I'm writing this based on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6242360/ubunjas-miseducation-2020-femininity/1#95844154

Y'all probably hate me now cause of my stubborn nature, I say it as I see it without twisting words. And I very much don't care about what any of you think or feel about me, because no one here feeds me nor clothes me. I don't censor words neither do I look face. And I'm not a premium beans like some ladies. I believe what I'll achieve in life, I definitely will with the help of God Almighty.


And no, I'm not a man hater. I very much love men because I have a father and a wonderful brother. When I go against some logics by men it is because as a woman, I know what and how it feels to be manipulated and unappreciated by some men, especially some downright downgrading comments I read here from men towards women.

Now on that link is a topic about femininity, and hey, I'm completely feminine, and I love men. Reading that thread and comments, I saw how men were agreeing and literally nodding their heads profusely to that write up, why? Because it is just what they expect from the female folk. And the word is "useless".

That a woman shouldn't work, that she shouldn't be bold nor outspoken, that she shouldn't hustle and fend for herself, rather she should depend on the men for her wellbeing by just being feminine. Ha! I'm sorry sis, you're digging your own grave. We all read comments from men all day calling Nigerian women broke, useless and " urgent 2k" gang. And "vagina people" when you don't use your head, work hard and fend for yourself, these same men agreeing to that ubanja bullshît will be the same people to create a thread here bashing you on how useless and dependent you are on them. This is what they do.

So as a lady, because you're feminine, therefore you're going to sit and use your "femininity" to make a man do your bid, you're just useless. Yes it'll work, they'll do the bid of course, but to them you're just useless and a mere object used for their satisfaction.

What am I saying in essence? Please endeavour to be your own boss, disregard whatever ogbanje or obanjo is saying. Fend for yourself, have self worth and discipline yourself and at the same time be feminine!

I'll use my boss as an example here. My boss makes foot wears, (and so do I) she makes bags, she repairs electronicals, she's all round. But if they ever tell you this lady does any of this you'd never believe. She doesn't have low cut nor acts like a man, she's100% feminine and so am I. And guess what? She's getting married next month to a wonderful man. Whenever bills come, they share it. And that respect is there! Ladies, (I'm drawing my ears o) do not let any man take away your respect. Don't be rendered useless because of a stupîd femininity that won't feed nor pay your bills. When you need money, you'll start begging, when you want to shower your parents with gifts, you'll start begging. And you're disrespected and reminded how poor you're all the time.

Even women their parents are stupîdly rich, still work hard to make their own money. (E get why).

Because you're female they expect you to be in a cage while they feed you banana like a monkey and pet you. And at the same time mock you.

Ladies embrace your femininity and also gain your respect. Pursue your career, be bold, talk when you need to, disagree when you need to, be your own boss. A man who truly knows your worth will love you!

Note: if you don't read that thread on that link from beginning to end, don't bother quoting nor mentioning me.

Well spoken.

I have taken my time and I have read his article on femininity and I think he is not telling women not to work but only saying poverty and wealth make females to appear masculine thereby suppressing her femininity. well, do what works for you, this live has no formula

Nairaland is currently something else. I hardly comment nowadays because I find this forum hate-stricken. The forum is now filled with bitter and jobless (sorry to use the word) people; and you'll find most of this set of people in this section. SMH

All of una be online keyboard warriors, plus Ubanja guy or shey na girl sef. In real life, we all need sex, just depends on how you get yours.

Shortyy:
I'm writing this based on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6242360/ubunjas-miseducation-2020-femininity/1#95844154

Y'all probably hate me now cause of my stubborn nature, I say it as I see it without twisting words. And I very much don't care about what any of you think or feel about me, because no one here feeds me nor clothes me. I don't censor words neither do I look face. And I'm not a premium beans like some ladies. I believe what I'll achieve in life, I definitely will with the help of God Almighty.


And no, I'm not a man hater. I very much love men because I have a father and a wonderful brother. When I go against some logics by men it is because as a woman, I know what and how it feels to be manipulated and unappreciated by some men, especially some downright downgrading comments I read here from men towards women.

Now on that link is a topic about femininity, and hey, I'm completely feminine, and I love men. Reading that thread and comments, I saw how men were agreeing and literally nodding their heads profusely to that write up, why? Because it is just what they expect from the female folk. And the word is "useless".

