CaveAdullam:

DAY 351, REDPILL 2021

In the sexual marketplace, the man that hoards his resource (commitment) is highly price together with the woman that hoards her available resource (sex). Availability either makes or breaks this barrier.

Authority: don't be a simp!

Winnerly:
https://www.nairaland.com/ilekokonit/posts

This guys ordeal made me teary eyed. For those who want to marry, read

Ilekokonit:


Flesh and blood did not reveal the above FACTS of life to you.

Many men (including myself) got married for the wrong reasons. (in my case because she got pregnant and I did not want to have a child out of wedlock) . I have been regretting marrying that woman and taking her abroad for the past 17 years .

IF only I had left her in Nigeria and kept sending money for the kids upkeep or better still bringing only the baby abroad as the embassy staff suggested and even facilitated by them refusing her a visa but granting the new born baby right of passage by including the baby on my passport.

But did I heed this heavenly sent message that she wasn't my wife No, I did not and was blinded by wanting to have an ideal family where man, wife and child all lived in the same country under the same roof everyday and I went back to my station to file her immigration appeal and employed an expensive barrister to fight her case (at great financial cost to me) only for her to change the game after 10 years of my taking her abroad and she wanted to now give me skirt to wear and she will now be wearing the trouser and she conveniently forgot that we both grew up in Naija in an area where the men were always the king and not the queen.

At some point she lost her job and i was about to buy a house and i still included her name on the mortgage as Mr and Mrs without thinking twice about it but when the financial tables turned against me (my job got off shored to India and we had to sell the house to prevent repossession after I realised that i couldn't keep on paying the mortgage with my savings or credit card) , she waited until we BOTH spent all of my generous redundancy pay and once she noticed that I had started dipping into my generous credit card limit and that was going down fast she changed the game and started showing her real colours and showing me shege by openly abusing me and calling me lazy in front of our kids and at one point she asked me LOUDLY in front of our 10 year old son IF I WAS MAD and the boy looked at me, looked back at her and i noticed that his behavior changed that very day.

This is THE SAME WOMAN who before I took her abroad she will cry until her eyes go red anytime I was leaving Nigeria to go back to my base abroad before I brought her over.

So we were now renting (after selling the house to prevent repossession after my job moved to India with 100% redundancies) and the 6 months rent I paid up front for the new house we were now renting had run out and I had just come back from scoping some business in Naija and so was now looking for work afresh while she was working full time and (in my absence) she had gone to the Govt to start claiming single parent benefit (when she was not single as i had only traveled to Naija for 2 months) and her full time salary coupled with the generous single parent benefit was too much money for her to handle that she just went haywire and wanted me out of the house at all cost so that she can now be genuinely a single mother and continue collecting the financial largesse from the govt on top of her full time salary.

She even perfected her plans by telling my 3 year old daughter that I had abandoned her and the Oyinbo childminder I was paying for had to correct my ex by telling her not to ever tell a 3 year old that her father has abandoned her. The old Oyinbo woman knowing me knew that i would never abandon any of my kids but my crafty ex was covering all loop holes in her quest to be seen as legitimately a single mother so that nothing will stand in her way of receiving the govt ordained generous single mother money. (so she thought that by coaching and lying to my 3 year old daughter that i had abandoned her, this would buttress her money grabbing antics from the govt single parent cash handouts.

I became a loser in her eyes and the same woman I gave European citizenship on a platter of Gold will now tell me that I am just using her for shelter (just because she was now paying the rent after the 6 months rent advance i paid had expired) . ?

At some point I resorted to sleeping in my car at times even in winter and one day my then 10 year old son saw me as he was going to school and just shook his head.

When your wife wants to make you fail, they know what to do and which buttons to press and I used to liken it to a man planning how to pick himself up after losing his job and blowing his balloon full of job hunting plans and his wife turns around to puncture his balloon and she ends up deflating his plans with just one act of nastiness for example by calling him lazy or asking him if he is mad right in front of his kids all in a quest for him to move out of the house in annoyance so that she can now be a legitimate single mother in the eyes of the govt who squanders tax payers money on handouts to single mothers who have no need to live with a man who will be a hindrance to the govt cash handouts to single mothers.

