extol1:
op, do you think you are the only one facing this challenges in the world. the problem with the op is that you are more concerned about what people say regarding you. the truth is the world (people) will never help even if they are in the position to do so rather help yourself by starting small, who know you might people who can help

Thanks sir

Uzomacharles:
Life of a man no easy oooo especially for those wey there papa no get enough...

Our only joy lies in seeing our MOMMA happy..

God Help Us....

Amen, thank you.

MMXX:
The only constant thing in life is change

If you end your life and give up, won't that bring even much more pain for your mum.

Start by paying less attention to what people talk or say bout you.Don't ask, don't care, simply do you..Maybe the big jobs you anticipated aren't forth coming,apply for the small ones even if it's 30k per month,do it for the sake of your mom and support her whilst applying for the big jobs.


Pray more and this time with just a little more faith..No matter what never give up, someone is having it much more difficult somewhere.Atleast you've got an education,some people were never opportuned.Count your blessings

I appreciate this sir, thank you

drmikeadams:


Hold. On bro,

I am trying to

IbBlessing:
Guy you just have to shake it off that is not the end you can start a volunteering job or move a little bit away from your area and if you can see any car wash business start from there and keep praying do not loose hope.

Thanks sir

soundOsonic:
What do you think is the solution to this your dilemma

I just need to get something doing, something productive

yanabasee1:
OP all of us get our own problems and we are just managing it....


Having a job is something most people make silly selection over....



There are jobs out there....You just want something big....


If you can start from something small,... please do...While you are at it....You can make high targets and just maybe, things will fall into places..

But you can't be at home and be throwing shots at big companies just so you'd be able to impress your family and your village people...

Hmnnnnn
I appreciate this sir, thank you

Godsent12:
@op my advice for you is to change location or throw away pride and do anything your hand findeth to do,why you are still with your mum,from doing that little things,you will definitely meet someone that will hold your hands to better place and also blend with other hustlers around, the sky is your starting point.

Amen and I won't forget your advice.
Thank you

ogwuche4u:
Go and get a skill or drive on Uber or bolt. Stop wasting your time on job. You will end up being frustrated

I will do my best to get a skill.
I can't drive

ksbusari:
Pls don't give up bro. My brother and I are going through the same shit at the moment. We have masters degree bt with less paying job and we don't care about what pple say. We sha gonna rough am through with legit hustle. While applying for jobs, don't mind the pay just get the experience and later go for a bigger Ones. Best of luck to us all.

Amen, thank you

FLESHnBLOOD:
Some people are in their late thirties and still in ur shoes nd are yet to give up. Forget about what people are saying behind you. Your miracle is by the corner be optimistic at all times, reject depression,encourage urslf, ur mom and filll ur surroundings with atmosphere of worship be Thnk full to God always for he has done it already. I guess u will also have to change ur circle of frnds as well.. I have alot to say to u but I don't have the strength for much talk. Where do u worship by the way?

I thank you so much sir.

I don't keep friends, I cut communication with people easily, maybe because I am cynical.

I have stopped worshiping in any church since around last year. My family members are Pentecostal, though.

BRO,don't u give up nothing is wat ur life just take time and picture ur life,even if it means starting again do it again these time in a different way.

GodWrites:
OP, you sound unexposed!

Secondly, you're not smart.

Smartness is not by graduating earlier than your mates, nor is smartness cramming facts and figures you'll never use in the real world.

I gotta be honest with you, I graduated with a poor result. Not because I wasn't intelligent, but rather I never allowed echo took all my time.

With just my mobile phone, I was able to amass lots of cutting edge skills on YouTube that still make me money till this day.

You should be able to employ yourself, especially when there is no available job. There have to be some sort of ways you can apply your course into something and make money.

It could be a simple thing like opening a YouTube channel, or even running a blog, or creating an app.

The future now is AI, and yet many of you lots don't want to put interest.

At this age, you don't need to be employed to earn a living. Employ yourself!

What is that skill that you have? Monetize it!

Don't waste your life, after all, we'll all die one day. Why be in a haste?

But if the pain is too much a burden, you have the right to end your life.

It's your pain, your life, you can decide whatever you want.

But I hope you don't, for the sake of your mother.

That's emotional blackmail though, but still consider it.

Good luck!

