I don't even know how to start.
So, me and bf quarrelled and it was all because of; Something came and we were like trying to talk it out. So I made a sentence that "I know he can't marry me, let's not deceive ourselves" he asked and I repeated the statement for like 3times, then he hung up.
I never knew it spark something in him, so this night he asked me if I know he can't marry me why am I still with him

How we came to this junction, a relationship build on a faulty foundation is bound to fall, sooner or later.
His case was a case of matchmaking, at first I was hesitating and was asking him how can you not have a gf or fiancee, its not possible? He sweared and did all such, should have known it was Lori iro when I found out, I decided to back out, he decided to employe people to beg me, (if I had known, I should have make my stand). But this Aunty make a Statement that "if am going to end the relationship, it shouldn't be abruptly, I should take it slowly or maybe until he's fed" We came back together and life continues until I decided to check his phone one day, what I saw mouth can't tell. And the day I caught him with a lady and just because it was not red handed, he concorted a story and l let go, can't start narrating all I went through in his hands. The cheating, lies & disrespect were much and the question I kept asking myself is why I haven't back out? Its very difficult to even give chance to another guy as am not emotionally OK. I think I need help

Pricelessangel0:
I don't even know how to start.
So, me and bf quarrelled and it was all because of; Something came and we were like trying to talk it out. So I made a sentence that "I know he can't marry me, let's not deceive ourselves" he asked and I repeated the statement for like 3times, then he hung up.
I never knew it spark something in him, so this night he asked me if I know he can't marry me why am I still with him

How we came to this junction, a relationship build on a faulty foundation is bound to fall, sooner or later.
His case was a case of matchmaking, at first I was hesitating and was asking him how can you not have a gf or fiancee, its not possible? He sweared and did all such, should have known it was Lori iro when I found out, I decided to back out, he decided to employe people to beg me, (if I had known, I should have make my stand). But this Aunty make a Statement that "if am going to end the relationship, it shouldn't be abruptly, I should take it slowly or maybe until he's fed" We came back together and life continues until I decided to check his phone one day, what I saw mouth can't tell. And the day I caught him with a lady and just because it was not red handed, he concorted a story and l let go, can't start narrating all I went through in his hands. The cheating, lies & disrespect were much and the question I kept asking myself is why I haven't back out? Its very difficult to even give chance to another guy as am not emotionally OK. I think I need help

u are in love and "it is very dangerous"

As usual a new guy then carries all the bitterness. What have men done to women fa

Sorry about your experience.

Next time say something like ,'i knw we can never get married'.... Placing ursef as the subject matter might reduce ur self esteem..

You don't need any help, woman.

You caught him with a woman but not red handed, what does that mean?


You obviously don't want the relationship, stop playing your emotional blackmail games on that young man.

The penis must be so good for you because you women no dey waste time to end relationships.

It's your shot, so learn how to shoot it the best...
Our advices may not totally favour you so i suggest you take time to heal

You caught him with a woman but not red handed.

.what figure of speech is this one?

Just like saying I ate the cake but I didn't swallow it.

.You catch am abi you no catch am?

I think I'm in the same boat. Mine is also a case of matchmaking with this Hans Bobo in SA but i know deep down it won't end in marriage. One, because of where he comes from, in the Eastern part.
Two, he's not a born-again. Just some mature guy ready to settle down.

Now, I'm kinda... Should I say playing along or trying not to offend the matchmaker ( my twins hubby) because he's always disturbing me anytime I go there that his friends want girl from a good home, that since he's married to my twin and knows we are from a good home, I always come to mind. I've always laughed it off but this time around he told the guy about me. He checked me up on Facebook and got my WhatsApp contacts then boom! relationship don start but deep down, I know it's not what I want and just waiting until the whole thing dies a natural death.

So, I'm not really fronting myself and I believe before long, he'll get the drift and move on.

People should just let others do their thing at their own pace. Not a fan of matchmaking.

CalliDora1:
I think I'm in the same boat. Mine is also a case of matchmaking with this Hans Bobo in SA but i know deep down it won't end in marriage. One, because of where he comes from, in the Eastern part.
Two, he's not a born-again. Just some mature guy ready to settle down.

Now, I'm kinda... Should I say playing along or trying not to offend the matchmaker ( my twins hubby) because he's always disturbing me anytime I go there that his friends want girl from a good home, that since he's married to my twin and knows we are from a good home, I always come to mind. I've always laughed it off but this time around he told the guy about me. He checked me up on Facebook and got my WhatsApp contacts then boom! relationship don start but deep down, I know it's not what I want and just waiting until the whole thing dies a natural death.

So, I'm not really fronting myself and I believe before long, he'll get the drift and move on.

People should just let others do their thing at their own pace. Not a fan of matchmaking.

Just let the guy know there's no need to waste a matured guy's time.. relationship and love should be mutual

lilvicky68:

Just let the guy know there's no need to waste a matured guy's time.. relationship and love should be mutual

He'll get to know after Val.

CalliDora1:


He'll get to know after Val.

If you're planning to collect gifts from him also make sure you give him sentforth oh before breaking up

lilvicky68:

If you're planning to collect gifts from him also make sure you give him sentforth oh before breaking up

Never! Not planning to collect anything from him. I fear those SA big boys o. I like my life abeg.

CalliDora1:


Never! Not planning to collect anything from him. I fear those SA big boys o. I like my life abeg.

