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Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 7:23am On Nov 13, 2020
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Her response in stressful situations. For example, going on a vacation with her, and due to feign emergency, the trip would change and canceled midway., how is her reaction? Also, testing if she is dependable. Like calling her in the middle of a night and ask for a quick favor. (not 2k favor lol) Also, ask her for cash, yep, a lot of it. Faking loss of financial buoyancy due to bad business deals and watch if her behaviors changed. Asking her about her ex and if she talks shit about them. Her relationship with her parents, especially her father.

Her kind of friends, if she is financially responsible by watching what she spends her money on. If she is religious, or submit to a sophisticated belief system. If she lives within her means. How she relates with people she gains nothing from (eg waiters), how she relates with the defenseless (animals and kids) if she can take good care of you when sick. Does she have it at the back of her head to be adorable and accentuate her femininity by eating healthy and keeping in shape?

Giving her handy crafted gifts and see if she appreciates it more or less than money. If she is a social media addict and attention seeker. If she respects things, events, and people that are important to you. Does she give you gifts equally during events such as your birthday? Does she try to impress you? Does she have the mentality that you should be lucky for having her? Is she submissive (not to be confused with being subordinate), can she cook and spice up the home with her feminine allure?

Is she egoistic? (not to be confused with healthy pride). Does she argue unnecessarily to win, or to make sense and pass her point? Is apologizing when she is at fault a big problem for her? Is saying "sorry" automatic or forced? Has she grown past mind games and cheap manipulations? Does she weaponize sex? Does she go beyond her comfort to make you smile? How is her childhood like? (to know people deeply, you need to study their childhood), Can you be vulnerable to her? Does she carry herself with grace, and do not derive pleasure in provocative dressings?

Do you find yourself pleasing her naturally because her femininity shines out the masculinity in you? or she makes you do the things she wants by force? Does she let you lead? Is she complimentary to your life and brings opposing energy that flourishes the relationship? does she contribute to the growth of the relationship by playing her own path? Can you be yourself in her presence even if you wear a mask navigating the outside world?

Most importantly, a woman will naturally do most of these things and be on her best behavior if she chooses you. Do not ever try to convert a woman that has not fallen in love with you to do all this, it will be a disaster. Go where you are loved, and the woman will naturally submit if you are playing your part right. So do well for yourself, develop yourself as a man, so you'll have female abundance and leverage to set standards.

For now, this will do. If she passes a reasonable amount of this test, congrats. You got yourself a queen.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Froshloaded(m): 7:25am On Nov 13, 2020
Apt cry

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by thesicilian: 7:26am On Nov 13, 2020
I agree with you 100%. A major source of problems for most people in relationships is when they spend all their efforts and money to convert a girl who has obviously no love for them, then they start complaining later she's heartless, a gold digger, etc. But she told you from the beginning she didn't want anything to do with you and you mounted so much pressure on her that she had to agree.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by geedot(m): 7:27am On Nov 13, 2020
pansophist:
How she relates with people she gains nothing from (eg waiters),
This is where I judge people's true behavior. Watch how they treat people below them, then you already have an idea of how good or bad a person she is or they are.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by YoonSung60: 7:29am On Nov 13, 2020
hmmm not all women
Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Davash222(m): 7:32am On Nov 13, 2020
All these just to be with a Nigerian girl




Una sha get time for nonsense.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 7:34am On Nov 13, 2020
thesicilian:
I agree with you 100%. A major source of problems for most people in relationships is when they spend all their efforts and money to convert a girl who has obviously no love for them, then they start complaining later she's heartless, a gold digger, etc. But she told you from the beginning she didn't want anything to do with you and you mounted so much pressure on you that she had to agree.

True.

In every relationship, it is the female, not the male, that chooses if a relationship will take place. A man's commitment begins when a woman has chosen him out of all her options.