Its no wonder that Europe is the single mother capital of the world.

I considered suicide at some point but could not bring myself to the point of offing myself and there was a day I thought of ending it all by running full speed and head butting a moving bus at like 3am in the morning - Insomnia comes with the territory when your wife turns against you just because you are temporarily unemployed.

I should have legged it from that marriage when my then 10 year old son told me one day that - Daddy, it seems as if Mummy wants to finish you . But I stayed in the marriage because I loved being under the same roof with my children (10 and 3 at the time) . Moreover that's what I saw my parents and their friends do.

Today she has monopolized the kids through hardcore brainwashing which she perfected when I went to Nigeria to try my hands at business some years ago.

So, she now has 100% full access to the kids (Young adults - both over 18 now) and you know that western kids have a mind of their own and you can NOT really force them to look for you if they don't FEEL LIKE.

The brain washing she has carried out on my children is as bad as that my Dad died 2 years ago and both of my kids have not called me up till today to commiserate with me even though their mum knows about my Dad's passing and my children live with their mum - whereas when her own dad died a few years earlier, my son shouldered a sizeable part of the burial costs even though he has not been to Nigeria since I brought him and his mum abroad when he was only a few months old.

Thank heavens I eventually gave that woman a lot of distance after finally realizing that if I continued living under the same roof with her, she would either kill me one day or send me to prison or I would kill her and that would be no good for our kids as the western govt care system for kids more often than not messes up the children's heads.

Now my peace of mind is worth more than any marriage.

I still date occasionally but at the first sign that a woman will stress me out or is not a peaceful human being, or is a liar dishonest, unreliable, troublesome, argumentative, unforgiving, vengeful or a flirt, I call off the relationship.

I've been separated from my Ex for more than 10 years now and she is still single (as in not legally married as she would need to get a divorce from me first which i would GLADLY give her anytime she meets someone she wants to marry).

I've been back in the same western country with her now for more than 13 years now and she is still single (we could have mended things 13 years ago but I saw that she was still as cantankerous and as argumentative as ever and i just stayed away from her.)

The longer I stay separated from her and single, the more I'm loving my singleness as no be say i need pikin again and the PEACEFUL companionship that a man needs from a wife is lacking in MOST Naija women especially cantankerous first wives especially the ones in western countries .

When I eventually get tired of being a bachelor then I may try dating again but for now a woman living with me is not my priority UNTIL I find a woman who genuinely loves peace, is not childish or vindictive, not combative or petty and will NOT try to be the man in the house and will not turn my children against me just because she lives in the West where their damaged system allows such arrant nonsense.

Marriage is a case of FOOLS RUSH IN WHERE ANGELS FEAR TO THREAD

If you know, you know.

Winnerly:

This guys made me teary eyed.

CAPSLOCKED:
MANY OF THEM ARE LOSING THEIR MINDS OVER MY POSTS PROBABLY BECAUSE THEY'VE NEVER SEEN IT HAPPEN SO THEY THINK IT'S INAPPROPRIATE? LMAO. IT SOUNDS ABSURD I MUST CONCEDE BUT 2 CAN PLAY THE GAME OF PERVERSION. THIS WILL BE THE LAST THING I'LL SAY ABOUT IT.

IF YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE THAT YOUR COLLEAGUES OR FRIENDS LIKE TO GROPE YOU AND YOU'VE NOT HAD SUCCESS IN MAKING THEM STOP BY ASKING THEM TO STOP, THE ONLY WAY TO MAKE THEM STOP IS TO GROPE THEM BACK INSTANTLY AT THE SPOT. THERE'S NO WAY YOU'D LOSE A CASE LIKE THIS ANYWHERE I NIGERIA. GOOD BYE.