That a woman shouldn't work, that she shouldn't be bold nor outspoken, that she shouldn't hustle and fend for herself, rather she should depend on the men for her wellbeing by just being feminine. Ha! I'm sorry sis, you're digging your own grave. We all read comments from men all day calling Nigerian women broke, useless and " urgent 2k" gang. And "vagina people" when you don't use your head, work hard and fend for yourself, these same men agreeing to that ubanja bullshît will be the same people to create a thread here bashing you on how useless and dependent you are on them. This is what they do.

So as a lady, because you're feminine, therefore you're going to sit and use your "femininity" to make a man do your bid, you're just useless. Yes it'll work, they'll do the bid of course, but to them you're just useless and a mere object used for their satisfaction.

What am I saying in essence? Please endeavour to be your own boss, disregard whatever ogbanje or obanjo is saying. Fend for yourself, have self worth and discipline yourself and at the same time be feminine!

I'll use my boss as an example here. My boss makes foot wears, (and so do I) she makes bags, she repairs electronicals, she's all round. But if they ever tell you this lady does any of this you'd never believe. She doesn't have low cut nor acts like a man, she's100% feminine and so am I. And guess what? She's getting married next month to a wonderful man. Whenever bills come, they share it. And that respect is there! Ladies, (I'm drawing my ears o) do not let any man take away your respect. Don't be rendered useless because of a stupîd femininity that won't feed nor pay your bills. When you need money, you'll start begging, when you want to shower your parents with gifts, you'll start begging. And you're disrespected and reminded how poor you're all the time.

Even women their parents are stupîdly rich, still work hard to make their own money. (E get why).

Because you're female they expect you to be in a cage while they feed you banana like a monkey and pet you. And at the same time mock you.

Ladies embrace your femininity and also gain your respect. Pursue your career, be bold, talk when you need to, disagree when you need to, be your own boss. A man who truly knows your worth will love you!

Note: if you don't read that thread on that link from beginning to end, don't bother quoting nor mentioning me.

Beautifully written and well said!

nwaezeemmanuel:
Beautifully written and well said!

Thank you!

Ovation!!!

You're welcome, i have stayed long enough on Nairaland to know that a lot of people don't know anything about masculinity, femininity, feminism and many gender-sensitive topics.

I pity the naive ones that feed on what they want to see and not what is true.

Shortyy:


Thank you!

PhGossip:
Ovation!!!

Thanks Sir

Co-sign!
I read a comment that said women were not supposed to work,career women are unattractive, a woman should not be independent and must let go of her dreams and career to raise children and some other beautifully worded nonsense.I was weak after reading that bullshit. I still can't believe that a 21st century male thinks like that.

They would be coming for you head shortly, seek shelter babe

nwaezeemmanuel:
You're welcome, i have stayed long enough on Nairaland to know that a lot of people don't know anything about masculinity, femininity, feminism and many gender-sensitive topics.

I pity the naive ones that feed on what they want to see and not what is true.

I just came across that thread and I was just dumbfounded!

Shortyy:
I'm writing this based on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6242360/ubunjas-miseducation-2020-femininity/1#95844154

Y'all probably hate me now cause of my stubborn nature, I say it as I see it without twisting words. And I very much don't care about what any of you think or feel about me, because no one here feeds me nor clothes me. I don't censor words neither do I look face. And I'm not a premium beans like some ladies. I believe what I'll achieve in life, I definitely will with the help of God Almighty.


And no, I'm not a man hater. I very much love men because I have a father and a wonderful brother. When I go against some logics by men it is because as a woman, I know what and how it feels to be manipulated and unappreciated by some men, especially some downright downgrading comments I read here from men towards women.

Now on that link is a topic about femininity, and hey, I'm completely feminine, and I love men. Reading that thread and comments, I saw how men were agreeing and literally nodding their heads profusely to that write up, why? Because it is just what they expect from the female folk. And the word is "useless".

That a woman shouldn't work, that she shouldn't be bold nor outspoken, that she shouldn't hustle and fend for herself, rather she should depend on the men for her wellbeing by just being feminine. Ha! I'm sorry sis, you're digging your own grave. We all read comments from men all day calling Nigerian women broke, useless and " urgent 2k" gang. And "vagina people" when you don't use your head, work hard and fend for yourself, these same men agreeing to that ubanja bullshît will be the same people to create a thread here bashing you on how useless and dependent you are on them. This is what they do.

