stormborn28:



Forget story,its not hard,she go still fvck no be woman again.

so, you mean Husband will also fvck too?

well, what do I know sef?

adedehinbo:
ok good! Can a man also do it,what's the qualifications and requirements

No it's strictly for ladies... A minimum of 2:2 from a reputable university is needed (art or social humanities)

Vetsolo:
Guy e go choke u when u hia say na fk marathon dey happen for ur house even u confirm Am say d guy na humanizer, why do u think ur own wife go be different?

She sees him bringing in different girls and she tells me when we discuss on phone.

tosinandtoyin:

Am sure ur wife would be funking around if she is in my situation . U don't just judge and generalise every woman to be the same

I won't blame her if she does cos I know ur husband is fuvking lots of white pussy over there. So stop claiming mrs saints

Michelle55:

This 2 options is a big No.. She can FaceTime with her husband, or preferably get a vibrator if the raging hormones wouldn't calm down.

The truth that many of you women don't like to say is that an intimacy gadget will only increase her urges for the real sex. This will tempt her even more to experience the real penis leading to cheating.
You may say , then what is she meant to do?
To which I'd say, she is meant to "endure"
Yes, you heard that right. Sex is not the core reason why they both got married. Well, it shouldn't be. The thoughts of him daily, his voice over a phone call conversation should make his wife's face lit up with joy and excitement. They can talk about their trials and about how much they mean to one another which will help to reassure themselves of loyalty and love (trust)
But the above is only applicable when the Couple genuinely love themselves and respect their oaths. But if either of the couple loves physical sex more than the trust and love they are "normally" meant to have for the other partner, then the above doesn't apply to them. They are not in love. Though, they think that they are. They are only married and cohabiting and managing each other.
People should understand why they are going into a marriage from the beginning. For sex? For using either partner in the area if child bearing?? For comfort? Companionship? Desperation? or For a lifelong frienship and love (which is loyalty and faithfulness) ?
Sex should never make any husband or wife cheat outside. Even if your husband is away for 5 long years. Unless she doesn't love him, and respect her vows. On the use of intimacy gadgets, it's only like creating more temptations for yourself. You'll eventually succumb. Lack of sex has never killed anyone and can't, but the availability of sex has , and can. The facts are out there.
I for example, have been without sex since 2019, middle of the month of December and I haven't died, nor exploded from lack of sex, have I? Of course not. And that's why I'm alive and typing this.
Masturbating is not an option if the couples self identify with Christianity (being christ-like in actions and thoughts) They are not meant to give physical human excuses. They are born of the spirit, and not the flesh. But of course, this is not for majority of people, but only Christians. I'm not talking about everyday circular Christians who will even get angry at my forbidding of self-servicing even in a marriage setting. No, I'm talking to/for those who know what Christianity really should be like.
So in all, the wife and husband in this case should both learn to ENDURE! They won't die! They shouldn't put sex before faithfulness and everyday living.
I will use my mother as an example. Firstly, nobody should come and look for a stylish and subtle way to insult my mother. If what I state annoys you to your bone marrow, then just suck it in and walk pass. Some of you like to leave the main subject and attack what is not meant to be the focus of the talk.
Good. Now having said that, let me jump right into what I was about to say. My mother has been single since the year 2008 and has not for once (Very certain of this) gone to sleep with any man to satisfy her fleshy desires. Neither has she ever masturbated. We talk about these things, and she frowns upon the former and the latter, alike.
She even used to warn us as her children not to play with our 'things between our legs' She had once stood at the altar during a church service and practically admonished the congregation from doing such (jerking off, fingering, e.t.c...) She has told us that she too is human, but she doesn't let that control her. Rather, she controls it and as of now she has passed that stage. She doesn't even feel any urges. It takes a steady relationship with God (I'm talking about only real believers right now) to overcome those urges (which are actually temptations, if we want to use the right term). But, owing to the wide spread perversions, and Internet availability which is easily accessible to all, it is harder in this generation we belong to to control their sexual urges (actually temptations)
Last I checked, masturbating is still a sin (again, for true Christians, I mean) The body is more than sex. Just like the Bible stated : Isn't the body more than food? It's a mystery, but only the spiritually enlightened can see the sense in those words and understand them.
I wonder how many people know that commiting your sexual urges into God's hand, obeying Him can actually lead God to giving an individual the needed (it's is infact needed) grace to not crave sex. Anytime my mind wants to play tricks on me by leading me to source for a girl (trust me, they are alot of them around willing with the right moves) to satisfy my flesh, a thought about my mother's lengthy ability to go without sexual gratification comes into my mind, and then I shake off the thoughts. Lack of sex will never physically kill anybody. Not even Science and Medicine can fault this claim I've just made. But the availability of it (sex), could lead to death if all doesn't go well (heart attack and the rest).
let's stop making excuses to just release those sexual tensions we face. To us it might be justified,but to the one who created us , it is not.

tosinandtoyin:
I am currently in this situation my self. My husband has been away for the past three years in Canada. We have three children 2 boys and a girl. It has not been [quote author=tosinandtoyin post=99690685]I am currently in this situation my self. My husband has been away for the past three years in Canada. We have three children 2 boys and a girl. It has not been easy raising this children alone and most importantly not not having had sex for the past three years.

