One of the biggest mistakes people make in marriage is to believe that marriage will heal or fix their deep inner pain. In many cases, marriage will only make the pain greater and more unbearable.

Many married people are on daily basis regretting and cursing their marriages. If you are single, please take note of these reasons why people marry wrong persons and end their marriages in bitter separations or live to endure it.

1) YOU FOCUS MORE ON CHEMISTRY THAN ON THE CHARACTERS. Never marry someone just because you are in love with him or her. Falling in love is a state of temporary psychosis. It is the “delusion of fusion.” Identify the specific character traits you want to see in your spouse and know clearly how to be part of it. Background checks are essential, be careful to check out the family. People from warm and loving homes will most likely be emotionally healthy people.

Chemistry means there is physical and sexual attraction.
Compatibility: Looking for sameness: same backgrounds, culture, language, interests, politics etc. Temperament types are important to know too.

2) YOU EXPECT HIM OR HER TO CHANGE AFTER YOU ARE MARRIED. The question you must ask is, “Can I live with this person the way he is now and be happy with him?”

Principle: Never marry potential. This implies bad potential. He’s a chronic smoker and drunkard and says he will change for you. This is bad potential. If he doesn't change you will resent him.

3) YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND THE FUNDAMENTAL NEEDS OF MEN AND WOMEN.
This is all about making sure the male-female energies are in sync. Men and women each have one core emotional need. Men want to be respected. Women want to be cherished, which means they want to be protected, provided for, and guided. The ultimate prerequisite for a man to get married is that..https://4evertogeda..com/2020/08/8-reasons-why-you-may-end-up-marrying.html

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