NikAustine:
Your type na e Dem dey troway from house if anything happen to husband.
Do you know the good and respect you give your husband's family will contribute to how long you leave happily with your husband too? If the whole family get to hate you for that you lose lose o

NikAustine:
I'm pretty sure your type won't last in a family where the man's mother is still alive and he has siblings.
Them go to deal with you fa. lol

Mokason288:

You are very funny

Where are you from?

If your brothers wife could shoot you, I’m sorry to say this ....

Your brother is an A$$

There should be boundaries every where, I feel it’s wrong to go into her kitchen

But she doesn’t have any right to throw his things outside... that decision is for the brother

I HOPE I MADE SENSE

Charlie2020:
A male friend visited you (you're probably a female)

You entered her kitchen without her permission and cooked for your male

She sensibly did not interrogate you until your male friend left

She probably did not confront you then after but you probably was rude or discourteous to her and she threw you out.

If what I narrated above was as it happened, she'll defeat you in any court 100%.

pocohantas:
One would think I am a jobless dumb orphan who can’t fight for what she contributed to. Too much Nigerian film is affecting you. You must be an EBSU student like the OP.

Do you also know that how you respect your brother’s wife would determine how you all live happily? Learn that first. You all keep yapping about respect when the OP has the effrontery to exchange words with his brother’s wife in her matrimonial home. Maybe that was how your uncles talked to your mother’s while you were kids, hence the normalization.

Nwodosis:
Everything is your brother's own and both you worked for it? How?
My friend allow your brother's wife to enjoy her marriage, which right do you have to go and open a married woman's pot to serve not even yourself but a friend? You owe her an apology.

pocohantas:


One would think I am a jobless dumb orphan who can’t fight for what she contributed to. Too much Nigerian film is affecting you. You must be an EBSU student like the OP.

Do you also know that how you respect your brother’s wife would determine how you all live happily? Learn that first. You all keep yapping about respect when the OP has the effrontery to exchange words with his brother’s wife in her matrimonial home. Maybe that was how your uncles talked to your mother’s while you were kids, hence the normalization.



Like they are dealing with the OP faaa!

9jaRealist:


Bless you sis!
Too many Nigerians have been raised under a sexist (and even misogynist) culture. SMH
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iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

400billionman:
Allow them to enjoy their marriage.

Many people don't know what marriage means.

You are currently an extended relative to your brother.

Your brother's immediate family is his WIFE and CHILDREN. It's called NUCLEAR family

silibaba:
Just give her smackdown and take ur bags inside b4 rain beat them. Men should learn 2 marry character not fig8

Liposure:
Your brother's wife is wrong in throwing you out. Even tho you trespassed, it still doesn't warrant such treatment. Her hatred for you is on another level.

400billionman:
Allow them to enjoy their marriage.

Many people don't know what marriage means.

You are currently an extended relative to your brother.

Your brother's immediate family is his WIFE and CHILDREN. It's called NUCLEAR family

One4me:


It is a POWER and CONTROL issue!
To dominate or kill a prey, you first isolate such prey.

When a Lion wants to kill a Buffalo, it understands that they move in a herd and the herd will kill a Lion, anyday.
What it does is to create a diversion by running rough around the Buffalo herd, without attacking but scattering them.
It then selects the most isolated one, further isolates it by not attacking it directly but planting itself in-between the main herd and the one it is targeting.
The Mumu Buffalo (like our Brothers here ) glances at the Lion and concludes it is not going to attack it but because it is standing in-between it and the herd, this target Bufallo moves further away from the herd, to avoid the Lion.
Once there is enough distance between the herd and the target Buffalo, the Lion then launches his attack and grabs the Buffalo by the throat, cutting off oxygen supply to vital organs and more importantly, prevent it from calling for help.

That is how MOST Women of nowadays, operate. Isolate, attack and Conquer..
Brothers got to be aware.