This means a lot sir.
I'm trying to get a skill, things are really not just going as I thought they would. I will put in more efforts all the same. Thank you.

canalily:
Reduce your emotional stress, try and take everything you are doing one at a step, have enough time to rest, find out what makes you to stress much, make out schedules for everything you want to do and don't let them clash, don't use the time of another schedule to resolve the one you missed. Reschedule, Visit friends and share views together these will help keep depression away from you.

Thank you sir. Though I don't have friends, I will work on making some.

Yusufisraelj:



When I read your story I almost shed tears, hmmm not bkos of what you said, you see am a representation of what you painted 10 times more, hmmmmm, I have lived a life of so Much pain and failures, will share a trend with you, pls give it all it takes; pain and failures taught me the things I share as regards finance and life on NL, I hope you find solace in the content. I will be up for discussion if you choose to. Cheers

https://www.nairaland.com/6356078/balanced-living-system-making-life

I will surely go through it sir. Thank you

Sammmyyyy:


I just need to get something doing, something productive

If money wasn't the problem, what do you think you can venture into that is productive

Please take it easy on yourself and stop putting too much pressure on yourself. I can totally imagine how you feel, I graduated at a very early age, people also saw me as very intelligent and everyone expected so much from me including my mom who raised us alone after my dad's death - I am the first child too. I went through everything you are currently going through and even more for a long time but my story is very very different today, thank God.

Yes, you will feel that friends, external family, neighbours and foes are mocking you that you have not been able to meet expectations, I felt it too and I am telling you to do away with that kind of thinking. That was one of the first things I did, I stopped worrying myself about what people thought (trust me, these people do not really matter that much), accepted things the way they were, relocated three times, took on the littlest of jobs, and kept praying.

My story is a long one, I wish I could tell it here to inspire you. In all, keep going, never give up please.

Really, back then, I was rejecting smaller companies just because all I wanted was to work for a big company due to my capabilities. But I later realized
that it didn't help in any way. What I later did was to be searching for bigger companies while I was still working for small companies. but the search was really hopeless not until I found a good source_jobs.delon.ng that made me get my dream job. So my advice is never to just stay at home lamenting about no jobs but rather start with the smaller jobs first. thanks.

Privatepart00:
Time for you people to sell some of your land
But if you really wanna end it , journey well
I have no remorse for people like you
Silver spoon ko , wooden spoon ni
When you have something better to say quote me

you are mad

soundOsonic:


If money wasn't the problem, what do you think you can venture into that is productive

I want to earn a skill sir, and IT is what I am picturing.

Either web development/coding looks lucrative. I am just constrained to start

southernbelle:
Please take it easy on yourself and stop putting too much pressure on yourself. I can totally imagine how you feel, I graduated at a very early age, people also saw me as very intelligent and everyone expected so much from me including my mom who raised us alone after my dad's death - I am the first child too. I went through everything you are currently going through and even more for a long time but my story is very very different today, thank God.

Yes, you will feel that friends, external family, neighbours and foes are mocking you that you have not been able to meet expectations, I felt it too and I am telling you to do away with that kind of thinking. That was one of the first things I did, I stopped worrying myself about what people thought (trust me, these people do not really matter that much), accepted things the way they were, relocated three times, took on the littlest of jobs, and kept praying.

My story is a long one, I wish I could tell it here to inspire you. In all, keep going, never give up please.

Your words mean a lot, ma'am

Thank you. I pray I pull through too.

francisdelon:
Really, back then, I was rejecting smaller companies just because all I wanted was to work for a big company due to my capabilities. But I later realized
that it didn't help in any way. What I later did was to be searching for bigger companies while I was still working for small companies. but the search was really hopeless not until I found a good source_jobs.delon.ng that made me get my dream job. So my advice is never to just stay at home lamenting about no jobs but rather start with the smaller jobs first. thanks.

I understand sir
I will make a move. Thank you so much

You're not alone, everyone in Nigeria is fighting one battle or the other!

Sammmyyyy:
Guys, I don't even know where to begin this but i will, somewhere. Truth is, I am tired. I am depressed and something is telling me to end myself.

You ever been in a situation where the whole family spends a lot of money, trains you in school, and expect that you get a good job after and reciprocate their good gestures? That's my position right now. But unfortunately, I have not been a able to.