That means he's not even around for now..he just wants to marry a good girl

lilvicky68:

That means he's not even around for now..he just wants to marry a good girl

Nope he's not but he plans to come as soon as things begin to fall in place. Though I'm not really pushing so he should get the drift and hopefully look elsewhere.

CalliDora1:


Nope he's not but he plans to come as soon as things begin to fall in place. Though I'm not really pushing so he should get the drift and hopefully look elsewhere.

Chai... And some girls are looking for that kind of opportunity.. anyways it's your choice..Don't worry you will find someone soon..

lilvicky68:

Chai... And some girls are looking for that kind of opportunity.. anyways it's your choice..Don't worry you will find someone soon..

Yeah sure.

The summary of it all remains "Love is our downfall"

Do wetin you wan do for your life. E no concern me.

no you need good quality dick, come have some here'

thuxzwda1:


u are in love and "it is very dangerous"

For real? And what are the sign to depicts that?

lilvicky68:
You caught him with a woman but not red handed..what figure of speech is this one? Just like saying I ate the cake but I didn't swallow it..You catch am abi you no catch am?

This is what happened, he has that notions which say"call me before coming to my house" but due to some circumstances, I decided to go without calling, I met them on the bed and she was sitting at the tip while he a was lying down. Though the lady stood up and went outside but i didn't stay as he diverted his attention to making calls and ignoring me, so I left.

CalliDora1:
I think I'm in the same boat. Mine is also a case of matchmaking with this Hans Bobo in SA but i know deep down it won't end in marriage. One, because of where he comes from, in the Eastern part.
Two, he's not a born-again. Just some mature guy ready to settle down.

Now, I'm kinda... Should I say playing along or trying not to offend the matchmaker ( my twins hubby) because he's always disturbing me anytime I go there that his friends want girl from a good home, that since he's married to my twin and knows we are from a good home, I always come to mind. I've always laughed it off but this time around he told the guy about me. He checked me up on Facebook and got my WhatsApp contacts then boom! relationship don start but deep down, I know it's not what I want and just waiting until the whole thing dies a natural death.

So, I'm not really fronting myself and I believe before long, he'll get the drift and move on.

People should just let others do their thing at their own pace. Not a fan of matchmaking.

If he's real, then there's no reason why you shouldn't give it a go. But this one is a complete playboy

Most of you girls have insecurity issues. A guy can't pick a call. Any little thing, oh you are talking to your girlfriend shey? So you have a girlfriend.

Dating a guy doesn't mean the guy won't pick calls. Even when the guy is talking to a male, insecurity will make most girls to jump into conclusion.

It's very bad. Being in a relationship with a girl is not tantamount to being in a prison.

That's how one is threatening my life cuz I pick a call. I said I no do again. She began to brag on how she will deal with me and all of that. For picking a call o. I told her I am no longer interested for her to be threatening me. That whatever she plans doing, she will use her head to carry it. She said I dumped her. Haba. I told her I didn't dump her, she is the one that dumped me. But she won't just get it. Why don't I call her? Why don't I chat with her? This and that. Even when I told her I am stressed, for where. I got fed up. And she resorted to threats. I told her to do her worst. Why making relationship so cumbersome for guys?

Why are you ladies always making relationship a do or die affair?

No one fell from heaven. You meant because a guy is dating you, so every time you will be looking and searching for imaginary things? Does it mean the guy don't have life of his own to live before meeting you?

The worst ones will resort to threatening innocent guys. Is it by force to date?

Pricelessangel0:


If he's real, then there's no reason why you shouldn't give it a go. But this one is a complete playboy

Hes real but I want a born-again. Biko. Not like he's a devil but hes just a regular guy. Not the spiritual kind I'm praying for.

CalliDora1:


Hes real but I want a born-again. Biko. Not like he's a devil but hes just a regular guy. Not the spiritual kind I'm praying for.

I'm a born again oh

interesting...But my dear js stop deceiving urself nd tell us dt d reason u still with him despite all his shortcomings is js cus his dick is very sweet...no one will beat u if u say d truth...

lilvicky68:

I'm a born again oh

Lol...

Thank God for your life.

Why do ladies have problem with men that cheat? Like what's wrong in cheating?

CalliDora1:

He'll get to know after Val.

don't you think running down the clock only makes more difficult

Pricelessangel0:
I don't even know how to start.
So, me and bf quarrelled and it was all because of; Something came and we were like trying to talk it out. So I made a sentence that "I know he can't marry me, let's not deceive ourselves" he asked and I repeated the statement for like 3times, then he hung up.
I never knew it spark something in him, so this night he asked me if I know he can't marry me why am I still with him

How we came to this junction, a relationship build on a faulty foundation is bound to fall, sooner or later.
His case was a case of matchmaking, at first I was hesitating and was asking him how can you not have a gf or fiancee, its not possible? He sweared and did all such, should have known it was Lori iro when I found out, I decided to back out, he decided to employe people to beg me, (if I had known, I should have make my stand). But this Aunty make a Statement that "if am going to end the relationship, it shouldn't be abruptly, I should take it slowly or maybe until he's fed" We came back together and life continues until I decided to check his phone one day, what I saw mouth can't tell. And the day I caught him with a lady and just because it was not red handed, he concorted a story and l let go, can't start narrating all I went through in his hands. The cheating, lies & disrespect were much and the question I kept asking myself is why I haven't back out? Its very difficult to even give chance to another guy as am not emotionally OK. I think I need help

sorry about your case but you don't have to hurt yourself or judge yourself guilty.
understand that in this boat there were two of you.the other did not play his part.
so you just make concrete decisions as to what you want to do with your valuable time