously, let be a little bit objective . . .  what does it take for a woman to cheat    
Absolutely nothing! Women cheat on faithful husbands sef not to talk of an ashewo one!  

spikedcylinder:

A good number of 'us' believe in bosom for tat, that is why 'our' opinion differs from yours and it is impossible for you to say what 'we' will do in the OP's shoes.

Missy ★ B:

I'm more certain that the women on this thread that are probably 'doing the same thing' are not married. Whilst it may be cool for these women, it isn't for this woman because hers is a marriage where a lot and probably kids are involved and not just a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where anything goes.

Ahahahahaahahah!!!!!!! This Missy B chick never see sontin. Go to Abuja and see things. Your jaw will drop and you will require tractor to come and help you pack it from the ground.
Gosh! I don laugh tire for here. Married women in Naija are no longer carrying last, best believe.

Ujujoan:

There is no denying the fact that them man is to blame here . . he takes full responsibility if anything goes wrong with her philandering because he pushed her to it . . .

For some reason, men think women are resilient and can take whatever they throw at them . . True women are! But there's not one of those women who's married to a serial womanizer who hasn't thought about revenge at least once!!!

Can you tell me how many young single men that are not womanizers I'll give them 40% of the male population or even less . . . but does that mean they should continue their indiscriminate lifestyle in their marital home

Please . . . . . we all have consciences, given to us to judge what is right and what is wrong!

This woman is hurting, she has tried it all and hubby is still the dog he has always being . . . she has decided to pay him back in his own coin, just to show him how much it hurts. That might be the wrong thing to do but before you guys condemn her, you might want to show a little sympathy for her . . . She didn't cause this for herself . . her husband did!

therese-83:

Am married to the most randiest of fellas. Truth is I knew ds while we where still dating. Then he wld rather I came to his plc on sunday evenings only for obvious reasons. Now we r married he still cheats on me and I recently discovered that the only way to cure this hurt is 2 cheat on him 2.
Guys pls advice. Say it all wv no restrictions.

spikedcylinder:

Ahahahahaahahah!!!!!!! This Missy B chick never see sontin. Go to Abuja and see things. Your jaw will drop and you will require tractor to come and help you pack it from the ground.
Gosh! I don laugh tire for here. Married women in Naija are no longer carrying last, best believe.

Missy ★ B:

This mouth you deh bend will cut commot one day.

It seems you don't get it. You call it assumption, I have no problem with it even though I like to think it's closer to being truth than a mere assumption. But, it's still fine to call it an assumption. . . I nor get prob with that.
I'm more certain that the women on this thread that are probably 'doing the same thing' are not married. Whilst it may be cool for these women, it isn't for this woman because hers is a marriage where a lot and probably kids are involved and not just a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship where anything goes.

I concur! It takes not too much to cheat but, common sense would make you evaluate the gains and losses before acting.
What I'm saying is most of you would rather try to gather the pieces of what's left and rebuild rather than take the ''let's kukuma spoil everything' option. Be objective as you implored me, Uju - What has she to gain if she cheats? The man whose attention she's trying to get back, may end up walking away if he finds out and she would be left with the same stain [a cheat]. Where lies the gain? If she's in Nigeria, who gets stigmatized?
There are other ways of dealing with a cheat other than cheating too.

Like they say, an eye for an eye and everyone goes blind.
Cool! I respect your opinion like I respect mine. You believe in bosom for tat, I believe that you don't. 

WackyJ1:

Okay he pushed her to it? Didn't you read the post well? He was a cheater before he married her so except he bundled her to the altar or started cheating after he married her(betraying her) then there was no pushing. Why is she not considering divorce? There's no good reason.
1. It could be because she has children with him but then if she did she wouldn't be thinking of cheating
2. She still cares about him but then why is she thinking of cheating.
Remember she said that she wants to cheat because it simply makes her feel better.
She may be sad because her man is a cheating scumbag but why is it that the best thing to do now is to cheat on him? If according to you "she's tried it all and the husband is the dog(BTW i do agree he's a dog) he's always been" then why did she marry him? Didn't she try everything before she married him or did she marry a cheater and then start trying after the marriage. You see it is easy to blame the man because he's the one that was called a cheater but the woman should come and answer the questions presented above.

