boookworm:

I would really hate to be related to someone like you. Someone who has the mentality that a phone call equates to "request and demands" that is how some of u lose good people. Because of your insecurities. But don't forget that no matter how high the eagle soars, it will still come to the ground to drink water. That is how a friend whom I contributed 200k for his flight ticket to US ignored me and stopped taking my calls and started ignoring my texts. Meanwhile I was not even poor or broke and my business was doing well, so I let him be. After like 2 years he called me one evening and introduced himself and told me to please assist his younger brother with 150k to pay rent that he'll pay me back. I simply replied and said "look I don't know u, stop calling me" then I ended the call and blocked his number

pulsa:

They pursued people from there though truly, noticed a lot of traders seeking wares are no longer there. Maybe he is actually telling the truth.

boookworm:

I would really hate to be related to someone like you. Someone who has the mentality that a phone call equates to "request and demands" that is how some of u lose good people. Because of your insecurities. But don't forget that no matter how high the eagle soars, it will still come to the ground to drink water. That is how a friend whom I contributed 200k for his flight ticket to US ignored me and stopped taking my calls and started ignoring my texts. Meanwhile I was not even poor or broke and my business was doing well, so I let him be. After like 2 years he called
You should know such a person me one evening and introduced himself and told me to please assist his younger brother with 150k to pay rent that he'll pay me back. I simply replied and said "look I don't know u, stop calling me" then I ended the call and blocked his number

lonlytroy:
They always think they are better than people who haven't travel abroad and will think if they keep communicating, you may bill them like stingy uncles and aunties I have abroad,
Thank God say Man no be God

anastasius:
you should know such a person is suffering over there. For hin to ask u to help his brother. Many go there and face reality of being illegal. If anything, you should pity him

MabraO:


That’s the idea if I wasn’t abroad would he have asked me?

MabraO:


That’s the idea if I wasn’t abroad would he have asked me?

olaboy1:


I live in one of those countries and no matter how much shit they talk about almighty America, God’s own country will continue to flourish. Is it not the same America many of them are dreaming to live in, but unfortunately they cannot survive outside the nanny socialist states. We have many successful Nigerian doctors in America because America is a land of the free will and goal chasers, those other small minded countries would have kept those doctors in Mc Donalds.

America can never and will never be a third world country.

dasparrow:


White citizens from Germany, Netherlands, Scandinavian countries, Australia, New Zealand and Canada see the United States as a third world country with a Gucci belt. I have heard citizens of these advanced nations call United States a "third world country with the Gucci belt" several times before.

Ignore that "friend" of yours because he was never truly a friend to begin with. SHIKENA!

humilitypays:
lies from the pit of hell!! If I wooz you eh, u go stop that lies u are telling there, nansense

For your jnfky, I have friends who are Doctors in UK, Australia, very busy schedule, some in the US military, some nurses, and still they make out time to call me or WhatsApp or Facebook, so who u be , its all about money, if your friends in Nigeria are doing better than u abroad u will be the one connecting back to them.



If El Rufai son or Buhari's son or Rochas Okorocha's son is your friend in Nigeria and you are in US working hourly job, will you ignore his message if he wishes you happy birthday, swear it, ode



Na fear of poverty, once a poor Nigerian person travels abroad, he or she feels he has escaped poverty by the grace of God and therefore must avoid any poor or struggling person (friend oh, relative oh) from Nigeria


Its all about the money, get money and the world is yours no matter where you are, Baba God I thank you so much for your blessings in my life, I wonder how people for de treat me


To all the broke and struggling people out there reading this, don't give up, God will reward your hardwork, keep on working and keep planning and dreaming big, just time.


But when you make it in Nigeria or travel abroad, don't be like those mumu people abroad op is talking about, be a difference.


I speak what I am doing. I am a blessing to all my friends home and abroad and even those in the village and I want to even become more blessing to more, so help me God!

formular2002:
I thank God am still in Nigeria.
I hav even been d one helping my guys abroad settle some issues back home. Therefore, they keep in touch. Infact, reverse is d case because i ignored dem explaining dat I dont want to bother dem. I have never collected a dime from a friend abroad. What they get to even hear is how I sent money to their parents/siblings here in Nigeria. I know d feeling of rejection is bad. But d solution is simple.
Let them hear abt u on a greater pedestal. They will be d one looking for u.
How will u be too busy to say a simple hi.
OP, u go make am and they will hear abt u and wished they have treated you differently.

Hedonisco:


Not necessarily true. If you're doing well here in Nigeria ,the kind doing well whereby you can even travel to that Yankee or Jand to ball for a week or two and return to naija, these fake friends would definitely clinch to you. I know them well. They only form busy and 'too much responsibilities' for naija based people who they see as losers or potential leeches. Don't even argue. Facts only.

