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Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:38am On Sep 13, 2020 |
I have been noticing this trend for a while. I don't have a lot of examples to quote from but i have a few. The first was at a get-together with some good female friends and we were talking. We talked about work, businesses, exams, then relationships and marriage. Then one of my friends, let's call her T says that's she is taking a break from relationships, because she has suddenly realized that she doesn't want children. And she proceeded to list reasons why. There was silence for a while. Then another of my friends let's call her H then says something that ticks me off. 'You probably feel like that now, but you will change your mind once you're older'. Another friend G chimes in and says that T only feels that way because she just finished paediatrics posting and it can be traumatising, that she'll get over it. I reply and say that there's nothing wrong with a woman choosing to remain childless. This leads to an argument, but we settle it sha. The other one was an older lady who came to my office for a consultation after diagnosing and giving drugs as she was my last patient. We got talking and I asked her if she was lonely being alone. She says that yes it is at times, but when she sees most of her married friends being in one form of misery or the other, she feels that she doesn't regret it. She said she couldn't sustain long term relationships due to her dysfunctional upbringing. I then ask her about adopting and she says she doesn't want children, she cannot stand them. She then tells me that not everyone is supposed to be a parent and i agree. She then tells me that i am the first person who she talked to about this issue and didn't try to judge her, try to convince her to change her mind, dissmiss her or shame her This got me thinking that some people, especially women due to choice or circumstances have no children. But nigerians in general seem to ostracize them. This is a recurring theme that I keep seeing. One would think that men are the ones who judge, but no, women do it the most. So my question is this, why do people feel uncomfortable with the fact that some people cannot or choose not to have children? It doesn't make sense. Please share your views on this topic. No bashing please. Happy Sunday. 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Jayflex090(m): 10:40am On Sep 13, 2020 |
DM no for this
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Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by lilkech(m): 10:44am On Sep 13, 2020 |
Wonders shall never end So women actually ‘choose’ to be childless these days? When no be reverend sister wey wan go convent?? |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by sylve11: 10:53am On Sep 13, 2020 |
It's not compulsory to have children. Better you do not have than to have some idiot ones. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 10:54am On Sep 13, 2020 |
lilkech:Yes But it is not our place to judge 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by lilkech(m): 10:57am On Sep 13, 2020 |
DrFunmisticGlow: TAAA! Check that woman out very well, you’d find out that she either ignorantly flushed her womb While younger or she had a first birth via C-S and is scared of having another. Even a career can’t subdue a females urge to breastfeed her young. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by longetivity(m): 12:19pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Even holy Mary gave birth |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by baralatie(m): 12:50pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
longetivity:abi 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by baralatie(m): 12:58pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
DrFunmisticGlow:you did not stage T reasons for her decisions! but for the other one her trauma is from her upbringing(she herself has not gotten over the word disfunctional).Reasearch has it that children from disfunctional homes are drug addicts ,into crime etc but here we are she made it however she has robbed herself of one precious thing a child.She should have compared herself with Mrs Okonjo Iweala and her set. Women who nothing wrong with them should not allow devil lie to them about been childless because God forbid if they go for x-ray and the results shows they are wombless or they are barren. Hian! Their excuses of work,career and gbo gbo ti gba will leave this Earth to Pluto and leave them to face better war! Upon the mistake of eve_she gave birth Sarah as she old reach_ she gave birth Holy Mary as she holy pass all the women for this world_she gave birth. my advice find a man and knack am well,well_ you too give birth 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 1:28pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
lilkech:there's no such thing. Not everyone has that motherhood instinct. I've delivered many children into this world and a lot of mothers have no idea what to do with the child once they see it. Postpartum depression is real 3 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by lilkech(m): 1:47pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
DrFunmisticGlow: Someone not knowing how to raise a kid wouldn’t stop that person from actually wanting one in the first place. 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Shukusheka(m): 1:53pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
The same reason why some women hate people who want children. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by paulolee(m): 2:00pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
no be by force oo |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by luscioustrish(f): 2:43pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Many Nigerians still have a long way to go when it comes to not judging others for their decisions and actually minding their own business. 8 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by fredwill1357(m): 3:31pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
[quote author=DrFunmisticGlow post=93873384] People should learn to develop a thick skin and Bleep what others think, all the reasons people procreate for are selfish, have kids if you want and don't if you don't want to, personally when I see people having kids in the name of preserving their family name and genes, I see stupid people chasing the wind, humanity will surely go extinct in time and this stupid mistake called life will come to an end. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by zed7: 3:35pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Some people will always be different but in truth, most women who make such decisions have medical or psychological problems which they can't disclose to others so they hide under liberated and not wanting kids. Just like an impotent man is more likely to claim to not care about women or marriage, that's if he's heterosexual. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by baralatie(m): 3:57pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
zed7:you get am ! |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Reallv: 4:09pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
abeg i need such woman to marry 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Saintmary(f): 4:16pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
It's all ok, I mean, whether you chose to avoid parenthood or circumstances forced it on you, it's all good. Now, it's also ok for people to second guess your situation, because at the end of the day, if you stick to your choice, then you have made the right choice for yourself, however, if you change your mind, then they just saved you from an old age full of regrets! DrFunmisticGlow: 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by BigSarah(f): 4:27pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Children aren’t a gift or blessing.... they’re wages of hard labor...not everyone’s wants hard labor. 6 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by BigSarah(f): 4:29pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Saintmary: Old age full of regrets? ,What’s that about? 1 Like |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Saintmary(f): 4:32pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
BigSarah:Please read again, I can't type too much today abeg. Coulda woulda shoulda is a form of regret. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by BigSarah(f): 4:44pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Saintmary: But not all women that go down that line lack foresight. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by baralatie(m): 4:57pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
BigSarah:Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one's youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! He shall not be put to shame when he speaks with his enemies in the gate. 2 Likes |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:02pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
Saintmary:i don't buy into the ideology of using children as a pension plan or as backup caretaker. It's a bad investment, especially with the way the country is. The money used to train a child can be used to plan throughly for retirement. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:03pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
BigSarah:i tire o. The happiest people i see around are those without children 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:04pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
luscioustrish:Gbam!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by DrFunmisticGlow: 5:06pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
lilkech:Then you begin to wonder why there are so many degenerates today. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Ikillbrokehoes(m): 5:12pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
BigSarah:Hey Dumbsarah |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by Saintmary(f): 5:14pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
DrFunmisticGlow:I'm sure I didn't mention caretaking, pension plans or economic relevance of parenting in my post. Let's not get ahead of ourselves here 1 Like
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Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by lilkech(m): 5:23pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
DrFunmisticGlow: It is what it is ... nature can’t be tamed. That’s why when you have kids you got a duty to do right by them. An individual’s upbringing affects his/her future in a good or bad way. That a woman doesn’t want kids at a particular moment (be her old or young) doesn’t mean she didn’t/won’t want one at one time or another in her life. I believe getting married is a choice but bearing offspring is natural. |
Re: Why Do People Hate Women Who Choose To Be Child Free? by RemiAbdulSamad(m): 5:38pm On Sep 13, 2020 |
it's not by force to have kids. It's not just women that are no longer interested in having kids, some men too. One of the reasons most people have kids is to serve as a caretaker or back up plan when old age comes and like the OP said, funds spent on raising kids if well invested is enough to handle one's retirement plan. Besides when one is old, are there not homes for the aged or are we sure some of us will age to the extent of needing a caretaker. Only God knows. |
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