CAPSLOCKED:
MANY OF THEM ARE LOSING THEIR MINDS OVER MY POSTS PROBABLY BECAUSE THEY'VE NEVER SEEN IT HAPPEN SO THEY THINK IT'S INAPPROPRIATE? LMAO. IT SOUNDS ABSURD I MUST CONCEDE BUT 2 CAN PLAY THE GAME OF PERVERSION. THIS WILL BE THE LAST THING I'LL SAY ABOUT IT.

IF YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE THAT YOUR COLLEAGUES OR FRIENDS LIKE TO GROPE YOU AND YOU'VE NOT HAD SUCCESS IN MAKING THEM STOP BY ASKING THEM TO STOP, THE ONLY WAY TO MAKE THEM STOP IS TO GROPE THEM BACK INSTANTLY AT THE SPOT. THERE'S NO WAY YOU'D LOSE A CASE LIKE THIS ANYWHERE I NIGERIA. GOOD BYE.

TheDarkGamer:


Reading the response of some people's posts about what CAPSLOCKED shared has made me realize something about Nigerians.

We deserve the leaders and treatment we receive from other people and people in power.

Why?

Just take a look at the situation. He said that the woman was harassing him in his office. He went on and told her that he wasn't comfortable with it, but she still went on to continue harassing him. Now, CAPSLOCKED reciprocated, much to the surprise of everyone around him because they were expecting him to act like a real man and back down. But he just proved that they are being hypocrites and there is a double standard occurring there.

CAPSLOCKED:
[b]MANY OF THEM ARE LOSING THEIR MINDS OVER MY POSTS PROBABLY BECAUSE THEY'VE NEVER SEEN IT HAPPEN SO THEY THINK IT'S INAPPROPRIATE? LMAO. IT SOUNDS ABSURD I MUST CONCEDE BUT 2 CAN PLAY THE GAME OF PERVERSION. [/b]THIS WILL BE THE LAST THING I'LL SAY ABOUT IT.

IF YOU'RE NOT COMFORTABLE THAT YOUR COLLEAGUES OR FRIENDS LIKE TO GROPE YOU AND YOU'VE NOT HAD SUCCESS IN MAKING THEM STOP BY ASKING THEM TO STOP, THE ONLY WAY TO MAKE THEM STOP IS TO GROPE THEM BACK INSTANTLY AT THE SPOT. THERE'S NO WAY YOU'D LOSE A CASE LIKE THIS ANYWHERE I NIGERIA. GOOD BYE.

heartofcity12:
It’s becoming worse and worse. This one held a d1ldo, seductively dancing with it and tagging don Jazzy hoping he sees it. Women can’t freedom that comes with social media, they’re mostly into prostitution offline too, they’re loosing it everyday. Hoes everywhere. The dudes comments say a lot about the kind of women we have nowadays. Train your daughters well if you have one. #trp

MJBOLT:

that khalifa guy saying he won't marry from Nigeria is in for a rude awakening, it's the same almost everywhere.
Where does he think Nigerian ladies copy their sh1t from,the same place more than half of the world copy their sh1t from.

CAPSLOCKED:


HERE IT IS.

heartofcity12:
We all know the kind of men doing this. Money meant for basic amenities in school and hospital is gone on street pu**y. Simp will not die well.

Ronnnie:

Even if you are Redpilled,you still live in a Bluepill society which is bent on pleasing the female gender...I support your stands but it's wise we don't go to the extreme...
When I served in a school,a male teacher was sacked and even almost arrested bkos he flogged some female students in their buttocks even if some male students were also flogged,but emphasis was on why a male will flog a female in her buttocks..some parents wanted to get him arrested but the school pleaded.....
Most laws are usually bluepilled,ask any lawyer what our constitution defines Rape as or research it yourself and you will see how biased the system is....The law only regards Rapes as when a MAN takes sexual advantage of a WOMAN...it doesn't believe reverse could be the case...
As for you saying she has no evidence,All she needs is to report you and be in tears while doing so and you will understand what am saying...
Don't tolerate such act from women but revenge should be your last action...Rather give her a Stern warning and ignore her till she apologises rather than groping her breast back...Other women and simps will come for your head if she makes the case public and you might be dismissed from work...
Remember the saying "when in Rome,act like a ........." You know the rest

MJBOLT:

when Santa Claus go surprise us na

Trex4:
Good morning.

