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He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 1:19pm On Oct 26, 2021
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.

Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.

The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.

Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Shellsploit: 1:25pm On Oct 26, 2021
Wetin carpenter no go see for ontop asbestos roof shocked

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by advanceDNA: 1:31pm On Oct 26, 2021
It's two months ago like you said..someone already said yes when u said u will go an think about it .....

A guy asking for a baby first obviously wants a baby more...not love.... Everyone has their aim in a relationship..... He's only taking a calculated risk....with several abortions out there from the shédì bálábálá girls ...the guy doesn't want to risk marrying someone that wont bear children....

But it's good you said no....so why are u still lamenting??

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by olabrinks(f): 1:32pm On Oct 26, 2021
So somebody else has agreed to be his wife under his conditions, and you have moved on, so why are you opening a thread about this? At the end of the day If you’re having sex with a guy before marriage, what is the difference if the guy asks you to get pregnant before he marries you? Let’s not be hypocritical here. A lot of us like to act like we are above certain things, when in reality you are just deceiving yourself. Let’s not act like women dont date 5 men at once before they settle down with one. Move on with your life, you’re not better than the girl he impregnated, you’re both the same, just that there’s proof of fornication in her stomach. Ah beg jare.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by falcon01: 1:36pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
who wanna buy a car with a busted Engine?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by lilvicky68(m): 1:42pm On Oct 26, 2021
If you had hopped in two months ago you would have been the pregnant one now..

Are you sure you're not regretting your decision? grin

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Shellsploit: 1:43pm On Oct 26, 2021
advanceDNA:

It's two months ago like you said..someone already said yes when u said u will go an think about it .....

A guy asking for a baby first obviously wants a baby more...not love.... Everyone has their aim in a relationship..... He's only taking a calculated risk....with several abortions out there from the shédì bálábálá girls ...the guy doesn't want to risk marrying someone that wont bear children....

But it's good you said no....so why are u still lamenting??







Shedi balabala girls shocked shocked shocked shocked

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 1:43pm On Oct 26, 2021
olabrinks:
So somebody else has agreed to be his wife under his conditions, and you have moved on, so why are you opening a thread about this? At the end of the day If you’re having sex with a guy before marriage, what is the difference if the guy asks you to get pregnant before he marries you? Let’s not be hypocritical here. A lot of us like to act like we are above certain things, when in reality you are just deceiving yourself. Let’s not act like women dont date 5 men at once before they settle down with one. Move on with your life, you’re not better than the girl he impregnated, you’re both the same, just that there’s proof of fornication in her stomach. Ah beg jare.

I opened this thread for my fellow ladies like you to learn from this experience.
Most ladies hop into bed with a guy in a bid to get married without due diligence. The guy is married to a lady that lives in Dubai. He kept that part away from me.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Sonnobax15(m): 1:47pm On Oct 26, 2021
lipsrsealed
Any guyman wey insist on say him woman must chop belleful first before marriage,I no go too blame am.... Because the rate at which young ladies of nowadays take dey voluntarily dey offer their wombs to Yahoo boys for fetish reasons reach for any guyman wey get sense to draw that kind rain undecided

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 1:50pm On Oct 26, 2021
lilvicky68:
If you had hoped in two months ago you would have been the pregnant one now..

Are you sure you're not regretting your decision? grin

Why would I regret my decision? I’m thankful that God saved me from what would have destroyed my life.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by richmondefosa(m): 1:50pm On Oct 26, 2021
shocked

You said NO, yet you still came here to lament.

Everybody has what they want in a relationship. You said he is ready to settle down and want you to take in first before doing the needful. Would i blame him? NO.

why?

With the rate of shedibalabala girls we have out there, girls who have undergone countless abortions and damaged their womb, it is only normal and in this case a wise move for a man to know what e is getting involved with.

He is taking a calculated risk. He does not want to marry a fellow man who is disguising with breasts.

Since you do not align with what he wants, why don't you move aside?

Why are you pained? Why are you lamenting? Why do you want to strip him of his choice of wanting a baby first?

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Demigod22: 1:50pm On Oct 26, 2021
You are not comfortable with his terms and conditions, another girl do and she is pregnant, what is your headache now? Oh, you created the thread for girls to learn abi? Which girls you want to teach, the ones that are sleeping around because of little change? Since I don't understand the delusional tendency of the female gender, I can never take them serious in my life. Kudos to the guy for being a real man.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by bigpicture001: 1:51pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

Marry me instead nwachi... But I no get money oo.. but really want to settle down just make. Just mail Me let's talk

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SILENTandSMART2: 1:52pm On Oct 26, 2021
Yeye stories, lies ....

Why you dey lie....cheesy

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by SILENTandSMART2: 1:54pm On Oct 26, 2021
bigpicture001:


Marry me instead nwachi... But I no get money oo.. but really want to settle down just make. Just mail Me let's talk


So you guys go dey eat sand or leaves after marriage abi ? grin

Yunno get money you wan set up family who you wan impress ? Your dick or konji let me know ...

