It is shocking and very sad that some Societies ever " believed "in the Dating system as a means to get into a relationship or a Marriage. In Light of the fact that Divorce has reached epidemic proportions that make Covid 19 look like a walk in the park it is beyond amazing that absolutely no one is questioning where relationships " missed it ". The problem with standard dating is that it creates an unsustainable level of expectation that over time become unreasonable as the relationship , energy or marriage progresses. Dating builds on the false premise that if you spend time with people in highly artificial places you will get to know them. These artificial places include Shopping Malls, Diners, restaurants, concerts and places that cannot be sustained over a long period of time because of the amount of emotion, time and money that goes into creating a fairy tale environment. In real life "Work " is the order of the day. Work brings in money and money makes survival better. Going on Dates opens both parties to fraud, pretense and scams. Human beings are remarkable actors and alot of people play up themselves into who they are not to make the Dating Game more interesting or to have another date. Some Men pretend to be more loving than they really are since alot of money is riding on the time they spend with the woman. Some Women pretend to enjoy the company of the man while all they enjoy is the food, gifts and presents the mans money buys. You hear of things like Date rape. Date Rape is when a man takes a woman on a Date just to rape her or when a man thinks he has spent too much money on a woman he is entitled to have sex with her. A lot of men have fallen victim to women who go on dates just to use men financially, have a good time and dump the man when she has gotten what she wants from the man. Dating is Extremely Dangerous for Both parties. A Better way of getting into a Real relationship is to just be yourself have many acquiantances and friends from the opposite sex. By being yourself it will be easier to see which of the people in your opposite circle like you for being you as against liking you for sex or where you take them to. In friendship with the opposite sex it is easy to see who has your back ,whose vibes you like, who you enjoy talking too in person, on a phone call ,enjoy texting, Nairaland, Instagram, facebook Whatsapp. It is important to see who you like spending time with and who you feel energized by. By establishing real friendship the next phase would be a relationship. If the person just wants a friendship and nothing more you have a friend for life that has your back as you seek for a relationship with another member of the opposite sex. Since time was spent conveniently it is easier than conventional Dating to maintain a friendship with a " loved one ". You cannot dump someone who you did not give anything materially to. Friendship is an integral part of human existence and real friends make you a better person. In conventional Dating since it takes up alot of energy, time, financial and sexual resources there is a depletion of resources when it does not go as planned or executed. There is a sense of loss when it does not go as planned but in true friendship which is built on practicality and honesty so much is gained. Sadly it appears the World has sold its mind and soul and firmly believes men are to buy women over with dating, shopping and money or kisses, hugs and Sex. Sadly it's 2021 and so many people swear this is the only way. A world of dumb people using so called smartphones that don't make users any smarter.