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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by ibkonekt(m): 9:30pm On Jul 25, 2020
30naira:
Today, I attended a wedding ceremony. At the reception, the couple tried to maintain social distancing inside the reception hall, so there were limited seats. Most of the guests were in the open field outside. I sat behind two ladies, who should be in their mid or late twenties. I wasn't really paying much attention to them.

After a while, they left their seat and went out. After about 5 minutes two guys came, and sat down in the empty seats the ladies left. These guy are obviously in their early twenties.

About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

One of the ladies got frustrated by the indifference of the boys, grabbed a glass of juice from the table and threw the content at the guy's face. The guy in turn opened the entire can, got up and started pouring it on the girl's head, ruining her make up and soaking her weavon.

Next thing we saw, the girl grabbed him by the collar with both hands, tearing at his skin with her nails. Before you could say Jack, the guy started raining down slaps on her face, she fought back too.

Before we could rush down, the girl had a bleeding nose and a red swollen face.

Now this is the part that particular offended me. Everyone that gathered round started heaping insult on the boy for beating up a girl, despite the fact that she initiated physical contact. Some women even went as far as threatening to arrest the boy. The entire narrative changed quickly. Some stupid men even tried to beat up the boys. I stood my ground and insisted that if anybody lays a finger on the boy, I ll see to it that everybody is kicked out of the reception.

It took the intervention of the officiating minister to calm the crowd. Everyone was insisting that he would pay for the girl's medical bills. Funny thing is that the guy had finger marks all over his neck. She was sobbing and attracting sympathy left and right, as if she was not the one barking like an animal moments earlier. In the end, it was the guys that were kicked out, the girls had the seat.

I get confused about this gender equality stuff, women want to be treated like men and treated differently at the same time. You can't claim equality only when it suits you. If it were two guys fighting, I'm sure they ll both be kicked out and nobody will spare a thought for the injured, there ll be no sobbing or comforting, it ll just be seen as two people disturbing the peace. But everyone is suddenly acting up to protect an equal specie, who is also the offender, and the females see nothing wrong in this inequality

Do you want equality or not?
Personally I respect and treat everyone equally, but if you initiate physical contact, male or female I will retaliate with the same ferocity.
it is because society has indoctrinated men to act like simps by default

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 9:54pm On Jul 25, 2020
ademasta:
Hmmm undecided

Just consider yourself fighting with Yusuf Buhari, whether you are right or not, you will be dealt with by strong forces. That's how it plays out usually.

However, women are weaker vessels, no matter what transpires between you both, it will be perceived as if you are intentionally using naked powers on them. They will surely be listened to.

Have you considered great men that were thoroughly dealt with by women? Just because the man has bluntly refused her sex, probably in the office, and the next thing the woman would do is tear her own clothes to project rape. On this, never expect the man to be listened to. Both men and women will gather to condemn him.

The point is, women are stronger. Take it and be a man, or you leave it and be dealt with.

your reply has no heads or tails. it is built on a false premise.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 9:55pm On Jul 25, 2020
30naira:
Today, I attended a wedding ceremony. At the reception, the couple tried to maintain social distancing inside the reception hall, so there were limited seats. Most of the guests were in the open field outside. I sat behind two ladies, who should be in their mid or late twenties. I wasn't really paying much attention to them.

After a while, they left their seat and went out. After about 5 minutes two guys came, and sat down in the empty seats the ladies left. These guy are obviously in their early twenties.

About 30 minutes later, the two girls came back inside, I noticed that one of them has had a change of cloths. So obviously they went home and returned.

The girls demanded that the guys should leave the seat, because they got there first. It is their seat. As expected the guys bluntly refused. The girls started raising their voice and cursing. No one really cared to listen to them, the boys were busy consuming the drinks on the table.

One of the ladies got frustrated by the indifference of the boys, grabbed a glass of juice from the table and threw the content at the guy's face. The guy in turn opened the entire can, got up and started pouring it on the girl's head, ruining her make up and soaking her weavon.