Committing to a woman before been chosen is like an employee working freely for an employer while complaining that he is not paying.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Saccharine: 7:35am On Nov 13, 2020
cheesy cheesy cheesy
You nefa see sontin
All this one can be acted for as long as it takes.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Sundrus: 7:36am On Nov 13, 2020
Na very few ladies i don meet with such attributes....the truth be say, once woman really love u, she fit do anything for u. U go be like her God...but most mumu men no dey appreciate such love.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 7:41am On Nov 13, 2020
Sundrus:
Na very few ladies i don meet with such attributes....the truth be say, once woman really love u, she fit do anything for u. U go be like her God...but most mumu men no dey appreciate such love.

And that is the point. She has to love you first, and every other thing follows, not before. If you look closely, most men complaining about their partners choose her, without her choosing him. A really bad deal.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Raalsalghul: 7:41am On Nov 13, 2020
Davash222:
All these just to be with a Nigerian girl




Una sha get time for nonsense.

Lol!

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Raalsalghul: 7:43am On Nov 13, 2020
Maybe foreign women, no Nigerian lady will pass 30% of these tests.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by kalufelix(m): 7:45am On Nov 13, 2020
Pansophist-never-dissappoints....Good-one-bro

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Sisijetue(f): 8:01am On Nov 13, 2020
Na to carry sand to mould your kind of woman
E no too hard
All these your aforementioned test and assessment no guarantee happy home
Marriage way go crash go crash cheesy

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by JasperVII(m): 8:04am On Nov 13, 2020
pansophist:
Her response in stressful situations. For example, going on a vacation with her, and due to feign emergency, the trip would change and canceled midway., how is her reaction? Also, testing if she is dependable. Like calling her in the middle of a night and ask for a quick favor. (not 2k favor lol) Also, ask her for cash, yep, a lot of it. Faking loss of financial buoyancy due to bad business deals and watch if her behaviors changed. Asking her about her ex and if she talks shit about them. Her relationship with her parents, especially her father.

Her kind of friends, if she is financially responsible by watching what she spends her money on. If she is religious, or submit to a sophisticated belief system. If she lives within her means. How she relates with people she gains nothing from (eg waiters), how she relates with the defenseless (animals and kids) if she can take good care of you when sick. Does she have it at the back of her head to be adorable and accentuate her femininity by eating healthy and keeping in shape?

Giving her handy crafted gifts and see if she appreciates it more or less than money. If she is a social media addict and attention seeker. If she respects things, events, and people that are important to you. Does she give you gifts equally during events such as your birthday? Does she try to impress you? Does she have the mentality that you should be lucky for having her? Is she submissive (not to be confused with being subordinate), can she cook and spice up the home with her feminine allure?

Is she egoistic? (not to be confused with healthy pride). Does she argue unnecessarily to win, or to make sense and pass her point? Is apologizing when she is at fault a big problem for her? Is saying "sorry" automatic or forced? Has she grown past mind games and cheap manipulations? Does she weaponize sex? Does she go beyond her comfort to make you smile? How is her childhood like? (to know people deeply, you need to study their childhood), Can you be vulnerable to her?

Do you find yourself pleasing her naturally because her femininity shines out the masculinity in you? or she makes you do the things she wants by force? Does she let you lead? Is she complimentary to your life and brings opposing energy that flourishes the relationship? does she contribute to the growth of the relationship by playing her own path? Can you be yourself in her presence even if you wear a mask navigating the outside world?

Most importantly, a woman will naturally do most of these things and be on her best behavior if she chooses you. Do not ever try to convert a woman that has not fallen in love with you to do all this, it will be a disaster. Go where you are loved, and the woman will naturally submit if you are playing your part right. So do well for yourself, develop yourself as a man, so you'll have female abundance and leverage to set standards.

For now, this will do. If she passes all, congrats. You got yourself a queen.
Beautifully written. Bravo.
I do have a question though. At the boldened, don't they all do that these days?

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by drLammy(m): 8:10am On Nov 13, 2020
In Essence

Go to places you are celebrated not where you are Tolerated..

Good one!

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 8:16am On Nov 13, 2020
I stopped reading mid way.... All these test just to know if a woman is worth your commitment? If you have to go through this stress, its best to just keep your commitment to yourself, get a sec doll or better still some clay! grin grin. This is INSECURITY at it's peak!

If a woman had written this, you all would have come for her head!