Richy4:
<<< OP, The reason why you felt insulted could be that you have been living in that house with your brother before he married your sister inlaw and three of you were now sharing that same space that was your territory back then... You feel that she has no right to encroach on your already made heaven.. and she too feel that she's the rightful owner of the place... so she decided to show you that she is MRS.

<<<< Here's what I think.. I think she has no right to throw your thing outside the house irrespective of what you have done... She has no respect for your brother..i might be wrong but she's the one calling the shots in that marriage if she couldn't wait for your brother to return so she can register her displeasure to him(that's none of my business anyways).. Assuming reverse was the case, and she was living with her own sister, can your brother throw her sister inlaw's belongings outside when the wife was not around..

<<<< OP, you should stop cooking for your friends... You are no longer living with your brother alone... serve them light refreshments when they come visiting.. when you get your own place, then you can cook for them and do as you like...You need not to drag territory with your sister-in-law.. All you have to do is hit the ignore button at all times.. maintain emotional and social distancing from her until you get your own place..

<<<< Finally please.. Please... and Please, whatever decision your brother takes concerning this issue, do not hate him... You might not know the emotional tussle going on behind close doors... The decision might be for him to just have peace of mind.. Help your brother to achieve that peace please..

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.

NikAustine:
I don't think you're jobless. I think you're sentimental. and this isn't about Nigerian films. have seen this happen and have heard of it. so forget Nigeria films ok.

Yes, Respect they say is Reciprocal. if he should respect her, she should also respect him it goes both ways.
Not everyone can keep their cool when being insulted or shouted on ok? so you won't blame him for responding.
My uncle never talked that way to my mother infact, when he came to stay with us he was respectful and my mother also accorded him his respect.

If you call this dealing with the Op, I wonder what you will say when the op family start to deal with her especially her husband's mother. I'm pretty sure you be one of the first ones to say "a man has to put his wife first before his mother, he has to side his wife first since they're one"

NikAustine:
Do you know if he reports this to the family especially the mother, it will make the wife become an enemy to the family? The mother and possibly his siblings will make it their point to end that marriage. And you know the way a Son takes his mother, she comes first before his wife.

NikAustine:
Do you know if he reports this to the family especially the mother, it will make the wife become an enemy to the family? The mother and possibly his siblings will make it their point to end that marriage. And you know the way a Son takes his mother, she comes first before his wife.

NikAustine:
I hate all this nonsense.
if I was the Op I will make sure she regret ever doing that. first I will report to my parents and my other siblings and then if my brother doesn't do anything, I will disown my brother simple. and you all know when two bloods are quarreling cause of a lady, the Whole family will end up hating that lady. and besides since she says her husband's house belong to her, anytime she comes visiting with her husband to my father's house or anything and I'm there I will treat her like dirt. infact, if possible I will shout that I don't want to see her step her witchy food in my father's house. so let her and her husband go back to where they're coming from
I will be the reason for their marriage to breakup and I will have no atom of pity. me I wicked o!

I don't see any wrong the op did there. she has no right ever.
if she wanted him to leave she should talk to her husband to also talk to him apart leaving and giving them space not behaving like an uncivilized maniac.

crackhaus:
Only people who are possessed with the spirit of witchcraft and afflicted with poverty mentality, will see anything wrong when a woman's BIL goes into the kitchen to cook something for his guest/friend. I said what I said...


In this decade when women are taking charge of industries and big businesses, some are still forming alpha & omega of kitchen matters.

iamGholdaniel:
I am angry right now,
My brother’s wife is so full of pain, whenever she sight me.
I don’t know where this hatred is coming from, today she did worst than before.
a male friend visited, and I went to the kitchen to cook and serve him.

After my friend left she started ranting, and I shouted back at her.

She packed out my belongings , and she started throwing my bags and other stuffs outside.
She locked the house entrance and left with the keys

I decided to stay calm and wait for my brother to come back.

Because everything my brother own, we both struggled for it.