There are days I just have a strong urge to have sex, i just try to get my mind of it by engaging in other things and keep my self busy with my work.

I got a intimacy gadget at a point but its not like the real thing. I just felt I was torturing my self the more.
Now I have decided to take my mind off sex and just focus on taking care of my kids and my work.

I do hope and pray that one day we can together again as a family if God permits.

As for this ur friend's wife, please do not be intimate with her. Avoid being alone with her to avoid stories that touch as this can create room for an

[quote author=tosinandtoyin post=99690685]I am currently in this situation my self. My husband has been away for the past three years in Canada. We have three children 2 boys and a girl. It has not been easy raising this children alone and most importantly not not having had sex for the past three years.

There are days I just have a strong urge to have sex, i just try to get my mind of it by engaging in other things and keep my self busy with my work.

I got a intimacy gadget at a point but its not like the real thing. I just felt I was torturing my self the more.
Now I have decided to take my mind off sex and just focus on taking care of my kids and my work.

I do hope and pray that one day we can together again as a family if God permits.

As for this ur friend's wife, please do not be intimate with her. Avoid being alone with her to avoid stories that touch as this can create room for any thing to happen.

Encourage her to get busy, get a job or learn a trade. This would help get her mind off the situation.

Ma'am, pls do whatever you can to NEVER be tempted to the point where you even contemplate on finding someone to relieve that sexual tensions you might have been feeling.
You certainly didn't get married to your darling husband all for sex. Or did you? So, continue to resist and keep loving him in all Love's entirety. It's not difficult. It's a battle within. God sees your efforts and he gives you more strength to get through each week.
But I'll kindly (of course the choice is yours) suggest that you stop one thing which you mentioned you do/used to do. That is, masturbation. If you will like God to keep giving you strength and grace (don't for one second think you have been overcoming the lusts and temptations by your own will and strength) to overcome, then stop defiling your body. might sound senseless and like a broken record to you right now, but I know of what I am saying here. You too might...I said "might"
No porn watching to relieve sexual tension is permissible by God.
No hand stimulation, nor toys are also allowed. The only sex allowed is between a man and his legally marr wife. Not even you are allowed to give yourself sex. Yup! it's that serious.
Now , I know some of y'all might wanna attack me for stating those facts (Uncommon facts, though) but just know I won't be moved to come back here and reply any senseless trolling. Ain't nobody got time for that right now.
Aunty, I hope you have been able to take some of the points out of this my long "talk-talk" It was you I was replying to, but others are welcomed to learn whatever they can from it. I wish you success in keeping your beautiful self for your LOVING husband, until the day he returns into your loving arms.
So just wait

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Johnny, please help me look after my wife. Check on her daily and send me feedback o.

Ummm, you should have sat with him and ask precisely what kind of help you should be giving her.

There are fall, autumn, winter/harmattan and spring help.

Johnny, please help me look after my wife. Check on her daily and send me feedback o.

Ummm, you should have sat with him and ask precisely what kind of care you should be giving her.

There are fall, autumn, winter/harmattan and spring care.

petsolo115:
I am just imagining this because my best friend left for Austria last week. He put his newly married wife under my care

petsolo115:
I am just imagining this because my best friend left for Austria last week. He put his newly married wife under my care

It is a tough situation. A friend of mine bought his wife a intimacy gadget and it actually helps her a lot. That I think is the best solution. Encourage your wife to masturbate whenever you're going away for an extended time.

Serious sex starvation could tempt anyone to cheat. I've seen a woman who sleeps with her secret boyfriend whenever she returns to Europe. Her husband is based in Nigeria.

For religious people, no amount of prayers will eliminate sexual urge, unless you've a serious health issue that subdues the urge e.g. Loss of libido (sex drive).

That old trick to not make u jealous and keep u from imagining he has been fuvking her too�

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Trajan:

She sees him bringing in different girls and she tells me when we discuss on phone.

Vetsolo:
That old trick to not make u jealous and keep u from imagining he has been fuvking her too�

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You, Sir, are a wise man. You know the ways of psychology, and of women.

IgboWarlord:
My uncle left my his wife of just 3months and traveled to Norway in 2013,the woman banged more than half of PH..My uncle came back in '19 come hear the woman scores..Im jejely go back,dey Oslo serve the woman divorce papers..