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by pansophist(m): 8:16am On Nov 13, 2020
Sisijetue:
Na to carry sand to mould your kind of woman
E no too hard
All these your aforementioned test and assessment no guarantee happy home
Marriage way go crash go crash cheesy

Palema007:
I stopped reading mid way.... All these test just to know if a woman is worth your commitment? If you have to go through this stress, its best to just keep your commitment to yourself, get a sec doll or better still some clay! grin grin. This is INSECURITY at it's peak!

If a woman had written this, you all would have come for her head!

In other words, the aformentioned qualities are too much or unreasonable to seek out for? Damn.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by SteelMcqueen: 8:19am On Nov 13, 2020
Op!!! The fundamental of any relationship is the man's frame. You bring her into your frame. if she can't submit to your frame... ditch her.

Get this guys!!! it's not what she is.....it's who you are!!!

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by CaveAdullam: 8:19am On Nov 13, 2020
Nice one from pansophist.

A little add: women by default are machiavellians, they know when, where, and how to mimic to any situation regardless of whether it's good or bad. Women, especially those who are approaching the wall, hit the wall or past the wall will play the chameleon game effectively, pretending to pass your vetting scrutinization. Many of them at their epiphany phase or wall phase, will then discover a need for a religious salvation, and begin to act as wise sages. And any man that approaches them in their religious salvation phase will definitely fall for their whims, with little or no cognizance of their past.

We all have a moment of change, but women change not for the sake of change itself, it is a subtle act of game and manipulation; an attempt to eat their cake during the h0e/party phase, and desire it back during the epiphany/salvation phase. What propel this change is because of a decline in beauty, attention, age, fertility and to quickly latch onto a man for marriage.

Therefore, as a man, entering into a long term relationship or marriage, the vetting process for women should be between the ages of 18-25, using the "virgin/hymen" requirement as a prerequisite. If a woman is a virgin, there is a very high probability of passing other tests. In addition to the vetting process: stir all forms of emotions in her; anger, pain, joy, gladness, anxiety etc. This is to determine her balance and extremes, and how to counter it when you eventually commit to her.

You don't need to like this, a man that has upheave himself to a king standard will never find problem searching and finally engaged himself to a virgin with a high dose of femininity. Other lower men can settle for repentant wh0res who wear a facade of intellect, logic, good behaviour, good character etc.

So, as a man, become high quality in every areas of your life, and only commit to a high quality woman. Settling for less is an unbalanced equation and a waste of your resources. Take a detailed analysis of her past, her sexual escapades, her social behaviour, ideologies and belief system.

Do not commit to a woman in her epiphany phase, because it is foolish to buy the cow when the milk is free. If she freely gave the milk in the past, there's no need paying for it in the present. Do not be deceived by the appearance of the cow, it is a facade.

Thanks.

God bless.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 8:26am On Nov 13, 2020
pansophist:




In other words, the aformentioned qualities are too much or unreasonable to seek out for? Damn.
Don't put words where there are not. A test is something you do deliberately, meaning you are intentional about it, you spend your time and energy accessing a woman before you get committed, really? So what happens if she fails one or two? She isn't worth it? During the process of assessment, will feelings be placed on hold by both partners or just the accessor? Wheres the time for all these tests when some are already popping babies in first year of meeting? grin Lol. Your write up as much as it is virtually sensible to read, it isn't practicable. Very far from reality!

Lol... Sometimes i wish life is really white and black the way you lot make it seem! cheesy grin

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 8:33am On Nov 13, 2020
Raalsalghul:
Maybe foreign women, no Nigerian lady will pass 30% of these tests.
Ironically, Nigerian guys approval of this write up ends here. Only 5% percent of Nigerian guys will practice the thread. Una body dey too itch you pass test. grin

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by CaveAdullam: 8:34am On Nov 13, 2020
pansophist:




In other words, the aformentioned qualities are too much or unreasonable to seek out for? Damn.
Nothing there is difficult for a woman. It is as simple as ABC as it requires little muscular work and a good dose of mental capacity. In fact, all women were born with the aforementioned qualities, but squandered it away out of negligence, liberality, ignorance, and poor parental upbringing. Only when they are done with their debauchery days, and decide to settle down will they begin to discover and analyse the mistakes they've made in the past. Many of them are lucky though, because since majority of men has veered off from virility traits, they still settle for such kind of women----They've found true love at last. Loooooooool.

