Would go straight to the point.

So I started dating my girlfriend few months ago. We both reside outside Nigeria as students. I live and study in a city four hours away from her.
Before I asked her out, I had some female admirers including the whites. But I chose her because she never gave me the 'attention-seeking attitude' prior to our relationship. I understand that i have this personality of not wanting to spend too much time on chats and phone calls but because of my understanding of sacrifice, I compromise for her sake. I also cut off funny and flirty conversations with all my female admirers and declined mere friendship visits from them. Irrespective, she puts up an attitude when they randomly call me. Mind you, she receives calls from her male admirers and when i question her about it she goes defensive saying that they are the ones disturbing her. Oh yes, i understand that but why spend long hours with them on calls and chats? She says it's because she is bored and lonely because I don't reach out to her regularly. This is the same girlfriend I have sacrificed several nights I don't joke with (because i love studying at night) and I have made offer to cater for her fare whenever it is possible for her to visit me. Due to the nature of my programme, unlike hers that is flexible, I cant travel to visit her always.

The recent act of hers that made me create this thread was that she reluctantly told me on phone that a guy asked her for a walk together and she doesn't know what to do. Seriously? Because of her past allegations that I take things too serious at times, I told her to go ahead.

Is she making me a simp for love knowing very well she would feel unhappy if I grant such request from a lady?

Never allow your woman chat freely with other men or use them to console herself. A shoulder to cry on becomes a dïck to ride on.

Never enter your woman's frame. If nights are sacred to you, she should understand that and appreciate every night you sacrifice for her. If she cannot understand how important the night is for you, she has no business being your girlfriend. Find a woman that fits your reality.

Never feel bad about dropping a woman that doesn't fit your reality. She would dump you the second she finds a better man. Be ruthless and righteous with women.

romanticgod:


The recent act of hers that made me create this thread was that she reluctantly told me on phone that a guy asked her for a walk together and she doesn't know what to do. Seriously? Because of her past allegations that I take things too serious at times, I told her to go ahead.

Is she making me a simp for love knowing very well she would feel unhappy if I grant such request from a lady?

They're probably fücking already. Cut her loose

Young men, don't enter into an exclusive relationship with any lady until you are in ur 30s. Spin plates and maximize your potentials b4 then.

DEMZEE:
Young men, don't enter into an exclusive relationship with any lady until you are in ur 30s. Spin plates and maximize your potentials b4 then.

You made sense BUT how do we handle konji?

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She's preparing to dump you. She's into the guy already and you have codedly given your girl permission to cheat. Cos they'll definitely knack if the guy get swag.

Cut your loses bro. Call her to cut the trip or lose the relationship.

Date other women and don't ever give up your passion or life for any woman. She will lose respect for you cos as a man, youre suppose to be fine with your ambitions.

I almost made this same mistake but I thank God for opening my eyes to understand how to handle this specie

romanticgod:
Would go straight to the point.

So I started dating my girlfriend few months ago. We both reside outside Nigeria as students. I live and study in a city four hours away from her.
Before I asked her out, I had some female admirers including the whites. But I chose her because she never gave me the 'attention-seeking attitude' prior to our relationship. I understand that i have this personality of not wanting to spend too much time on chats and phone calls but because of my understanding of sacrifice, I compromise for her sake. I also cut off funny and flirty conversations with all my female admirers and declined mere friendship visits from them. Irrespective, she puts up an attitude when they randomly call me. Mind you, she receives calls from her male admirers and when i question her about it she goes defensive saying that they are the ones disturbing her. Oh yes, i understand that but why spend long hours with them on calls and chats? She says it's because she is bored and lonely because I don't reach out to her regularly. This is the same girlfriend I have sacrificed several nights I don't joke with (because i love studying at night) and I have made offer to cater for her fare whenever it is possible for her to visit me. Due to the nature of my programme, unlike hers that is flexible, I cant travel to visit her always.

The recent act of hers that made me create this thread was that she reluctantly told me on phone that a guy asked her for a walk together and she doesn't know what to do. Seriously? Because of her past allegations that I take things too serious at times, I told her to go ahead.

Is she making me a simp for love knowing very well she would feel unhappy if I grant such request from a lady?

The thing with many girls is that they are not honest negotiators.

On the surface, you both have implicitly agreed to be exclusive...attention, sex, flirting and all.

You as a gentleman has already agreed to abide by these terms, but she hasn't.

She will do what she already wants to do, then blame it on you.

Don't judge girls by their excuses and rationalizations. Judge them by their ACTIONS only.

A woman's promises are written on ice...

The best thing is not to have these "agreements" that the other party will not abide by.

Your are still a young man, so enjoy your youth.

I can assure you, walks is not the only thing our princess will be taking...or has been taking.

SweetVibe:

You made sense BUT how do we handle konji?

Spin plates

Have non exclusive relationships with ladies

Na mumu Wey go dey do this one

I no Kuku get patience for nonsense

bro the mistake is from you. other girls are showing you kove. but you decide to love the one that did not show you love. what is logical there?