Next thing we saw, the girl grabbed him by the collar with both hands, tearing at his skin with her nails. Before you could say Jack, the guy started raining down slaps on her face, she fought back too.

Before we could rush down, the girl had a bleeding nose and a red swollen face.

Now this is the part that particular offended me. Everyone that gathered round started heaping insult on the boy for beating up a girl, despite the fact that she initiated physical contact. Some women even went as far as threatening to arrest the boy. The entire narrative changed quickly. Some stupid men even tried to beat up the boys. I stood my ground and insisted that if anybody lays a finger on the boy, I ll see to it that everybody is kicked out of the reception.

It took the intervention of the officiating minister to calm the crowd. Everyone was insisting that he would pay for the girl's medical bills. Funny thing is that the guy had finger marks all over his neck. She was sobbing and attracting sympathy left and right, as if she was not the one barking like an animal moments earlier. In the end, it was the guys that were kicked out, the girls had the seat.

I get confused about this gender equality stuff, women want to be treated like men and treated differently at the same time. You can't claim equality only when it suits you. If it were two guys fighting, I'm sure they ll both be kicked out and nobody will spare a thought for the injured, there ll be no sobbing or comforting, it ll just be seen as two people disturbing the peace. But everyone is suddenly acting up to protect an equal specie, who is also the offender, and the females see nothing wrong in this inequality

Do you want equality or not?
Personally I respect and treat everyone equally, but if you initiate physical contact, male or female I will retaliate with the same ferocity.

i am glad you stood up for those boys.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 9:56pm On Jul 25, 2020
30naira:


But ladies can raise their hands on a man?

Co-ask oh!!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 9:57pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

You might think you are being a gentleman or whatever, but you are actually enabling and condoning violence against men.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 10:00pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.

Why shouldn't the lady be the one to walk away, especially in the case that the OP presented?

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 10:04pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:


Walkaway from any and every potential confrontation with a lady.

Then, you would always walk away all your life. At some point you are going to have to stand up for yourself

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by JONNYSPUTE(m): 10:06pm On Jul 25, 2020
....Nockmedia is a disgrace to men.
Continue walking away until you walk away no more.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 10:14pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

Simply ignore my comments, distinguished.

No wonder, you are from twitter.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 10:17pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

It applies to both gender.

No, it doesn't.
if it did, you would have stated it clearly. That statement about men not hitting women was designed for men alone not both genders, please dont try to twist things.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by ecstasy357(m): 10:24pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.

You obviously do not know the meaning of gender equality.

But if you dont believe in gender equality, then your point is valid

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by ecstasy357(m): 10:25pm On Jul 25, 2020
ademasta:
Hmmm undecided

Just consider yourself fighting with Yusuf Buhari, whether you are right or not, you will be dealt with by strong forces. That's how it plays out usually.

However, women are weaker vessels, no matter what transpires between you both, it will be perceived as if you are intentionally using naked powers on them. They will surely be listened to.

Have you considered great men that were thoroughly dealt with by women? Just because the man has bluntly refused her sex, probably in the office, and the next thing the woman would do is tear her own clothes to project rape. On this, never expect the man to be listened to. Both men and women will gather to condemn him.

The point is, women are stronger. Take it and be a man, or you leave it and be dealt with.

Sad reality, yet many men still want to give them more power

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by milliondollas(m): 10:30pm On Jul 25, 2020
THANK GOD THEY WILL NOT TRY SUCH SHIT WITH ME, IF NOT IN MY ANGER I WILL KILL HER INSTANTLY

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by angelfallz(m): 10:31pm On Jul 25, 2020
It is really ironic that some men advocate for walking away when it comes to confrontation with women, even when the woman hits first, while women advocate for men hitting back.
going through this thread i have seen a man saying those young men should have walked away, but on the same thread a lady said that the girl got what she deserved.
The irony is mind boggling.
I believe some men hate themselves and Some men just hate their own gender.

"if you have the strength to slap a man you should have the strength to also receive a slap from the man"

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Fidelismaria: 10:37pm On Jul 25, 2020

op thank you for standing up for the guy

Well-done


Entitled olosho fools everywhere



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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by TheManOfTheYear: 10:37pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
Abeg shut up.

