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Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Romanoff(f): 12:23pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
ImaIma1: Not so many are blessed to have what we have. I'm just thankful I didn't miss it. |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by MummyD2020(f): 12:47pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Romanoff: I concur with the last sentence. Before the kids will arrive and just start insulting without contributing to d topic. Nice write up |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Gamesmart: 12:50pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Romanoff: I will have to disagree with that. If I look at my life and experiences, my friendships were formed based on circumstancial meeting and friendship development. You meet people at school/work/party/church etc. and engage with them. From the engagement, you exchange contact details without knowing their qualities. Many of all times end up being friends. Some with qualities you like, others with qualities you might not like but you adapt to if they are tolerable and you can limit the impact of those qualities on yourself. Even some of my closest friends have qualities I am not a fan off but their other qualities and the way they make effort to be good friends is what makes us friends. If they were women, I would not shag them. Very few highly eligible men can (or need to try to) date their friends. They meet women who are attracted to them or keen to be with them and they form a relationship. Furthermore, I definitely will not be in a sexless relationship. Any girl who has such limits will only and always only be my friend, not someone I would be in a relationship with. 1 Like |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Romanoff(f): 12:56pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Gamesmart: All I'm saying is don't start a relationship with someone because you want to sleep with them. Don't let that be the foundation of a relationship or marriage. I rest my case. |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Gamesmart: 1:07pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
ImaIma1: I definitely have not only the gift but also the blessing of looking at things from all sides and angles, that is why I had to challenge your notion that someone is not whole or complete without being in a partnership or someone is not strong if they engage in divorce. ImaIma1: They are strong and successful men that got divorce. End of! Stop saying only weak people divorce. That is a lame way to challenge people to support and promote marriage. ImaIma1: There are 45 year olds that feel happy to be married. There are many 45 year olds that are happily unmarried. There are many 45 year olds that are in miserable marriages. There are many 45 year olds that are divorced and regret ever wasting their years engaging in marriage. Try and look at it from multiple angles. Not just the "I must promote marriage" angle. ImaIma1: I am old enough and sensible enough to have seen what marriage is, how it works and the normal outcomes for me to know it DOES NOT WORK! It has mostly failed in all parts of the world!!! Very few are "successful". You can blame all kinds of reasons for why marriage fail, but the best way to conclude if you are objective is that the model of the institution is not a fit for human beings. Don't force square pegs in round holes and then blame the shape of the pegs that don't fit. |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Gamesmart: 1:26pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Romanoff: I get that point, but I disagree with your other main point. Don't start a relationship with someone based solely or mainly on friendship. Attraction is very important, not just communication. It is ridiculous to be in a marriage with someone, while their cousin, friend or your work colleague gives you the butterflies more. The root of such wrong thinking is that many women refuse to accept that men are different and attraction is the main thing that attract most of them. Many women think if they can condemn that enough and use dysphemisms like "weak", "not a real man", "immature", "shallow" etc. then they can change that setting and rewire men to go for "personality". Many Simps will fall for that but it will end in tears for everyone. You can not fight nature. Other girls will still turn you one like mad, while you are with one that does not. Same for the woman, but she can control herself better because she has more to lose. Marry who you are highly attracted to, get along with, can see yourself spending a lot of time with and will be good to you. Otherwise, stay single and enjoy the things you like on short term contracts with someone that meets parts of these! Meeting someone that fits all the bill is a jackpot process that many will never get in their lifetime, hence why marriages will mostly fail or lead to unhappiness (not mainly because of people and their behaviours). Marriage should only be for a very minute few, not a major part of social life. Kolewerk! 1 Like |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Romanoff(f): 1:52pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Gamesmart: I don't think you'll understand my point but I wish you well on yours. |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 2:13pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Gamesmart: So you agree that there are people that are married that are happy. Case closed then. Don't misquote me fornyour pleasure. I didn't say only weak people divorce. There are other factors thst makes a marriage not work. When you are old enough to know how marriage works, it will be evident. Right now is just an outsider view that holds no weight. |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Gamesmart: 2:29pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
ImaIma1: There are people happy to live in Nigeria does not mean migration to a sane country is not a better option. The proportion of people who are happy in marriage is minute. Majority are suffering, smiling and faking it. Many of them in unhappy marriages are even promoting it and keep telling everyone "they need to marry". Misery loves company. They don't want to feel as if they are the only ones in the mess and that made the error. 3 Likes |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by Suremum07: 2:29pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Just like that |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by apatheticme(f): 4:25pm On Jan 12, 2021 |
Uyi168: Tnk you! However, this age of social media wokeness, people make a lot of noise about the breaking ones and keep quiet or ignore completely news about homes waxing stronger! Some even term the man simp for staying with a woman for years! Generally bad news trends and travels faster than good news. May God help this generation! 2 Likes |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 12:52am On Jan 13, 2021 |
apatheticme: If you even try to point out that there are good ones, they don't want to believe it...in fact their brains just shut down completely to that possibility. They prefer to believe the worst and expect every marriage to be what their minds have made it to be. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by apatheticme(f): 6:52am On Jan 13, 2021 |
ImaIma1: . |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 7:41am On Jan 13, 2021 |
apatheticme: You are right about life online vs reality. It only happens on Nairaland. In my whole relations at work, church, school, gatherings, etc, I have not heard guys speak in the manner thst these guys speak to ladies here. I have never come across Redpillers, MGTOWin real life. They only have mouth on Nairaland. So when one guy starts running his mouth, I don't take him too seriously. We are dealing with their alter ego and fantasies...what they can't actually do in real life. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by apatheticme(f): 12:58pm On Jan 13, 2021 |
ImaIma1: Lol at the bolded! It's a phase I believe they'll outgrow! It is well! 1 Like |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 1:22pm On Jan 13, 2021 |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 1:23pm On Jan 13, 2021 |
Romanoff: I am more than thankful. Too many scary stories out there |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by robosky02(m): 1:42pm On Jan 13, 2021 |
Re: My Guy Said, "O Boy I Don Divorce O". by ImaIma1(f): 2:10pm On Jan 13, 2021 |
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