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Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by MaziIgwe007: 12:00pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
truthsayer009: My own is, the woman should understand what marriage is all about. if she can't be and endure with him and workout everything, why did she accept the marriage in the first place.. She's just created trouble for herself by herself |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:02pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
georgeiyke009:In ibo culture, once a young man is old enough ,he goes to build his own hut. If you read "Things fall apart" you'll understand . He builds his hut even before he looks for a wife. This is not even Christianity but common sense. They're saying what if na Otedola pikin. Otedola can build many mansions in his compound or one big mansion with so many rooms, you may not even see the other occupants in weeks . Not a two or three bedroom flat I'm sure op's sister would be MIL has. No privacy . |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:03pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
MaziIgwe007:And if the man understands ,will heaven fall? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by MaziIgwe007: 12:04pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
georgeiyke009: lemme ask you this, why can't or shouldn't the 3 of them live together in a case of necessity as this?? where's the love?? so you expect me to leave my mother out because of the rubbish in-between ur legs?? na thunder go fire that person wey fit try am for my side 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:07pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
MaziIgwe007:A boy will always talk like a boy. Does your mother not have a vagina ? It will be foo.lish of you and boys like you to think you can shame women and your mother will be spared. You came from a vagina and to a vagina you shall return. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by MaziIgwe007: 12:11pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59: And my mum now caused division between my father and his family right?? I think I now understand the slum you came out from which you call home/family 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
MaziIgwe007: Are we not both saying the same thing? They are not married yet. Is it not now that the marriage hasn't commenced that you should take a stand? Abi is it after 18 years of marriage inside parents house that you would now speak up. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:13pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
MaziIgwe007:Yawns...run home to mama, boy. You're too small for me. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
And you want her to put up with this because of the rubbish between your legs or is there anything you are offering? Don't worry. Be with your mother but leave the girl alone. Where is the love when you want to subject your girl to a life of perpetual discomfort from the word go? Its that simple. You will not be the one to cook and clean for the house. What happens when she does not feel like doing anything? Your mother's friends and siblings will be coming over per second. Will she be expected to cater for them too even if she wants to just chill? The devil is in the details. There are days I will never want to see anyone and I simply do not entertain cuz i need it to disstress. Both you and your would be wife will not have that luxury. However, if both of you are death poor, then you both have no options and will put up with whatever. But it also begs the question why bother marrying at all. The guy can simply wait and build the house before marrying. Afterall , whats the difference? Marriage no dey run. It will not work for any upwardly mobile couple. MaziIgwe007: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by emperorshaokahn(m): 12:19pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
op stop lieing,that so called sister is you.you better weigh your options now o because when you get to the ripe old age of 31 your sexual value reduces,na your type day disturb us for prayer city and shiloh,you better marry this man now o so you dont become a washed up babymama later.my 2cents though.btw dont listen to all those online jezebels,most of them are frustrated sex starved hoes in their late 40s. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Mgtowmonk: 12:21pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
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Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 12:21pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
loneprof: For her to cancel the marriage plans, it's obvious she is not the one pushing to get married and at any cost. I understand men have soft spots for their mothers. My husband and his mum talk everyday and I see nothing wrong in it. But he knows where to draw the line in such a way that both me and his mum know we are important to him. But some men try to exhault their mothers over their wives, always reminding the wife that the mother brought him up as if she doesn't have a mother. But in the true sense, who should sweat and bring up a child? The nanny or village head? Off course it's the parents. Funny enough, women even seem to have that soft spot more for their mothers but they don't allow it affect other relationships or Lord it over their husbands. I have noticed that women visit their mums more. They are the ones that will come and sit down and gist and help around. The man might just send money. Both have their ways of showing love. But why is it that most men always want to make that love for their mothers a problem in their marriage? I believe a wise man will know how to balance both 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by emperorshaokahn(m): 12:24pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59:lol,all these sluts sef,bitch i pity the unfortunate simp that would end up marrying a farm tool like you.btw can you send me your nudes?. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
ImaIma1:You're a wise woman. To this day, my mother doesn't joke with caring for her parents ,even more than her brothers. Women care more in practice than just shouting online. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
ImaIma1: You are a wise woman and everything you wrote checks out perfectly. I am also a person who draws the line and I don't think any mature man shouldn't know how to separate both. In your own case, you admit your husband is close to his mom, without you being bothered, some women wouldn't like that, they'll probably feel threatened by that. So my sister, I appreciate your perspective on life. All the best ma'am! |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by emperorshaokahn(m): 12:29pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
Chii59:lol,i just gave you my sincere advice,someone needs to be honest with you girl,if you get to 32 without getting married your chances of marrying a rich guy reduces. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Nobody: 12:31pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
I can at least feed you and your generation from selling run down vehicles. No surprises there. Focus on the topic young urn. Mgtowmonk: |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Aliu0000: 12:31pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
Your sister has to have double thinking before she concludes on her decision.Better still she should hustle for the money. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by Mgtowmonk: 12:42pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
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Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by k4kenny(f): 12:44pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
I honestly stunned at the kind of responses I'm seeing from the males in this forum. Do y'all honestly think you're doing women the ultimate favour by marrying her, therefore she should subject herself to all manners of discomfort? The OP's sister is right to stand her ground and call off the wedding. Marrying into the husband's family house with the MIL would breed nothing but hatred and contempt in the long run! This is not to say that she hates his family or she'll chase them away. Sometimes people should be kept at a reasonable distance for love and respect to grow. Men get over yourselves, not all ladies are desperate to subject themselves to discomfort in the name of marriage. The ones who do lack self esteem and often end up regretting their decision. Read the book 'The white elephant', by Aisha Adams. It talks about the mistakes she made as a young bride, on of which was agreeing to move into her husband's family house. It ended up in a bitter divorce. Some aren't divorced but are living as strangers in their in law's place. They're mostly bitter and depressed. Trust me if they had the chance to reverse their decision, they would. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by oodua1stson: 12:46pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
OluwaLina1:she did the right jare. Women are naturally jealous.if she did not give the old woman wahala, the old woman will give her wahala. The man is senseless. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 12:49pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
ogbuefi677: What you typed here doesn't make sense to me. I don't even understand how it relates the topic or my comment. |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by oodua1stson: 12:51pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
Powerfly:this isn't even about alpha males, unless maybe she's homeless or her house is in a very bad state and even with that, she stayin with them should be temporary, not until they build their own house. Even the woman, if she's a good person should not agree with her son to stay with the new couple. Too many nonsense in this world 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by emperorshaokahn(m): 12:53pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
k4kenny:but you women can park all your family members to the(his)house abi?.men are doing women a hell lot of favour by marrying them these days.and i think we(men) should start reviewing that favour. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Cancels Her Wedding. Is She Doing The Right Thing? by ImaIma1(f): 12:58pm On Aug 11, 2020 |
k4kenny: Do you seriously believe that those comments are from men. Little boys that know nothing about life and marriage are speaking from their own small minded understanding. Don't take them seriously. |
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