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 1:55pm On Oct 26, 2021
bigpicture001:


Marry me instead nwachi... But I no get money oo.. but really want to settle down

My brother it’s easier to find true love when you don’t have money.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by richmondefosa(m): 1:56pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Why would I regret my decision? I’m thankful that God saved me from what would have destroyed my life.


I am surprised why you think he wanting a baby would have destroyed your life.

You said No or wanted to think about it. He took it as a no. He impregnated someone else who is ready to settle down. He is not complaining. neither is the lady he impregnated. He is not also denying responsibility.

Let the man be.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by NuclearReactor(m): 1:56pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.
You just dodged a bullet, praise be to God

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 1:58pm On Oct 26, 2021
NuclearReactor:

You just dodged a bullet, praise be to God

As in eh! Lol

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Collysmith: 2:02pm On Oct 26, 2021
If i insisted for her to be pregnant before marriage I wouldn't be suffering right now. I don't even know what to do whether to marry another wife because adoption is not in my plan.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Lotel: 2:02pm On Oct 26, 2021
If confusion was a human being...

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by RightToReject(m): 2:04pm On Oct 26, 2021
The unpronounced reason behind this thread is simply to announce that you are single, available, and looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage as soon as possible because of pressure from different quarters for you to marry. There is no need to be ashamed of saying it as you want it because it isn't a crime.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:54pm On Oct 26, 2021
RightToReject:
The unpronounced reason behind this thread is simply to announce that you are single, available, and looking for a serious relationship that will lead to marriage as soon as possible because of pressure from different quarters for you to marry. There is no need to be ashamed of saying it as you want it because it isn't a crime.

Well, you’re entitled to your opinion.
Ladies should beware and watch before accepting any proposal from men to avoid regret. There are a lot of irresponsible guys without conscience out there.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:55pm On Oct 26, 2021
Lotel:
If confusion was a human being...

If confusion was a human being, it would have been LOTEL, okwaya? I

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 2:57pm On Oct 26, 2021
richmondefosa:



I am surprised why you think he wanting a baby would have destroyed your life.

You said No or wanted to think about it. He took it as a no. He impregnated someone else who is ready to settle down. He is not complaining. neither is the lady he impregnated. He is not also denying responsibility.

Let the man be.

The guy is a married man.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by MrBrownJay1(m): 2:57pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

the mere fact that you would even consider marriage to a man you only knew for 2 months says a lot about your desperate state of mind... sadly, many men know that Nigerian women look at marriage as a do or die mission and thats why they will promise it to you in order to do what the fukc they want with you.
furthermore, with the state of oloshoism in NIgeria and bitches having abortions left right and center, no wonder a man wants to make sure that you still have a healthy womb before marrying you....but this trick could also be a great way to get unrestricted/unprotected access to your toto lol!

Nwachi22:
Why would I regret my decision? I’m thankful that God saved me from what would have destroyed my life.

so now, you remember your god?!?!??! go read your damn holybook and tell us all where it says that its ok to have sex and get pregnant before marriage? abeg all you confused religious people should get a damn BRAIN!

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by bigpicture001: 3:06pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


My brother it’s easier to find true love when you don’t have money.

Exactly true.. then let's rock and rock.. will email u now
Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by silibaba: 3:25pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:
Why do guys always insist that a lady gets pregnant before marriage.
Two months ago, I met a guy through a friend of mine who was looking for a wife. The guy insisted that I must take in before he goes to see my parents.
The guys is doing very well in business (importation). I wasn’t comfortable with that idea so I told him to give me sometime to think about his proposal and revert to him, despite the pressure from my family to settle down.
Just found out last week that a lady is two months pregnant for him. You see how I would have messed up my life and career if I had hopped into bed with him two months ago.

You were busy thinking of his proposal and a sharp side chick took your place sad

You go loseguard.

You come dull ya self.

second wife tinz nah. provided the man is loaded grin

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by jericco1(m): 3:39pm On Oct 26, 2021
Nwachi22:


Well, you’re entitled to your opinion.
Ladies should beware and watch before accepting any proposal from men to avoid regret. There are a lot of irresponsible guys without conscience out there.

See bia.. deep down within you, you wished you accented sooner. You're just here trying to feel better. Don't worry after three more years your eyes go clear.

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Olachase(m): 4:10pm On Oct 26, 2021
Me I support the guy... I no get strength to day go pastor house for prayer cus I day find baby... Only God fit save we men cus if you see the rate way all this girls take day do abortion you go pity devil

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Re: He insisted I take in before marriage by Nwachi22(f): 4:11pm On Oct 26, 2021
jericco1:


See bia.. deep down within you, you wished you accented sooner. You're just here trying to feel better. Don't worry after three more years your eyes go clear.

Wish kor! Wish ni! Would you wish for any of your sisters or daughters to marry this kind of man?

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