I am a young man; early twenties, finished school quite early and really smart (that's what people say.) Ever since I finished the University guys, I have been struggling to get a job, but nothing to show. I am really tired of staying at home here. The whole community knows that I have completed my university education and fact is, they are already mocking my family behind our backs. They are not even hiding it anymore. They laugh at me when I pass by too.

What broke the camel's back today was:
I applied for a job with a very big company in Lagos. Myself and family already thrown ourselves into positive expectations. I had sold all my hope into it, thinking something good will come out. I went for the test and was sure I did well. Me and my family even prayed over it. Well, the result came out today and I failed.

Guys, may be God doesn't hear prayers like people claim, or maybe he doesn't just hear mine.

My dad's dead and my mum has been bearing the burden alone.

Tonight, I saw my mum's face clearly again and sincerely, this woman is aging fast. She deserves a better life than she is getting and sadly, I cannot come through for her. I'm loosing it guys. I am going insaneeeee!

Use ur talent man, don't focus on your certificate alone. Use any skill uve learned so far or any talent u have, to start something small. Forget about the pressure and all. Do something legit whether online or offline, while still searching for a job. Things will get better.
Also if u have any secret addictions, please stop them. They may just be what's hindering your prayers.

Sammmyyyy:


I thank you so much sir.

I don't keep friends, I cut communication with people easily, maybe because I am cynical.

I have stopped worshiping in any church since around last year. My family members are Pentecostal, though.

hmm where are u based?

Sammmyyyy:
Guys, I don't even know where to begin this but i will, somewhere. Truth is, I am tired. I am depressed and something is telling me to end myself.

You ever been in a situation where the whole family spends a lot of money, trains you in school, and expect that you get a good job after and reciprocate their good gestures? That's my position right now. But unfortunately, I have not been a able to.

I am a young man; early twenties, finished school quite early and really smart (that's what people say.) Ever since I finished the University guys, I have been struggling to get a job, but nothing to show. I am really tired of staying at home here. The whole community knows that I have completed my university education and fact is, they are already mocking my family behind our backs. They are not even hiding it anymore. They laugh at me when I pass by too.

What broke the camel's back today was:
I applied for a job with a very big company in Lagos. Myself and family already thrown ourselves into positive expectations. I had sold all my hope into it, thinking something good will come out. I went for the test and was sure I did well. Me and my family even prayed over it. Well, the result came out today and I failed.

Guys, may be God doesn't hear prayers like people claim, or maybe he doesn't just hear mine.

My dad's dead and my mum has been bearing the burden alone.

Tonight, I saw my mum's face clearly again and sincerely, this woman is aging fast. She deserves a better life than she is getting and sadly, I cannot come through for her. I'm loosing it guys. I am going insaneeeee!

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Joshdboss:

Use ur talent man, don't focus on your certificate alone. Use any skill uve learned so far or any talent u have, to start something small. Forget about the pressure and all. Do something legit whether online or offline, while still searching for a job. Things will get better.
Also if u have any secret addictions, please stop them. They may just be what's hindering your prayers.

I appreciate you sir, thank you very much. And you are right, I have a secret addiction I am battling. I pray I overcome.

FLESHnBLOOD:
hmm where are u based?

I am in Ilorin, for now

kc4christ:
BRO,don't u give up nothing is wat ur life just take time and picture ur life,even if it means starting again do it again these time in a different way.

I appreciate this sir, thank you.

SimplyFacts:
Problems no dey quick finish, bro.

Try more. Good luck!

Thanks sir

SavageResponse:
You're not alone, everyone in Nigeria is fighting one battle or the other!

Survival is hard.

Sammmyyyy:


Thanks sir

I'm currently on the same phase of life with you, i came out top of my class and everybody assume it's a ticket to my eldorado. lost my dad some years back and mum is aging sporodically. my siblings are much looking up to me, i hardly keep friends which might also be a limiting factor. what differentiate myself from you was that i'm not too over ambitious, i'm not too eager to get that mouth watering job. Though if it comes now fine, but i believe to "grow to the top and not to go to the top" i left school 2019 and since then i've been job haunting, most organization turns me down once they know that i'm a pcm despite blasting their test & interview, probably they prefer consistency. most of my mates have all gone for service but here i am still awaiting, simply because i haven't paid for my certificate for collection. New registration 'll commence next month of which i'm not certain to be part of it, dont giveup bro you'll come over it soonest.