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Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by dealordea(m): 10:49pm On Mar 12, 2011
Between what I have experienced and what I have heard and read it seems to me that after a breakup the woman tends to move on and start dating - even if just chat or coffee, before men do and that a larger percentage of men get really disturbed, threaten to hurt themselves or someone shocked shocked shocked shocked shocked, end up drinking or depressed, cry cry cry cry cry cry cry

Opinions, grin grin grin grin grin
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Yemmyc(f): 11:21pm On Mar 12, 2011
b4 nko women noni.we dust our shoulderz off and move on.sooner or later,wat d u xpect *pause*a nu guy na. Dnt dull!
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Advocator: 11:25pm On Mar 12, 2011
I think it totally depends on the situation and the people involved.

Who has invested the most into the relationship often has something to do with how quickly they move on afterward!
It also depends on whether the person feels comfortable being alone or if they feel they need to be with someone else to be happy and lots of other variable.

So I disagree with your answer ayo.

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Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by koolchicco: 11:26pm On Mar 12, 2011
Yemmyc:

b4 nko women noni.we dust our shoulderz off and move on.sooner or later,wat d u xpect *pause*a nu guy na. Dnt dull!
OK oh! grin
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by yuzedo: 11:29pm On Mar 12, 2011
Whoever gets dumped recovers later than the dumper,
, And if d dumper sees that d dumpee recovers faster than expected/ takes d break-up in his/her strides, Wahala! Cos reverse psychology kinda comes into play, **shrugging**

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Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Brite02(m): 11:35pm On Mar 12, 2011
@OP
It depends on d background of wich d r/latnship was established. I also agree wif d poster above me^^^
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by thetelz(m): 4:22am On Mar 13, 2011
It has to be men. There're so many beautiful and loving ladies out there. A man cannot walk down a street without admiring a lady
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Osama10(m): 5:49am On Mar 13, 2011
I think men recover faster.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by ekubear1: 3:22am On Mar 14, 2011
Good question. I'm not really sure of the answer. My gut instinct says guys though.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by deniyor: 3:37am On Mar 14, 2011
It is not a competition. It all depends on each personality and level of investment in the relationship. Some don't even recover and rush into new relationships without being totally over the old one. Usually ends up in more disaster and heartache, thereby prolonging the healing process in itself. Remember, things are not always what they seem.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 3:48am On Mar 14, 2011
Well i dont know about the opposite gender

But there was this time my ex of 4yrs tried breaking up with me over

cos i messed up and tried two-timing and i almost died, i go struck by instant illness

and for 2days i was useless 2 myself, I couldnt eat or sleep or even breath properly for 2days!!

I believe the male suffer it more especially if they are in love with that lady breaking their hearts

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Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by ekubear1: 3:52am On Mar 14, 2011
I think as a guy it is easy to bounce back from a relationship into casual sex stuff.

But into another meaningful relationship? Takes a lot of time to recover mentally. At least for me. . . . probably a few months. I had a really bad breakup in 2009 and it took me like a year to recover mentally. If you invest a lot emotionally into a relationship, it will take some time before you want to go down that route again.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 3:57am On Mar 14, 2011
eku_bear:

I think as a guy it is easy to bounce back from a relationship into casual sex stuff.

But into another meaningful relationship? Takes a lot of time to recover mentally. At least for me. . . . probably a few months. I had a really bad breakup in 2009 and it took me like a year to recover mentally. If you invest a lot emotionally into a relationship, it will take some time before you want to go down that route again.

Yeah my favourite ex ran after a banker after dating her for 2yrs ( Infact i trained her from her 1st year in the uni to her finals )

except paying her school fees the rest came in from me, she got 2 her finals and ran after a banker ( I ALMOST DIED )  grin  grin  grin
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Tingles(m): 9:40am On Mar 14, 2011
For guys, moving on takes time. We are actually the weaker sex.

