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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nairamaniac: 4:34pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
op, izito, please how often did you communicate or cross paths with here father/mother/brother? if u cross paths with them often or speak with them frequently, then there is no way they would deny not knowing that your wife left you in the dark on those projects. in that case, they all planned and agreed never to tell you. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Kennyfancy(m): 4:36pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
meetme01:so that they will plan an kill him abi, u are evil 1 Like |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Erums(m): 4:45pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Tedpgrass:.. In her fathers name |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by meetme01: 4:45pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Kennyfancy: Well, to you I am evil. We would always be faced with adversities that's certain). What would befall you will definitely be different from mine. The way will handle it shows how matured and ready we are to handle future adversities. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by yoursidenigga(m): 4:52pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
MEGA4BILLION: Please what is your favorite drink? I wan buy am for you.... No truer words |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Tonytonex(m): 5:02pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
All these things makes me scared of getting married. why are majority of women so heartless and wicked? oh God have mercy on us. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by McSquishi(f): 5:04pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
nairamaniac: One minute you say it’s not insults, the next u say they are insults with love. In your previous comment you admitted to abusive words... so which is it? You don’t know how to speak to strangers and if I was in the mood to return your unkindness you wouldn’t like it at all... Dont reply to me again. Go find some manners, maybe ask your parents to train you. Good luck |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 5:11pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
panini:Blood of Zachariah! Feminist can do anything to stop this message from reaching men, I'm sure they will come for you just wait |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hassanmaye(m): 5:17pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by emmnprince(m): 5:20pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
temi1290: Karma will surely catch up with him. A man who doesn't have a stable income whose wife had to shoulder the bills of the house and even supported him from her salary! She even accessed loan to set him up, not once, not twice, because she couldn't conceive, man codedly dey raise another family outside . . . . I just dey vex as I dey type this words. 2 Likes |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by armyofone(m): 5:30pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Hassanmaye: Which message ? Her offsprings story above ? Well your kings are marrying over three. You all should relax. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by COLDMIND(m): 5:31pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
The part where you said she borrowed you money to buy a family car that both you and her would use, then started pressuring u to pay back after 2 months really got me. Some women are just so selfish especially when it comes to money. Bro it will take d serious grace of God for you to overcome this heartbreak. E pain pass cheating self. Take heart bro. quote author=izito post=100188988]* In 2016 she told me her salary was #50.000 And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only #5000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.” I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account. One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. #400,734? And this girl has been crying poverty? I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation. All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.” She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine. The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.” We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. His father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?” I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.” My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.” Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.” I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Last she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.” I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money. She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all. She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a divorce, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions. *What's your take?*[/quote] |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Tonytonex(m): 5:36pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Skyfornia:Op. go with this. this is the best advice I've seen. seems like a message to you. I stopped reading comments when I come across this one and jumped to another thread. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by BRATISLAVA: 5:55pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by BRATISLAVA: 5:57pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
panini: What exactly do you benefit from sharing empty male conspiracies? Since the question is hurting you. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by BRATISLAVA: 6:01pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
McSquishi: You know. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 6:09pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
dairykidd:Keep fooling yourself. If you were even using pidgin to write or simply use "u or ur*, e for better. This one, *yhu and yhur*. Like, WTH! Shift joor! |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by sam564: 6:27pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
highchief1:hahaha.... na the reason why na to just slam one by mistake and take responsibilty...
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Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Nobody: 6:41pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
ClixMaster:Go hang urself billy goat |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Tedpgrass: 6:52pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Raalsalghul: 7:04pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
CHoccolaTE: I hear you. If them show you small love na, your heart go just melt like butter. 1 Like |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Erums(m): 7:21pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Tedpgrass: So u see.. The motive was evil from the unset... U stay in rent, while u build home for your father who's lived his life alrwdy |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Anndrew(m): 7:23pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Skyfornia:Op,pls take this advice |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nyovest300(m): 7:35pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
izito: copy and paste nairalanders. read this on Twitter already |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by WudBMother: 8:30pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
If your past behavior does not warrant this , then this is shocking. Married for six years! Na wa! I am just speechless. Nonetheless OP, don't use fire to fight fire. Two wrongs can't make a right. DON"T MAKE MAJOR DECISIONS WHEN YOU STILL ANGRY. There is nothing wrong with helping one's family in any capacity, but to hide it from your spouse without reason is wrong. The father is complicit, at first pretending to be ignorant then saying he thought you knew. Do not sell the car or take it from her, as it is beneficial to your young children. Do not sell your land out of anger, you may incur loss and may not be able to purchase same again. Continue to care for your family within your capabilities. Forget about divorce or separation. Assume your wife was foolish and did not yet have a full understanding of the 2 shall become 1. How else can she buy property in a name, even her children cannot inherit if she died. Forgive her and move on. It is painful , but just find a way. As for your wife I hope she has learnt and will behave better going forward. Newly married and those aspiring to marry, must understand that a NORMAL marriage has a common purse. It does not matter, whose account the money is in. Husband and wife money is OUR money. If one spouse is financially reckless ,the prudent one should manage the family funds, whether male or female. If you cannot discuss with your spouse if you need to finance personal projects you have no business getting married. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Angeldemon: 9:56pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
Men dont learn. Women especially these our modern day women are the greediest and most entitled generation. The sad thing is that they are raising the small daughters coming to be worst. I pity the young men coming up. Also any woman that seriously or jokingly makes that statement to you "your money is our money, my money is my money" run away from her no matter the love you have for her or how rich you currently are. Before you get married to any woman. Once you two have gotten to fiancee stage try to do things like borrow money from her and dont pay when you say you will to see her behavior. See how she behaves with spending on you like gifts or buy things for your apartment. Those are few good signs of a help-mate and not a leech. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nairamaniac: 10:36pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
McSquishi: They are polite insults. But I had to take my time to explain why u deserved the insults. so that even u would kinda agree with me in your innermost mind. even if u try to insult me back, I would know it's just a natural defense from u, so u don't seem like a weak person. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by McSquishi(f): 10:42pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
nairamaniac: You have issues lol |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by nairamaniac: 11:18pm On Mar 26, 2021 |
McSquishi:I know dearie. |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by Hifeylove: 12:28am On Mar 27, 2021 |
You try for copying and paste cause you not the original owner of the story.. it happened in Ghana... |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by BennyDGreat: 4:52am On Mar 27, 2021 |
PoshBoss007: Lol |
Re: My Wife’s Salary Was A Mystery Until I Discovered How Much She’s Truly Worth* by BennyDGreat: 5:00am On Mar 27, 2021 |
emmnprince: Some good women just enter wrong marriages. So sad! |
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