Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

vickydevoka:

Na woman de write dis thing

Elzakzaky:

Are we reading the same thread?

Yamiriflathead:
MARRIAGE ISSA SCAM

LordReed:


What has happened is that people are still holding on to outdated notions of what marriage is supposed to be when the societal conditions that surround marriage have taken a drastic change. They are putting new wine in old wineskins, both the wineskin and the wine will be lost. We seriously need to reevaluate what marriage is in this modern age. Maybe we should begin to formalise marriage as a strict contract like we do in business, none of this wishy washy till death do us part nonsense or head and neck analogies people hold on to. Marriage must evolve like all things or become extinct.

Chii59:

Your moniker sounds very familiar. Are you a mod?
Well you do have a point. But do we allow the hatred grow beyond what it is to something far worse because children have infiltrated the forum? Back in the days, far back as 10 years ago when I got to know about this platform, nairaland was such an amazing place to be! Right now, the stench of misogyny, tribal/ethnic wars have gotten so thick, some of us can't breath. It's gotten out of hand.

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Chii59:

Your moniker sounds very familiar. Are you a mod?
Well you do have a point. But do we allow the hatred grow beyond what it is to something far worse because children have infiltrated the forum? Back in the days, far back as 10 years ago when I got to know about this platform, nairaland was such an amazing place to be! Right now, the stench of misogyny, tribal/ethnic wars have gotten so thick, some of us can't breath. It's gotten out of hand.

TOPCRUISE:
A man that is fond of side chicks and like to check up on his exes will always have a turbulent marriage. A woman that have an amazing exploits of sexual history and adventures with single and married men will find it problematic to settle down with such men. She sees every woman that checks in as a rival

mithras:


What if that person is two years older than you and has certain attitudes like being controlling, emotionally manipulative and somewhat entitled to your money?

BlessedNuel:
Just speechless

Some people think say marriage na to just enter train and alight at the train station.

See eeh,if you are not ready for the deal..... jejely dey ur dey

Omezif:
those who divorce after marriage don't have sense at all, Majorities of them are pagans or eitheists. It's hard to see a trully christian divorce their marriage.

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

colestephan86:

I am still of the opinion that, the cause of failed marriages these days is that most ladies feel it's the responsibility of the guy to do everything, while she saves her own money.
But In Nigeria of today couple must share the responsibility
Grocery and toiletries to the lady
Cable TV the lady
Gas refill the lady
Food the man
Gen running everyday the guy
Car maintenance the man
House rent 60/40
This is the model I use
Many guys are overburdened buy doing it all alone.

slawormiir:
Damnnnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....
Marriage na scam
Me personally will not marry

Baby mama sure me die...
Female wahalar too much.....thier non stop dramatic life, complicated life style, attention seeking and always want to be seen as babies till the end of time..they always want you to listen to them, you give them incessant compliments..they manipulate, coax and hypnotize you! people that behave like angels outside..in public...but are like devils at home

God has already fuckkked me up with six women
Five female siblings and my mother

So I won't add a wife to it

noble2faith:


Most beautiful, don't be perturbed by misogynistic comments by some male nairalanders. The truth is some of them are direct opposite of what they are exhibiting here in reality. Forget this virtual world!

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

RealSolution001:
Seems marriage has continually become less important by the day. A friend we were together in school back then met me in a joint yesterday unwinding and immediately uttered, "o boy, I don divorce o". I was shocked cos I wasn't aware of his marriage. When in school, there was this course mate he was seeing, never knew they took it to marriage level. However, regardless of when they might have gotten married, I don't think the marriage was up to 2 years. I tried to ask him what happened but he said later as the place was too rowdy.

What has become marriages these days?

slawormiir:
Damnnnnn niggarrrr
Isoright....
Marriage na scam
Me personally will not marry

Baby mama sure me die...
Female wahalar too much.....thier non stop dramatic life, complicated life style, attention seeking and always want to be seen as babies till the end of time..they always want you to listen to them, you give them incessant compliments..they manipulate, coax and hypnotize you! people that behave like angels outside..in public...but are like devils at home

God has already fuckkked me up with six women
Five female siblings and my mother

So I won't add a wife to it

Tofax:

As you plan to 'baby mama' other people's daughters & sisters without commitment of marriage, be prepared cos other guys will 'baby mama' your own daughters & sisters without commitment also.
What goes around comes around

alphaconde:
mine is going well

though am messing up big time

however I have made up my mind that whatever my wife does I would forgive her because behind the scenes I have done worse

besides my cute sons don't deserve a broken home.

marriage no be beans

who no get brain make e no try am

Romanoff:
This marriage matter.

A lot of people build their marriage on the wrong foundation.

Money, sex, looks, loneliness, desperation and some other mundane reasons.

The best foundation to build a marriage is on friendship and that's why you'll hear marriage counsellors say "marry your friend".

Take away sex from most relationships there will be nothing left, you'll discover the sex isn't even enough to keep it going. Sex that should be the icing on the cake has become the entire cake.

Money that should add spice to the marriage has become the entire food. He must have money, he must have a good car, she must be working and earning her own money etc. Once the money is not there anymore, water done pass garri.

Don't get me started on the Looks part, you'll marry because she has big bumbum and boobs, or because he is tall dark or fair and handsome with a six inch rod. A time will come that all these things won't do it for you anymore.

Marry your friend. That person that comes to your mind when you want to have deep discussions about your dreams, your bad day, your plans, your failures. That person that you will forget about time and keep talking with cause conversation and laughter and joys and tears just comes real.

That is what brings intimacy. The attraction, sex, money, looks all those ones na jara.

My opinion o. So before you mention me and insult me, take note of the fact that it's my opinion, make Thunder no fire you this morning.

Sabadon:
Most people just marry without understanding the institution called marriage. Marriage be like school, if you enter the course without being prepared for it, you ll accumulate carry overs(problems) till you droo out(divorce)

Marriage is not for boys but men.

post=97943401:
Getting married is not an achievement in life as people see it in this part of the world.
If you are lucky to be in a good and perfect or near perfect marriage, be happy and thank God for your life.
Better to be divorced than to be killed by an abusive partner.
Our Kobo!


Very True.


You can read our post one more time Lipo!

Praxis758:

May God continue to fill the rivers of your knowledge.

You actually defined the mundane qualities that people built their relationship on.

Money is good but won't guarantee a meaniful marriage
Sex is needed but won't add success to the marriage
Physical beauty is the most deceptive
Physical look (tallness, breast, complexion, bumbum, 6 pack etc) may all fade along the journey.

The fading or failure of these aforementioned will definetly breed crisis.

Marrying on conditionless ground with defined purpose will definetly guaranty renewed commitment that will keep the union rolling.


YOUR WISDOM IS APPRECIATED BROTHER.

Splitmind:
The way people are scrambling to defend this institution all over this thread just exposes it's irrelevance.