So as a lady, because you're feminine, therefore you're going to sit and use your "femininity" to make a man do your bid, you're just useless. Yes it'll work, they'll do the bid of course, but to them you're just useless and a mere object used for their satisfaction.

What am I saying in essence? Please endeavour to be your own boss, disregard whatever ogbanje or obanjo is saying. Fend for yourself, have self worth and discipline yourself and at the same time be feminine!

I'll use my boss as an example here. My boss makes foot wears, (and so do I) she makes bags, she repairs electronicals, she's all round. But if they ever tell you this lady does any of this you'd never believe. She doesn't have low cut nor acts like a man, she's100% feminine and so am I. And guess what? She's getting married next month to a wonderful man. Whenever bills come, they share it. And that respect is there! Ladies, (I'm drawing my ears o) do not let any man take away your respect. Don't be rendered useless because of a stupîd femininity that won't feed nor pay your bills. When you need money, you'll start begging, when you want to shower your parents with gifts, you'll start begging. And you're disrespected and reminded how poor you're all the time.

Even women their parents are stupîdly rich, still work hard to make their own money. (E get why).

Because you're female they expect you to be in a cage while they feed you banana like a monkey and pet you. And at the same time mock you.

Ladies embrace your femininity and also gain your respect. Pursue your career, be bold, talk when you need to, disagree when you need to, be your own boss. A man who truly knows your worth will love you!

Note: if you don't read that thread on that link from beginning to end, don't bother quoting nor mentioning me.

Shortyy Is on her Ovulation Period, I understand......

MhisTahrah:
Co-sign!
I read a comment that said women were not supposed to work,career women are unattractive, a woman should not be independent and must let go of her dreams and career to raise children and some other beautifully worded nonsense.I was weak after reading that bullshit. I still can't believe that a 21st century male thinks like that.

It is quite pathetic. I stumbled on that thread this evening, reading it gave me chills.

I stopped following the thread after the OP started using femininity to give BS advice.

Shortyy:


I just came across that thread and I was just dumbfounded!

Your write-up is nice, couldn't find a fault which I could use to counter u.

Don't be surprised. Many people hate evolution. At a point in time, being a woman meant that you were a full time housewife doing nothing but look after the family.

But things have changed, by a mile. Cave men will be cave men though.

MhisTahrah:
Co-sign!
I read a comment that said women were not supposed to work,career women are unattractive, a woman should not be independent and must let go of her dreams and career to raise children and some other beautifully worded nonsense.I was weak after reading that bullshit. I still can't believe that a 21st century male thinks like that.

nwaezeemmanuel:
I stopped following the thread after the OP started using femininity to give BS advice.

It is good for a woman to embrace her femininity, but that doesn't mean she should lose her self worth and become useless because she is female.

Maybe you made a vital point.

I personally don't support anyone teaching hate or mistreatment of a gender.


Love never fails.

Yes! Like how a man should embrace his masculinity.

People need to know what toxic masculinity and toxic femininity is.

Shortyy:


It is good for a woman to embrace her femininity, but that doesn't mean she should lose her self worth and become useless because she is female.

nwaezeemmanuel:
Yes! Like how a man should embrace his masculinity.

People need to know what toxic masculinity and toxic femininity is.

Exactly!

As for my humble opinion, the mass generalization of everything is just annoying. Women says “All men are same” and men says almost same. If we follow those logic then all of us should not kuku marry sha. And more so it is not by force to do relationship if you’re afraid of manipulation. Monk school are everywhere I wonder why those places aren’t full

grammarnazi2:
Nairaland is currently something else. I hardly comment nowadays because I find this forum hate-stricken. The forum is now filled with bitter and jobless (sorry to use the word) people; and you'll find most of this set of people in this section. SMH

Lol. Sometime when you're frustrated in Rlife, it just so natural to login on nairaland and pour all the frustrations on whosoever made himself available (government, celebrities, coaches or fellow nairalanders)
Esp. Since you know that there will be zero or no repercussions.