Pro tip. Once a troll starts using ad hominem insults like stupid, idiot and all that, hit the report button and choose number 2. So as to preserve this thread.

Because I've been in a big thread back then that was literally deleted due to trolls insulting people. I think Sajmark remembers the thread.

CR777:


This guy sef, what's your wahala? Sensible guys are trying to talk some senses into that stupid and daft head of yours.

You dey here dey brag about squeezing a girl's boobs at work, shame on you. Your childish brain hasn't deciphered that women are given preferential treatment almost everywhere. Let them take the case to management and see how it's gonna play out or who's gonna lose. Of all places to show how childish you are, you chose the office;your source of income in this buhari regime lol.
What happened to walking out like a real man? Sometimes I weak when I see the sort of things you redpill wannabes update here.

At this rate, management go soon reason your matter, u don't know you are in Nigeria abi? A country that's gonna condemn u once a woman mentions the word 'rape'. At this rate, I see you becoming jobless very soon if you don't start reasoning like a man and not a child, All hail Capslocked, the forceful office Boobs squeezer.

luminouz:

I support capslocked on this.

Besides, he clearly said CCTV was on,so what was the problem? Didn't anyone read that? Seems no matter how the redpill teaches you to be selfish, some guys would still be emotional. THERE IS A FUCKIN CCTV CAMERA TOGETHER WITH WITNESSES. can we all move on now?

In as much as we all claim to be redpillers, I can now see that some men will still believe some women are NAWALTs. Every guy saying he should have walked away was wrong. He was molested right at work and gave back as good as he got. Why are these guys still trying to defend the woman? It doesn't matter whether it's a gynocentric work place or not, a woman who molests me,gets her full refund from me.

Redpill is indeed sweet on paper,till it's time to apply it in the real ass world. That's where and when you separate the men from the boys. In reality, redpill is harsh and hard, that's why you need doses to maintain frame

Ronnnie:

Read my reply well....am not judging his action but the society we live in will only take action on his Response....you know that's a fact

luminouz:


I stopped reading when you claimed 'he should have walked out like a REAL MAN'.
So a real man allows himself to be molested publicly and condones it? WTF have we been teaching all this while?

Didn't you read CCTV and public witnesses?

Wow. These dudes are more emotional than logical, same as 95% of Nigerians.

luminouz:

Nothing would have happened in his case. Because there are CCTV and witnesses. Even without those, he still won't go to prison because she has no proof. Rape accusations and the likes have not been prdestalised like in western societies. I don't care if I lose that job,but no woman would molest me like that and I would walk out like a REAL MAN. THERE IS NOTHING LIKE A REAL MAN, YOU ARE EITHER A MAN OR YOU ARE A NOT

luminouz:


I stopped reading when you claimed 'he should have walked out like a REAL MAN'.

heartofcity12:
I wouldn’t even send the 50 naira if it was me.

Tonnyray:
Man2Man talk

As it pertains to this issue of the Gender equality bill thing, instead of just having puerile fights on here with the "woe is me/heaven is falling on our head" camp versus the "never ever ever/taliban4life" camp, can someone please dig up the bill draft let's analyze it here.
We will then see the vicious clauses they are subtly trying to use to shackle us and the next generation of men and communicate to the right quarters in the legislative chambers to reject these outrightly. It makes more sense we bombarding the relevant social media platforms of these lawmakers and the official pages of the 2 chambers over this than concentrating on social media posts of online ratchet hoes and their retard3d tweets.