Yen yen yen.
Even when she slap your mama, u go dey look am abi.
Mtcheew

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Chummynoni(m): 11:01pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
some girls can be very annoying bro, I dey tell u. if that guy hadn't retaliated, the lady wouldn't stop @just pouring d guy juice. I am 102% sure slaps might follow. even when u decided to walk away after the drama without retaliating, the idiot would still insult you despite the harassment. some ladies deserves iron hand

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by LagBae(f): 11:44pm On Jul 25, 2020
The girl was very wrong. Respect yourself if you want to be respected, whether male or female. Some ladies have taken this ''never hit a lady' for granted. You should never get physical whether male or female.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by drealcivilceno(m): 11:46pm On Jul 25, 2020
nexta007:


Our parents have failed woefully. If our parents were focused more on raising balanced kids who know their place and worth and are disciplined, we won't have such issues.

Guy you too much. I tell old people things and they never accept responsibility, not just family wise but as a country(deviated but it is needed).

You see the worst thing a person can do is never accept responsibility about the situation of things whether it was his fault.

A wise person will take that failure and turn it into gold no matter how long it takes.

I was taught by them, but never take cue.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 11:56pm On Jul 25, 2020
NockMedia:

Whenever a lady tries to get violent with you as a guy, the best thing to do is to walk away from the heat of the moment.
As a coward?? You have never seen a Amber Heard undecided

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 11:59pm On Jul 25, 2020
Anny505:


Fucking SIMP!!!
He is more of a coward tho!!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 12:02am On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

C'mon man, it doesn't work that way. We both know that ladies are the weaker sex. You're not only at a risk of severely hurting her but you also stand the chance of getting locked up. Regardless of whoever started the drama.
Weaker sex?? Nice joke!!

An angry woman who daze you with slap, will destroy your self esteem!!

Let's see who end up 'weaker'

Don't be a coward please!!

Do you have a Sister?? She never do her gra gra come your side??

Never promote abuse tolerance, it is irritating!!!

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 12:03am On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

You care too much about what others think of you. It is okay to be self-aware but the right thing to do is to avoid a retaliation or an escalation of the drama, and report her to a higher authority. You can go to the police station and make a complaint.
Theory grin

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 12:04am On Jul 26, 2020
stanliwise:
Very true at some point someone has to leave else one can harm one. As a guy I always leave first. But if a girl slaps me once I will return just one equal slaps before I back out.
Slap given quickly... stanliwise cool

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Slynation(m): 12:10am On Jul 26, 2020
NockMedia:

I am not trying to justify what the lady did, but never raise your hand on a lady as a man. Don't.
Yea... But the problem is that some Ladies are capitalizing on this slogan not knowing some men no get joy...
Some scenario can make you drop your manners at home...

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 12:11am On Jul 26, 2020
Blacckrod:
Walk away from anyone (be it male or female) who tries to pick a fight with you. It is obvious they lack self respect and in my opinion they are the lesser being regardless of the gender undecided
Walk out with a juice spill on your shirt? grin grin

You are not on point cool

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by Nobody: 12:12am On Jul 26, 2020
ojuu4u:
Men are in sorry state, till thy kingdom come, men will not come out of women domineering........ foolish guy will pay heavily to have sex with lady, within the twinkle of eyes, his eyes cleared, yet he will come online to brag about sex escapades,


Wasted money! Wasted energy !! Wasted time!!!
Stop derailing this thread undecided
Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by kalufelix(m): 12:13am On Jul 26, 2020
All women are feminists...the smart ones source power from men to her advantage.. While the rest wallow to a fruitless end.. The modern man has knowingly or unknowingly given too much power to the woman and has continued to do so... Lets not complain for the outcome of our actions and inactions. I am glad you Stood up for the boys.. I would've done same regardless of the gender.

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Re: My Experience At A Wedding Affected My View On Gender Equality by kalufelix(m): 12:28am On Jul 26, 2020
For pouring a can of whatever on her head in retaliation..that guy must be a gentleman. Think about that for a moment.

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