If women will not settle for less, men also must raise the bar and not settle for less also. This is stable enough.

Ride on jare.

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by WantsandMore: 8:41am On Nov 13, 2020
pansophist:
Her response in stressful situations. For example, going on a vacation with her, and due to feign emergency, the trip would change and canceled midway., how is her reaction? Also, testing if she is dependable. Like calling her in the middle of a night and ask for a quick favor. (not 2k favor lol) Also, ask her for cash, yep, a lot of it. Faking loss of financial buoyancy due to bad business deals and watch if her behaviors changed. Asking her about her ex and if she talks shit about them. Her relationship with her parents, especially her father.

Her kind of friends, if she is financially responsible by watching what she spends her money on. If she is religious, or submit to a sophisticated belief system. If she lives within her means. How she relates with people she gains nothing from (eg waiters), how she relates with the defenseless (animals and kids) if she can take good care of you when sick. Does she have it at the back of her head to be adorable and accentuate her femininity by eating healthy and keeping in shape?

Giving her handy crafted gifts and see if she appreciates it more or less than money. If she is a social media addict and attention seeker. If she respects things, events, and people that are important to you. Does she give you gifts equally during events such as your birthday? Does she try to impress you? Does she have the mentality that you should be lucky for having her? Is she submissive (not to be confused with being subordinate), can she cook and spice up the home with her feminine allure?

Is she egoistic? (not to be confused with healthy pride). Does she argue unnecessarily to win, or to make sense and pass her point? Is apologizing when she is at fault a big problem for her? Is saying "sorry" automatic or forced? Has she grown past mind games and cheap manipulations? Does she weaponize sex? Does she go beyond her comfort to make you smile? How is her childhood like? (to know people deeply, you need to study their childhood), Can you be vulnerable to her?

Do you find yourself pleasing her naturally because her femininity shines out the masculinity in you? or she makes you do the things she wants by force? Does she let you lead? Is she complimentary to your life and brings opposing energy that flourishes the relationship? does she contribute to the growth of the relationship by playing her own path? Can you be yourself in her presence even if you wear a mask navigating the outside world?

Most importantly, a woman will naturally do most of these things and be on her best behavior if she chooses you. Do not ever try to convert a woman that has not fallen in love with you to do all this, it will be a disaster. Go where you are loved, and the woman will naturally submit if you are playing your part right. So do well for yourself, develop yourself as a man, so you'll have female abundance and leverage to set standards.

For now, this will do. If she passes all, congrats. You got yourself a queen.
women shit test men & not the other way around, if you r present and conscious enough you will more than know enough about ur woman.
Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Palema007: 8:44am On Nov 13, 2020
SteelMcqueen:
Op!!! The fundamental of any relationship is the man's frame. You bring her into your frame. if she can't submit to your frame... ditch her.

Get this guys!!! it's not what she is.....it's who you are!!!
Lol.... The things I read here though! grin grin " it's not what she is...... Its who you are!!! "

No wonder you lots end up with wolves in sheep's clothing. When these ladies begin to show their untameable frame, you come here to write threads on "how she changed" and seek advice from fellow short sighted pillers. The fall of the man truly is his PRIDE.

If your assertion is true, i wonder if Pansop.hist tests is necessary then, after all you could have just changed her into YOUR FRAMES like the magicians you are. cheesy grin grin. The contradiction on this thread ehn, it is "sweeting" my belly. grin grin

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Nobody: 8:45am On Nov 13, 2020
very true op and all these also to the boyfriend too
Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Michelle55: 8:49am On Nov 13, 2020
Hmmm. All these epistle ontop woman matter? Ike gwuru

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by Nobody: 8:49am On Nov 13, 2020
Sisijetue:
Na to carry sand to mould your kind of woman
E no too hard
All these your aforementioned test and assessment no guarantee happy home
Marriage way go crash go crash cheesy

una sha hate the truth sha
Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by maak400: 8:55am On Nov 13, 2020
CaveAdullam:
Nice one from pansophist.