Think about this, he left a newly married wife for 6 years. If that is not wickedness then I dont know. Even the most principled woman will be tempted. God save us oo. Tell me he was not banging other women there too smh

Kenfil:

Think about this, he left a newly married wife for 6 years. If that is not wickedness then I dont know. Even the most principled woman will be tempted. God save us oo. Tell me he was not banging other women there too smh

Lol,he most definitely was banging other people over there..You are right though..

swedbase:


The bolded is a prove that you have never been to abroad and also have no idea how things works in this part of the world. It will take that guy nothing less than 5 years to get a residence permit if he didn't come with one before thinking of going home to bring someone.

This is not true, a guy I know relocated to Scotland and in less than 8 months his wife and 2 kids joined him from Nigeria

IgboWarlord:
My uncle left my his wife of just 3months and traveled to Norway in 2013,the woman banged more than half of PH..My uncle came back in '19 come hear the woman scores..Im jejely go back,dey Oslo serve the woman divorce papers..

You and your uncle are very wicked.

By the way can your stupid uncle swear that he did not fuçk another lady in the 6 years he was away from his wife?

Poanan:



That is the norm but not always the case. Some people say the circumcised ones want sex more because they dont get satisfied.

I have also heard about a circumcised female who loves sex. she is a friend of a big friend. if you ate a sex person then you are a sex person. It has nothing to do with being circumcised or uncircumcised.

You're wrong, uncircumcised ladies have more sexual urge and they are usually better to fuçk in my experience

malcom1X:


It's not female genital mutilation, it's female circumcision. Don't change the words

Besides he's telling the truth. A circumcised woman won't have the urge for Bleep and will not cheat.

Don't mind him, they don't like to hear the truth

Womanizer:


This is not true, a guy I know relocated to Scotland and in less than 8 months his wife and 2 kids joined him from Nigeria

He must have relocated to Scotland with a residence work permit or any other kind of residence permit and not just visa which i Said on my post if he didn't come with any.

Womanizer:


You and your uncle are very wicked.

By the way can your stupid uncle swear that he did not fuçk another lady in the 6 years he was away from his wife?

ıʄ ყơų ཞɛąɖ ɱყ ℘ơʂɬ ῳɛƖƖ,ყơų'ɖ ɖɛɖųƈɛ ɬɧąɬ ı ąɱ ąƈɬųąƖƖყ ŋơɬ ıŋ ʂų℘℘ơཞɬ ơʄ ɱყ ųŋƈƖɛ'ʂ ąƈɬıơŋʂ..ცųɬ ıŋ ყơųཞ ɧąʂɬɛ ɬơ ℘ơųཞ ɧąɬɛ,ყơų ɠơɬ ıɬ ąƖƖ ῳཞơŋɠ...

So the thing about sex is that its overrated and more importantly it is different from lovemaking.
Sex comes in to satisfy and urge, anyday anytime, lovemaking is the bonding of hearts..which is what ideally should happen in marriage while the former can happen with anyone and anything.

When a man/woman loves for real, that bonding does not come from physical attraction, because overtime when u are married to someone in love your hearts speak not body.

A woman particularly can stay for as long as she wants if out of love and respect it is just a matter to self discipline and getting very busy. The snag to it is that many men take this for granted and not only is she deprived of sex but also of communication, love,affection, care,concern,even gifts.
At this time it is not just the sex that will drive her to another man, but u find that those men started showing and giving her these other things that she was deprived. Along the line she feels obligated by her heart to share more with this man than just communication, love,affection, care,concern,even gifts. Then she cheats!

I am not an advocate of cheat, but nature abhors vacuum, a man cannot just be found wanting in all the things he ought to do for a long period and expect fairness! He who goes to equity should do so with clean hands. What you cannot take care of will be taken care of by another man !

And to the woman, better she divorces the man and marry her new found love in peace, where they have kids they agree on how they will be catered for..

tosinandtoyin:
I am currently in this situation my self. My husband has been away for the past three years in Canada. We have three children 2 boys and a girl. It has not been easy raising this children alone and most importantly not not having had sex for the past three years.

There are days I just have a strong urge to have sex, i just try to get my mind of it by engaging in other things and keep my self busy with my work.

I got a intimacy gadget at a point but its not like the real thing. I just felt I was torturing my self the more.
Now I have decided to take my mind off sex and just focus on taking care of my kids and my work.

I do hope and pray that one day we can together again as a family if God permits.

As for this ur friend's wife, please do not be intimate with her. Avoid being alone with her to avoid stories that touch as this can create room for any thing to happen.

Encourage her to get busy, get a job or learn a trade. This would help get her mind off the situation.

Has your husband now arrived to Nigeria??

Mide3367:
I keep wondering why men marry these days when they know that marriage is a cage. Why marry when you know that you won't be with your wife? Is she a wood? Men are they problem

Me no even know say niggas still dey do this whole marriage thingy :