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Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by cooltola(m): 4:16am On Jul 21, 2020 |
I have seen a household where the father was very present and active and the child ended up wayward in life. i have seen household where the father was very wayward , absent and the child turned out to be a responsible adult. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Rexnegro(m): 4:31am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise:quoting this for a reason , thanks op for sharing the obvious fact about nowadays fathers. thank you |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by kid7soccer(m): 4:53am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18:thank you dear. I lost my father when I was 6, even though growing up without him made things a bit difficult the memories of those 6years with him are just amazing for me. It's a shame op father and other fathers failed in their duty |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by kid7soccer(m): 4:56am On Jul 21, 2020 |
swiz123:God bless you again again. You nalied it |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by sharone21(f): 4:57am On Jul 21, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista: My dad is the BEST provider and BEST INVOLVED dad( apart from husband). He comes first to us ( both as kids or adults) even before mum. Una go bash feminists for being financially independent and still bash the ones that depends on man no matter how small- what do men like u really want from women? Anyway, Op is right....truth is bitter. 3 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by fredoooooo: 4:57am On Jul 21, 2020 |
TonyeBarcanista:They are all weak men, with weak mind . Emotional and Illogical. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 4:58am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1:You are too myopic to be a mother. The topic and content lacks maturity and it is baseless. Just like there are terrible fathers, there are also equal amount of terrible mothers. You are asking the fathers to bond with their kids jsut like the mother, you have asked the fathers to carry the pregnancy jsut the mothers na. Hissss |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by harrisonsbible: 4:58am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Nice topic;I think the most important thing in life is knowledge,and the application of this knowledge is called wisdom,which is profitable to direct. Marriage is an institution and in this company,the man is the CEO or the head as ordained by God.Every successful institution must have a plan and in this plan the roles are defined,therefore to succeed the parties must take up responsibility, No excuse. Whether caring or not, the responsibility to oversee tue success of the family has been given to the man by God.His Job is not for the children to like him but to raise or churn out responsible children with the fear of God. However, without team work from both parties they re already set for failure.I want to urge my friends here to see things constructively as our responses could be someone's solution instead of insults.. God bless you all. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by nelklyn(m): 5:50am On Jul 21, 2020 |
It’s mind-boggling how people get their statistics these days...Indomie generation Almost 20 years but I still miss my Dad. Man sent me to one of the best private Nur & Pri schools in Lag. Paid my tuition for the following term at the end of every current term, I was never sent away for fee. Made sure he stocked the house with foodstuffs, beverages e.t.c. I’d stay up at night to make sure I welcome him home from work...stubborn as he was but very hardworking man. Man would take me outing to the beach, isi ewu joints e.t.c on weekends, even gave me beer to sip once in a while. He arranged my first date I appreciate my mum as well, very hardworking woman. Though I tend to drift away from her, not calling for weeks but she understands me. She home-schooled me when I couldn’t spell, write and read. Dad assisted when I got older and they both made sure I maintained between 1st to 3rd position, else it was an ass whooping combo If you gat family issues deal with it...Irrelevance isn’t gender specific. I’ve seen kids who live with their mom but relate better with their dad living overseas due to their mum’s waywardness. I’ve also come across a mum who works as a fuel attendant just to provide for her kids seeing her husband is an irresponsible man. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by zedegit: 6:01am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18: Even if his father failed, it still doesn't invalidate his point. He spoke from an African perspective. Let him be. If your own father is an exception you don't have to drag him or go scavenging in the bin to counter him. Let peace reign. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by beyondPen(m): 6:05am On Jul 21, 2020 |
I never understood the relevancy of a dad in a kid's life until he died lately. And I started to reminisce over all the things he had done for me, places he took me to, how he groomed me up, people he took me to meet, how he gave me confidence on ways to hustle out on jobs, made me learn driving, how I always go to him for counselling of any sort be it in even in sex stuff(u no wat I mean) and how he taught me to make business deals. Fathers are so freaking important in the family. They are supermen of the family. Loose one like mine and your eye will be wide open, your brain will reset and you will feel your heart poped out of you. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 6:05am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Another thread to measure penis with vagina. It's probably only Nigerian men that whine and complain like this , so we should ask ourselves what Nigerian men are doing wrong. Grow a womb boys and stop whining. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Egoveen: 6:08am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18:YOU Sound so stupid. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 6:11am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Chimpretty:with regards to the bolded ,men from time have always done this, why are modern day men acting as if it just starting being a thing a century ago? Stop whining, even now modern women now share from the financial burden. Men of old had bigger responsibility but didn't whine and complain like these modern men ,na wah for una o. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 6:17am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ellasure:the bolded is a big lie, we will only make effort not be like dead beat fathers ,who's only achievement in life is to donate sperm. It's called breaking the circle. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by abbey621(m): 6:20am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: You made sense until the last part, men of nowadays are not seen as men until they send huge money on wedding, owns a car and buys a car for wifey, working towards owning a house, a job that makes at least 150k per month. In the old days , men could survive in their huts and live off the farm. Times are changing and we must not ignore men who are still able to provide for their family. Even if that's all that they do, they should still be appreciated because only those who have lost their fathers can truly appreciate the void it leaves, even a bad father is missed! 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 6:24am On Jul 21, 2020 |