A little add: women by default are machiavellians, they know when, where, and how to mimic to any situation regardless of whether it's good or bad. Women, especially those who are approaching the wall, hit the wall or past the wall will play the chameleon game effectively, pretending to pass your vetting scrutinization. Many of them at their epiphany phase or wall phase, will then discover a need for a religious salvation, and begin to act as wise sages. And any man that approaches them in their religious salvation phase will definitely fall for their whims, with little or no cognizance of their past.

We all have a moment of change, but women change not for the sake of change itself, it is a subtle act of game and manipulation; an attempt to eat their cake during the h0e/party phase, and desire it back during the epiphany/salvation phase. What propel this change is because of a decline in beauty, attention, age, fertility and to quickly latch onto a man for marriage.

Therefore, as a man, entering into a long term relationship or marriage, the vetting process for women should be between the ages of 18-25, using the "virgin/hymen" requirement as a prerequisite. If a woman is a virgin, there is a very high probability of passing other tests. In addition to the vetting process: stir all forms of emotions in her; anger, pain, joy, gladness, anxiety etc. This is to determine her balance and extremes, and how to counter it when you eventually commit to her.

You don't need to like this, a man that has upheave himself to a king standard will never find problem searching and finally engaged himself to a virgin with a high dose of femininity. Other lower men can settle for repentant wh0res who wear a facade of intellect, logic, good behaviour, good character etc.

So, as a man, become high quality in every areas of your life, and only commit to a high quality woman. Settling for less is an unbalanced equation and a waste of your resources. Take a detailed analysis of her past, her sexual escapades, her social behaviour, ideologies and belief system.

Do not commit to a woman in her epiphany phase, because it is foolish to buy the cow when the milk is free. If she freely gave the milk in the past, there's no need paying for it in the present. Do not be deceived by the appearance of the cow, it is a facade.

Thanks.

God bless.
Great submission!

I love you CaveAdullam, no homo cool

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by sapientia(m): 9:02am On Nov 13, 2020
Hahahahahaha

Fuel is now officially N170

Selling now at N200

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by DirtyGold: 9:06am On Nov 13, 2020
Most importantly, a woman will naturally do most of these things and be on her best behavior if she chooses you. Do not ever try to convert a woman that has not fallen in love with you to do all this, it will be a disaster. Go where you are loved, and the woman will naturally submit if you are playing your part right. So do well for yourself, develop yourself as a man, so you'll have female abundance and leverage to set standards.
That's the main point of this thread. If she's for you, you wont even have to try...
And then pray she doesn't get pulled to some other guy that seems better than you

Magnoliaa:



Contradictions upon contradictions everywhere. Buh well, you are saying, in other words, there's a possibility for another OG with better games to snatch her, yeah? After all, men need to practice... Another man conquering another man's adds to his portfolio and all, abi?

That means you'll have to keep your pets on a tight leash - 'cos they are mindless and swayed by illusions, sweet words.

I wonder who is the controller and the head here.

Hmm. "The things we read here," like someone said.

My view does not contradict the OP. If you like a girl, make your interest known. If she truly chooses to be with you, you wont need to stress at all. With such a girl, you can tell her your church mind anytime and she wont run away. She'll commit her effort into making it work including making excuses for you when you fall short of expectations.

However, choosing you is a choice (her choice) and a normal girl (including married women) gets regular attention from other men. If for some fascination she unwittingly gives some other guy attention and the excitement or vibes of a new relationship overshadows her present relationship, then the pre-existing relationship starts developing a k-leg... what was nothing suddenly becomes a major problem and before you know it, she's pulled away to that "better man" even if what suddenly looked better to her was an illusion.

What's tha business?

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Re: Traits a man should observe in a woman when considering commitment by DukeJoe17: 9:11am On Nov 13, 2020
Never settled for attention seeking type of woman, they can go to an extent to revive her long forgotten sex partner of many years each time you people have misunderstanding, they're are cheap to get laid too.

Experienced guru.

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