Any married man that cannot talk with his wife honestly is counting the days to divorce.

czarr:
Should a married man rent a secret apartment where he can go for a couple of days to refresh and recharge his spirit with some alone time away from the whole marriage something?

In the guise of 'i am going for a business meeting or seminar for a few days'

We allow parents and society to force us into marriage.and most times no peace of mind

cooooooks:
Any married man that cannot talk with his wife honestly is counting the days to divorce.

You can't be honest in everything, sometimes too much honesty causes more harm than good?

For example if you happen to find your wife's sister sexually appealing, and you wife asks you if you find her sister sexually appealing...would you say yes?

Or your wife's mother is rude and has a terrible behaviour, if your wife asks what you think about her mother would you be completely honest? No! .

Women appreciate little white lies, especially of they cannot handle the truth.

God forbid my sister or any woman in my family marries someone that will be salivating at their younger, possibly underage, female siblings/relatives.

czarr:
You can't be honest in everything, sometimes too much honesty causes more harm than good?

For example if you happen to find your wife's sister sexually appealing, and you wife asks you if you find her sister sexually appealing...would you say yes?

Or your wife's mother is rude and has a terrible behaviour, if your wife asks what you think about her mother would you be completely honest? No! .

Women appreciate little white lies, especially of they cannot handle the truth.

Just tell us u wan go camp babe for some days, refresh ko, recharge card ni , wahala be like Uganda, to enter day easy , to comot na him hard

czarr:
I think it can actually save marriages.
The guy can let of some steam, forever is a long time

Yes it does.

Mariangeles:

I agree that it can save marriages.



It's not only about the men though.
Women even have it worse than men.

Would you be happy if I said women too can take leave?

If a man certainly goes to a place where it's just him, to let off steam, certainly it's also a time for the woman to stay home and let off steam.

cooooooks:
God forbid my sister or any woman in my family marries someone that will be salivating at their younger, possibly underage, female siblings/relatives.

okay...that you consider someone attractive doesn't mean you salivate or even think about sexing that person. you can say God Forbid from now till tomorrow, but we don't choose we we are attracted too, and sometimes life happens regardless of your wishes.

virginprincess:
Any married man that takes such decision already has an interior motive.

Modify your comment it is "ulterior" not "interior"

Regex:


Would you be happy if I said women too can take leave?

If a man certainly goes to a place where it's just him, to let off steam, certainly it's also a time for the woman to stay home and let off steam.

"Let off steam" with the kids? How about the husband "let off steam" with the kids at home while wifey goes off to a place where "it's just her"?

Who are they taking a break from in the first place? From each other or the kids or from everything including the kids?

czarr:
You can't be honest in everything, sometimes too much honesty causes more harm than good?

For example if you happen to find your wife's sister sexually appealing, and you wife asks you if you find her sister sexually appealing...would you say yes?

Or your wife's mother is rude and has a terrible behaviour, if your wife asks what you think about her mother would you be completely honest? No! .

Women appreciate little white lies, especially of they cannot handle the truth.

Your wife can only ask you that kind of question if you give her reasons to.

Mariangeles:


"Let off steam" with the kids? How about the husband "let off steam" with the kids at home while wifey goes off to a place where "it's just her"?

Who are they taking a break from in the first place? From each other or the kids or from everything including the kids?

Whichever one that fits the picture in your head. Both of them will have to come to an agreement.

A man who is wise will once in a while (be it biweekly or monthly) take the kids out and give his wife space even before she asks for it.

I would advise you have a personal room in youe own house . Where no one is allowed to enter. Anytime u wan blow of some steam.. enter the room lock your door.. its way better than having an apartment outside, cos when madam finds out, e no go funny and that peace of mind u have been longing for . U won't get it.

Modified: this is my strategy and it works, anytime we start having a baseless argument or quarrel, I don't sleep on the matrimonial bed, I just walk into the room with my laptop and chill for the rest of the night . When she sees the me the next morning I can tell she felt my absence.

czarr:
Should a married man rent a secret apartment where he can go for a couple of days to refresh and recharge his spirit with some alone time away from the whole marriage something?

In the guise of 'i am going for a business meeting or seminar for a few days'

A married man should never ever do that. NEVER EVER.

But, I am sorry, I have been married for 10 years now and I have a secret apartment where I go to unwind without any side chick or Olosho accompanying me.

Federalcase:
There is no need for secret apartment, If i can't refresh and recharge my spirit in my home then the marriage is no more

I thought as much,y should I spent or waste money renting an apartment in d name cooling off when I have a home. I can't do that, if my wife can't give me joy or happiness, then d marriage should go.

Yes. The wife too should be going there alone once in a while too

czarr:
Should a married man rent a secret apartment where he can go for a couple of days to refresh and recharge his spirit with some alone time away from the whole marriage something?

In the guise of 'i am going for a business meeting or seminar for a few days'

first off,put yourself in your wives shoes and answer this question! stop that nonsense! nough said

I don't know what's wrong with this marriage though,but all I can think of is the poor wife. oh poor wife, just know your husband didn't mean it when he said "for better for worse", I just hope she doesn't also take a break from the marriage and chill in this guise.

akaahs:

I thought as much,y should I spent or waste money renting an apartment in d name cooling off when I have a home. I can't do that, if my wife can't give me joy or happiness, then d marriage should go.

exactly, waste of money