abbey621:So you think men of old didn't do all that ? The value of a hut and cowries of their time is just the same as your naira now , again stop whining, geez! modern men are something else. Even now that women still contribute to the financial upkeep una still dey complain. . And no bad Fathers are not missed,their demise is a relief. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by abbey621(m): 6:25am On Jul 21, 2020 |
zedegit: I disagree, he said most fathers, so he's not speaking from a point of objectivity or any reasonable fact just sentimental bullshit! His points were so incoherent that it makes one wonder what type of childhood he had? I mean if he grew up with a fther that provided everything financially but he still regards his father as useless, does that not speak more of him than the father? Does that not make him look like a foolish child with no comprehension of the world he lives in today? |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by abbey621(m): 6:28am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: No they didn't! Thank God my grandfather is still alive, his stories of how things worked back then drastically differs from today. Whether you spin it left or right, there's no denying that we live in a more demanding world, peole want more and more, greed has replaced love and envy has replaced compassion. Women contribute but statistically speaking in 9ja, most households are still heavily dependent on the man. This is why the lifespan of the average 9ja man is way lower of that of the woman. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by emezuo17: 6:36am On Jul 21, 2020 |
xynerise:. My dear that is the fact oh, I work 28 on and off, I hardly and sometimes I look like a stranger to my kids, but I try to make up by staying at home with them as much as I could any time IAM in town, imagine my kids telling me mummy bought this and that for me, where as everything is paid by me, most times I have to tell them I actually have their mum the money. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Ladycewhy(f): 6:39am On Jul 21, 2020 |
abbey621:let me correct you there, the life span of the Nigerian man is lower largely due to life style and diet . Most men are not only irresponsible to their children but themselves too, eating rubbish,even to take drugs when they are sick na wahala,unlike women who know when they are sick ,no dinner for the entire house hold cos according to husband it's her duty to cook for him in sickness or in health . And let me also correct you that statistically speaking most women run the home financially, Nigerian women know how to massage the ego of their husbands alot,I know someone who still gives her entire salary to her jobless husband ( his neighbors think he is a self employed business man) . And lastly,how things worked back then doesn't change the work load, or you think it's easy to go to the farm? , if you think so,then you should go back to the village where life still looks like the scenerio your grandpa described to you. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by luvbeloved(m): 6:44am On Jul 21, 2020 |
swiz123:you are missing the point here sir..what OP is saying is that fathers of today need to strike a balance and participate a little in their children's upbringing |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Romangalactic(m): 6:51am On Jul 21, 2020 |
cococandy:Yes, because today there is feminism and gender equality unlike before. All hands on deck now,no more leeching 4 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by canDy4eva(f): 7:01am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by abbey621(m): 7:04am On Jul 21, 2020 |
Ladycewhy: I'm sorry to say but you're typing jargon! Men poor diet? Who cooks their food? Are the women eating differently from what they cooked? Tell me you're joking? Statistically speaking most women run the home financially? I DARE YOU TO FIND ONE FACTUAL BASED EVIDENCE TO SUPPORT YOUR STATEMENT? I'm not even going to argue with you, just go North and see how men with 2 or more wives are living, then come back here and tell me how the women are the ones supporting those men financially....LMAO! Finally I am talking about demands, you are talking about labor, two different things. Back then it was not the norm for a man to buy his wife a car, not the norm for children to attend private schools, not the norm to take care of one or all of your wife's siblings. Demands back then drastically differs from the expectations today. This is why more marriages crash today than in the past. Greed, demands and oversabi are things leading the modern man to quickly demise, a man that provides financially but is still called useless father sounds reasonable to you? This is what the OP was getting at, he called his father useless because all he did was provide financially�������. 1 Like |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by SweetyMarvel00(m): 7:04am On Jul 21, 2020 |
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Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by omakay(m): 7:05am On Jul 21, 2020 |
emezuo17: I think you and your wife should have a serious home management discussion. Because from the looks of things, your wife is hugging all the attention (it is not a deliberate act) and that is not right. Even when the children will 'naturally' accord all the praise to her because they see in the 'front-end' that she is the one handing them those those things, she should set the record straight atimes and direct the accolades to you even when you are absent at home. Because, in the 'back-end', you are the one actually providing those things. DESCRIPTION Mummy: Children, come and have these things. Children: Mummy, thank you. Mummy: Yes, and thank your daddy too. He is the one that got them for you. He thinks of you guys all the time. When you get back, the story will be: Children: Daddy, Daddy, welcome........ Thank you for the gift you bought for us. We love you. Now dont you think that would be a better narrative. 5 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Nobody: 7:07am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18: Your response proves him right! If this is how your parents taught you to respond to strangers (in the name of opinion), then they failed. It is ok to disagree with someone's opinion but to insult them for it shows lack of character, an emotional imbalance and a nasty attitude that will make anybody resent you on the spot. Let that sit or stand if it can. 2 Likes |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Rolexjerry(m): 7:13am On Jul 21, 2020 |
donstan18:Donstan, that guy is right in his assertion. Modern family celebrates mothers more than fathers. Musicians sing and praise their mothers at every opportunity, rarely will u hear a musician sing about his dad. Most of the time, I hear about successful children bringing home gifts such as cars to their mothers, and rarely do same to their fathers. The role of the father is hugely underrated and the earlier we realise this anomaly, the better. |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by canDy4eva(f): 7:19am On Jul 21, 2020 |
ImaIma1: Your sharing same opinion with the op na.... |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by omakay(m): 7:20am On Jul 21, 2020 |
I think at this point, we all need to answer these questions below. 1, Who is a FATHER? 2, Who is a MOTHER? 3, Who is a PARENT? 4, Does being a FATHER make you more or less of a PARENT? 5, Does being a MOTHER make you more or less of a PARENT? |
Re: Most Fathers Today Are Losing Relevance In The Family by Sebbs(m): 7:24am On Jul 21, 2020 |
True fact and I don't want to same mistake for myself . It is good if they love their mother more but hey make them love you too. No be say one day pikin go come how buy mama cereals give am beta beta and ending up giving you shinap make your dry d more |
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