So in all your doings, do well. It will help you avoid knowing who amongst your 'friends' are fake friends.

Gerrard59:
From what I've read, it's based on the value of the person involved. If a friend based in Nigeria is financially comfortable, the level of respect accorded by the other friend based abroad will be different if the Nigerian based friend is not financially comfortable. On two occasions I contacted folks abroad, one for clarifications regarding a process and the other (maternal uncle) to assist me pay for course using his credit card while I transfer the equivalent to his Nigerian account. The uncle was even worried that I don't call to know about his wellbeing but that's because I'm extremely busy. Sometimes, I don't want to be seen as someone who disturbs a family man.

The solution to be being disrespected or snubbed by those abroad is is by adding value to yourself. There's no friend abroad who will avoid you if you work in say Seplat or operate a business or chain or businesses generating 5M naira monthly. Everything boils down to value. It's why Japan respects China because of the value the Chinese offer not because she likes China.

Vietnaminfo:
Why many guys outside Nigeria hardly have a healthy communication with their counterparts in Nigeria is because of Obsession and having too much time. I have a friend I told I have traveled and we laughed over it. Not up to a week, this guy started billing me oooo. I was able to send him something at the end of the month which he didn't acknowledge until I called to tell him I was the one who sent the money. Next month, this guy came up with another disturbing tactics of greeting me morning, afternoon and night all in the name of showing concern and care. I told him Nigeria and the country I am has 6 hours difference which he never observed. Once he see me online, the next thing is his message. Another ones are the type that always ask you how many White women you have slept with�. Another group is the one who always want you to be chatting with them every minutes without knowing you need to work out your salvation in abroad. I prefer you call me or drop me voice note to chatting. No real abroad based will have time for chatting except maybe on Sunday when there is a little time for relaxation. Over here, there is no free day or weekend. We work from Monday to Sunday with no break. Abroad life is not easy abeg. Guys should understand that there is no time to rest when you actually know what you came abroad to do.

Sweetness4:
This topic reminds me of my secondary classmate that travelled out. We were good friends. 3years later he was added to our class whatsApp group chat. I commented and said hey it's been a while ooo. He asked of my name, I told him. He said he can't remember me. I was really embarrassed. Just 3years ooo. I started describing how we always gist and how we were encouraging ourselves during waec. (Shalayeing things) Lmao he said "i don't know who you are ooo". I was shocked.
Omo that was the last time we spoke.
I will travel out one day too. e be things ooo��

Sweetness4:
This topic reminds me of my secondary classmate that travelled out. We were good friends. 3years later he was added to our class whatsApp group chat. I commented and said hey it's been a while ooo. He asked of my name, I told him. He said he can't remember me. I was really embarrassed. Just 3years ooo. I started describing how we always gist and how we were encouraging ourselves during waec. (Shalayeing things) Lmao he said "i don't know who you are ooo". I was shocked.
Omo that was the last time we spoke.
I will travel out one day too. e be things ooo��

peppermint7:
e be things a swr pple Dey oo

Sweetness4:


I know right, it is well jare

bull67:
a friend got my number from nigeria . we havent spoken for years. He just sent me his account number, and told me he wants to celebrate his fathers 85th birthday. and we day for lock down here. They just dont care.

SoccerUSA:
As seen in the topic, I have two friends that travelled to the U.S, One travelled 2014 and the other one 2017, though before they left we had a good vibes we were both close if not best friends before they left.

The one of 2014 stopped texting me at 2018 or so even when I wished him birthday wishes and same with the other. I knew this because I only texted them on Facebook and you will know when they read and not reply.

I don't hold any grudges against them though
Did you guys think it's normal? Like if I leave Nigeria, Would I also ignore my friends text even if they do not request anything from me?

Please can someone just explain to me so I won't see my friends (maybe former friends) as bad ones.

Etinosa1234:

I have a cousin that I’m older than with a year
We were tight friends when he was still in Nigeria

Then when he travelled to Australia , after I struggled to look for his fb username... he doesn’t reply my msgs... even if I comment under his posts, he’ll hardly reply

He’s not working or doing anything but he doesn’t reply my msg

His elder sister came back to Nigeria last year(that one is older than me with a year)

I asked her, give me ur WhatsApp number... let’s continue chatting when u get to Aussie, omo she jus snub me ooo

It’s ego that’s also doing some of them

I’ve stopped messaging them sha ... me self get self esteem

Las las i still wish them well

I have many cousins abroad but I was jus too close with this boy that I went through stress of searching for him online

Now I’m just planning my own movement out of this country lemme show the guy say abroad nor be anything for we Naija guys

femi4:
This is not true. I have one that only call me when he's around, sometimes I pick him from the airport.

Slept in my house, ate my food... only for him to go back and cut all means of communication.

They only remember you when they need your help here like if

1. They want to buy a land

2. Get some documents, follow up projects etc