Ujujoan:

My dear, I've heard it all and seen it all . , I'm not saying this lady is entirely blameless, but let's not forget to blame the man as well because the truth is that, he started it!

How many men have made promises . . . 'I'll change'! Do you think this poster didn't hear the same from him before she decided to give hi a chance?

But did he change? No! Instead he got worse . .

Does he expect her to turn a blind eye to it because she knew he was an ashewo before they got married?

How about he shows some respect now that the has a wife and a child to think about

Is she wrong to expect that from him

Ujujoan:

Don't mind her . . .

I dey laugh oh . . . .     

My dear, with the way things are going now, you should be counting the number of women who don't cheat, not the number that do cheat!     

Infact eh, I don see things tire, my eye wan drop. Go to NYSC camp/ law schools and universities and see what married women are doing . . not to talk of offices  . . . even for 'area' sef!

Me I don condemn tire so tey I no fit talk! Wetin I go do now . . .  na siddon look I dey!   

My point it that the whole idea of not cheating is not breaking a trust. When you know say the man no send, what's the incentive for not f***kin that cute hunk that has been turning you off since day 1!   

It takes the grace of God to resist, make no mistake about that!

Missy ★ B:

Frankly, I really can't make sense out of what you're saying, Uju.
Wettin consain me if women on planet Earth cheat on their respective husbands as a form of payback? Does that make cheating the soln? Is marriage a thing of vogue that, that which majority of married women do is what should stand? 

You condemn so tay they won you over. . . . Good for you but I refuse to change my opinion as, common sense wouldn't permit me.

If you wanted to hump every cute hunk available, why marry in the first place? How logical is it to do something that makes him run when you actually want him close? Should he impregnate a woman, would you also go out looking for someone to 'help you get pregnant', as a form of revenge? Please, get real!

Ujujoan:

You were busy claiming that your 'assumptions' were more of a fact . . . . that most of the women telling her to go ahead would not do the same thing! As if a married woman cheating was a big deal! 

Ujujoan:

You think it's by claiming hard girl here on NL? When you faced with reality, you'll definitely sing a different song!

Ujujoan:

And please don't put words into my mouth. I never said 'I was won over' . . . If you got that from my post, then you might need to hire an interpreter to interpret it to you!

Ujujoan:

If she decides to cheat on her husband as a form of revenge, I definitely won't come up with all these hypocritical comments you people are making. As if she just woke up one day and decided to cheat on a man that has being faithful to her . . . . . if you cheat on your wife, she'll cheat on you! Chikena!   

IMHO, this is karma!   

Ujujoan:

. .  even the bible says 'what you sow, you'll reap'! If you kill by the sword you'll die by the sword . . .

Missy ★ B:

It is a big deal!
It's called discipline not hardness. As for the second part of this comment, I laugh. 
You don vex? 
She knew he cheats before settling down with him. No? Lets leave that for now.
If this man committed Inbreeding with his mother thereby hurting the wife and also bringing shame upon the family, would it also be okay for her to do likewise because she's supposed to pay him in his own coin? Would you do likewise? 
Do not skew the meaning of that Bible verse, lady.

johnterry1:

[size=15pt]so u are cheating cos your man cheated.he will send u packing,mumu[/size]

bkrealqty:

i do not belive on husband sending his wife packing bcus immediately they get married every property of the husband becomes his wife likewise evry belonging of her wife bcoms his own therefore the house is not own by the man alone. this is for all women incase your husband send u packing, pls don't start packing your things home just enter the house as he is throwing your thing, do the same by throwing his things outside. wen he said leav my house tell him also leave my house.