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Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Dyt(f): 9:50am On Mar 14, 2011
Well well well
diff ppl wit d way dey cld handle things
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 9:54am On Mar 14, 2011
wen my ex broke my heart

i cried for 2weeks in-out without food or water!!


make GAWD punish that girl
angry angry

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Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Yemmyc(f): 9:56am On Mar 14, 2011
@tingles u r very ryt bro.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Tosinville(m): 9:59am On Mar 14, 2011
LOL, u never halla @190
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 10:00am On Mar 14, 2011
Tosinville:

LOL, u never halla @190

stop that ghetto language undecided
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Tosinville(m): 10:06am On Mar 14, 2011
lol dem tell you say abi american boy before unlike many nairalanders including that ugly reality101 who claimed to be in the states while he's somewhere in port harcourt.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 10:08am On Mar 14, 2011
Tosinville:

lol dem tell you say abi american boy before unlike many nairalanders including that ugly reality101 who claimed to be in the states while he's somewhere in port harcourt.
lipsrsealed lipsrsealed lipsrsealed
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by bobbyray(m): 11:18am On Mar 14, 2011
it depends on who serve the break up bill, circumstance determines who move on 1st
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Omolola1(f): 11:23am On Mar 14, 2011
i agree, it depends on who does the break-up
personally, i dont get over a break-up that easily
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by shevalync: 11:26am On Mar 14, 2011
yuzedo:

Whoever gets dumped recovers later than the dumper,
,  And if d dumper sees that d dumpee recovers faster than expected/ takes d break-up in his/her strides,  Wahala! Cos reverse psychology kinda comes into play,  **shrugging**

Gbam!
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by omo9ja1(m): 11:27am On Mar 14, 2011
hmmm I think depend on the circumstances of the breakup, is either way but there is not definite answer
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by SALady(f): 11:35am On Mar 14, 2011
I dont know if gender has anything to do with it. A broken heart is a borken heart, only time tells when the heart has healed.

However, the heart heals much quicker when there's a squeeze on the side who really wont mind licking those wounds for you every now and then, Yeeeeah!!! I said it.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by dbigrod(m): 11:38am On Mar 14, 2011
some women do not recover from heartbreaks.Months ago,my sis wanted to commit suicide after her bf jilted her.From that experience  i knew how women feel when they are heartbroken.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by 190: 11:40am On Mar 14, 2011
d bigrod:

some women do not recover from heartbreaks.Months ago,my sis wanted to commit suicide after her bf jilted her.From that experience  i knew how women feel when they are heartbroken.

why didnt you step in and helped her on the suicide journey yeye man  angry angry

thank gawd she didnt do it sha
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by sharpman1(m): 11:44am On Mar 14, 2011
yuzedo:

Whoever gets dumped recovers later than the dumper,
, And if d dumper sees that d dumpee recovers faster than expected/ takes d break-up in his/her strides, Wahala! Cos reverse psychology kinda comes into play, **shrugging**

Absolutely correct. . . . . . . . . . in most cases!!!
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by justlook: 11:46am On Mar 14, 2011
it's not about a particular sex, it is an individual thing,
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by Guyman02: 11:46am On Mar 14, 2011
eku_bear:

I think as a guy it is easy to bounce back from a relationship into casual sex stuff.
But into another meaningful relationship? Takes a lot of time to recover mentally. At least for me. . . . probably a few months. I had a really bad breakup in 2009 and it took me like a year to recover mentally. If you invest a lot emotionally into a relationship, it will take some time before you want to go down that route again.

@bolded, you are correct, men seem to rush into casual sex thinking that it will help them to quickly get over being dumped in a relationship that they have invested so much emotions; but it never does.
While a woman feels hearthbroken, men always feel that their ego has being bruised and therefore the feeling of humiliation (is like loosing a conquared territory in a battle) is what leads men into depression. Women dont feel humiliated, they feel insecure and vulnerable by their loss and needs assurance of emotional security from the next guy that is convincing enough to move on.

They feeling of humiliation and bruised ego makes men to have more tendency of doing harm to themselves or even to their partner than women. Thats why you hear more about men shooting their estranged lovers or using 'magun' to trap their women as in some cultures than allow her to disgress him.
Men see being dumped by women as a form of humiliation and it gets them mentally more distabilised than women and therefore women may recover faster sometimes than men after a breakup.
Re: Who Recovers Faster After A Breakup Men Or Women? by justlook: 11:58am On Mar 14, 2011
Do we consider relationship disintegration marshalled by 3rd parties. When it's obvious that both aprties weren't responsible for the separation, the emotion is often mild & can be managed with less guilt.

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