That why I always take NL'ers advises with a pail of salt.

nwaezeemmanuel:
You're welcome, i have stayed long enough on Nairaland to know that a lot of people don't know anything about masculinity, femininity, feminism and many gender-sensitive topics.

I pity the naive ones that feed on what they want to see and not what is true.

You registered this year and you're claiming 'long enough'

Long kor, prick ni.

The op is naive, you quoted that Ubunja's post with a complete lack of understanding of what it actually said. Any topic on NL that is "anti-ubunja" (no matter how baseless it sounds) will always get 100% support from all the females and the feminist males - emasculated males that are always seeking for female validation everywhere. To the op, I don't expect you to be logical but you can try and tone down your emotions while reading the topic, maybe you can understand a little bit of what he wrote on that post.

OP how i wish you can summarize the story for me because i don't read it at all, it is too long





Anyway God nogo shame us

Rubbish post

Shortyy:
I'm writing this based on this thread https://www.nairaland.com/6242360/ubunjas-miseducation-2020-femininity/1#95844154

Y'all probably hate me now cause of my stubborn nature, I say it as I see it without twisting words. And I very much don't care about what any of you think or feel about me, because no one here feeds me nor clothes me. I don't censor words neither do I look face. And I'm not a premium beans like some ladies. I believe what I'll achieve in life, I definitely will with the help of God Almighty.


And no, I'm not a man hater. I very much love men because I have a father and a wonderful brother. When I go against some logics by men it is because as a woman, I know what and how it feels to be manipulated and unappreciated by some men, especially some downright downgrading comments I read here from men towards women.

Now on that link is a topic about femininity, and hey, I'm completely feminine, and I love men. Reading that thread and comments, I saw how men were agreeing and literally nodding their heads profusely to that write up, why? Because it is just what they expect from the female folk. And the word is "useless".

That a woman shouldn't work, that she shouldn't be bold nor outspoken, that she shouldn't hustle and fend for herself, rather she should depend on the men for her wellbeing by just being feminine. Ha! I'm sorry sis, you're digging your own grave. We all read comments from men all day calling Nigerian women broke, useless and " urgent 2k" gang. And "vagina people" when you don't use your head, work hard and fend for yourself, these same men agreeing to that ubanja bullshît will be the same people to create a thread here bashing you on how useless and dependent you are on them. This is what they do.

So as a lady, because you're feminine, therefore you're going to sit and use your "femininity" to make a man do your bid, you're just useless. Yes it'll work, they'll do the bid of course, but to them you're just useless and a mere object used for their satisfaction.

What am I saying in essence? Please endeavour to be your own boss, disregard whatever ogbanje or obanjo is saying. Fend for yourself, have self worth and discipline yourself and at the same time be feminine!

I'll use my boss as an example here. My boss makes foot wears, (and so do I) she makes bags, she repairs electronicals, she's all round. But if they ever tell you this lady does any of this you'd never believe. She doesn't have low cut nor acts like a man, she's100% feminine and so am I. And guess what? She's getting married next month to a wonderful man. Whenever bills come, they share it. And that respect is there! Ladies, (I'm drawing my ears o) do not let any man take away your respect. Don't be rendered useless because of a stupîd femininity that won't feed nor pay your bills. When you need money, you'll start begging, when you want to shower your parents with gifts, you'll start begging. And you're disrespected and reminded how poor you're all the time.

Even women their parents are stupîdly rich, still work hard to make their own money. (E get why).

Because you're female they expect you to be in a cage while they feed you banana like a monkey and pet you. And at the same time mock you.

Ladies embrace your femininity and also gain your respect. Pursue your career, be bold, talk when you need to, disagree when you need to, be your own boss. A man who truly knows your worth will love you!

Note: if you don't read that thread on that link from beginning to end, don't bother quoting nor mentioning me.

√√

Enigma2049:
Rubbish post

Oga calm down. Eat dinner and sleep. Tomorrow morning you can come and read it again.

Wasn't expecting anything better from a woman. Sometimes it is better to be silent and be thought a fool than to speak and remove all doubts.

That's just how explosive the ignorance is on this platform.

I don't need to be here for five years to know that. And i have been a guest longer than i have registered. So, calm down.

ABCthings:
You registered this year and you're claiming 'long enough'

Long kor, prick ni.