Mrs, Chima:

Mz. Dark,

I reserved my comments on the violation and the senseless comments about Mr. Chima for a reason.  You have proved my point that SOME people can actually read and understand the real dynamic of the situation.  Thanks sis! 

Reality, Mz. Great, and Rokiatu, I thanks you guys for the comments and such wise people you are.  Thanks. 

Now getting to the DEEP ISSUE of it all.  I have observed comments of SELECTED few and came to a conclusion.  That these selected few have SOME BITTERNESS toward women in general.  I am being the scapegoat because I am the most VOCAL and[b] if you look at history of women who are conscious are the first to be "executed" and "ridiculed" such women have to be strong spiritually and physically to maintain their position in the world of brutal boys.  [/b]

I have always stated that women need to watch how the boys treats their mother and the women in their family.  It is a TRUE indication of how he will treat YOU.  I have actually had women shouted at me in REAL LIFE saying that I do not want them to have husbands or boyfriends.  That is not my plight.  My plight is to get women to be self aware of their WORTH and to know that they do not HAVE TO SETTLE to be loved.  It is sad to see WOMEN on this site will change their religions, jobs, image, and betray their family just to have a man. 

If a man truly loves you he will never cause you stress nor he will cause you strife.  That is the true.  But lonely and desperate women do not want to hear that and instead shoots down the messenger.  And for the boys, who are on a game plan can't stand a woman who is vocal and honest.  They rather hear the sugary version of life and live their lives in pretense.  SOME REGIONS are famous for that. 

It is unfortunate that these boys were raised to believe that women are subservant to them and because they have watched their mothers BEATEN, DISRESPECTED, ASSAULTED, AND violated they have carried that mentality into their adulthood affecting their marriage and relationships.  However the only different between the mother and the wife is the wife learned her worth and will not accept less than to be with a man. 

This thread isn't about Mr. Chima or Mrs. Chima, it is a outlet thread for the boys who are suffering from childhood abuse of any kind and the inability to verbalize their thoughts in a more MATURED manner.  This isn't about Mr. Chima's choice of a spouse but merely jealousy that such a man can handle a strong sister.  It is the dumbfoundness of many who can't believe a woman can be VOCAL, FREE, INDEPENDENT, SUCCESSFUL, and MARRIED to a strong man that is not wavered by low self esteem nor insecurity.